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*aydeeOfSorrows
writes:How do you get over a breakup?Today, me and my boyfriend split up, i'm devostated and can't stop crying, please give me some tips on how to move on!?Thanks so much!
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reader, Fee-Fee  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 It's only been a day honey, and I know it feels absolutely awful right now, but it will get easier ... I promise!
Don't be ashamed of crying - it's bound to be raw for the first few weeks or so. It's better to have a damn good cry when you need to - otherwise if you bottle it all up, you'll just end up exploding in a ball of emotion. And that is harder to recover from than letting your feelings out when you need to.
Your mum is an awesome friend at times like this - give her a cuddle, tell her you feel miserable. You're her little girl (yes, even at 16-17!) and she will give you all the emotional support and chocolate ice cream you need.
Spend time on the things you love.
Get your hair done, get your nails done, go shopping with your friends, listen to your favourite songs and sing them at the top of your lungs, dance round your house like a lunatic, spend an afternoon at the cinema or go for a walk in the park or down the gym if it's your sort of thing.
The most important person in your life right now is YOU, so you need to be doing something that makes YOU smile. Tell you what I did after a nasty break up - redecorated my house! It gave me a project to focus on, and it marked the start of a new me.
Focus on a long standing hobby, or take up a new one - something you love doing. I'm an artist and I tell you, I've done some of my best (and perhaps most obscure!) work when I am feeling miserable.
The most important thing to remember though, is you are a beautiful young lady, you WILL get over him, and there might be someone better just round the corner :o)
Best of luck, and keep your chin up.
Fee
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 When women cry, afterwards comes anger. These are natural emotions. I could suggest some but it's kinda wierd but it works for me.
To move on and forget the break-up, I usually do these things to divert my mind:
1. Reading a book on
Notorious Women of the West: The Good, The Bad and the Eccentric (Paperback)
by Marjorie K. Lorenz (Author)
or
The World's Most Notorious Women
by Inc. Book Sales
but
since you are a female, read some books about notorious men or evil men. There are good ones availble.
2. Play online games
3. Drink beer, until dead drunk. Next following day I will have a terrible hang over and I won't be able to think about any break up.
4. Go out with friends or relatives
5. Take a long vacation and enjoy the vastness of the earth. Your country is a continent, that wouldn't be a problem.
It worked for me and I hope one of these will work for you too.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Hi LaydeeOfSorrows,
You need to spend as much time as you can with your friends. They will help you get over him just by being with them. Id also do something that you like to do in your spare time to get your mind off him.
Be strong :)
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