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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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What would cause a man to lose all interest in sex?
Q. We are married 25 years ago. Our children are not living with us anymore, we have all the time, to have great sex. But instead of that, we have none. How a man can complete lose his sexual interest,like that? My husband says, he never thinks o...
A. 28 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he is suffering with depression.
Maybe he has a stressful job. He might be a bit bored with his life.
Apart from the sex life, how is the rest of your life with him?
Do you communicate well with each other?
When you ... (read in full...)
Are these normal games or is he unsure?
Q. Hello to all who take the chance to read this. I met a man through a dating website about a week and a half ago. I had a good time,and he seemed to as well. There was a lot of atraction,and he was a very sweet guy. I got a little concerned when he ...
A. 22 September 2011: Hi there. He's a night shift worker, so nights of going out are right out of the question.
I'm also guessing that being a night shift worker, he is often rather tired throughout the days. It's also fairly difficult to sleep during the day, so ... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 22 September 2011: Hi. Being honest in the first place if asked, is always the best policy.
The problem with lying, is it destroys trust. And it usually get's proven in time, so why do it in the first place?
And trust is really important in any relationship.
... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking my bfs are cheating on me!!!
Q. Hey people.. I've tried for the last 10 months to try and "move on" my previous relationships about them cheating on me. I've been in 3 relationships since and all of them ended horribly with me accusing them of cheating on me and "doing stuff". I...
A. 22 September 2011: Hi. Yes, I see your point. Coffee is out of the question now, because you have said you don't like him anymore, so don't do that now.
It sounds more like you probably have moved on more than your last ex.
As it seems you both live fairly clos... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking my bfs are cheating on me!!!
Q. Hey people.. I've tried for the last 10 months to try and "move on" my previous relationships about them cheating on me. I've been in 3 relationships since and all of them ended horribly with me accusing them of cheating on me and "doing stuff". I...
A. 21 September 2011: Hi. He wants it all his own way.
He doesn't have the right, now that you are not together.
If you want to do something, then do it. It's your life and your business. Nothing to do with him at all.
It sounds like your last ex is unwillin... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 21 September 2011: You have done the right thing.
At least now, you can stop tormenting yourself about it, and you can reach a place of peace.
Take care and best wishes.... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking my bfs are cheating on me!!!
Q. Hey people.. I've tried for the last 10 months to try and "move on" my previous relationships about them cheating on me. I've been in 3 relationships since and all of them ended horribly with me accusing them of cheating on me and "doing stuff". I...
A. 19 September 2011: Hi there. The thing you find the most challenging, is learning to trust the guy you are going out with at the time.
You have to believe in yourself more, and to realize that they are with you because they want to be. They want to be there.
... (read in full...)
How do you chose between love and youthfulness???
Q. Hi guys, I have been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half and I love him greatly, he treats me great and will do anything for me. The problem is, recently we have been going through are up’s and down’s. The thing is he is 10 years older than ...
A. 19 September 2011: Hi there. It seems like he feels insecure about you going out without him. Afraid that you might meet someone else!
Being 10 years younger than your boyfriend, you are still in the phase of your life where you enjoy going out dancing and soci... (read in full...)
After weeks of n/c she's asking others if they've heard from me?
Q. Right peeps, need some advice, been in a relationship with a girl for 14 months. Last 3 months didnt go to good, she kinda rushed things, so she tells me she wants space, so i kinda say ok, then she begins in texting me nearly every day asking am i ...
A. 19 September 2011: It sounds like she is trying to find out about you and how you are, without actually talking to you, so she's doing it indirectly by talking to her mother instead.
It's kind of game playing really. Although it's not malicious in any way. It's mo... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 19 September 2011: Hello. It's possible that the real problem is that she was with him at the party, before you showed up.
He did say something to you like - to back off from trying to be with her.
Keeping that in mind, she wasn't yours to start with - she was k... (read in full...)
After weeks of n/c she's asking others if they've heard from me?
Q. Right peeps, need some advice, been in a relationship with a girl for 14 months. Last 3 months didnt go to good, she kinda rushed things, so she tells me she wants space, so i kinda say ok, then she begins in texting me nearly every day asking am i ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps she hasn't found anyone else to go out with and she's keeping tabs on you, to see what's happening in your life.
