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writes:I'm kinda shy here, so this is a BIG step forward for me ^^'Anyway recently I finally got over a self-confidence issue of not allowing anyone to do anything to me, and I received my first ever blowjob! (YAY!) Unfortunatly for me, I couldn't really feel anything =SIt's strange as I have been told by friends that the first time is mind blowing and amazing and you'll never feel anything like it, but I found out that I can't actually feel anything down there at all...It was a big let down for me, as the hype you get from others really makes it all the better, but also for my partner, as she wanted to "taste" me... but I couldn't perform due to a lack of feeling...Is there anyone out there who has a similar problem, and if so, should I be worried, seek medical attention or is there anything simple I can do to "fix" this.I do, as a teenager without a cause, regularly masturbate, as I know most people my age do, although I do have feeling when I do this, so I am wondering if it is again confidence issues for me...
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reader, Del199  +, writes (14 March 2010):
bro, i know where you are getting at here. i had my firsty just last night!, and like you said its supposed to be AWSOME and verrryy satisfying, but for me..eh, couldent feel much, but it was ok. to me what it probably is, is NOT-MEDICAL its probably because you were thinking to much about it and a bit nervous,i kinda preferd her hand to be honest lmao. but this morning i had my second, and it was GREAT! but i had to clear my mind of everything! including that i was getting some XD and for some crazy ass reason it was amazing :D. so no hard feelings bro. just enjoy yourself and play it safe.
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reader, natasia +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Hmm. Not sure. If you are very shy - I mean really shy - then maybe you kind of switched off somehow. I can't quite believe that, though. If you masturbate normally and feel normally then, I can't understand why you shouldn't feel when it is someone's mouth rather than your own hand touching you. Touch is touch.
I think it really might be worth discussing it with a (sensitive) doctor. You might need counselling.
Good luck and don't worry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): Well now hrmm um i'd say its prolly because you were so hyped up that your boys didnt come to attention and also i'd look into some kinky oils and stuff but seeing how i havent had my first bj myself and dont have issues getting my boys to attention, i'd say hold off on self pleasure because a lady almost always loves for her guy to save up. and ya if u cant get it up i'd go see a doctor sooner than later
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reader, DLover  +, writes (29 July 2009):
In order to achieve orgasm, and in some extend pleasure, people must free their mind from worries, which is definetly not always easy if you are shy and used to lack confidence. If you are worried and lack confidence, it's possible it caused lack of sensations. Try it another time, try to relax (I know it might be hard for a shy guy, I'm somewhat shy too), see what happens.
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reader, Katy. +, writes (29 July 2009):
 A blowjob in my head and in most girls head is just a normal thing, there's nothing to be worried or ashamed about no matter how you feel. Girls have alot more things to worry about, and she was probably more worried than you or whoever you will be with in the future. If you didn't enjoy it, either she didn't do it the way that's good for you, or you wern't comfortable enough to enjoy it.Next time (seen as she's done it before) just lay back and relax, that's the only way you're going to enjoy it, when she goes down tell her what feels good and don't do too much where it doesn't. She'll get the message.Alot of girls (including me) like to know where and what feels good on a guy, it makes us feel better for satisfying you, so don't hesitate to tell her; just don't tell her what she's doing wrong.As long as you keep yourself higienic just sit back and enjoy.If it still doesn't feel good, then for some guys they just don't and they preffere sex or masturbation, there's no right or wrong way its just what feels good for you.Katy x
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