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writes:Hello im 14 and me and my bf want to have sex but its a long distance relationship so we wanna have fone sex till we can actually meet up and have sex. I'm worried that my parents will be disappointed in me for loosing my virginity at 14 ive researched all the things that could go wrong and im pretty sure im ready. Should i have sex even though im young, should i let wat people think of me including wat my family thinks of me get in the way of having sex, and will i really bleed when i loose my virginity?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): If you are trully ready to have sex, then nothing anyone here or anyone you know says is going to stop you.
The fact that you've actually bothered with researching the thing, shows in some small way you know what you're getting into here.
If it's just phone sex, then by all means have at it.
If it's real sex, just make sure its done safely and as its your first time, theat no amount of alcohol is used (believe me, if you drink then it just takes the special out of it all).
By no means should you not listen to anyone else. Opinions must be taken into account, especially your parents', but you cannot live and die by the opinions of others. You'll kearn soon enough that this is no way to live a life.
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Your parents are your best allies, believe me.
You should really think about what could happen if you decide to have sex (STDS, pregnancy). And also think about your boyfriend and this long distance relationship. Do you really want to have sex with someone who is not around very often? It doesnt seem like this is a very strong relationship, what would happen if you two were to break up? Would you regret this?
I sincerely hope that you think about these things before deciding to have sex. If you decide to have sex then I think you need to go to your parents, an aunt, a clinic and get some birth control and condoms. There is no going back once you are infected with an STD or become pregnant!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): I had sex with my boyfriend and i am 14 tomorrow. I dnt regret anything but i know when im older i will. I am 100% in love with my boyfriend though and we have talked about what we would do if anything happened
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reader, ChicaBlusera +, writes (24 June 2008):
Your parents are trying to protect you, possibly from serious trouble. Some of the consequences to having sex are severe, and your parents don't want you to suffer. If you're not ready to commit to someone, or to cope with a pregnancy, you're not ready to have sex!! You can only lose your virginity once, and I doubt that you know for sure that you want to spend your life with this guy. Your parents have the judgement and wisdom to know what's best for you and will put your welfare first. Wait until you are older and know who you are and who you want to be with.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Ho there...
It is not so much what other people think, is what other people KNOW. They are not being mean to you or wanting you to stay celibate for the rest of your life but having sex is a very big step in which the consequences are not limited to std's or pregnancy but also other psychological processes. These processes are part of loosing your virginity, you are giving more than your body to someone and although you might be very mature for your age, a lot of us adults, who have already gone through it know it would be better for you to wait a couple more years.
The truth is you don't want your first time to be something you regret and a lot of things can make you regret it. So, waiting is not too much to ask of yourself, regardless of if it's your parents who say it or any other adults. Take the grown ups word in this one... we have more experience than other peer youth! And we have your well being in mind, not those hormones! lol Good luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Of course you should care what your parents think about you having sex. That's why the good Lord gave young girls parents and why there are laws against children your age having sex. You have to be protected from your own poor judgement. Wise up.
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