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28 June 2014: So why use Internet Dating? Over the last few years Internet Datings popularity has soared! There are now millions of us looking for love, romance and friendship online. Like so many aspects of life - shopping, banking, communicating with frie...
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If he wants nothing to do with me why won't he just decline and block me on social media? Is he playing games leaving me hanging?
Q. My question is about a guy who appears to be "leading me on". About 9 months ago we had a terrible falling out. We were supposed to be just friends but I found out he was in love with me. He was very distraught that I discovered how he truly felt ...
A. 29 June 2014: I think you are over thinking this.
To be fair I think he made it clear he wanted nothing more to do with you. He either feels embarrassed that you found out how he felt, or he wants to go no contact to help him move on. Either way you need to ... (read in full...)
I thought he was a friend but suddenly he seems to have turned
Q. Hi I'm seeking advice in regards to a friend of my fiancé's. I've know him for a coupled of years. I'm not trying to lead him on but I don't know if I'm reading his actions right or wrong? He started out being friendly always asking how I am, if ...
A. 29 June 2014: No need to feel foolish! We all make mistakes. He also misinterpreted the situation.
Mark... (read in full...)
Does the repair man like me?
Q. Ok I'm going to start of saying am the worst for thinking things over and over. Can't help myself so please put me straight if am over thinking nothing here, I met a man few months ago, he came out to do repairs for me. But seemed to pro-long the ...
A. 28 June 2014: Hello,
Showing attraction is one thing, making someone hide in their house to avoid them quite another.
When a man stands and stares at a woman for long periods it at least shows a lack of social skills. He may be eyeing you up and enjoying ... (read in full...)
He's 18. It feels right but wrong. How should I handle this considering that I live in a very closed community?
Q. Hi i really need advice on this,i feel so confused.. I recently met my best friend's cousin and i knew the minute i saw him that i liked him,i feel so attracted to him It's like nothing i have ever experienced.. The problem is he is 18!! A Also i...
A. 28 June 2014: The fact you say he is only 18 with an exclamation mark suggest you are at the upper end of the age range 22-25?
If you are 24/25 then realistically you are likely to be at a different level of experience and have a very different out look to ... (read in full...)
Online dating guide - with really good advice for you
Q. So why use Internet Dating? Over the last few years Internet Datings popularity has soared! There are now millions of us looking for love, romance and friendship online. Like so many aspects of life - shopping, banking, communicating with frie...
A. 28 June 2014: Thank you Abella! Glad you enjoyed. ... (read in full...)
Why couldn't we look away from each other?
Q. This is just a quick question. What does holding a gaze mean? I don't need an explanation of that but why could i not look away when someone was looking at me and held my gaze for around 8-10 seconds, no words just gazing. I couldn't have lo...
A. 28 June 2014: Either you both fancy each other or he has an eye problem or poor social skills.
Mark... (read in full...)
Would this be classified as cheating?
Q. Hi everybody! Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Me and my boyfriend were together for 5 years before the relationship ended. It was mainly my fault, I was writing my university dissertation, revising for exams, working to help my parents ...
A. 28 June 2014: Was it cheating - no! He was single and free to do what he wanted with whom he wanted. He didn't know that a month later you and him were going to get back together. Without seeing a month into the future he was unable to foresee that the two of you ... (read in full...)
I thought he was a friend but suddenly he seems to have turned
Q. Hi I'm seeking advice in regards to a friend of my fiancé's. I've know him for a coupled of years. I'm not trying to lead him on but I don't know if I'm reading his actions right or wrong? He started out being friendly always asking how I am, if ...
A. 28 June 2014: Im sorry but I think the point you missed for too long was that he wasn't a friend, he was someone who found you attractive and clearly had a thing for you. Winking, staring, smiling, touching, brushing against you, being overly friendly, telling ... (read in full...)
Just discovered my boyfriend lied about having a child
Q. I APOLOGIZE THIS IS LONG BUT I'M BEGGING FOR INPUT ON THE SITUATION My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and he is an ex army militant. In our early days I noticed he had a tattoo with a female name followed by a date which whe...
