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writes:Well i haven't had sex but once and that was when i lost my virginity...it wasn't what i expected so that's why i refrained from having sex for a year but now im in a relationship with a guy who i truly love and i really would like to get intimate with him but im second guessing myself because of my first experience and im scared that ill feel uncomfortable emotionally and physically because i haven't been intimate in a year what should i do?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Don't worry about the length of time in between. I was the same way, then someone special came along who I had sexual chemistry with and it was like there was never a gap. Just make sure you're super turned on and you won't feel a single bad thing. Also, use a condom.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Make it fun and light hearted. Sex doesn't always have to be about big serious changes, a rite into womanhood, loss of innocence, etc. It can also be flirty and playful. It shouldn't be something planned. Focus on the sensual. Replace thinking, worrying with feeling and sensing. Let your passion override your need for security and control. Yet there needs to be a variety of comfort sex, gentle sex, passionate sex and wild sex. You are going to want to postpone it because the unknown is always scary. But you'll feel much better once you break the ice and know that nothing bad would actually happen. Embrace the woman in you and follow the guidance of what nature tells you.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Sex with someone you truly love is always always better. My advice is to take it slowly and tell him you want to take it slowly. And by that I mean one night just kiss and touch. The next night add more and the next night even more and so on so you can build up to full on sex gently. This way you build lots of trust and understanding together.
Good luck tell him you are nervous he probably is too. Don't forget your condoms :-) Have fun
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reader, Mr. Smith +, writes (17 July 2010):
If your heart says no... just go with your instinct. If you do have intimacy remember CONDOMS always practice safe sex!!!!
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