Do you think our friendship is over?
Q. This is an issue I've had before but it has never frustrated me this much. so...i was seeing this guy for a couple months and the thing just kind of died out when he moved back home. however after he left i started hanging out with one of his ...
A. 25 August 2010: Yay for you. All the best!... (read in full...)
Breakup over bad past... please help!
Q. Please help... I am 20 years old and I'm in this fantastic relationship. It's been 10 months... I have a rather "dirty" past, I wanted to have fun and did and he feels so threatened by my past that once every 2 or 3 months he brings it up. He says ...
A. 22 July 2010: To male anon: he may not have a sexual past but he still has a past. Some of the stupidest things i've done that I don't like people knowing about have nothing to do with sex. That's what I meant.... (read in full...)
Health risks when sharing toys?
Q. Hello everyone :) some advice would be much appreciated thanks. my girlfriend and I believe we are ready to get intimate and use toys etc however were wondering about the health risks of sharing toys. I mean we have both had sex ed at school b...
A. 22 July 2010: I'm 99% sure there is no problem with sharing toys when there are no STD's on either side. If you think about it us straighies "Share" equipment with minimal problems if you know what I mean :-) However I would ensure that you wash everything well ... (read in full...)
How can I emotionally distance myself from him?
Q. About a year and a half ago I started talking to someone online, and she quickly became my best friend and for about a year now, we have been roommates. The problem is that even before we moved in together, I have been in love with her. She k...
A. 22 July 2010: She doesn't worry what you think when she goes on dates or hangs out with other people so you shouldn't either. I would try to move out of you can. There will surely be someone who could take over your lease. When you move out be honest tell her ... (read in full...)
Mixed race woman attracted to a professional white guy.
Q. I am a mixed race woman attracted to a professional white guy. this is the first time I have REALLY been attracted to a white guy. I got to know him through my previous job. He was a senior manager and that is where the two way attraction ...
A. 22 July 2010: Love can conquer all. I say go for it and take it one day at a time and see what develops.... (read in full...)
Breakup over bad past... please help!
Q. Please help... I am 20 years old and I'm in this fantastic relationship. It's been 10 months... I have a rather "dirty" past, I wanted to have fun and did and he feels so threatened by my past that once every 2 or 3 months he brings it up. He says ...
A. 22 July 2010: This will sound harsh sorry. He's a bloody dork!! He knew what the story was and he's trying to make you pay for it now. I would be really angry with him if this were me. We all have pasts even him! I feel really cross that he's threatening to ... (read in full...)
What am I to think? Am I being used here?
Q. I have been seeing/dating this woman (in her early 20's)for a while. She says she doesn't want a relationship. I try and try again to win her over by being there for her and supporting her when she needs me. I really like her a lot. We go out on ...
A. 22 July 2010: No I don't think you are being used because she has said she doesn't want a relationship. ... (read in full...)
What can I say so that we remain in touch???
Q. I am leaving my job and there is a mutural attraction between me and the boss. I want to give him something to remember me with. I was thinking of a plant with a card with some really kind words in as he has helped me a lot. I have been treate...
A. 22 July 2010: I think the plant and the card would work fine. You could say in the card "keep in touch"... (read in full...)
I feel less of a man for my experimenting. How can I move forward?
Q. I'm a 25 year old male who experimented with another male a couple of days ago and did not like it. he gave me a bj that was wierd, I then let him give me anal I hated it. That lasted for all of like 2 minutes. I just feel like less of a man for ...
A. 22 July 2010: Just chalk it up to one of life's experiences and move on from it. Think of it as trying a new food. You wonder what it tastes like then you have the opportunity to try it and you don't care for it and never have it again. I truly don't think it ... (read in full...)
If her girlfriend really loved her why should she break up with her to see someone else?
Q. I started dating a girl right after she broke up with her girlfriend. The reason they broke up was that the girlfriend had a crush on someone and wanted to date that person. So they broke up and I started seeing her. Well the girl I was seeing ...
A. 22 July 2010: You are better off away from this girl she doesn't know what she wants. She will definately have more problems down the track. I understand how hurt you feel over this but she's done you a favour so lick your wounds and take the lessons from this ... (read in full...)
Don't know if I want kids, help!
