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writes:I am sorry to say this, but, I am so glad there are others going through this and I'm not alone. My bf of 2 years is really bad into the porn all he wants to do is look at masturbation and not touch me, it hurts so much I cant even think straight, I feel like I'm in a downward spiral. All I do is cry and I start to wonder if I AM a loser in his eyes, He don't look at me or give me any kind of fourplay. Absolutely NOTHING, but I am to always go down on him and do what he wants and I get nothing in return. Not only is he a porn addict he mentally trashes me, I totally feel like a worthless loser. I tell him I'm sorry I dont have a body like a porn stars, but I have had 2 children and I am only 117 pounds and I used to think I was pretty attractive, but he ruined that. I have no self-confidence anymore or no self esteem. He justs keeps telling me that I am psycho and a b@*ch, and that I blow it way out of proportion.It's always my fault why he does it, He truely believes he is doing nothing wrong and I'm the crazy one. there is so much more I can write, but dont have the energy to. If there is anyone who has a website that would help me feel better could you please let me know, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): Your BF has a serious addiction and that is not your problem at all. In fact, porn is like a drug almost like a chemical addiction because of the stimulation thats needed for repeated arousal. This is a very bad situation and its not your fault. If anything, I feel itd be unwise for you to subject yourself to further abuse as you have two important kids to watch out for. Take their interest in hand and it will confirm that you need to get rid of this guy. Any man who does not respect himself, cannot respect his woman. Im sure youre a beautiful, kind, and all around respectable woman. Keep your head up, go out and have a little fun (but dont do anything to get back at him) and enjoy some life. Best to you :)
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reader, neny312 +, writes (19 September 2010):
 Please get out of this relationship. I'm doing it, I'm getting out of the relationship I'm in. For almost the same reasons. My boyfriend is addicted to porn too. He doesn't yell at me or call me names; but he just doesn't care. No reaction at all to my telling him how it makes me feel.
So, this is what we need to do. I'll do it with you. Leave the jerks; leave them to their porn. They should have a great life, them and their computers. You need to understand that this is not your problem but his problem. The porn has nothing to do with how you look. Even if he was with a super model he would be doing the same thing to her.
I was married once before to a man that called me names, yelled at me and emotionally abused me. I left him. I
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 September 2010):
 I'll also agree that your BF is a looser. I hope he isn't the father of your children so that you can get out of this environment. He's abusing you. It may not be physical, but it is definitely verbal/mental. I highly suggest separating yourself from him at once.
117 pounds is not fat even if you were 4 feet tall. I know many women who were never that skinny even before having kids. Weight isn't the only factor for attractiveness, but don't be sticking false ideas in your head either. Someone without a porn problem would choose sex with a person over their hand and a movie. They would be interested in satisfying you as well as themselves.
You're dating a jerk. Please ditch him asap!
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 I'll tell you what will make you feel better.......being nowhere near this sorry excuse for a boyfriend!!!!
You are not being treated right at all, what gives him the right to smash your confidence like that???? So, here's what you are going to do...
You're going to go out, get your hair and nails done. You're going to buy a new outfit of accessories (or both) and you are going to get a babysitter and go out with your girly friends and have a great night out (maybe dinner or bowling)
This man is emotionally abusing you and noone deserves that!!! Don't ever think you are not good enough for anyone, there is someone out there who will love you for who you are, and who will give you what you need...Your current bf is not this person.
It makes me sick that men can make a woman feel this way, it drives me crazy!!! Start loving yourself and your 2 children, not this loser of a bf!!!
Stay strong :) xx
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reader, jimrich +, writes (13 September 2010):
re: I have had 2 children
..... IMO, your children are your #1 priority and come before anything else. Kids deserve to have the best role-models you can give them and not to be DAMAGED by bad parenting/parents.
re:I have no self-confidence anymore or no self esteem.
....And that will very definitely DAMAGE your children!
Here's the best website I know of the SAVE your kids from more damage
google: relationship tips and get started giving your kids the kind of parents they need and deserve.
Another one is: self worth
another is: happiness
another one is: dysfunctional marriage
I think you get the idea......
good luck rescuing your kids from a horrible home life.
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