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writes:I keep going back and forth with my ex. Every time I say I'm done, boom, a few weeks later I'm back at his apartment. He has told me that he does not want a relationship right now and isn't ready to get back together. He claims needs to figure out his life, and blah blah. He says he loves me but does not want me to waste my life waiting around for him. Yet we find it incredibly hard to stay away from each other. This has been going on for a couple years now. And I know he's not just looking for booty calls from me. He struggles with depression among other issues. I am in love with him but I know this situation isn't fair for me nor is it normal. We want different things right now. I never knew how hard it was to walk away from the person you are in love with. I always thought we would end up together but I don't know if he will ever come around. It is beyond heartbreaking for me I don't know what to do. Help. Any advice/stories would be appreciated.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 October 2014):
 Though you may try with best intentions in hand there is never a garutee there will be sucsess if the recipient fails to cooperate. There's some quote in the Bible about casting pearls before swine. Not that he is swine, I don't mean that. It is just sad that good intentions some times are pushed aside even if it's due to a damaged soul. There does come a time though that you must recognize that failur is an option maybe not one of your options but one of life's. This could be a good time to move on in your life. Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (7 October 2014):
I read your letter with deep understanding and know how you are feeling and it so difficult for you to walk away.But at the sametime would you not give be gentle with yourself and give yourself some time and space and be objective about your own future.Because it must be hurtful on you everytime he tells you he doen not want a relationship at this time.As you stated he suffers from depression and right now he is not able for a relationship.As you love him you will have to be the strong one and walk away.If it meant to be he will walk back to you.Remember you have to be strong for both of you.Kind Wishes NORA B.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2014): My heart goes out to you as im going through the exact same.
Im at the stage when i feel - he would be happier if i bowed out his life.
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