Q. I am 23 years old and have been in a committed relationship with a woman I love to death for about 2 years now. She knows she wants children in the future but I'm still unsure. When we talk about it, she gets upset and says she doesn't want to ...
A. 22 July 2010: My husband didn't know if he wanted kids and we would have the same kind of discussions that you are having with your partner too. We waited until I was nearly in my 30's to start having them and he was still feeling a bit unsure about it all even ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else had to leave one parent's home and live with the other?
Q. ok, all of this is pretty long-winded so i dont blame you at all if you struggle to keep up. so not to beat around the bush, i am a sixteen year old (soon to be) college student living with my biological father. i recently moved out of my mother's ...
A. 19 July 2010: Yes I really feel for you in this your Mum has put you kids in the middle like the meat in the sandwich. The comforting thing is that as your brothers grow up and have more freedom you will get to spend more time with them.
Hang in there swee... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and my parents are still too strict!
Q. Hi I am 20 years old male and soon im gonna turn 21 and my parents are still to strict with me. If I style my hair then they get disapointed from me and my mom does not talk to me and my father yells at me till I get rid of the style.... im not allo...
A. 18 July 2010: Hey dude it's not your job to look after your parents and boy they are young. My 90 year old grandad lives in a different city to his kids and he gets on fine. It's your parents responsibility to look after themselves... (read in full...)
Has anyone else had to leave one parent's home and live with the other?
Q. ok, all of this is pretty long-winded so i dont blame you at all if you struggle to keep up. so not to beat around the bush, i am a sixteen year old (soon to be) college student living with my biological father. i recently moved out of my mother's ...
A. 18 July 2010: Sorry I have not experienced this so I can't reassure you but I was so sad to read your post and had to reply. Your mother sounds very immature so I think you are definately better off not living with her. Can you be a little bit cunning at ... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship, marriage proposal and now I've cheated on my fiance!
Q. I'm having a serious crisis and I have made some big mistakes. My first mistake was agreeing to a proposal from my boyfriend of 5 years even though the two of us have a very troubled history together. He has lied to me and cheated in the past so ...
A. 18 July 2010: Truly I think you should break the engagment off. Entering into a marriage is suicide when there is lying and cheating in the past. The fact that you don't trust him says to me straight away DONT get married. Love is not going to be enough in ... (read in full...)
Totally captivated by this guy... but what do I do about it?
Q. Hey aunts I'm having a little issue with myself. I'm a 16 year old guy that's starting to get comfortable with accepting who I am... that is I'm STRONGLY interested in guys. And everywhere I go I find myself checking guys out and finding myself ...
A. 18 July 2010: What you are experiencing is completely normal crush behaviour. It's a real pain feeling like that when you just want to be normal I know. You could try casually asking what he thinks about gay relationships and his answer will tell you whether or ... (read in full...)
Constant arguing, need help please
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half we are 20 years old and are planning to get married in the next two years. The only problem is that we fight a lot, they start off small and turn into huge fights. We have broken up so many ...
A. 18 July 2010: The secret I abide by is deep breaths. If you feel yourself getting wound up and angry you need to consciously stop and take several deep slow breaths. This gives you time to calm down and time to formulate sensible unemotive response to what made ... (read in full...)
How do I begin subtly flirting with this guy???
Q. Hey there, I have been working in a store for over two years. There is a very regular customer that comes in every day, who I think is gorgeous. I never flirt with him, because I'm shy, and I don't know what to say. I just ask him regular service ...
A. 18 July 2010: Don't flirt it's unattractive and from the sounds of the experience with your friends there not something he would appreciate. My suggestion is to start asking him about himself. For instance "By the way what do you do for a job?" or "What did ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and my parents are still too strict!
Q. Hi I am 20 years old male and soon im gonna turn 21 and my parents are still to strict with me. If I style my hair then they get disapointed from me and my mom does not talk to me and my father yells at me till I get rid of the style.... im not allo...
A. 18 July 2010: I'm a parent so I can understand the need to set rules but even to me this sounds a bit over the top for a 20 year old. Can you move out? Maybe some time away from them would help strengthen your relationship. If moving out is not an option maybe ... (read in full...)
Can men and women be friends? He doesn't want to even try.
Q. There's a guy I've known for some time. Many months ago, he expressed an attraction and interest in me. Then later on I expressed the same. From then, we flirted and teased each other for many months. We finally met up, had great conversation, ...
