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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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My married BF doesn't want his wife to know about us until he has removed all his belongings from his former home. Seems he cares more about his belongings than me. What should I do?
Q. Ok so here is my dilemma I am 29 dating my friend who is married he is 30 and his twin brother who is also 30. Ok so how this happened was I just recently moved back home and I ran into an old friend of mine that I have had a crush on since I ...
A. 15 September 2016: It is often very difficult to meet up with an old boyfriend.However his feelings for you must have not been very strong for you first time round,otherwise he would not have marries someone else.Now he is a Married man,and cheating on his ... (read in full...)
He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.
Q. I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...
A. 14 September 2016: The something that tells you to wait,for him to make the next move,is the right choice.Keep talking,smiling,and a cheerful hello...but it would be wise to allow it to happen.Because you do not know his history and by that i mean...he maybe healing ... (read in full...)
I am married to a lovely man but still pine for my ex but I don't want to feel that way!
Q. im married to a guy who has been seen by my family. i was in relationship with a guy for 4 years before my wedding but he left me for another girl. so in that anger i just accepted for this wedding. my husband is really a nice person. he knows my ...
A. 12 September 2016: This is a very sad situation for you to be in,and also a strain on your husband.However you are aware of having a loving,and understanding husband and this is something to be treasured.However we all have pined for a ...lost love..If you like fields ... (read in full...)
What can I do? We've been dating for several years and he hasn't proposed yet
Q. Dear Cupid I have a great boyfriend. It's not bias nor my imagination, he is attentive and thoughtful and I am quite spoiled actually..when I come home my dinner is always ready and he is always ready with cuddles after work too Problem is we ...
A. 11 September 2016: How lovely to read that you both have such a wonderful relationship,and that its on going.Its not always easy being a woman and i feel very much that you had great patients with him.However would you consider having an indept chat with him,telling ... (read in full...)
How do I make him think I'm confident?
Q. Hello everyone , my question is very simple and basic i do not want to be preached , i just need a little help I like this guy that i met and he has implied quite a few times that he is attracted to confident women, sth which i have always stru...
A. 10 September 2016: Just be who you are ,you are a wonderful human person,and say to yourself..I am a ENOUGH FOR ME...if that is not enough for this guy,then that is his loss.Meet someone,who will appreciate you for YOU.The best gift to give to someone is to accept ... (read in full...)
I dream of becoming a writer but need a push to take the next step
Q. I wrote an article for an international blog and i was commended on my work. I remained anonymous though; and its still grossingba lot of views. I have always wanted to write but even with this i still dont believe i am a good writer even thou...
A. 8 September 2016: Do not just DREAM THE DREAM....LIVE THE DREAM, The only person stopping you is You.No point in thinking about it..DO IT...have faith in you ,it very important to USE the gifts we are given.You are young,do not waste years,dreaming.....put pen to ... (read in full...)
Am I just the side chick? How can I go forward when he treats me as just a friend, never his GF?
Q. It has been a while that I have written on this. So, there is this guy I've known for the last three years of high school and we've kept contact streaming into the life of college. Throughout the years I 've known him since high school we've man...
A. 7 September 2016: Its not easy when you are in-love with someone and they are not in love with you.As you have asked the question..AM I JUST THE SIDE CHICK..You have answered your own question,and Yes you are the side chick.This is not love on his side just a handy ... (read in full...)
Is my past affecting my current relationships? what can I do ?
Q. I really feel that my past has been having a very strong affect on my relationships. I grew up with my grandparents, one of which was only my grandparent due to marrige. I lived with them most of my childhood ,things there caused it to be unsafe a...
A. 7 September 2016: It was very sad to learn that you had an unhappy childhood.Our childhood should be a time of feeling loved,safe and allowed to have a proper childhood,a time to learn the guidlelines for life,and the difference between right and wrong.You are right ... (read in full...)
Are women turned off by men who are inferior to them?
Q. Is a man who can't turn a woman on sexually a man who she can defeat in every way? Eg. intelligence, height, size, financial earnings, etc, etc, etc. If yes, does this mean a man should try to be better in every area, without directly competi...
