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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was married for 3 years I got divorced recently because I caught my husband cheating on me........ and ever since the divorce my friends are pushing me to go on dates but I just can see myself with anyone right now, I am still hurt from the divorce and I just feel depressed all the time............will I be able to move on from this?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 I'm sure you will move on, but you obviously need time - a lot of it. You need to accept what has happened and find a way of living with it. You need to compartmentalise it in your feelings/mind somehow - find a way of filing it in your experience. You need to find a way of viewing it that is livable-with ...
For example, I don't know what your relationship was like, but I imagine a problem might be that your view of your ex-husband, and yourself, and your whole life, has been changed. What and who you thought you both were is now different. Actually, not quite so - you are still the same. You didn't lie. Your life together was true - you were true to it. He is the one who did something outside of that, and you need time to grieve for the person you thought he was. He is probably 99% the same person, but something in him isn't what you thought, and that part of him has hurt you.
You will find someone else, but only when you're ready. For now, focus on yourself - remember who you are, how great you are, and how much hope and life you have in front of you. He was just an episode, now over. Move on to the next chapter.
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reader, Sphronas  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Yes, you will be able to move on, but give yourself some time to recover. Clearly, you don't feel ready to go on dates yet, so don't! Look after yourself for a while. You will know when the time is right to think about dating again.
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