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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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How do I tell my boyfriend his lateness is driving me mad?
Q. Hello all I think my bf has issues with time management. He's a lovely guy and he tries his best to spend time with me despite his busy schedule. Sometimes when he says he would call at a certain time, he ends up calling an hour later. I wish he ...
A. 21 March 2013: Just sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how frustrated you are with his LACK of punctuality and ask him to send you text if he cant meet you at a certain time that was arranged.Leave him in no doubt how you feel on this level.Hopefully things ... (read in full...)
Surely actions speak louder than words? Is there any hope for this relationship or should I move on?
Q. i have been with a man for 10 years. about 4 years ago I kicked him out because of problems with my mom. she died in 2010. We talk of getting back together but he uses this as a excuse of why we have not. we went on vacation together in 2012. he ...
A. 21 March 2013: Sometimes after a seperation and whem you get back together again things are never the same.Time apart can change peoples feelings some would say the magic goes.Go with your gut feeling because if he will not LISTEN to you what is the point.Give ... (read in full...)
How can I forget my ex boyfriend if I still hate him?
Q. How can i forget my ex bf,if still i hate him for lying to me many times?Im trying to forgive him many times but still he deny the truth i was hurt why he did to me like this i was honest to me him,he promise many things but i know all of that is ...
A. 20 March 2013: There is a very narrow border line between love and hate .Be gentle with yourself you have been hurt and told many lies by your ex-boyfriend.So now you are in control of your own feelings and for your own peace of mind let this HATE go because hate ... (read in full...)
I found out I am his mistress and cannot let him go?
Q. Hi all, I am a newly divorced lady and I'm in a relationship with a man who is 8 years younger than me. Its a fairly new relationshi (3 months) and when I got involved with the man,he gave me the impression that his relationship with the baby ma...
A. 20 March 2013: With respect this man deserves Neither you or his wife .Please be strong and use your head and tell this man you do not wish to see him again because it will only bring you heartache and hurt.There is only ONE person he loves and that is HIMSELF.He ... (read in full...)
I keep forgetting not to expect any favors from him!
Q. Dear Cupid Whenever i ask my bf of 3 yrs for a favours like picking me up from office or doing some errands for me, he will pick up a fight and stop talking to me for days. I have to beg him to talk to me. I stopped asking him for any help or favo...
A. 19 March 2013: This is very difficult for you and painful. In any relationship there has to be give and take and each partner giving a helping hand when needed. I would think long and hard about this relationship. Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
How do you break up when you live together? How could I try and make our relationship better? Am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, but I have been not very happy in our relationship for a few months. I suffer from depression and feel very angry and sad a lot of the time, and my partner is the one who has to deal with it. ...
A. 19 March 2013: This is very difficult for you and i do understand your situation.Would you consider having an indept chat with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel .If this does not work I would suggest maybe if you both were to have a meeting with a ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 19 March 2013: Thanks for your follow up as i stated in my reply. I THINK SHE MIGHT FANCY YOU .This was only an opinion. Wish you well for the future. Best Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
Spends his money on gifts for himself before my Birthday and then he is broke
Q. I know it is wrong to have expectations of one's spouse. I am a big believer in the philosophy that our expectations determine our own happiness. I am trying to work on myself when it comes to this concept and even my therapist agrees with me that ...
A. 18 March 2013: While i adgree with your Therapist that your well being is your responsibility that being said. You are human you have a feelings you as a wife have needs.As such to expect a decent gift for your birthday this is very normal. On the otherhand with ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 18 March 2013: Yes i think you are missing out on something. I think she fancies you and this may be the reason she will not give you any tips abot dating. But you know her so watch out for the signs.But remember i said I. THINK.So you will have to decide. Best ... (read in full...)
Why? Why did he not react? Does he not like me?
Q. Why did he not react? Does he not like me? So this cute, shy guy has been staring at me for months. We got talking and we hang out now and he’s like the cutest sexy thing ever. OMG him and his friends are always staring at me. He makes me so...
A. 17 March 2013: He likes you quiet a lot but as he is shy he is taking things slow . Continue with your smiles and your cheerful manner and hopefully he will ask you for a dater sooner then later. But do give him time and space to do it his way otherwise if you ... (read in full...)
Due to get married in May but how can I trust my fiancé?
Q. Im going crazy. I dont know what to do anymore. I have been with my fiance for seven mostly great years. But the past few months, I have found out a few things. He was texting some girl he met at a job he was doing and called her beautiful. An...
A. 17 March 2013: Thanks for follow up its always appreciated to get feed back.I only hope for you that you make the right decision. Because Trust is a must in a married situation. Kind wishes. Nora B.... (read in full...)
Due to get married in May but how can I trust my fiancé?
