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*olfie
writes:ok, so my ex ended things in may, and since then ive got together with a girl i really like, my ex used to lie about a lot of things, like being stalked, or boys going for her in school ect, but i was able to deal with it, because i felt like if i broke up with her she'd become suicidal (she had threatened to do so), but since we broke up, she's been spreading rumours about me raping her (we were intimatet but she was the one to initiate such actions), and her newer boyfriend was threatening me, until he found out it was a lie about two weeks ago, and since then those two have broken up, and she has a new boyfriend again who is a friend of mine, but since they got together, the rumours about me have escalated to a higher possition, and there is also a sub rumour circulating about her being pregnant due to my supposed actions.Can any one give me some advice about how to stem the flow of rumours, as well as how to comunicate with her current boyfriend please?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (5 September 2010):
Rumors like this one, you leave alone and live your life. If people around you see that you are living your life as happy as can be, they will soon realize your ex is a head case. When you react to stupid people, what does that make you? Yep, just as bad as them.
I guy wanted to fight me one time. So he said my mother was a whore in front of a my friends and his friends, expecting a fight. My reaction… “Really!!! She is? Wow, I didn’t even know that you knew my mother better than me. Next you sleep with her, say “Hi” for me.” And I walked away. Instead of reacting to a fool and getting I a fight, I left him with no ammo for his gun.
Let stupid people live in their world. You can not educate a fool, the will not appreciate it. They will actually get mad at you.
Let her and her new b/f enjoy each other.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (5 September 2010):
 What this girl is doing is pathetic and childish and also illegal! Lying about such a thing is against the law and if it got worse i would suggest you contact the police, but for now I would suggest confronting her in a safe and open place telling her what she said is a lie and she knows it and if she does not stop telling people these lie then you will have to take legal action. I hope this helps
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Hey there,
Your ex sounds like a serial liar, and as long as you know yourself that nothing she has ever said happened, then you have nothing to worry about.
She can shout her mouth off all she wants, she's only doing to it for attention. You keep ignoring her and she'll eventually get bored. Good luck to her trying to prove that she fell pregnant after you 'raped her'
Don't give into her childish games, as long as your new girlfriend doesn't believe the rumours then there's nothing to worry about. Maintain your innocence and your ex will get caught out evetually...
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