A. 6 September 2016: I note you state...A WOMAN...there are many women in the world,so choose a woman that is a right fit for you .Love is not competing with each other but helping to bring the best out in each other Is is accepting each other as equal,with ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to rush. I really like him and want this to go somewhere. What can I do?
Q. I've been talking to this guy since December 2015. We have been on two date and speak pretty much every day. He works away offshore so it's hard to meet up with his as he is often away. Part of me wants to ask him what are we? As it has been s...
A. 4 September 2016: Now that you are talking every day would seem that you both are good friends,but the question is ,does he see you only as a friend or in the romantic light of a girlfriend.The point is as he stated he likes things to happen....but you nor he know if ... (read in full...)
We argued. I sent apology. No reply. Do I give her more time alone?
Q. Been with my girlfriend for 4 years. After a major argument over the phone. Finished with her saying that she has had enough and then after the call she texted me to say "please don't come back here tonight". So for the last few days ive stayed a...
A. 4 September 2016: The phone is a dreadful place to have a major argument.However would you consider giving her a little extra space to think things out.Because we all get so up-set and say things we dont mean in the heat of the moment.Maybe then a text just to see ... (read in full...)
He's keeping me hanging on until he's ready. So what do I do?
Q. My ex partner and I had a rocky relationship for around 3 years. I moved out last November after it became impossible to live together. I found it difficult to bond with his daughter ( I have two sons from my marriage) and found it difficult to ...
A. 3 September 2016: On a very positive note ..Well done You.you have done you utmost,seeking help,admitting at some level that you were in the wrong,trying to talk to him about it...you can do no more.But as you know it takes 2 people in a relationship,and its looks to ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy dilemma
Q. Okay let's see so I dated this guy for about 6 months and we broke up 3 weeks ago due to the fact that he didn't trust me and always thought I was cheating on him and it just put a huge strain on our relationship so we ended it. Two days ago I went ...
A. 3 September 2016: This is a very painful choice to make to tell him or not,considering your health problems and stress.However it is most important that you go back to you doctor that you are attending,as he know you on a personal level and is aware of all your ... (read in full...)
Mixed messages online
Q. I am in the process of leaving my son's father. We're not married. Things haven't been good between us in over a year. I am basically living here until I have a place for my son and me to go. I recently got on one of the online chat apps just to ...
A. 3 September 2016: As you are in the process of leaving your sons dad,this is not a good time to try and start a relationship with someone.Right now you need to think in a logical fashion for your son and yourself, for example where are you both going to live? Will it ... (read in full...)
I pass up most guy I meet, am I crazy?
Q. I date a lot and most men dont stand out to me. Am I crazy? They are all good people though, not bad at all and I feel bad about this but its like new faces but almost generic one after another. Even on personality, I can say that some even see...
A. 2 September 2016: You are a very nice person and not at all crazy.Because you are selective and waiting for that Special man..you are being you and that is all any of us can be...true to ourselves.When you meet that Special man you will know immediately and will be ... (read in full...)
Is this desperation? How can I break this obsessive cycle ? Any tips?
Q. How can I overcome this desperation? I have been seeing a therapist after the last couple of years of dating (jerks) led me to this - long story short and since this is anonymous I can be honest. On the outside I'm a grown woman - I try to keep ...
A. 2 September 2016: We have all being there blinded by need, romance and the four letter word that we try finding...LOVE...but remember not love with just anyone...but with someone Special,someone that is a right fit for you at all levels.What is the rush,you are a ... (read in full...)
Discouraged he won't deal with his premature ejaculation
Q. I have been with my partner for 9 months and I am in love with him but his issues with premature ejaculations is leaving me frustrated. He refuses to seek help claiming that he has always been like this (he is now 46). He gets hard and he has no ...
A. 2 September 2016: I understand this must be very painful for you and its not easy to deal with since he will not talk to you or get some help.But men in general are very hard to talk to on this issue,because in no way do they want to admit they have a problem,never ... (read in full...)
She's anxious. Do I need to be patient and allow her to get used to dating?
Q. I have started dating a girl at the start of August after being divorced. From the offset she tells me she is a very anxious person and it takes her a long time to get used to people and move relationships in the right direction, eg we didn't k...