A. 18 July 2010: Yes men and women can be friends but it kinda sounds like he definately wanted more so it will be hard for him to be friends as he's constantly being reminded of what he's missing out on.... (read in full...)
I'm scared to have sex again, it's been so long. What should I do?
Q. Well i haven't had sex but once and that was when i lost my virginity...it wasn't what i expected so that's why i refrained from having sex for a year but now im in a relationship with a guy who i truly love and i really would like to get intimate ...
A. 17 July 2010: Sex with someone you truly love is always always better. My advice is to take it slowly and tell him you want to take it slowly. And by that I mean one night just kiss and touch. The next night add more and the next night even more and so on so ... (read in full...)
I've worked hard to overcome my insecurities -- how do I show him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I was in a serious relationship with an amazing guy I dearly loved,and still love.However,my repeated insecurities and jealousy kind of killed it. i promised so many times that i would change,but i failed.we were fighting over the most...
A. 17 July 2010: Sorry sweetheart but your actions over Mandy proved that you haven't completely changed as you displayed jealousy again instead of trusting your ex. Your ex is completely justified in saying that you haven't changed. I'm sorry I know that's not ... (read in full...)
I hate how I can't let him go...
Q. soo i'm 16 and i've never been kissed. i had this crush on this guy 4 two years. he was always really sweet but he would joke about my body or hair in a idk i guess a nice way. we never really talked outside of school but we would talk say hi to ...
A. 17 July 2010: You could try writing him a letter that you don't actually send. Just write down everything you feel and seal it in an envelope and tuck it away somewhere. I often use this technique to get stuff off my chest without any risk. It works pretty ... (read in full...)
Married man is playing games with me and my friend, I'm lost. Please help!
Q. Hi to you all, I hope you can help!! I am having a lot of attention from a married guy and it has been going on for a long time. we get along so well that I have become very attracted to him , to the point where I think of him more than I shou...
A. 17 July 2010: Revenge is a tricky thing. It can end up ruining the life of the person exacting it. In my opinion the best revenge would be living the life you want and living it really well. E.g look amazing, be confident and score yourself a hot guy who dotes ... (read in full...)
How can you be too busy for someone you care so deeply about?
Q. I met this guy "greg" online about two and a half weeks ago. We met the second day we talked and went out three nights in a row. He lives 3 and a half hours away at school but was raised where I live at. He comes home in march. We really hit it off ...
A. 17 July 2010: How do you mean he didn't seem very happy about the title? Do you still talk every day and see each other twice a month? because if so you are doing pretty well considering this is a long distance relationship. Some people don't even get that ... (read in full...)
I want to give myself and my virginity as a gift for my boyfriends birthday, good idea?
Q. Ok so im 19, never had a boyfriend before, recently met the most amazing guy, he's 30. its a large age difference but we get along amazingly! we haven't had sex yet, although we have touched each other intimately during kissing sessions. he is ...
A. 17 July 2010: For sure it's a good idea. If it's what YOU really want go for it. Please please use condoms though.
Have fun!!!... (read in full...)
Been asked over to my friends house but I need tips guys...
Q. I have been asked over to my male friend's house on Sunday evening and am now really nervous about it. I really like him but not sure if he likes me the same way how can i tell? what should i look for? it sounds really sad but i have never been ...
A. 17 July 2010: Just be yourself. Read up on some current affairs so that you've got some safe topics to talk about. Dress in something that you feel really good in and that makes you confident. Most of all have fun and enjoy yourself. Good luck have a great ... (read in full...)
Why is he not getting in touch? Is he avoiding me?
Q. So i've been hanging out with my ex on and off on the weekends. Things are good between us. taking things slow etc.. i still care about him.. and he cares about me... anyway last time we talked was tues.. he texed me somthing.. i tried to call him ...
A. 17 July 2010: He is your ex now so you don't have the luxury of checking up on him. This is why I don't think ex's being friends works there's too much history and baggage there for the friendship to ever be anything but complicated.... (read in full...)
How can I help my sister from being hurt??? What should I do?
Q. I have come across this man who is dating my sister. He behaves very good to me but is emotionally unavailable. He admits not being serious about any women and also that marriage is not needed to get physical with a women. he is into a profession ...
