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What is with exs??

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Question - (16 January 2009) 7 Answers - (Newest, 16 January 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *pendy writes:


why do exes always ring you after so long and try to talk to you and wants to get back together?? soo dumb they had their chances and they messed about.. whats up with that? PLEASE ANSWER...??

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009):

Its a shame that people actually do take their ex back after being treated badly in the past, because they have been brain washed into thinking they have changed.

When it doesn't work out (AGAIN), they expect to be able to pick up where they left off with the person they left for the ex.

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A female reader, sheribaby38 United States +, writes (16 January 2009):

sheribaby38 agony auntyes its because they took you for granted and thought they were moving on to better things but found out that was not the case.that has happened to me too. i took him back cuz i loved him and wanted to keep my family together but he did it again. i had enough and moved on myself.

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A male reader, Griffo Australia +, writes (16 January 2009):

Griffo agony auntHi Spendy,

Usually if someone really "loved" you a lot and things seem to become overwhelming in the previous relationship you had with them, they will go away/break up/want space, etc to clear up their minds or maybey you did. Then when they return they will see if a spark that you once had would still be there. if it's not, then he/she will likley move on and let you go.

The most common mistake made however is when the one that comes back didn't leave in a good enough way therefore the person who recieves the call (you) will be a bit upset about the whole thing.

It's normal in a relationship to do this, especially if you really loved that person. And you want to give them a second chance or try again with them.

If apart of you is still interested and your still upset with him then you might need more time. If your not into him anymore, it will pass you by.


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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009):

After being at both sides of the situation, I think I have a reasonable answer.

Sometimes a relationship ends because of a screw up, or something the person later regrets; which could be the exe's purpose of trying to see what could have been, once more. Or perhaps they've come to see that your the best they've had, and miss you...But I suppose, it depends on person.

Depending on who they are can totally change the reasoning. So there's never a perfect answer. Just a reasonable guess.

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A female reader, megan1111 United States +, writes (16 January 2009):

Ever heard the saying "man want a virgin in showplace and a whore in bed".

Ex always leave for greener grass only to find the grass is green where you water it. They realize they left a good thing and want it back because what left never measures up to what they left.

Tell him too bad, too sad, and your new boo is taking up all your time (even if you don't have one)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009):

don't fall for it. i regret that i didn't listen to something i've heard that has stayed with me: "if it doesn't work the first time, it won't work the second, third, or fourth time!" i kept letting my ex back into my life and he kept hurting me and hurting me and finally now i'm pregnant with him and just found out that he cheated. stay away from those who keep hurting you!

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A female reader, Ask JenniHearts  +, writes (16 January 2009):

Ask JenniHearts agony auntits the insicurity factor. they want to know that they can get some thing. it's not that they think your desprite or anyting but they wanna know that they can have a fall back. its awful but it happens. some are actually truthful and want you back but alot of them are going there the don't know what you got till its gone and then the next step is the i want what i can't have and i don't want what i got. its a fase that people go through. everyone has done it on accedent or on purpose.

hope this helps

jenni hearts

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