Q. Im going crazy. I dont know what to do anymore. I have been with my fiance for seven mostly great years. But the past few months, I have found out a few things. He was texting some girl he met at a job he was doing and called her beautiful. An...
A. 12 March 2013: This is a painful situation to be in so Close to your wedding in May.Trust ia very important when you get married or as you are now. Please have a chat with him on this issue and tell how you feel But do have a long and hard think about your wedding ... (read in full...)
Is this normal? I feel less able to stand up for myself because my Bf always likes to be right. Plus I'm insecure about this girl flirting with him. What can I do?
Q. Hi ive been with my boyfriend for 8 months. I don't know whether im definitely happy with him, but he's always saying he loves me and wants to marry me an how i'm his soulmate and hes been saying these things since we started going out! He seems...
A. 11 March 2013: Yes i can understand your situation its not easy.First of all you are a person in your own RIGHT,have your opinions and voice them your boyfriend cant be right all the time.Also he should respect you as his girlfriend and not flirt with this other ... (read in full...)
Confidence issue? Emotional intelligence problem? Just conversational skills issue? When I'm trying to have a normal conversation with people, something wrong always comes out
Q. Everytime i'm trying to have a normal conversation with people, something wrong comes out. It gets weird and they will all try to correct me. I dont know the way to speak to people and it hurts me daily. I always feel stupid and useless to th...
A. 10 March 2013: PLEASE PLEASE dont be so hard on yourself and try and relax a little. You are young and growing and learning all the time .Its not easy being 16-17 at some levels quiet painful. and you will fine Would you consider joining a drama group and have fun ... (read in full...)
My fiance no longer likes to drink and party with me?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for a year now. We recently had another deep discussion that lead to him revealing problems he had with me. One of the problems that I can't understand is the fact that he told me that he doesn't have fun drinking ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi Mrs Fiance.Many kind thanks for your follow-up. Im so sorry that your were hurt more this time with your boyfriend .Its TIME now that you ask him where this relationship is going because there is no point in you getting hurt again and again. Kind ... (read in full...)
My fiance no longer likes to drink and party with me?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for a year now. We recently had another deep discussion that lead to him revealing problems he had with me. One of the problems that I can't understand is the fact that he told me that he doesn't have fun drinking ...
A. 9 March 2013: Yes i can understand your confusion but maybe the problem is not with you .Maybe yoiur boyfriend has got bored with drinking and parties and not with You. Have a chat with him and ask WHAT IS THE REAL REASON oonly then will you know for sure. Best ... (read in full...)
I've contacted this man twice and he hasn't responded. Is it time to give it up?
Q. I recently reconnected with some old friends of mine who live in a different city. This got me to thinking about another friend (someone I had dated in the past a couple years ago) who lives down the street from them. I wanted to get in touch with ...
A. 7 March 2013: You have tried to contact this boyfriend of a couple of years ago and received no reply. Please rember that a couple of years creats many changes in everyone lives.Enjoy the memories of the past and if he does not get in touch with you -leave the ... (read in full...)
Forced into a marriage and a year later I still don't love the man! What can I do to save the marriage?
Q. I'm 24 and I come from a very conservative christian family,and my parents forced me into marriage with this guy from the same community! I told my parents not to,they dint listen and I eventually gave up and thought may be I could love this person ...
A. 7 March 2013: Please try and not be so hard on youself.Give this marraige Time and a chance.You cannot force youself to love someone let LOVE grow over time.bECAUSE YOUR HUSBAND MUST HAVE SOME GOOD POINTS.otherwise your parents would not have choose him for ... (read in full...)
I'm married, got drunk flirted with a girl at a bar and now can't stop the feelings! Help!
Q. I'm a happily married man who loves his wife very much. Last weekend I was in a bar and flirted quite a lot with a girl. Nothing happened which given my now sober state I'm very happy about. The problem, I can't stop thinking about it or the girl. ...
A. 7 March 2013: Dont go there with this girl you love your wife so please stay steady. Plan a romantic weekend for you and your wife ,take her our for a nice meal.Rekindle the love that you both have for each other.Look there is no harm in being tempted but dont ... (read in full...)
I can't trust my boyfriend because of his cheating in the past
Q. I'm writing this letter as I'm deeply. depressed and confused and would like to hear some feedback with what I'm about to write..the problem is I'm having trust issues with my boyfriend not just minor trust issues they actually bordering ridiculous ...
A. 4 March 2013: Yes you certainly are confused as you have stated and have lots of reasons to be confused over your boyfriend.Reading your etter a few times i would advise you to take your time about moving in with him.First of all there is the tMrust issue and he ... (read in full...)
How do I get to the point where I can trust my fiance again?
