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writes:*OP's Original Title*wll i have been dating my best friend for 4 months now and i can say that i love him so but i have been liking this guy for two years and he beraly let out his true feelings for me i have been hanging out with him often and we share a really close bond we have a lot in common and im starting to think i might love him too. i dont want to love two people but i dont know who to go for. what should i do?
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reader, Blue Sahara +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Well, who you will go for and who you should go for are probably two different things.
You should go for your best friend because, well, he is your best friend. No relationship is going to be better than with the person who you enjoy their company enough to keep as a friend.
But you will probably end up trying something with the other guy. He sounds emotionally distant so whenever he shows an emotion you feel blessed to see it. It keeps you in constant suspense and makes you want him more. Problem is it usually ends with a lot of pain cause he is emotionally distant for a reason. And you will get tired of being in a relationship by yourself.
I know now the other guy seems so much sexier but after having enough emotionally distant guys you realize there isn't some great well of love and feeling buried under his stern outer self. There is more emotional barriers.
I have ended up with my best friend and the relationship is a million times better than any I had because he makes attempts to be just as much a friend as a lover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Stick with the one you've got!!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 It's straight in front of you ... Your best friend. The greatest love is the love with your best friend that is the person you will want to spend the rest of your life with. The one you want to marry, because your are both so compatible, that's why you are friends and probably soulmates.
Don't ditch him because of that either, or you may lose something so great and beautiful.
Go for your best friend!
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