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writes:I've started seeing this guy after meeting at a party 2 weeks ago. When we first met he was really keen but I made clear I had a boyfriend, we ended up in the same bed but not sleeping together just chatting. We swapped phone numbers and well I text right away to say thanks for giving me a lift home, since then we text every day and spoke to each other on the phone twice. I really wasn't sure what I wanted but just knew that I felt (and still do feel) really comfortable in this guys company. I said to him that I didn't want to hurt my boyfriend by taking things further and he said he didnt understand why I had given him my phone number then and that it would be a shame to miss out on some 'fun' as we were so like minded. Anyway we met the other night and ended up having sex. After that I feel really guilty and want to call the whole thing off (whatever it is, fuck buddies?)..however the guy has been texting me since that night, mostly sex talk. I am unsure if he actually likes me or is just in it for free sex?..And I dont know what to do! my partner doesn't deserve this he is a great guy but our sex life is non existent. Should I just give this up or do you think this other guy is too good to pass up?..he says all the right things but I think he may just be turning on the charm so I can be his 'booty call'.Any thoughts..sorry if this is long and boring!
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reader, nicole90  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 He seems like he just wants a booty call. If he were a good guy he wouldn't want to intervene in a relationship that is already happening. He would stand in the sidelines and wait for you to figure out what you want but since you have had sex it seems he is in it just for that. Guys will do many things to prove to a girl they are interested in a relationship even if it means lying to the girl so beware.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): I think you would do better to try and work things out with your boyfriend, see why there is no sex, instead of running away from it and sleeping with someone else.
Relationships are about riding the difficult patches and deepening the relationship, not just about sex. Which is what this other one seems to be concentrating on.
You only have yourself to blame for that one though, giving your phone number and sleeping with him when you have someone already.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 I'm sensing that it's all sex for him. If he really liked you, he would hate that you had a boyfriend and would need for you to break-up before he put his hands on you. When a guy likes you as more than a sex object, he also shows respect. I'm not seeing that from what you wrote. So, I think you're on the track in wanting to stop seeing him. Also hon, if things are so bad with your bf that you have to cheat....isn't it better to break up with him?
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reader, katp100 +, writes (4 December 2010):
 hey so i was basically in a similar situation to you.. i had a great boyfriend but bad sex and we were long distance so it was pretty bad so i met a new guy and we met up and i actually broke up with my bf and this new guy weve had sex and so at first it was just about getting sex and stuff but we have really connected and this has been going on for 3 months and and were now going out and things couldent be better and i actually think were in love!! so id say go for whatever makes you happy becasue i did and it totally worked out for me.. my ex didnt deserve what i did to him but i did it for me and i hate myself for it and hes so upset and still texts me sometimes etc but i did what was best for me and its amazing
hope this helped! :)
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