A. 1 September 2016: For your girldfriend to admit she can be herself around you is a big step for her and you should feel very proud of Yourself....because you seem to be alllowing her to be safe,so she can be herself.Yes give her a little time and i am sure she will ... (read in full...)
How can I stop these obsessive thoughts about men 24/7
Q. I'm a 30 year old woman that has on the outside everything going for her 1.hearh 2. A family especially a love sister and a sown what great materialistic things such as looks- money- and a great job. Even though my life seems structured and great ...
A. 31 August 2016: This is very difficult for you right now,but yes you will see the light.Do you know you are half way there,because by writing this letter YOU YOURSELF know that you need help.Here is a saying....What lies behind and what lies before us are tiny ... (read in full...)
Is it 'normal' to only have sex once a week when you live with your partner?
Q. I'm just curious, I apologise in advance if this is TMI. I've been with my partner for 6 years, living together for one. We used to sleep together several times a day every time we saw each other... But for the past year of living together it's only ...
A. 31 August 2016: I can fully understand why you were worried over the Once a week love- making.There is an old saying if he is not getting it at home,then where. Put your worries away, there are many people only have sex once a month, and their relationship is ... (read in full...)
We met online. Am I being irrational about his actions? Should I be hurt ?
Q. I met a man a few weeks ago on a dating site app. He definitely came on strong and we texted quite a lot til I agreed to meet. I am very attracted to hm and likewise. He has some issues, recent divorce, job changes, relocation but seems very hea...
A. 29 August 2016: Yes i can understand that you would feel upset and let down.But try and deal with it in your way.He is at the stage that he does not know if he is coming or going in his life and in the meantime,he is on dating sites .parties and would not be in a ... (read in full...)
I love her very much, but our sex life has become nonexistent. How do I rekindle her desire?
Q. I am 62, my domestic partner is 70. When we first got together about 7 years ago, she was very romantic and passionate. As the years went by (most recently the past year) she became less and less interested in any passion at all. She doesn't ...
A. 28 August 2016: First i will to begin to answer this question on a POSITIVE NOTE and say..Love is important at all ages..But people be it men/women see Love in a different way.This is a most difficult situation for you and not easy to deal with.From your letter you ... (read in full...)
Disappointed by my boyfriend's love making. He doesn't satisfy me. What are some options to address this?
Q. Hi all, I'm 17 and my boyfriend doesn't please me in bed? he was my first sexual relationship but he had one previously. I've taken in on all the things that turn him on and make sure I do them, I'm not keen on blowjobs though because I gag real...
A. 19 March 2016: The first positive comment in this letter is ,that you love your boyfriend,everything else can be worked on.Would you consider siting down with your boyfriend, and telling him in a gentle,the way you feel about love -making and have an open chat ... (read in full...)
I really feel like running away from it all
Q. hi there. i am 53 yrs old and like many people i have had some rough times (divorce, break ups, fall outs, no money etc ). i have chronic face pain (over 15 years) and have taken lots of meds for this. none have worked. the last lot were anti dep...
A. 18 March 2016: Yes from your letter.you seem to be carrying-OVERLOAD-for some time,and the pain in the face is very wearing on you when your trying to do your best.REMEMBER WHEN YOUR DOWN-WHAT STRENGHT YOU HAD AND HAVE,OVER THE YEARS CARRYING THIS OVERLOAD.But as ... (read in full...)
Any positive stories to show hope?
Q. Has anybody got any good stories of how they turned their life around at a later stage in life ? I am 28 and well for the past 8 years I have done nothing with my life . As well I have hated life for so long and not thought I can get any where . ...
A. 17 March 2016: At the young age of 28,it is good that you are asking questions .Its only when we ask questions we can find some answers within.Remember Life in its self is a gift,as to how we live it is a choice.We can choose to be positive or negative.Most of us ... (read in full...)
Is he not into me or am I just impatient?
Q. I'm 49, separated for a year and a half and been dating on and off since that time ... but nothing serious. I have been seeing this man for almost 3 months. We get along great, we have chemistry, he respects me, he doesn't pressure me to s...
