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*onfessions Of A Broken Heart
writes:My Girlfriend of 3 years Just confessed That She Only Loved Me Because Of My Japanese and Chinese Background (She was drunk).. i fell so hurt I've Been with her Since i was 17 She took my virginty and i took hers...I havent been wtih anyone eles and i want to end it...Is Her Loving Me Because im Asian A good Reason To Leave Her?Thanks Yukixx
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reader, neonpinkngooey  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 hey. i think you should just tell her how you feel, instead of trying to find a reason to break up. If your feelings have faded, or if you feel that it's time to move on, then tell her. That alone should be reason enough for you to break up with her, instead of having to find a good excuse. the longer you drag this out, the longer you're leading her on! so don't do that, as i am sure you still care about her.
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reader, Confessions Of A Broken Heart +, writes (29 July 2007):
Confessions Of A Broken Heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well i talked too her and she said it was just a joke and yeh she does luv my asian background but...I need to break up with her i dont know what too do..can anyone help.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (29 July 2007):
If someone only loves you because you're Asian then I would find it hard to believe she could stay with you for so long. Perhaps what she means is thats what originaly drew her to you? But she has grown to love all the other great things in you?
Seriously, if the only thing that she loves in you, is you being Asian, then this relationship would not of lasted so long, its impossible, she must love lots of other things about you too. I would say what she meant was your ethnic is what originaly attracted her to you.
Talk to her mroe about this before making any decisiosn. Tell her that it hurt your feelings, and see if she can reassure you in any way.
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reader, neonpinkngooey +, writes (28 July 2007):
Have you talked a little more about it, besides the one time that she was drunk? She may have been joking. I highly doubt that she likes you purely because of your background. She could have easily found someone else of the same background.She could also have meant that she became interested in you because you are Asian. Although I understand that it still may make you feel a bit awkward, it is so much better than having that being the only reason she loves you. If she does love you only because you are Asian, then.... wow. I didn't think love could spawn from the approval of someone's descent.Anyway to my point. This issue that you have with her doesn't seem to be the only issue at hand. You also mention that you haven't been with anyone else, and in the same sentence, mention that you want to leave her. I don't think that you should be searching for justifiable, or "good" reasons to leave your girlfriend. If you have already decided that you want to break it off with her, the only thing you have to worry about is, in fact, breaking it off.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 I'm not sure. This might not be bad, you know. If "Asian" means you have Oriental eyes, and that's all she loves in you, well, that may be a reason. But if by "Asian" she means "a special kind of people", then you have a very good reason to stay with her. I think you feel you're not appreciated for who you are. That might not be the case.
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