Q. I dont mean to keep repeating myself, but im living in complete agony. Ever since I found out that my fiance flirted with a girl on a jobsite and got her number. And then text her and called her beautiful. Him and. I have been together seven years ...
A. 2 March 2013: Please be reassured that you have done nothing Wrong at all.Its not easy to trust again and usually takes time and a lot of love from your boyfriend to mend the hurt he has caused.This is difficult for you ,but you are the Only one who can decide to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is terrible in bed - will he ever get better?
Q. Hello! So, I am starting a serious relationship for the first time, and I want it to work. I am, however, very unsatisfied with my boyfriend's sexual performance, and I need some good help because I tried what I could and that didn't work. I will e...
A. 1 March 2013: Friends or Lovers that is the question. I read your painful situation with your boyfriend re his sexual problems. I would advise that he might go with you to a counsellor and get some help. Because i would certainly question the fact that when you ... (read in full...)
Should I dump my boyfriend because he doesn't spend time with me?
Q. Whn ever my boyfrnd is workng he neglects me. he does not spend time with me especially on a pay day now i dont knw what must i do i think i should dump him bt i lov him too much to loose him! i dont knw what to do plz plz help me...
A. 1 March 2013: Well when your boyfriend is working he is not neglecting you. He cannot do 2 things at the same time. There are 6 other days in a week other then his PAY DAY T he question is does he spend time with you on those days only you can answe that . Best ... (read in full...)
It seemed like he liked me. But then nothing? How can I shake off these feelings I developed for him?
Q. I really don't know how to explain my situation. Okay, this guy and I have been friends about three months and I went down there to see my sister and this guy and I hooked up at the party she threw. He had spent the night with me and one thing le...
A. 1 March 2013: There is no point in stressing over this boy if he was interested he would have got in contact with you. Just delete these feeling and enjoy lifeand hopefully you will meet some nice guy. Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend have anger issues?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles, I'd like to know if my boyfriend has anger issues or not. I was giving driving directions to my boyfriend to somewhere (about 15 minutes away) that he has been to twice before. He didn't really remember the route proper...
A. 28 February 2013: Your boyfriend has no Right to put yur life in DANGER with his crazy driving. DO NOT ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN AGAIN.Yes you are right he has anger issues and would need to do a anger manager course.You will have to be very firm about this and maybe ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend no longer want to date me if he finds about my family history?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a boyfriend who knows everything about me apart from certain things about my family I omitted like...my dad's sister ran away against the wishes of her family and got married to a convict whose been involved in a lot of crimes,a...
A. 28 February 2013: Remberber please that you are NOT responsible for what your aunt did or who she married.There are lots of families with problem members in them but that is life no one is prefect. As you have told your boyfriend ALL about you and he is happy with ... (read in full...)
Any tips on coping with the stress and co-parenting with a jerk?
Q. Majorly stressed out with work. I work from home so my son doesn't have to go to daycare full time-but this means that 4 hours of my work day, he is here (makes it very hard to get work done!) My job is very stressful and doesn't pay well. Anyw...
A. 27 February 2013: Right now the most important factor is your health i would advise you to go to the doctors for advise and perhaps a tonic because between trying to work and mind your son as your working this is very stressful and tiring. Maybe you could get a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up saying he had never felt like marrying me..something was wrong. I want him back though!
Q. My ex boyfriend and I celebrated our two year anniversary at the beginning of February and he dumped me over the phone 11 days later. We were in what I considered to be a very committed relationship--sure we had never talked about marriage but to ...
A. 27 February 2013: This is a dreadful painful situation for you at this time and not easy to handle.However i would ppoint out that your boyfriend broke this relationship of in a very cold and cruel way with you over the phone.This was a dreadful way to treat you.I ... (read in full...)
How could he break up with me again?
Q. I'm feeling a little lost after my recent breakup. My boyfriend and I have been together over 2 years. He initially broke up with me a year in a half into the relationship saying he was unhappy. Six months of on/off playing around we officall...
A. 27 February 2013: Sometimes its never the same when you go back a second into a relationship the magic is gone You have done nothing wrong at all.But i think your boyfriend thinks he can drop you and get back together when it suits him, Dont allow him to treat you ... (read in full...)
How should I how him how I feel without saying it?
Q. Why did he do that? I really like him.? So I was hanging out with this guy I really like and he was playing music and I asked him what song is next and he said your favourite song. And he was right it was one of the songs I like and I ...
A. 26 February 2013: Well dancing to your favourite song and with this guy is a very good start to this romance.Be gentle with yourself and let time and nature work out the rest.Best Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 26 February 2013: Just to tell you i admire your courage in walking away from the first married man.Well done You. With regards to your second married friend in doing nothing you are handling it. You dont have to do anything .If he wants to be cooler with you well ... (read in full...)
