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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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We work together and ride the same bus but when is the best time to talk to her? best time to talk to h
Q. hi everyone e we have seen each other around where we both work as she works every sunday and i work the odd sunday. the one time we came face to face was when i walked passed her and we both smiled at each other. we also did the same one tim...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. Well, you work together on some Sundays, so that's a good start.
Do you work in the same area, where you have to talk to each other as a part of your work duties? If so, that's perfect. If not though, it's not a big deal.
You can... (read in full...)
Why do I attract horrible guys?
Q. Why do I keep attracting horrible guys? what is wrong with me?:(? Am a nice sweet girl, am loyal, caring loving would never lie or cheat on my bf. Each time I meet a guy, they all seem so sweet and find me amazing and I'd think we're in...
A. 8 November 2011: Hi there. When you said you don't sleep around, are you saying that you have never slept with any of these past boyfriends?
Or, do you mean that you didn't cheat on any of them?
If you didn't sleep with any of them, perhaps they wanted more... (read in full...)
Ex says I should have sex with him because I owe him my virginity since he waited for me
Q. Me and my now ex-boyfriend just broke up because of me not being in love with him anymore. Although we're broken up, he's telling me to have sex with him so we can both loose our virginities and then he'll move on. He says if we do have sex, he'll ...
A. 7 November 2011: Hi there. If you weren't in love with him then, having sex with him for the sole purpose of losing your virginity to him really serves no purpose at all, does it?
You have no feelings for him, for goodness sake! Why waste it on someone you real... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend psycho or something?
Q. Me and my bf were together for 3 years and 7 months. I am 26 and he is 24. We have been through some wild periods (arguing a lot, broke up several times, got back together). He is a bit difficult to talk to and solve problems, since he does not ...
A. 7 November 2011: Hi. If it wasn't about marriage, what was the "difficult stuff" you referred to? Perhaps I can help, because it is an issue to you it seems.
Maybe he's going through a restless stage of his life, where he really has no idea of what he wants.
... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend psycho or something?
Q. Me and my bf were together for 3 years and 7 months. I am 26 and he is 24. We have been through some wild periods (arguing a lot, broke up several times, got back together). He is a bit difficult to talk to and solve problems, since he does not ...
A. 6 November 2011: Hi there. Talking about difficult stuff as you said, sounds like the - "Where is this relationship going?" -conversation.
After 3 years and 7 months, it's no wonder you are thinking about this.
The best thing you could do now, is to NOT focus ... (read in full...)
How to blend my relationship with my family?
Q. Hi Even though I thought was the end of the world I made it though and I am in LOVE. Its been a yr and 1/2 and all is perfect. My thing is that my kids and my partner met each other but there has been little interaction because I do not bring he...
A. 6 November 2011: Hi there. You were in a heterosexual relationship before, and you had your children.
Then you parted ways after many years, and now you are in a same sex relationship - is that right?
So the problem really, could be that your children are cop... (read in full...)
How do I keep a guy interested without going overboard?
Q. So, I've met a few lovely guys in the past few years, who I would have loved to have a relationship with, but I keep blowing it. I fall for them quite quickly, text them more often than I should and think I come on a little too strong (without being ...
A. 2 November 2011: Hi there. There's nothing wrong in letting a man see that you like him, genuinely.
You can do this by being warm, friendly and showing a genuine interest in them and in their lives.
Where you are probably going wrong is in contacting a guy... (read in full...)
I want to know what went wrong and why he stopped contacting me
Q. I met this guy in April. What I thought was a one night stand, turned out to be something more. You ever have those one night things where you're happy to get out of their sight. You know it was a mistake and you regret the hell out of it. Well, it ...
A. 2 November 2011: Hi there. Perhaps when he mentioned that he wanted to meet your friends, and then you sent him a text message on that weekend, asking him what he was doing - is what spoiled things.
It all went bad after that, didn't it?
It probably might h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend likes me to refer to him as daddy is this a red flag?
Q. My boyfriend sometimes likes to refer to himself or have me refer to him as "daddy". Is this a red flag that he's someone i should never have a child with, or am I overthinking this? ...
A. 2 November 2011: Hi. What makes you hot about when he says this to you during lovemaking, is probably the somewhat "forbidden fruit" feeling of it - which is almost like an incestuous relationship between family members. In thought only, of course.