A. 17 July 2010: At the end of the day all you can do is tell her you don't like this guy and you think she could do better and then back off. Be there for her to pick up the pieces when it all falls to bits. The more you try to push her to leave him the more she ... (read in full...)
How effective are sex toys for girls?
Q. Sex toys for girls are fairly expensive. To what extent are they just a novelty soon to be discarded as boring?...
A. 17 July 2010: I love mine!... (read in full...)
Why didn't she tell me about her date???
Q. My friend met a guy online and she went out on a date with him. I didn't know until she told me about it. The last time she went out with a guy, she called me and I helped her decide what to wear and how to do her hair. This time she didn't tell me ...
A. 17 July 2010: I would say she felt it was not worth telling you about it unless it worked out. ... (read in full...)
Help me deal with this drama!
Q. This is too much drama for me..Here's the story: I went to work early this morning @ 6am, and I also went to go pick up my check so I can pay bills..so I cashed my check, gave money to those who took me 3 towns from where I reside, and came...
A. 17 July 2010: Kick his arse to the curb.... (read in full...)
I feel I'll love my ex forever... help!!!
Q. hey....I am madly in love with my ex boyfriend but he doesnt know he thinks im over him because when he broke up with me he asked me if i was over him and i said yes.... i dont know why i said that coz im totally not over him... i cant stop thinking ...
A. 17 July 2010: It's completely normal to hold a torch for your ex after all you did spend lots of fun times together. You just need to concentrate on living life to the fullest at the moment. Keep yourself busy and grab any opportuntity you can to get out and ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to open up to me?
Q. lets see where to begin, well me and my girlfriend are great, we never fight, we always talk things out if or when something is wrong, we've been together just passing 8 months, and I've fallen in love with her a long time ago, we both did, I'm ...
A. 15 July 2010: Long distance relationships can work, I married my husband after spending 3 years in another city from him. We talked on the phone at least once a week and I was close enough to him to travel and spend weekends with him. It was hard work but we ... (read in full...)
Now the family has come along our sex life is almost non existent!
Q. Hi everyone. This is my first question as it is really the first time in a long time that I've had a problem like this. I've been with my wife for 5 years and the sex has been increadible for both of us since day one. Now my wife is usually very ...
A. 15 July 2010: Yay great to hear. We are complicated creatures us women :-)... (read in full...)
Am I suffering from depression?
Q. lately i have been feeling so down and rubish my self confidense has plumited and i am so upset and gumpy all the time which is hurting my friends to see me like this and i am really worried it may have somthing to do with my nan is dying that i am ...
A. 15 July 2010: Best wishes to you on this journey just keep on putting one foot in front of the other the very best way you can and allow yourself to be sad and grumpy when you need to be to help yourself heal.
Good bless... (read in full...)
He's in the army and I'll wait for him but I don't know if I can trust him
Q. My question is about the army. I don't really know that much about it and the guy that I'm with loves it he has been in it for a long time and recently got deployed. It has been hard enough not talkin to him for weeks but idk if I can trust him. ...
A. 15 July 2010: My advice is to love and care for him sure but to also love and care for yourself by not hanging around waiting for him. Carry on and have a life that includes socialising with other people male and female. I gotta say the fact that he has ... (read in full...)
I don't want to put myself out there if he thought it was a mistake.
Q. I've been hanging out with this guy for a few months. Nothing serious, we've just been drinking, listening to records and talking. I kind of liked him but I didn't want to get into anything serious since he is over 5 years older than I am and he ...
A. 15 July 2010: I know what you mean but at the end of the day that is what a relationship is we each have our strenghts and weaknesses and shite that comes along as part of the package deal :-)... (read in full...)
How can I get her to open up to me?
Q. lets see where to begin, well me and my girlfriend are great, we never fight, we always talk things out if or when something is wrong, we've been together just passing 8 months, and I've fallen in love with her a long time ago, we both did, I'm ...
A. 15 July 2010: Happy to help. Honestly I wouldn't even ask her about it anymore now. She knows that you want to know and she will definately tell you when she is ready.
Go forth and be happy may the force be with you :-)... (read in full...)
I miss having sex but he isn't working on the problem!
Q. okay so my boyfriend of a year has lost his sex drive. This isnt a recent problem, it's been going on since about November last year. I could count the times we've had sex this year on one hand... it's gettting me down. Now we've talked about this ...