That's what it sounds like to me.
She doesn't seem to know what she wants, does she?
If you break it off w... (read in full...)
I really want my girlfriend back and I want to show her how much I care!
Q. My girlfriend of 4 months ended our relationship last week. At the start of our relationship we were perfect, everything was going our way, we'd talk for hours and never get sick of each other. After a while however the spark sort of faded away and ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there. It sounds like a good idea, however, because you and her are not together, it then becomes trespassing if you go onto her property without invitation.
So that is something to be aware of.
She might even think that you are stalking... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's unemployment is causing major stress in our LDR
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months. We live about a 9 hour drive apart from each other. When we met, he was on leave from his job and was in search of new employment. He had money saved so he was able to come ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there. When you said he was "on leave from his job", I assumed that to mean that he was on paid leave - vacation - so he still had his job. Is that right?
And, while on vacation, he was also looking for another job.
So, did he not go ba... (read in full...)
Why do guys stop contacting a girl?
Q. Why do guys just stop contacting a girl? If everything was going good. I used talk to a guy a lot on the phone, we never actually had a date, but our last conversation was when he rang me, and everything was good. He is single so am I. Then I phoned ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there. Why is it that you only talk on the phone, is it an LDR?
If it is Long Distance, well then maybe he can't see the point, when you aren't able to see each other.
How did you meet in the first place?
I would say, definitely DON'T ca... (read in full...)
How do I stop getting gossiped about and treated badly because I had an affair with a married man?
Q. I am in an awful situation right now. I had an affair with a married man. I am married myself. We both have children. It started out as harmless flirting but our feelings of attraction grew and we ended up crossing the line. We have the sam...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there. If you have an abusive husband, who also doesn't seem to be around much, well then perhaps the solution is to see if you could make things good between you or alternatively, make a decision as to whether you want to stay with him.
Becau... (read in full...)
Spots on my vagina after shaving?
Q. i'm not sexually active, but whenever i seem to shave my vagina its all fine then couple of days later i get like spots on my vagina and i dont know what they are or how o get rid of them any ideas?!...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there. I'm guessing that it's like a reddish kind of pimple, where the hair is growing back.
It could be like shaving rash that men sometimes get if their facial skin is sensitive. It usually gets red right over the hair follicles.
The oth... (read in full...)
Whenever we talk online, boyfriend is always busy doing other things
Q. When I talk to my boyfriend online, he is always doing other things like playing games or looking up comics while he talks to me. This is really starting to annoy me. I give him my full attention when we talk. So I have wait while these long pause...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi there. I guess that really depends on how often you talk. Is it every day? More than once a day?
Perhaps the reason is that it's too frequent, and that you both run out of subject matter.
In a conversation between two people in the sa... (read in full...)
Spotting but still no period, am I pregnant ?
Q. hey i need some help urgently and i would really appreciate if someone answered this. okay so im 17 and i had sex a week ago(28th june). i was supposed to get my periods around the 4th to 7th july (my last period was on the 4th june). On the 7th of ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi. After taking the pill, it is possible that your periods might take a couple of months to go back to what they were like before you started taking the pill. So I wouldn't be too concerned.
Why don't you go and see your doctor? Are you unde... (read in full...)
I want dirty sex! Can I get it without leaving my husband?
Q. Why cant he get dirtier in bed? I know I am not as fit as a porn star, but I love sex and the hotter and dirtier the better! I have always known what I wanted, but when we first got together I was too young and shy to articulate it. Ten years later, ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hello again. You might just have found the clue to all of this.
You have said just now, that he is under a lot of stress and he is a stressful personality.
Well, if there's anything that will kill the ability to gain and sustain an erect... (read in full...)
I wouldn't feel nearly so much resentment if my husband was delivering in the bedroom!
Q. Am I stupid for staying?I am a thirty three year old woman and have been with my "husband" for nearly thirteen years now. We have a child together, who is ten. I don't want to break up my child's family, but I feel like I am living a lie. I love my ...