Over time as ... (read in full...)
How do you feel it is or isn't appropriate to express affection to your loved one around family?
Q. I'm in a serious relationship for the first time in my life. Our families have never met or seen us together but they will soon. His family is very openly affectionate and so I wouldn't worry about sitting with an arm around him now and then or ...
A. 1 November 2011: Hi there. I don't think you mentioned your father here, in your letter.
You only seem to make mention of your mother. So is your mother on her own now - divorced?
The way she acts when you show a boyfriend affection, seems to me like a bit of... (read in full...)
Boyfriend likes me to refer to him as daddy is this a red flag?
Q. My boyfriend sometimes likes to refer to himself or have me refer to him as "daddy". Is this a red flag that he's someone i should never have a child with, or am I overthinking this? ...
A. 1 November 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he means by that, that he wants to control you and all the decision making.
If he treats you pretty well and with respect and dignity, well then you might not have too much of a problem.
The next time he does say about callin... (read in full...)
My casual LDR is becoming too serious, how do I let her down gently?
Q. Heres the situation: i met this girl on holiday back in the summer and we hit it off straight away. With regards to looks she isnt what i go for, but she makes me laugh and we got on well so i just went with it. We stayed in contact and have visited ...
A. 1 November 2011: Hi. When you said you saw a change in her recently, perhaps it was that she was becoming a bit more emotionally involved, and maybe even "clingy and desperate", and this might be what is causing you to retreat and lose some of the feelings you had ... (read in full...)
Ex-wife, husband ties. Effects on a new relationship or marriage?
Q. I'm seeking opinions on a situation with my husband and his ex wife.They have children together so I understand they will always have some connection/communication although the two daughters,and a son are all grown with lives and families of their ...
A. 1 November 2011: Hi. Yes, perhaps he is going through a bit of a midlife crisis.
And that is nothing to do with anything you have done or said. This is about him.
It's possible that he has a sense of time passing him by and unfulfilled dreams. Maybe h... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a shy guy is flirting?
Q. How can you tell if a shy guy is flirting with you? I was playfully arguing with this guy today and he was smiling and staring at me whenever we talked and argued....
A. 1 November 2011: Hi. Well that's good that you are friends.
As you start learning about each other - interests, likes and dislikes, music, books, movies etc., you will gradually build a good rapport. And that's really important to any new friendship.
Then ov... (read in full...)
I need some help to cope with what's happening now
Q. PLEASE HELP! Okay, well I have been to the doctors about depression and they are just saying it's harmones but I am lower then average. I have used marijuana a few times to make me feel better and use it I don't have a lot. I don't smoke it ...
A. 1 November 2011: Hi. Perhaps what is really needed here is finding a better way to de-stress.
Anxiety seems to be a major part of your problems on a regular basis.
So finding a way to relax your body, will also relax your mind.
You have said that you didn'... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a shy guy is flirting?
Q. How can you tell if a shy guy is flirting with you? I was playfully arguing with this guy today and he was smiling and staring at me whenever we talked and argued....
A. 29 October 2011: Hi there. It seems fair to say, that he is smiling and looking at you for a reason. Because he probably does like you.
And the next question is, do you also like him?
If you do like him also, then start talking to him and making a friend ... (read in full...)
Does he just want Friends with Benefits or The Real Thing??
Q. So there is this guy that I've known for a little over two years now. We've always been really good friends, and whenever I ever needed someone to talk to or a friend to be with, he was always the first one I'd call. He has always been such a great ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi there. He might be protecting himself, because he knows it will be difficult if he pursued a relationship with you once you are living in another state.
LDR's are very lonely and challenging to keep going. For the simple fact that you rely... (read in full...)
She gets mad when I try and intiate intimacy! Has anyone had this with their partner?
Q. Hi everyone, Just looking for some advice from anyone who might have been in a similar situation to me. My same sex partner and I have been in a relationship for 3 years. Most of the time we are great together and are loving and caring. The only thi...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi there. What really needs to happen here, is for you and her to sit down together and have a heart to heart talk about how things are. It's the only way you are going to work things out properly.
You have tried all sorts of different approach... (read in full...)
I need some help to cope with what's happening now
Q. PLEASE HELP! Okay, well I have been to the doctors about depression and they are just saying it's harmones but I am lower then average. I have used marijuana a few times to make me feel better and use it I don't have a lot. I don't smoke it ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi there. A major part of your problem seems to be loneliness.
