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writes:Okay so I have a question about life regrets.I was thinking what would mine be right now if something was to happen to me?It came down to two things. Seeing the world and having a baby.I have done a good bit of the first! You see, having a baby and being a mom is my dream. It may sound silly. But I have always wanted this. Now, don't get me wrong, I did the smart thing. I went to uni for 5 years, got a good education. Worked many jobs. Now I have a partner and we have been together for a few years. We are happy, and planning a life together. But the thing is, being a mom always seems to be a distant thing. I've waited and waited - gone to uni etc. Will there ever be a 'right' time?I know I could travel and be a mom, and we could travel by moving countries and jobs and be parents. We've talked about this, but we've made no definite plans. So.. tell my partner I am ready and perhaps terrify him? Or wait and see?Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 if you ready then it's time to bring it up with your partner... I loved being a young mom...
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (28 October 2011):
Sounds like this is your right time, so just tell him "I want to have your baby". If you get into a heated shall we/shallnt we debate then it might not be the right time.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (28 October 2011):
Hi there. Well first and foremost, you do need to have a chat to your partner about how you feel.
And even before this, you need to be absolutely sure that having a baby is what you want right now - or any time soon.
Perhaps you could make a list of the things you would like to achieve in this lifetime, and some kind of timeframe for each of those goals, and then you will start to see how being a mother could impact upon these goals.
It goes without saying, that once you do decide to become a mother, there will be many things you won't be able to do. Finance will certainly be one of the barriers, because while the baby is young, there will only be one salary coming into the household. So you do need to seriously consider that.
And one salary only, will prevent you from being able to do many things. Going out is one of them. The cash flow will be fairly severely impeded, so there's going to need to be some serious financial planning - long before you decide to fall pregnant.
There are also things to consider like if you stay where you live now, or find somewhere bigger - in case you have more children. Mortgage or pay rent. Either of those two are rather large expenses individually, PLUS the expense of having a baby - their clothes, shoes, basinet, cot, nappy change table, furniture and all the bits and pieces associated with being a parent.
There's a lot to think about. Not to mention the responsibility of being a parent. Sleepless nights. How it will impede on your whole life and your time.
So before you decide and talk to your partner, make sure you really know what you'll be in for. It's not a fairytale - it's a huge change and a massive responsibility. And it's 24 hours a day!
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reader, JustHelpinAgain +, writes (28 October 2011):
Sounds like this is your right time, so just tell him "I want to have your baby". If you get into a heated shall we/shallnt we debate then it might not be the right time.
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