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*chill1689
writes:Ok, so its me again, but this time with a whole new problem. Ok so ever since the last time i asked for help, me and my girlfriend have been doing fine. we've been dating for 16 months as of tomorrow. the other day she told me that she didnt know if she still liked me or not. she said things didnt feel the same. well anywho, we talked and i told her to sleep on it. well i talked to her again later that night and she said she didnt know what she was thinking and that she completely and uterly loved me. so we were doing good again. but... there is something that has been bothering me for aobut a month now, it never did before, but now it is. she told me when we started dating that she wanted to wait untill at least college before sex. well now i cant stop thinking about it (dont hate me for this) ok so where i work there is this girl that really likes me and i really like her too. i realllllllly love my current girlfriend and would never intend on hurting her, but then again, i would really like to see where this new girl could lead. i am really confused and dont know what to do?? should i stick to my current gf and deal with not having sex, or should i dump the girl i love (or think i still do) and see where this new girl could take me?i know i sound like a horrible person, and i really do feel bad. i've been so confused for 3 days now..PLEASE HELP!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): Hi J!
I jus wanna let you know that it is normal for you to want to have sex. I think it is incredible that you can go with out having sex with your girlfriend to begin with. That is very respectable! But imagine if it was the other way around, you wanted to wait for sex and she had feelings of "cheating" or being sexually gratified by some other man. How would you feel? If you want this relationship, dont screw it up, do not let this other chick corrupt you. You have the rest of your life to have sex, there is NO rush! (I hope you ARE allowed to masturbate though hun!)
Temptation is strong, but prove yourself stronger! Love is the greatest feeling of all (even better than sex, trust me!) Good luck! ;0)
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (31 July 2007):
It comes down to what you think is more impotant- sex or being in a relationship with someone you love, and not having sex.
Personaly, I would stick with your gf, but thats because I don't rate sex as that important. But if you do, then dont be ashamed of it, its better to be hoenst and leave, then stay in a relationship which you really dont want to be in.
And just think about how you would feel if you do dump your gf, and you have sex with this girl and nothing more comes of it? Will you miss being in a relationship with her? Some stuff to think about there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): dont be a typical bloke and jump into bed with sum1 else. Another girl should not come into it! Thats a disgrace! i wouldntwant a guy like u!
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