Your mother seems to be in and out of hospital on a fairly regular basis, doesn't she?
And your father stays at the hospital to be with her, which is understandable, ... (read in full...)
Why do men ask for numbers that they have no intention of calling?
Q. Hello, I do not really understand men. I met this guy in a party as he was with my friends. We talked and he mentioned about going out sometime. Then we got drunk and we slept together. I thought it was a mistake but what is done is done and i di...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he was a bit too drunk the night you slept together. He might not have had the presence of mind at the time to even consider it.
Even if his friends did have a go at him for asking for your number, if he really wants to get b... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my gf about a real touchy subject?
Q. Hello everyone. So my girlfriend is a little controlling but lately she's been trying not to be. A couple days ago I went to a bar with my mum on my birthday and my friend works there. Well a long time ago her and I were drinking and we made out...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi there. Even though you are in a relationship, you are both entitled to still keep your old friends. You don't need to close yourselves off completely from the rest of the world. That's a bit too stifling.
It really depends on what it is yo... (read in full...)
Unexplained blood after having sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship, I say long - we live like forty minutes away on a train, but to be fair it's long enough that we only get to see each other once/twice every week at some point because of money and juggling work ...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi there. It might be that inside your vagina, there isn't enough lubrication.
Perhaps the vaginal wall becomes slightly chafed, and there could be a little bit of blood from that.
If you have only recently started having sex for the first ti... (read in full...)
Will there ever be a 'right' time to be a mom?
Q. Okay so I have a question about life regrets. I was thinking what would mine be right now if something was to happen to me? It came down to two things. Seeing the world and having a baby. I have done a good bit of the first! You see, havi...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi there. Well first and foremost, you do need to have a chat to your partner about how you feel.
And even before this, you need to be absolutely sure that having a baby is what you want right now - or any time soon.
Perhaps you could make a... (read in full...)
I seem to have trouble finding a meaningful relationship.
Q. Hello everyone, I am not sure why, but I seem to have trouble finding a meaningful relationship. Physically, I am considered to be a very sultry girl (coming from many male friends). I am very intelligent (doing a master's degree at a to...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi there. Is it possible that perhaps, you did most of the talking on the dates?
Maybe you talked about yourself, and they didn't get a word in edgeways.
I say this because you have said what you talked about - your studies, career plans etc... (read in full...)
We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi. This is exactly what you need to discuss with him in great detail.
When you do talk, you will find out how he feels about it also.
The chances are, he probably has the exact same doubts as you do.
So all the more reason to have the ... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi. Once you are more relaxed and confident, you will be so sure of yourself and who you are, that other people's opinions won't matter much to you at all. You just won't care what they think.
How you handle disapproval - of how you wear you... (read in full...)
My casual LDR is becoming too serious, how do I let her down gently?
Q. Heres the situation: i met this girl on holiday back in the summer and we hit it off straight away. With regards to looks she isnt what i go for, but she makes me laugh and we got on well so i just went with it. We stayed in contact and have visited ...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi there. There's no easy way to break up with someone, there really isn't.
You are just going to have to be completely honest with her, about how you really feel.
I DO NOT suggest that you simply text her, that would be rather insensiti... (read in full...)
Two guys. Which one? how can I tell the other guy that I cannot talk to him anymore without hurting him and myself?
Q. Okay so this may take a while. I am 18 years old and I have two guys who I have a lot of feelings for and at the moment I need to decide on one because I do not want to hurt them and date both at the same time. My first guy, (I will call him spri...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi there. Is there really a need right now, for a decision?
The guy studying medicine is already fairly unavailable because of his studies, and will inevitably become a lot more unavailable because of work commitments, once he has graduate... (read in full...)
I took him to the clinic because I thought something was wrong with him sexually and now he wont talk to me!
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles. Okay i've been here before, asking a few questions, and i got wonderful and useful feedback. So now i'm back...same guy...different situation. Okay, so today, i wanted to take him, well the both of us to the clinic ...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi there. It would be better to have no-one at all, than have someone whom you do not trust, and who has also cheated on you a few times in the past, don't you think? Don't you believe you deserve better than this? Of course you do. Yo... (read in full...)
