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writes:I started dating a girl right after she broke up with her girlfriend. The reason they broke up was that the girlfriend had a crush on someone and wanted to date that person. So they broke up and I started seeing her. Well the girl I was seeing was in love with her ex so she begged her back. Since it didn't work out with the "crush" the girlfriend went back to the girl I was seeing and she broke up with me. A month went by and they broke up again. I decided to give her another chance and started seeing her again. Well of course the ex girlfriend wanted to get back together with the girl I was seeing so they got back together again and she broke up with me. The problem is that I really fell for her. She hurt me but I really want to be with her. She tells me that she has feelings for me and cares for me but loves her girlfriend and her girlfriend loves her. I'm just trying to make sense of this. I know i should move on but I really have deep feelings with her. If they had these many problems I don't see how it can work out. So my question is if her girlfriend really loved her why should she break up with her to see someone else? Wont they eventually have problems again?
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reader, romany  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 So let me get this into perspective:
She has gone back with ex, even tho ex has hurt her,
You want her, even tho she has hurt you, by ending it twice, after using you to get back at, and back with her ex.
Whats to understand?
Your all masachists, you all seem to want an unstable relationship, maybe because you all like the challenge and the chase.
This is a terrible situation, get out of it now, find someone tho sees you for you, and leave these two well alone. I wouldn't be surprised if you were just one of several victims from this strange realtionship they have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I am trying to move on. We are still remaining friends so it is making it hard. I guess I don't want to lose her just in case she finally breaks up with her girlfriend
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reader, a_seidner06 +, writes (22 July 2010):
 I agree with Moo's mum. I think if she is giving you such a hard time now, what makes you think you two will be happy
down the road and she wont do this again and again? If you ask me, she is using you as a rebound. I learned not to jump into another relationship without at least a couple months in between for both your safety(so you know she wont use you) and also her so it gives her time to get over the last. Your feelings will be all up in the air and you might not know what is real. Stay away from here for a couple months, you will see her and this other girl break up again and get back together.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Hey, yes is the sort answer, they more than likely will have more problems but this shouldnt be your concern and you shoul not be there for her to run back to because for whatever reason this girl really loves her girlfriend and she would more than likely go back to her again. As hard as it is you should try and move on from this girl as she is only going to hurt you. hope this helps =]
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 You are better off away from this girl she doesn't know what she wants. She will definately have more problems down the track. I understand how hurt you feel over this but she's done you a favour so lick your wounds and take the lessons from this encounter and move on.
Good luck doll it'll be hard but you are gonna be fine and you will get there.
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