A. 28 June 2014: Firstly, to be fair to this guy and objective, I am assuming you are sure this girl is actually his and not a lie from his sister in law? Have you verified the facts?
Trust is the most important commodity in any relationship. Trust is the foun... (read in full...)
How do I handle this situation? My mother in law and sister in law chose to get my son's hair cut without our permission. Am I over-reacting? It will grow. It's the disrespect that irritates me
Q. Hello Agony aunts, I have a major issue that I need advice on. My husband and I have a 2yr old son. He is currently in our hometown visiting family. My mother n law and sister n law decided to get my son hair cut( this was his 2nd cut) without...
A. 28 June 2014: To me giving your child a different hair cut is a bit like going out and coming home to find someone has rearranged your living space or at least your ornaments.
In my opinion it was wrong as your son needs a hair cut that YOU are happy with, an... (read in full...)
Is this retroactive jealousy or is it abuse?
Q. I'm not sure whether my boyfriend is suffering from retroactive jealousy or is actually a bad and possibly abusive person, what do you think? Story - we are 25 and 28, about the same number of partners (+1 for me), neither of us feels insecure, ...
A. 28 June 2014: "It's just that I have far more information about who I am, who he is and the entire situation to go on than you guys partly due to misunderstandings based on the lack of clarity in my original post."
OP we don't need any more information and no o... (read in full...)
Serious relationship for 2 years. Yet he flirts. He says he doesn't want to be mean or hurt their feelings. But what about my feelings?
Q. As much as I love my boyfriend I seem to have a problem with something - the way he acts with other woman. My boyfriend is what most people would call a 'natural flirt' and honestly it bothers me a lot. We live in a small town and he knows a lot ...
A. 28 June 2014: Its a lame excuse to say he flirts, or responds to flirts, to avoid hurting peoples feelings. That's bull shit!! If you are in a committed relationship you do not give out mobile (cell) numbers to other women, nor do you flirt with them.
He cl... (read in full...)
My online boyfriend shouts at me and hangs up, but I am lonely without him
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy. We came to know each other through online dating website. It's been 1 year we have still not meet each other. In the initial 2-3 months he was very loving. He made me feel true love. He has been going through ...
A. 28 June 2014: Op im sorry but you need a reality check here. You cannot love someone you have never met. Sorry but its true. I have done online dating for several years (on and off) and I know from my own extensive experience that you never, ever really know ... (read in full...)
The people who find me attractive aren't the ones I'm interested in
Q. Hi this one is mainly for the women out there. Do you tend to get alot of unwanted attention but never any wanted attention? Will my luck change? I can't figure it out I'm fairly good looking from what people say. The people who find me ...
A. 28 June 2014: You are probably giving out the wrong signals. Sending out the green light to men you don't like, and a red light to men you do!
If you are quiet and shy then some men, probably the once you like, could be taking that as coldness and a lack of ... (read in full...)
I need some dating advice to help me approach women
Q. Hey all, bit of a weird question, I'm a 23 year old male, who has had 1 girlfriend, and I am a virgin. Great introduction! But, I'm starting to realize that my view on dating is perhaps 50 years out of date. I think that two people should be...
A. 27 June 2014: Nothing wrong with dating sites. People use them for allsorts of reasons not just desperation or being sad.
Many people don't have the time or money to go out meeting people or, like me, are in a age group/life stage where they don't have the big ... (read in full...)
Advice for a long distance relationship?
Q. So let me start from the beginning: I'm 15 years old and met my boyfriend at school in August. This was the first year he had ever been to my school, and unfortunately appears to be the last. We've had arguments and such but they always draw us ...
A. 27 June 2014: To be fair Op we were all 15 and in love once. I know I thought I was and wouldn't have anyone else tell me otherwise. Yes times change but we all appreciate how young fifteen is emotionally as we were that age once.
" I will not agree with the... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 27 June 2014: What you mean is that she makes you feel insecure because she is boasting how much men fall at her feet and you don't feel you have the same level of attention.
You are annoyed and hurt by her comments, because, in a sense she is saying she is m... (read in full...)