A. 17 March 2016: Its not easy with a laid back man,but it is always wiser to wait for the suggestion of seeming more of you to come from him.However you could explain to him,that it would be helpful if he could let you know in advance of your meetings-because you ... (read in full...)
We’re back together so why is he on a dating site?
Q. I decided to dump my boyfriend but afterwards realised i didnt want to do it i was feeling low im much happier now , The thing is 2 week ago he said he wanted to give it another go and we made plans to meet but i was ill with tonsillitis so ...
A. 17 March 2016: In everything,there is advantages and disadvantage,and as you have found out-that is the down-side of dating sites.Would you consider having a nice calm chat with your boyfriend,telling him that you are aware that he is still on a dating site,and ... (read in full...)
Why did his mood and intentions change rapidly, and did he take my number in the first place if he really wasn't interested?
Q. I met this guy over a year ago at a family function that at the time claimed he liked me and wanted to speak to me again. After taking my number, he never contacted me so I let it go and moved on. I met one of his relatives at a party and he asked...
A. 15 March 2016: Because sometimes when we are at a function we are all happy,a few drinks,carefree and just enjoying the day.Its possible that this guy liked you at the function and asked for your number on the spur of the moment.Then a few days after the ... (read in full...)
What are some tips on how to get on better with work colleages?
Q. I have no problems but I am older than 90% of my work colleagues. I have NO issue with younger colleagues, my boss is 9 yrs younger and shes fine. but i'd like tips on getting on better with them. My workplace is super cliquey, I have no wish t...
A. 15 March 2016: From your letter,you seems to be doing very well indeed.The point that stands out most here,is that you are being yourself while being nice,friendly.and chatty to those who want to talk and doing a good days work.No employer,or work-mates can expect ... (read in full...)
The guy I like is giving mixed signals. Should I stop initiating contact all together? Am I being needy? Is this a lost cause?
Q. We have been friends for an year. At first he was very flirty and would say how I was his type and he wanted a collage of my pictures on his birthday etc. I was 100% he was into me. Soon I developed feelings and confessed to him. He turned me down ...
A. 15 March 2016: First of all he is full of himself,because he is so sure that you are into so much,and takes advantages of your feelings hurtful or otherwise.On his part maybe he does not know what he wants,but this does not give him the right to hurt you.If a man ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to start things over with my alcoholic husband whom I don't trust?
Q. I am 27 and married with three young children. I felt pressured into marrying my husband after our first child was born, and I really thought if I loved him enough we could make it work. He loves me. He loves the kids. He works hard, but he is ...
A. 14 March 2016: This is indeed a hard situation to be in .But your head and heart are in the right direction.But your TRUST was broken at a couple of levels.re-drink and also the fact that he was violent with you.It takes time to trust and heal and to feel o k ... (read in full...)
I can't decide if he deserves a second chance!
Q. I had been talking to this guy for 2 months. I met him on Tinder and he is 4 years older than me. I'm 19 and he is 23. Towards the end of the 2 months, for 3 weeks we talked all day and all night. There are multiple days where we fell asleep on the ...
A. 13 March 2016: Maybe it would be wise to go with your gut feeling about this guy.You now have learned the down-side to TINDER or any dating site.However i would be very slow to trust this guy again Use your head in this decision not your heart.Best wishes NORA B.... (read in full...)
He has a new girlfriend, so what does he want from me?
Q. Hello everyone. A little back story, my boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 4 months now. The break up was a lot harder on me than him because he is the one who broke up with me, and told me he didn't feel the same about me anymore. It was ...
A. 13 March 2016: When your still in love with a guy,his story would cause you to be confused.No1.But remember when he was with you in the end he was cheating on you with his present girlfriend.No2.He if given the chance by you will cheat on his present girlfriend.He ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 years old and my overprotective parents are driving me crazy!
Q. Hello everyone, I'm really needing some help right now. I'm 20 years old and still have to tell my parents where I'm going who I'm going with what I'm doing and if they think I'm lying they will check up on me and ask my friends if I'm there. I...