A. 15 July 2010: You might point out to him that pot is a medication too just not a prescribed one and look at what it's doing to him. (Don't mean this to sound as harsh as it reads)... (read in full...)
Do you think our friendship is over?
Q. This is an issue I've had before but it has never frustrated me this much. so...i was seeing this guy for a couple months and the thing just kind of died out when he moved back home. however after he left i started hanging out with one of his ...
A. 15 July 2010: I guess a lot of girls would be worried about their new BF's female close friend whom he has slept with in the past. I know I would feel a little worried about it if it were me. If you could it would be good to talk to the girl without him there ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to open up to me?
Q. lets see where to begin, well me and my girlfriend are great, we never fight, we always talk things out if or when something is wrong, we've been together just passing 8 months, and I've fallen in love with her a long time ago, we both did, I'm ...
A. 15 July 2010: When the time is right she will tell you what the secret is and the more you worry and obsess over it the longer it will take for the time to be right. 8 months being with someone is great and you sound like a great guy but it's not very long to be ... (read in full...)
He's in the army and I'll wait for him but I don't know if I can trust him
Q. My question is about the army. I don't really know that much about it and the guy that I'm with loves it he has been in it for a long time and recently got deployed. It has been hard enough not talkin to him for weeks but idk if I can trust him. ...
A. 15 July 2010: Unfortunately trust is something that has to be earned. The only thing you can do is just take it day by day and see how you feel. I'm sure it'll all be fine but as I say only time will tell. Can you talk to someone else who has a BF away and see ... (read in full...)
I don't want to put myself out there if he thought it was a mistake.
Q. I've been hanging out with this guy for a few months. Nothing serious, we've just been drinking, listening to records and talking. I kind of liked him but I didn't want to get into anything serious since he is over 5 years older than I am and he ...
A. 15 July 2010: PS 5 years older than you at your age is no problem so don't worry about that aspect.... (read in full...)
I don't want to put myself out there if he thought it was a mistake.
Q. I've been hanging out with this guy for a few months. Nothing serious, we've just been drinking, listening to records and talking. I kind of liked him but I didn't want to get into anything serious since he is over 5 years older than I am and he ...
A. 15 July 2010: I think he does like you and is feeling as unsure about it as you are. Bite the bullet and ask if he would like to be more than friends.... (read in full...)
Am I suffering from depression?
Q. lately i have been feeling so down and rubish my self confidense has plumited and i am so upset and gumpy all the time which is hurting my friends to see me like this and i am really worried it may have somthing to do with my nan is dying that i am ...
A. 15 July 2010: Oh sweetheart you are bound to be feeling down and grumpy with your nan dying. Do your friends know Nan is dying? Maybe you could talk to them all and ask them to bear with you while you work through all this. You are going to go through days ... (read in full...)
I miss having sex but he isn't working on the problem!
Q. okay so my boyfriend of a year has lost his sex drive. This isnt a recent problem, it's been going on since about November last year. I could count the times we've had sex this year on one hand... it's gettting me down. Now we've talked about this ...
A. 15 July 2010: Why on earth is he taking pot when he has a mental health issue? Sorry to sound harsh but that is crazy! I'm not a doctor but I would imagine that his erection problems are due to bipolar medication being mixed with pot. He needs a bit of a wake ... (read in full...)
Now the family has come along our sex life is almost non existent!
Q. Hi everyone. This is my first question as it is really the first time in a long time that I've had a problem like this. I've been with my wife for 5 years and the sex has been increadible for both of us since day one. Now my wife is usually very ...
A. 7 July 2010: was thinking about you last night and remembered another thing that makes me feel more like sex. I feel really close to my husband when he does stuff for me like clean the toilet or cook a meal or take the kids away for the morning and give me some ... (read in full...)
Now the family has come along our sex life is almost non existent!
Q. Hi everyone. This is my first question as it is really the first time in a long time that I've had a problem like this. I've been with my wife for 5 years and the sex has been increadible for both of us since day one. Now my wife is usually very ...
A. 4 July 2010: No you are not being unreasonable but for god's sake DONT cheat on her. I can totally understand where she is coming from having 3 kids myself. From a woman's point of view sex after children sometimes seems like just one more chore on the to do ... (read in full...)
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