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writes:i was going out with this gal, and a mate had a crush on me and told me, somehow my galfrend found out, and ditched me, which hurt alot. the mate that had the crush on me is going out with another guy, but asked if i would ever consider getting together with her, naturally i said yes. what should i do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): let her know how you feel and then see what happens after that
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reader, candy00s +, writes (30 May 2007):
 i think its because you told you friend that you would consider dating her that has hurt your girlfriend.
She wanted to feel like there was no other girl only her.
if you love your girlfriend and want her back then explain that you were trying to spare you friends feelings.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (30 May 2007):
 I don't know why you are hurt, if the mate had asked you out and you said no then it would be a different matter. I can understand why your girlfriend would have ditched you in the circumstances you describe because she feels betrayed by both her boyfriend and her friend (I am assuming you both know the girl who fancies you). I know you didn't actually cheat on her but she probably reads a smoke signal that you are not 100% into her if you have considered dating another girl. I think you just have to accept what has happened and learn an important lesson...you were both dating other people but having conversations about a potential relationship in the future. Not a good idea!
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reader, nologo  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Here is my understanding of your situation.
Two girls tested you for somewhat purpose.
It may look differently for you, but follow these steps:
#1 - you are with GF, mate tells you she got crush on you;
#2 - you reciprocate to mate and you lose your girlfriend;
#3 - mate is going out with another guy and you lose again.
"asked if i would ever consider getting together with her, naturally i said yes" - I think that here was your mistake.
"what should i do": reconsider your feelings to both of them.
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