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writes:I'm a 25 year old male who experimented with another male a couple of days ago and did not like it. he gave me a bj that was wierd, I then let him give me anal I hated it. That lasted for all of like 2 minutes. I just feel like less of a man for doing it I love woman help me please I was a macho type of guy now I can't get that back
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): 2 things: first, it is very macho to be in touch with yourself and your sexuality. Dont let the crap "fag haters" tell you....they are the insecure ones. Second, I have to agree that if you dont swing that way, you take this secret to your grave. Most people are not so understanding, and you dont want to ruin relationships because of a mistake that is no ones business
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): You no to the last writer on this page I did not need any thin like that I was discusted about wat I did and I'm moving foward I don't feel like less of a man no more I'm getting my confidece back and no I'm not going to tell a soul so why would you even write somthing like that if I was not in the rite frame of mind that would realy hurt people need to keep negative comments to them selves
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): I would not be with a man like you. Even if it was a mistake. It may be best you keep this a secret from future g/fs as I promise you most of them will want to run a mile from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): Thank you all this realy helps me allot I just want to forget it ever happond I'm so ashamed of it but hopfuly ill find closer
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Wow hmm You kno the Bible says something like that s supposed to happen if to men.. go there your supposed to be repulsed by it or something and feel less manly.. im not making it up... well if you believe in God ask for forgiveness and move on... just be thankful you didnt enjoy it...
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reader, romany  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 You were curious, you tried it, you dint like it, simple!
Its understandable why you think bad of yourself, but really, you've nothing to be ashamed of, guilty for or think you less of a man.
As Moo's mum says, just chalk this up to experience, your little secret at finding yourself, at least now you know you can continue the rest of your life without ever having to wonder again.
Good luck, x
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reader, TheWolf  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 I have to agree with the other 2 ladies that commented on this . I have done things in my past that made me feel less of a man as well , not exactly in the area you stepped in but mentally all the same . Im sure you may be disgusted with yourself , hard to look in the mirror . trust me it was only a mistake and one to learn from . Thats what life is all about making mistakes , learning and moving forward . If anything our experiences and mistakes i personally believe make us more manly . So learn from yours . and forget it put it behind you and be proud of yourself . You obviously had wondered about this very thing , youve found out now that you dont swing that way , good job move on , now you know and as Gijoe always said lol Knowing is half the battle .
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reader, The wife listener  +, writes (22 July 2010):
Just look at the term "Macho" you know i guess there's quite a few guys who strive to be Macho, who have had the same idea once or twice. I think striving to have a macho image could sometimes be hiding a fear. In your case, That fear being that your Gay. You've obviously discovered that your not. If this is the case, This experience will have done you the world of good.It's funny how if women experiement, society has moved forward enough to see that it's no big deal, I'm sure this will be the same for guys one day. Especially when the 'Macho one's' accept it.Try to see it as closure on a demon idea You had that must have been lurking in the back of your mind. You wont be visiting it again and now you can be one of the people who are bringing society forward. Your no less of a man mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): My fiance tells me, when he went travelling, he ended up staying with this tribe in Sumatra. Apparently he was buggered by about 5 of them as the initiation ceremony, total shock to him. Count yourself lucky!
Also, treat it as an experience - been there done that. Least you know you don't swing the other way!
With any luck in a year or two, you maybe able to look back and laugh.
Good luck.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Just chalk it up to one of life's experiences and move on from it. Think of it as trying a new food. You wonder what it tastes like then you have the opportunity to try it and you don't care for it and never have it again. I truly don't think it makes you less of a man. I certinally wouldn't think of myself as less womanly if I had a fling with another women and I don't look at gay men and think they look less manly (OK some do but we love them for it :-) ) but most of them you might not even know they are gay so it definately doesn't make you kless manly. Don't beat yourself up about this you haven't done anything wrong or bad. Chin up stand tall you are perfect as you are.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Ok so you were curious - maybe you thought you'd be ok with that - you found out you were wrong. This does not make you less of a man for seeking truth about yourself. Don't do this again. Move on. And for God's sake do not "confess" this to anyone. Just move one honey. That's all. Ok?
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