Is this retroactive jealousy or is it abuse?
Q. I'm not sure whether my boyfriend is suffering from retroactive jealousy or is actually a bad and possibly abusive person, what do you think? Story - we are 25 and 28, about the same number of partners (+1 for me), neither of us feels insecure, ...
A. 27 June 2014: Yes Anon you are quite correct - counselling is confidential, the Ops partners claims of not wanting it to go in his record are indeed absolute BOLLOCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
What's this woman's problem with me?
Q. Can i ask a question here for other women please, i usually dress with jeans and a low cut top, or if am wearing a skirt i make sure my chest is fully covered, so i don't think i dress trashy at all tbh, i look around at girls my own age and are all ...
A. 27 June 2014: She doesn't sound very Christian does she. Although to be honest, from my own experience of Christian Churches when I was younger, i am not too surprised at the bitchiness and jealousies that come with it. She tells you church is no place to pick up ... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 27 June 2014: You don't say what type of body she has, but im guessing you mean larger? Any body type is appealing to someone. Some men love larger ladies, some love women with a more manly frame, others prefer a slimmer lady. There is absolutely nothing wrong ... (read in full...)
Don't give me a lecture because I am only in it for the money!
Q. We dated for two years and he was a lovely person we separated because of me...i was not reliable. However his back, wants back... I dont really mind him being around because he is good to me. And doing financially badly, i wouldnt min...
A. 27 June 2014: If he is a lovely person then he doesn't deserve to be used by you for money. Find someone who is happy to be a sugar daddy rather than taking advantage of his kindness.
If you expect anyone on this site to offer advice as to how to use a guy fo... (read in full...)
Is this retroactive jealousy or is it abuse?
Q. I'm not sure whether my boyfriend is suffering from retroactive jealousy or is actually a bad and possibly abusive person, what do you think? Story - we are 25 and 28, about the same number of partners (+1 for me), neither of us feels insecure, ...
A. 27 June 2014: Sadly your follow up is exactly what I was expecting. Like so many women we get on here you read our responses and then make it clear that you will give him yet another one last chance (and another, and another) and kid yourself that this guy will ... (read in full...)
He hasn't responded since sex in the stairwell
Q. I recently rekindled with this guy I met once several years ago. I ran into him at a party and there was definite chemistry and the night ended with a sexual encounter in the stairwell. We agreed to meet up later that week. I sent him a text the ...
A. 27 June 2014: He got what he wanted, now cant be bothered to give you the time of day.
Mark... (read in full...)
Advice for a long distance relationship?
Q. So let me start from the beginning: I'm 15 years old and met my boyfriend at school in August. This was the first year he had ever been to my school, and unfortunately appears to be the last. We've had arguments and such but they always draw us ...
A. 27 June 2014: You need others to tell you that you are in love?!?!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never takes care of me
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2years and 2 months. He never takes care of me, he's always complaining about not having Money. Whenever I bring up the issue, he's like how will I know your needs when you don't ask me? I decided not to ask him for ...
A. 26 June 2014: I don't really understand your question. Are you complaining that he doesn't pay his way or that he isn't paying for the things you cannot afford/gifts?
If its the latter then you need a sugar daddy not a boyfriend. If you need money form him then... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that enough is enough?
Q. Hi and thanks, I am confused about my relationship status because my bf breaks up ALOT and on Monday he said technically we're friends. I questioned him but as usual he was being cold to me. We were off and on for over 2 yrs, in this time I f...
A. 25 June 2014: Have you posted a similar post on here before?
Any man who treats you like that should be dumped asap and you should never have anything to do with this guy ever again.
Why do you put up with this controlling, dictatorship? To have you GPS tag... (read in full...)
Got drunk and made out with a guy and now things are awkward
Q. Hi there I'm a 16 year old girl and last weekend it was my friends field party. I got really drunk and ended up getting left with a boy (from my year) who I didn't know very well. He made me feel really special and held me gently and kissed me (with ...