A. 13 March 2016: Yes ths can be very difficult as you are a adult.However i notice from your letter that you did not mention if you had brothers or sisters.Now if you are an -only child- this might go some of the way explaining your mum and dad being over ... (read in full...)
Love or Money? Which relationship would I be more happy in?
Q. I'm torn apart between 2 ridiculous factors: Love and money. At the same time, I'm torn between two guys that I'm currently dating in my life since the end of last year. (Not in an official relationship with any of them) They are both really...
A. 13 March 2016: WOW what a letter,well done you,you seem to have it all down on paper.LOVE OR MONEY,OR TO BE OR NOT TO BE THAT IS THE QUESTION THAT ONLY YOU CAN ANSWER.Just a few thoughts,sometimes when we think we are in love with 2 guy,the question is are we ... (read in full...)
Is this the sign of a break up? Should I text him?
Q. Dear cupid...my boyfried and i have been together for 3 year we were so in love we do every thing together, at least we use to until his ex gf came back in town. He speaks to her and ever since she has came back he and i do not comunicate at all. ...
A. 13 March 2016: How lovely to receive your -FOLLOW -UP,thank you its much appreciated.Right now would you consider just standing back from the situation ,i know its easier said then done when your in-love with a guy.But remember you must love yourself FIRST and by ... (read in full...)
Is this the sign of a break up? Should I text him?
Q. Dear cupid...my boyfried and i have been together for 3 year we were so in love we do every thing together, at least we use to until his ex gf came back in town. He speaks to her and ever since she has came back he and i do not comunicate at all. ...
A. 12 March 2016: This is a very difficult and hurtful situation for you to be in.From your letter re the fact that you have not seen him for a month or spoke to him for a week would mean that he has certainly changed towards you.Sometimes people fall out of love and ... (read in full...)
Should I be this unsettled about the fact he still has a key to the family home? He's separated from his wife.
Q. My new boyfriend of three months is separated after a 20 year marriage ended six months ago. They outgrew each other and there is no love lost for either of them. A divorce and house sale are going through amicably. He rents a flat near his wi...
A. 27 February 2016: This is a very difficult situation for you to understand re your bf who has been married for 20 years However there is a matter of TRUST to consider and this is an important factor in a relationship.Do you trust your bf or not-only you can answer ... (read in full...)
I want to let go of the past and move on into the future. Any tips?
Q. As a result of coming to a better understanding of some behaviours/thought processes that have not helped me in the past, I am at at the point where I feel I am ready to make some positive changes in my life. In other words, I'm sick and tired of ...
A. 24 February 2016: Welcome to the wonderful world of ADWARENESS OF SELF.You have learned so much about the inner you re your good and bad points.NOW is the time to reap the rewards .Just enjoy life as a more positive you Remember the past is dead and gone-today we ... (read in full...)
Nearly 5 years and he says it was a relationship of convenience
Q. My guy just told me it was a relationship of convenience and nothing beyond. I am hurt, shocked and heartbroken right now. It is not what I expected to hear after nearly five years. I don't know what to say or how to react. ...
A. 23 February 2016: Thanks for the follow.its much appreciated .You have a wise mum.Best wishes for the future .NORA B.... (read in full...)
What suggestions can help me in my situation ? Pregnant and with an abusive husband
Q. I am 29 years old and married since two years. Also I am 6 months pregnant with our first kid. My husband Ill treats me. He used to do so before my pregnancy and many a times I had thought of leaving him. But now after I got pregnant he had ...
A. 21 February 2016: No man or woman has the right to ill treat the other,and it is very sad to hear that you are scared of him.With respect to your family and their views.REMEMBER YOUR FIRST duty is the safety of your unborn baby and yourself.and its good to hear that ... (read in full...)
Nearly 5 years and he says it was a relationship of convenience
Q. My guy just told me it was a relationship of convenience and nothing beyond. I am hurt, shocked and heartbroken right now. It is not what I expected to hear after nearly five years. I don't know what to say or how to react. ...
A. 21 February 2016: This is a very sad outcome for you and nobody expects to hear such a thing at anytime in a relationship.One thing you are now sure of is that he is a USER and not very nice person.Right now you you are hurt and shocked,so i want you to be gentle ... (read in full...)
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