A. 14 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you need to talk about things more, between you.
Couples need to talk about what's on their mind, and be open and honest when they do. It can't be assumed that the other one knows what is the problem.
Withholding s... (read in full...)
I want dirty sex! Can I get it without leaving my husband?
Q. Why cant he get dirtier in bed? I know I am not as fit as a porn star, but I love sex and the hotter and dirtier the better! I have always known what I wanted, but when we first got together I was too young and shy to articulate it. Ten years later, ...
A. 14 September 2011: Hi there. Yes, I agree with the other poster, communication is so important in a relationship. Without it, there's a sense of something missing.
Perhaps the sex being lacking in quality for you, is a direct reflection of how well you communic... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 14 September 2011: Hi there. The main issues you are having are trust issues, aren't they?
I guess, who could blame you for that?
Because to you, it seems like she is pretty easy about sleeping with guys she's only just met. So naturally you are wondering if... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just told me she wanted to be friends out of the blue. What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid.Am kind of confuse about my relationship right now my girlfriend wokeup one morningand told me she don't want a boyfriend any more that we can just be friend and noting attached to it. I ask her the reasons but she never gave any ...
A. 14 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps she has decided she wants to do some other things with her life - like travel - and she feels that to be in a relationship would not be fair to you, if she was going to start travelling around the world.
It's just a thought.... (read in full...)
Me and my ex were not really over, until now. This hurts so much
Q. Im a young female who came out of a serious relationship a year ago. it wasnt the best relationship by any means, many arguments and some awful times, but as stupid as it may sound, we just loved each other. so much. maybe too much as we just ...
A. 14 September 2011: Hi there. You say it was over with the first guy, however you kept in contact all this time. And it's been a year!
Why did you break up then? Perhaps it was because neither of you is afraid to move on, just in case there still is a chance f... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend ever going to marry me?
Q. dear all,i am with my current bf for nearly 5yrs. We experienced many ups and downs, of course nearly broke up and patch back again. We ever argued over minor or major issues like married or some other disagreemts. He is very much aware of me...
A. 11 September 2011: Hi. It sounds like he is turned off the idea of marriage by the fact he has close relatives who all divorced.
That is understandable, he doesn't want to become another statistic.
I guess really, it comes down to trusting that you and him coul... (read in full...)
Did I try to do too much? I love her but maybe I need to move on? She wants to break up
Q. I greatly appreciate any advice. A little background info first: We've been in a long-distance relationship for 15 months (I had to move after our one month anniversary). Also, we haven’t talked properly since February. My girlfriend lives in ...
A. 8 September 2011: Hi. It sounds like you have a pretty good handle on things now.
As difficult as it will be keeping your distance, it really is a very important part of her healing, most definitely.
And especially as you have said she mentioned someth... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me, but don't know for sure, and I have no really way of finding out.
Q. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me, but don't know for sure, and I have no really way of finding out. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months. She is Korean, speaks korean, and I do not. Well the reason I suspect she is c...
A. 8 September 2011: Hi. There's nothing you can do about the fact her messages are in another language.
It might be best to simply trust her, despite the fact you are having some doubts.
People act differently when they think they are not trusted.
They... (read in full...)
Did I try to do too much? I love her but maybe I need to move on? She wants to break up
Q. I greatly appreciate any advice. A little background info first: We've been in a long-distance relationship for 15 months (I had to move after our one month anniversary). Also, we haven’t talked properly since February. My girlfriend lives in ...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi. Another point I just thought of is, the more you try to be there for her - to help her - the more dependent on you, she is likely to become.
Like being an emotional support system for her.
So what I am really saying here, is she might not... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend ever going to marry me?
Q. dear all,i am with my current bf for nearly 5yrs. We experienced many ups and downs, of course nearly broke up and patch back again. We ever argued over minor or major issues like married or some other disagreemts. He is very much aware of me...
A. 4 September 2011: Hi. As you don't live together right now, this might just be to your advantage.
Although you are seeing each other and have been for the past 5 years, because you don't live together, this gives you a whole lot of freedom in your life - when you... (read in full...)