A. 25 June 2014: Great advice for Cary grant and wiseowl.
You need to be more sensible in future. Lots of lads will take advantage of a one girl of 16 who is drunk. Its not hard to make a drunken 16 year old feel special, and to take It further, but you don't wa... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking the dream, or do I really not know enough about him?
Q. I'm dating this guy and have been for just over a month and only now realised how naive I've been and I wanted an outside advice to see if it's just me thinking this, or if I am right. I had this dream night before last and it was strange, in the ...
A. 25 June 2014: Hello there,
This is Mark from the UK. I hope you are well.
Dreams are odd things. They often tell us what we are subconscious thinking. There are books supposedly telling us what dreams mean and so on, but I would take those with a pinch of ... (read in full...)
I need some dating advice to help me approach women
Q. Hey all, bit of a weird question, I'm a 23 year old male, who has had 1 girlfriend, and I am a virgin. Great introduction! But, I'm starting to realize that my view on dating is perhaps 50 years out of date. I think that two people should be...
A. 25 June 2014: Not sure where olderhanddirt is coming from with comments about a woman's weight and age. Anyway, step outside your comfort zone and you will flourish!... (read in full...)
I want to help my ex through his gambling addiction
Q. Hello everybody, I don't usually do this sort of thing but I am currently in despair over a break up with my ex. Me and my ex broke up in February and I have been in upset since. We were together for 5 years and although we had our upsets we were ...
A. 25 June 2014: He may want your friendship, but this addiction comes first!... (read in full...)
I need some dating advice to help me approach women
Q. Hey all, bit of a weird question, I'm a 23 year old male, who has had 1 girlfriend, and I am a virgin. Great introduction! But, I'm starting to realize that my view on dating is perhaps 50 years out of date. I think that two people should be...
A. 25 June 2014: Another thing, dont make to much of your whole "inexperienced" thing. Some men make the mistake of sending it out left, right and centre in the hope a woman will appreciate this honesty, take pity on him and like him because he isn't some leering, ... (read in full...)
How can I trust my boyfriend when he promises he won't cheat on me again?
Q. I want to be able to trust my boyfriend, I really do but at times I can't help but doubt what he says when I know he has cheated and lied to me before. We have been together on and off for four years, nearly five. He cheated on me after about a ye...
A. 25 June 2014: Its rare for cheats to change their ways. Also he has cheated twice. That should be the deal breaker. Why stay for the hat trick?
Despite his assurances of being a changed man, he is sexting others, kissing others he has met on nights out. If ... (read in full...)
I need some dating advice to help me approach women
Q. Hey all, bit of a weird question, I'm a 23 year old male, who has had 1 girlfriend, and I am a virgin. Great introduction! But, I'm starting to realize that my view on dating is perhaps 50 years out of date. I think that two people should be...
A. 25 June 2014: Hello,
You sound like me at your age. I was always quite different in approach to most other men, old fashioned maybe, as I was never a typical "lad" if that makes sense. I didn't like the whole idea of "picking up girls" or being "on the pull". I... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my on/off boyfriend is leading a double life
Q. It's been about 10 months of a on again-off again relationship on his part. He comes up with reasons to break it off. I have yet to be invited to his home. He swears that he's just a private person that does not let every girl he meets into his life ...
A. 25 June 2014: Sounds like it. I would move on. To say he doesn't let girls get too close is one thing, but there's not getting too close and being practically a stranger.
The fact he buys you things is very telling. Rather than invite you to his home or open ... (read in full...)
He went away without me and I feel like I need to even the score
Q. My BF of a year and a half is away for a month. Visiting family in South America. I am not going because I have no $$. He knows this and still went for a month without me. I am hurt and jealous and annoyed. It comes after several rocky months of him ...
A. 25 June 2014: Your being childish. As a couple in your 30s, you should have outgrown "evening the score" long ago. your not teenagers.
He is going away to see family he doesn't see very often and misses. Its not like its a lads week away in Ibiza! You cant aff... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps playing games, breaking up with me, taking me back and being controlling. Please help!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years plays break up game with me often these days. It goes like this: i'll make him angry by not keeping our place clean as I came late from work or ask him what's wrong when he is sulking or demand I need attention from h...
