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writes:Hello. Today, the girl that I have liked for almost 4 years agreed to go on a date with me. I don't know if she is just humoring me or what, but I want to be able to show her that I could be a great boyfriend. Can anyone give me some ideas on how I could show her this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 If she's told you she wants to be friends it means she wants to take it slow with you and is still not sure about you, but she does like you, just not enough yet to develop romantic feelings for you. Dont push her at all, just hang in there and some day you may win her heart. Don ever ever loose your cool in any situation.
Lastly be the best friend she's ever had. Love starts from being a friend. (regardless of what you hear or read in the psychological books or from friends, those still don't work in the longer term and will corrupt your mind forever). If you like her so much, you marry a woman becase she's your best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): be the best friend shes got- then shell compare you to all the losers she dates then see how wonderful and better you are
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): Don't know if you'll be able to get out the friend zone but If she is letting you take her on a date atleast she is considering moving you to the future posible bf's zone. Hopefully she isn't just stringing you along for her own amusement
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): Then shes not interested... I'm sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat if she has told me that she only likes me as a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): Okay these other people are telling you how to be, how to act, what to say and not to say. While yes you should take it into CONSIDERATION when in her presence, keep these tips in mind. But don't let it over rule your entire persona, or youll look like an uptight nervous wreck.
Lets keep in mind this poster is between 16-17. So this girl is around the same age, maybe slightly older or younger. We don't know what this girl is like- only you know that. So be yourself! And it is okay to give her compliments like that of how gorgeous she is to you and unlike any other women you've seen.
Have fun, enjoy this! The more thought you put into it, the more you could appear rigid and uptight- thus scare her off.
She has chosen to go on a date with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): Have things you know you cantalk about so it doesn't get uncomfortable, I used to go out just as a friend with this guy to the cinema and he just never ever talks, it's so annoying.
I'd recomend making it clear your not interested in any other girls so don't check any out or mention someone being fit or something!!
I'm sure you know that but but it can reallyy ruin your chances
be clear you like her as more than a friend if the time is right.
AND most of all... Be yourself.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (20 June 2010):
Yes be yourself, mature, don't make foolish jokes. She will take you more seriously that way, and a woman will recognise that your not just a joke but you are actually serious about her. and if she is the love of your life DO NOT play bad boy or mind games!
1) Make sure you compliment her hair when you see her. She spends alot of time and money making it perfect for someone like you.
2) Have fine etiquette, manners, dress, and style, be polite to people it gives you charm an a woman loves that in a man.
3) be different. Don't tell her what everyone else likes be unique and tell her your ideas that make you an individual. For EXAMPLE: that you like classical music on occasions but not all the time. Tell her about something you like and do that most typical people won't. That makes you differ t and seem more exotic.
4) pat for the meal and the night out on the first date. Don't talk to mch about shit. Women don't like blabbering mouth bullshitters.
that should give you the idea I hope you win her after all that time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): Also aside from shining like the sun in your own shoes, don't worry about acting awkward or shy or stupid or whatever. Any girl that would look upon that with scorn instead of thinking "aw, how cute" is not worth your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): Be your best self, nothing less nothing more. If she doesn't like that, then its her loss. Don't try to be what you are not to impress anyone. Be who you are - with confidence! Trust me, unless you are a serial killer, you should allow your own personality to shine! Because if you like her for 4 years, wouldn't you like to know if she likes the REAL YOU back? I get sad seeing teens trying to find out a certain way to be, when the truth is that as you get older you discover that the only way to happiness, is to be who you are in your heart, and to be it BRILLIANTLY, like the sun! Nothing less will do in the long run for your heart.
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reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (20 June 2010):
 Nope, be yourself. If you try to be anything else, and you fail, you will regret everything. But if you are yourself and just act natural, if she doesn't bite then it's just not going to work out.
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