Did I try to do too much? I love her but maybe I need to move on? She wants to break up
Q. I greatly appreciate any advice. A little background info first: We've been in a long-distance relationship for 15 months (I had to move after our one month anniversary). Also, we haven’t talked properly since February. My girlfriend lives in ...
A. 4 September 2011: Hi. It depends now, on how much she is influenced by her family.
Unfortunately, as far as her gaining some self confidence is concerned, you can't help her with that.
This is going to be journey for her, alone.
I guess it's going to come... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me, but don't know for sure, and I have no really way of finding out.
Q. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me, but don't know for sure, and I have no really way of finding out. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months. She is Korean, speaks korean, and I do not. Well the reason I suspect she is c...
A. 2 September 2011: Hi there. Yes, it's very tormenting when you suspect your partner could be cheating.
And it's a perfectly normal reaction to want to check their mobile when it's left unattended.
However at the same time I say this, it also makes you feel a... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend ever going to marry me?
Q. dear all,i am with my current bf for nearly 5yrs. We experienced many ups and downs, of course nearly broke up and patch back again. We ever argued over minor or major issues like married or some other disagreemts. He is very much aware of me...
A. 2 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he has a fear of commitment. In case it doesn't work out, once you do.
And sometimes, people can live together for years, then get married, and within a short time it ends. Not always of course, it does sometimes though. ... (read in full...)
I'm a balanced guy with good self-respect, what else do girls want?
Q. hello everyone,sorry for my bad english.. i am 24 male and have been chatting with this girl for a while. we are really close and share almost everything. we both are good initiators and have been interested in knowing each other by asking and ...
A. 2 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you are giving out messages that you want to get serious too soon.
You might not even realize it.
It's even possible that you are very keen towards every girl you go out with and eager to see them more often than the girls t... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19?
Q. Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19? I'm a guy and I just turned 19 on August 3. Here's a brief history: -Dad is about 5'8 Mom is about 5'1 3/4. Brother is 22 and 6'1 1/2. Brother stopped growing around 14-16. My dad's uncle was...
A. 1 September 2011: Hello again. Even if you do stay at the height you are now of 5'9", that's probably around average for a lot of men anyway.
My dad was 5'9", and My mother, sister and I are all around 5'5.5", which is pretty much average for a lot of women.
... (read in full...)
I think I might be in love, but he doesn't seem interested
Q. Hello, i really need help. I think i might be in love, or at least very close to it. I know this sounds like a typical soppy teenager, but i really dont throw that word around. This guy i met - he's awesome, and he makes me feel all fuzzy, and i ...
A. 31 August 2011: Hi there. What you are describing here is a crush.
You are liking him from afar.
Do you talk at all to each other? Or not at all?
If you are in a situation where you see each other at school every day, well then the best way would be to... (read in full...)
I'm just dying to know what he thought of me, and if we will see each other again!
Q. I went out for drinks this past weekend with a man who I had met briefly by chance about a month before. This time,he noticed me on a dating site,and we got to talking and made plans to get together. I had a wonderful time with him,and I actually...
A. 31 August 2011: Hi there. If he said - "I like you" - I don't believe he said it because he was drunk. He probably said it because he does like you.
Trust me, it probably took some guts to say it at all.
Two days is nothing. On the other hand if it was 2... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19?
Q. Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19? I'm a guy and I just turned 19 on August 3. Here's a brief history: -Dad is about 5'8 Mom is about 5'1 3/4. Brother is 22 and 6'1 1/2. Brother stopped growing around 14-16. My dad's uncle was...
A. 31 August 2011: Hi there. It's possible you could keep on growing until you're 21 years of age.
You might grow taller, you might not.
The pace at which you grow could be slower now than 10 years ago maybe, or even 5 years ago.
You haven't said how tall yo... (read in full...)
What is he playing at? Should I just move on?
Q. What is he playing at? should I just move on? There's this guy that I really like. We're chatting and getting to eachother at the moment. But he's putting me off him.. He's playing hard to get, I really hate it cos I like him a lot. We ...
A. 31 August 2011: Hi there. 18 months ago is quite a while to still not be over a broken relationship.
Nevertheless, he could be merely protecting himself against getting hurt, so that might be why he is hesitating to actually start dating you.
