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writes:so there's this guy... lol...it baffles me why he dosn't have a girlfriend because he is a good looking guy with a great personality. he's somewhat of a jock, so he is always hanging around beautiful girls, but still he dosn't have a girlfriend. then there is me, everyone says i have a great personality, but i look NOTHING like the girls he's always around... maybe that's a good thing though... do you think that because he dosn't have a girlfriend (and hasn't had in awhile), even while being surrounded by all those pretty girls, that he is waiting for something or someone real? not just the "flings" that happen with those type of girls? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): Hey does anyone want to acknowledge the fact that he may be gay? Look at him more closely. Does he do anything that could be taken as gayIf not, and you have a good gaydar, then he probaby is waiting for a real woman, or doesn't want a relationship at this time. If you're not attractive though, I doubt he'll want you, and you should go for someone more on your own level. I'm not saying you aren't attractive, but at my school all the ugly and fat girls thought they had a chance with the popular jocks. Just b/c he doesn't have a g.f. doesn't mean he wants one.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Maybe he isn't looking for a serious relationship right now but if he hangs around with pretty girls then it is probably a major handicap to finding a girlfriend...lets face it, if you see a man out with a bunch of girls socially then you tend to assume one of them is his girlfriend and don't think of chatting him up. I detect a little inferiority complex coming from you regarding your own looks and you really shouldn't feel bad about the way you are. Basically what one man thinks of as 'beautiful', another may not. It is personality that is important too and maybe the man you write about doesn't quite think his girl-mates are as beautiful as you do. There is only one way to find out why he doesn't have a girlfriend and that is to ask him!
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reader, stina  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Aononymous,
Dude, you've desribed my brother in law!! He has all of these hot friends that are girls, but no girlfriend in like 4 years. All he wants to meet is a nice girl he says. He's not into the kind of girls that are all about jock guys. Like you said, he is waiting for someone real.
I suggest you start talking to this guy. After you get to know each other a bit, suggest going out. The worst he could say is no, and rejection always sucks, but at least you gave it a shot. (I have a positive feeling about this, though.)
Take care.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Or it could just be the simple fact that he's genuinely just enjoying the company of his 'beautiful' friends and does not want to get into a relationship yet. Then again, there could be a million and one reasons. Having said that, some people seem to have no problems making friends, but when it comes to a 'personal' one to one with the opposite sex, they just shy away.
I suppose you're asking this because you fancy him. Maybe your first step to finding out is getting to know him better if you dont already!
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Maybe thats what it is babes, or he could just want to be single, guys have a wierd way of thinking like that! lol try and talk to him see what he's feeling because as i always say, you will never know if you don't ask! xXx
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reader, nologo  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 You are asking a very interesting question.
Let's have a quickie look at your Community.
An issue "successful and popular" is considered a value.
I can see who is important there: jocks and pretty girls.
Their life is a pursuit of mirage - they have little choice.
You should ask yourself first what is "real" in your life.
Sounds like you are waiting for him, because he is a jock.
Finally, is he "waiting for something or someone real? not just the "flings" that happen with those type of girls?"
If he is waiting, it's the answer why he doesn't have a GF.
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