We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi. Well at the very least, you will almost certainly see each other more than you do now. I believe it will definitely make a difference. It sure beats the heck out of texting and calling all the time, that's for sure. If you are both rea... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi. When you get into the habit of doing the slow deep breathing I mentioned, you will find that it relaxes your whole body and then it relaxes your mind. So there will be calmer thoughts and a feeling of peace. And when you start feeling cal... (read in full...)
Ex-wife, husband ties. Effects on a new relationship or marriage?
Q. I'm seeking opinions on a situation with my husband and his ex wife.They have children together so I understand they will always have some connection/communication although the two daughters,and a son are all grown with lives and families of their ...
A. 26 October 2011: Hi there. The one thing you don't want to do is to feel you are being compared with, in any way. And you most certainly, don't want to start comparing yourself with his ex or exes.
Just so long as you and him generally speaking, have a happy an... (read in full...)
I don't know if she's just being nice or if she's interested?
Q. Ok so I sit in class next to this amazingly beautiful girl. ive never seen anything like her! Anyways, when ever im lookin around in class and our eyes meet she smiles at me for a second or two (i smile back of course) , but I dunno if this,is just ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. Great! I'm really pleased.
Please let me know how you go.
Take care.... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. (Cont'd) - sorry, I accidently pressed the send button by mistake.
Again, it's the insecurity thing - with them (NOT you). So don't pay too much attention to that. Believe me, that's all about them not you, at all.
When you said some of... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. Yes, people can sometimes be jealous of someone they consider to be more academic and intelligent than them. Again, it's the insecurity thing - with them (NOT... (read in full...)
I don't know if she's just being nice or if she's interested?
Q. Ok so I sit in class next to this amazingly beautiful girl. ive never seen anything like her! Anyways, when ever im lookin around in class and our eyes meet she smiles at me for a second or two (i smile back of course) , but I dunno if this,is just ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi there. Because you say she smiles at you first, well then she is interested. If she wasn't, she'd probably look away and not hold your gaze the way she does.
So this is definitely a very good sign.
The next stage is after or before class,... (read in full...)
Is it time to give up on love?
Q. I am a 42 year old woman and I think I’m about ready to give up. I was married for 14 years when my husband left because he decided he was gay (although he later decided he was bisexual). Then three years later I fall for another man. After 6 ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi there. Don't take it personally.
Perhaps when you go out looking for a suitable life partner, you might go looking in the wrong places.
Don't bother with bars. A lot of the men there are probably half drunk anyway, so that's a waste o... (read in full...)
We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. As you are both shift workers, this is the major part of the problem.
For you to have any chance of seeing each other on a regular basis, you both need to be doing the same time shift - both doing night shifts, or both doing day shifts. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seems to be focusing way too much on his ex and I can't stand it anymore
Q. I would be very greatful of some help please, this problem has dragged on in my mind for far too long and I'm becoming more and more depressed in my relationship that I'm not sure if it's worth continuing it anymore. I've been with my partner for ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi there. Perhaps why he says these things about other ex's is simply to get a reaction out of you. Jealousy, in particular. It seems to be working, doesn't it? What if when he made one of these comments, you had no reaction at all? Perhaps... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is so private about his phone that its making me paranoid!
Q. My boyfriend is private with his phone. He brings it in the bathroom with him when he takes a shower, has it in his pocket or on his desk when we're together. He rarely answers his texts around me. He does answer his calls though because they're ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi there. It could well be that he protects his mobile around you, because he still thinks you will go through his messages and call listings, so isn't quite trusting you as yet. It does take time to build up trust in someone again. It's cer... (read in full...)
We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi there. Are we talking about a boyfriend and girlfriend status here? Or, were you just friends 6 weeks ago? Were you actually going out then, or did you just work together? And were you more like work friends? Well seeing each other, r... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. What it really comes down to now, is believing in yourself and that you DO deserve better than you have in your life right now. You could do this by making a mental list of all the things you like about yourself - physical looks and person... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 16 October 2011: Hi. The sooner you can get back into school, it is going to help you a lot. Because then, you won't be in this current environment all day long - day in and day out.
Your anxiety with being outside and with people, is further isolating you and ... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 11 October 2011: Hi there. Your grandmother is grieving and it will take some time to become less intense for her.
Her drinking probably isn't helping either, as you have already said here.
Her drinking is her way of numbing any sad feelings she has during h... (read in full...)
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