You haven't s... (read in full...)
I am miserable being married to my husband.
Q. I have been married for 29 years.All these years were very tough I feel like I am in prison.We are like day and night. I got depressed. I had a break down before and i Can feel one coming soon. Ijust want to dissapear and never come back.I hate him ...
A. 30 August 2011: Hello again. Your life can be whatever you want it to be, and that's the truth.
We are each responsible for our own happiness. It is up to us.
The more effort you put into making your life happy and fulfilling, the more enjoyment you ge... (read in full...)
How can I come across as calm and collected in front of this guy?
Q. hey guys, well i'm in high school so of course with that said, everything is blown out of proportion! Yes..including boy situations. I'd like to think i'm pretty mature for my age (so all of my friends tell me) but the only thing i'm missing is guy ...
A. 30 August 2011: Hi there. How many years difference in age, are we talking about here?
Is it 2 years? It's not a lot is it?
The reason I ask this, is if the gap is large (5 years or even 4 years), the greater the gap in ages, he might see you as a little ... (read in full...)
How can I make my LDR boyfriend be madly in love with me again?
Q. So i'm in a recent LDR and my boyfriend will be going away for only a total of 6 months (and he'll be visiting for 3 weeks at christmas) and we have an amazing connection and want to make things work. We've had to be LDR before (we actually met...
A. 29 August 2011: Hello again. Well, that puts a different slant on things, for sure.
So you've told me that it's short term, so that's a whole different ball game.
Teacher's College, and it ends in March of next year. I assume that after March, he starts... (read in full...)
How can I make my LDR boyfriend be madly in love with me again?
Q. So i'm in a recent LDR and my boyfriend will be going away for only a total of 6 months (and he'll be visiting for 3 weeks at christmas) and we have an amazing connection and want to make things work. We've had to be LDR before (we actually met...
A. 29 August 2011: Hi there. So do you both live in Canada?
And you say he's gone away now, for a while. What does he do for a living? Does he go away on a regular basis?
It's not possible to make someone fall madly in love with you, life doesn't work tha... (read in full...)
I am miserable being married to my husband.
Q. I have been married for 29 years.All these years were very tough I feel like I am in prison.We are like day and night. I got depressed. I had a break down before and i Can feel one coming soon. Ijust want to dissapear and never come back.I hate him ...
A. 29 August 2011: Hi there. When you say a nervous breakdown, you are probably referring to feeling very very bored, and totally uninspired with life. That's basically what depression is - or "nervous breakdown", as it is sometimes called.
The way you are desc... (read in full...)
Did I try to do too much? I love her but maybe I need to move on? She wants to break up
Q. I greatly appreciate any advice. A little background info first: We've been in a long-distance relationship for 15 months (I had to move after our one month anniversary). Also, we haven’t talked properly since February. My girlfriend lives in ...
A. 12 August 2011: Hello again. Perhaps if you contact her only once a week - not every day. Otherwise, it could disrupt her and the treatment she is having there.
Maybe twice a week at the most. About 3 or 4 days apart.
This way you won't be so preoccupied w... (read in full...)
Did I try to do too much? I love her but maybe I need to move on? She wants to break up
Q. I greatly appreciate any advice. A little background info first: We've been in a long-distance relationship for 15 months (I had to move after our one month anniversary). Also, we haven’t talked properly since February. My girlfriend lives in ...
A. 5 August 2011: Hi there. Unfortunately, while she's in this facility you are going to be restricted, as you have said yourself.
The reason for this, is because too much contact with the outside world could compromise the treatment she is having there.
... (read in full...)
Spotting but still no period, am I pregnant ?
Q. hey i need some help urgently and i would really appreciate if someone answered this. okay so im 17 and i had sex a week ago(28th june). i was supposed to get my periods around the 4th to 7th july (my last period was on the 4th june). On the 7th of ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. At the moment, you are only about 10 days overdue.
Are you usually very regular with your periods?
The only real way to find out and accurately so, is to see your family doctor.
Don't worry, because of privacy laws and doctor ... (read in full...)
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