A. 25 June 2014: How do you beat him at this childish game? You don't, you grown up and leave.
I don't wish to sound rude but this is the type of behaviour we usually expect from teenage couples, not grown adults in their 30s.
He sounds like a immature, atte... (read in full...)
I want to help my ex through his gambling addiction
Q. Hello everybody, I don't usually do this sort of thing but I am currently in despair over a break up with my ex. Me and my ex broke up in February and I have been in upset since. We were together for 5 years and although we had our upsets we were ...
A. 25 June 2014: You want to "save" this guy, but it sounds like you need saving yourself right now from some pretty bad decisions.
Mark... (read in full...)
Advice for a long distance relationship?
Q. So let me start from the beginning: I'm 15 years old and met my boyfriend at school in August. This was the first year he had ever been to my school, and unfortunately appears to be the last. We've had arguments and such but they always draw us ...
A. 25 June 2014: Hello,
You need to be mature and realistic about this situation. At 15 you are a minor, a child and can only fly with your parents permission. Even if your parents were happy with this situation, are they really going to spend so much of their ti... (read in full...)
Why don't my family like my boyfriend?
Q. Ok so I need some help trying to figure out why my family (parents and aunt and uncles) have a gut feeling about my new bf but can't give me any reason why they don't trust him. I'm really close to my family and normally they are fine with people I...
A. 24 June 2014: You are flattered by his touching, others see is as insecurity or attention seeking. ... (read in full...)
Could my ex-teacher want more?
Q. so.. here I go again about it...i know that to many of you it will sound stupid...but it's just smth i have to do or I'll always wonder what if.. So..4 yrs ago i met him, he was my teacher for 3 yrs, he was hot charming and inteligent and he knew ...
A. 24 June 2014: This guy is grooming you! Said it before, saying it again. Stay well away!
Op you say you will "Always wonder what if..." NO YOU WONT! because a few months and years from now you will have matured further, grown up more and see this guy for what... (read in full...)
I am unable to achieve orgasm with my girlfriend. Any advice?
Q. Hi I am 21 years old and just gotten into a relationship very recently, we have had sex 3 times now, and each time I have been unable to reach orgasm, I think I have somthing called delayed ejaculation... When I lost my virginity I couldn't...
A. 24 June 2014: Hello,
Masturbating too often can lead to a problem ejaculating through intercourse. What happens, in basic terms, is that your penis becomes sensitive to the pressure you apply with your hand, which is unlikely to be the same with a womans v... (read in full...)
Why don't my family like my boyfriend?
Q. Ok so I need some help trying to figure out why my family (parents and aunt and uncles) have a gut feeling about my new bf but can't give me any reason why they don't trust him. I'm really close to my family and normally they are fine with people I...
A. 24 June 2014: With respect, you are still very young, whereas your parents are older, wiser and more experienced. Parents often see things we ourselves do not when we are young.
You like "Tommy" and so will have a subjective view of him, and his traits, ... (read in full...)
Is this retroactive jealousy or is it abuse?
Q. I'm not sure whether my boyfriend is suffering from retroactive jealousy or is actually a bad and possibly abusive person, what do you think? Story - we are 25 and 28, about the same number of partners (+1 for me), neither of us feels insecure, ...
A. 24 June 2014: The problem now is that you are thinking that he is a nice guy 90 % of the time and that you normally get on well. You need to get out of that way of thinking. You also need to get out of the "i will think on it" mode, as you will only convince ... (read in full...)
Is this retroactive jealousy or is it abuse?
Q. I'm not sure whether my boyfriend is suffering from retroactive jealousy or is actually a bad and possibly abusive person, what do you think? Story - we are 25 and 28, about the same number of partners (+1 for me), neither of us feels insecure, ...
A. 23 June 2014: I would get out of this relationship with immediate effect! You don't deserve such treatment and some of the hoops you have had to jump through are crazy!
He is not a nice man, he is abusive, controlling and treats you in a way which is disgusti... (read in full...)
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