Should I be patient or is she not into me?
Q. Ok. I met this girl a few weeks ago in a stripclub. She gave me her phone number. So i text her a few days after. She remembers me. And ask me to call her. At first every things was great. She told me tha she wanted something serious. We went out on ...
A. 26 February 2013: Yes i can understand your position. Maybe it would be idea to have an indept chat with her as she seems to be sending you very mixed signals. Ask her out straight if she wants to be friends with you or your girlfriend.Then you can decide what you ... (read in full...)
I thought he was the one. How could I have been so wrong?
Q. We were together for a year. We connected on so many levels (emotionally, intellectually, physical intimacy). I've had many relationships before. I've even been married once. Never have I been so happy as I was with him. He broke up with me on the ...
A. 25 February 2013: This indeed is a heart-breaking situation for you . You were not wrong about your feelings for him but yes we can all be blinded by our love for the other person .Believe me it has happened to most of us. Right now I would suggest that you give you... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a girl with a boyfriend also likes me? NO intention of making a move as she has a Bf.
Q. When I first met this girl over a year ago, I asked her out but she told me she has a boyfriend. She was really nice about it though and said we could hang out and be friends. I was ok with that because I just wanted to get to know her. Over th...
A. 24 February 2013: Well she seems to like you other wise she would not suggest hanging out as friends .But be careful of your feelings because maybe she only likes you as a friend.The question i would ask myself if you are so accepting of her relationship with her ... (read in full...)
Could this be my problem? Are some people just not relationship material?
Q. Are some people just not relationship material? I have never had a girlfriend and i am tired of getting rejected. I am not physically attractive, charismatic nor book smart. I do not have money and i don't like going out to parties and i do...
A. 22 February 2013: You are very hard on youself just remember that everyone has something special to offer to that special person.Join mixed groups,start a new course,and try not to stress out about this situation .Make friends with girlds first and try and read the ... (read in full...)
He won't open up, won't take his meds -- how do I help him?
Q. Hi i was just wonderin... my boyfriend has mental problems of which are how serious i dnt really know. he is not a very emotional person which means he is usually angry or happy (thats about it) and i know he loves me very much. but he just doesnt ...
A. 22 February 2013: I can appreciate this is a very difficult situation for you and very hard to handle.Maybe it would be a good idea to find out the name of his illness that way you could become better imformed and ask a doctors advise as the best way to handle the ... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this guy but don't want to seem too forward
Q. I just recently moved to a new town. It's a little beach town, and in the summer I know it will be easy to make friends but being winter, it's pretty dead. Im currently between jobs so the only people I'm around are those in my community college ...
A. 20 February 2013: You sound a very nice person and your idea of starting the chat with this boy is excellent. Dont worry about the follow up because he will have to answer you and then you can take from there.Just be cheerful and happy and give it a little time and ... (read in full...)
I like this man but my family disapproves. What do I do? Ignore him?
Q. Well, I just went to a cousin's wedding and spent a few days over. During that time span, I had one of my cousin's cousins (the son of the sister of my uncle-by-marriage) pay a little more than friendly attention to me. I liked him, he was suave, ...
A. 20 February 2013: Well that is a difficult call. I suggest you find out more and wait for the COURT CASE to be over. Better to be sure then sorry. Best LUCK .Nora B.... (read in full...)
I have proof that my boyfriend cheated but how do I get him to admit it?
Q. i had a suspision that my boyfriend was cheating so i set up a recorder one nite and sure enough i got my evidence but he stil denies it. How to i get him to tell the truth?...
A. 18 February 2013: Tell him you have evidence and you just want him to admit it.Then you will have to make a decision to either forgive him or finish with him or take time out .Best Luck. Nora B.... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to communicate better with me?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. She's always had a little bit of an issue with communication but it's getting worse lately. When we do see each other, she is actually a great communicator, when we talk in person or on the...
A. 18 February 2013: Well you sound a very fair. understanding boyfriend and should not be treated in such an unfair manner.I would suggest that you have a long indept chat with your girlfriend on a one to one. Explain to her how you feel and that her lack of reaction ... (read in full...)
My Bf has suddenly started acting distant. He confessed he has started talking to his ex again. What should I do?
Q. So where to start... my boyfriend and i had the perfect loving relationship until maybe a week ago, when he suddenly started acting distant and stopped being as affectionate and was not saying he loved me as much. I noticed something was re...
A. 16 February 2013: I know is must be very difficult dealing with this situation at the moment and you are very understanding of your boyfriend and this is good .I think this may be for you a waiting game and hope that your boyfriend may tire of contacting his ... (read in full...)
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