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| Latest articles: Being Happy In a Relationship
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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi. This is exactly what you need to discuss with him in great detail.
When you do talk, you will find out how he feels about it also.
The chances are, he probably has the exact same doubts as you do.
So all the more reason to have the ... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi. Once you are more relaxed and confident, you will be so sure of yourself and who you are, that other people's opinions won't matter much to you at all. You just won't care what they think.
How you handle disapproval - of how you wear you... (read in full...)
We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi. Well at the very least, you will almost certainly see each other more than you do now. I believe it will definitely make a difference. It sure beats the heck out of texting and calling all the time, that's for sure. If you are both rea... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi. When you get into the habit of doing the slow deep breathing I mentioned, you will find that it relaxes your whole body and then it relaxes your mind. So there will be calmer thoughts and a feeling of peace. And when you start feeling cal... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. (Cont'd) - sorry, I accidently pressed the send button by mistake.
Again, it's the insecurity thing - with them (NOT you). So don't pay too much attention to that. Believe me, that's all about them not you, at all.
When you said some of... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. Yes, people can sometimes be jealous of someone they consider to be more academic and intelligent than them. Again, it's the insecurity thing - with them (NOT... (read in full...)
We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. As you are both shift workers, this is the major part of the problem.
For you to have any chance of seeing each other on a regular basis, you both need to be doing the same time shift - both doing night shifts, or both doing day shifts. ... (read in full...)
We're both too busy and all we do is text, never see each other!
Q. I know this guy he like me i like him the problems is in the last 6weeks we hardly seen eachother. His a security graud and am a barmaid all we been doing is text when we get a chance and talk on the phone for abit can someone plz help me out with ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi there. Are we talking about a boyfriend and girlfriend status here? Or, were you just friends 6 weeks ago? Were you actually going out then, or did you just work together? And were you more like work friends? Well seeing each other, r... (read in full...)
Please advise me!! We were best friends, more than friends & enemies, where is this going?!
Q. Please help .. im so sick and tired of this! My bestfriend's boyfriend was the boy version of me and we began to talk and got to know each other more and more. I started to like him, the feelings grew stronger and i was pretty sure he liked me too. ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi there. If your friends said he has a crush on you, well then that might be the truth.
It does seem that he likes you, because he wants to still be friends and talk to you. So it's obvious he has some feelings for you at least.
Perhaps... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 25 October 2011: Hi. What it really comes down to now, is believing in yourself and that you DO deserve better than you have in your life right now. You could do this by making a mental list of all the things you like about yourself - physical looks and person... (read in full...)
Is he into me or does he only see me as a friend?
Q. So I just recently realized I have a crush my friend. I have never been friends with a guy first and then found myself attracted to them. So this crush really took me by surprise. But anyways. Out relationship is still fairly new, we have only known ...
A. 20 October 2011: Hi there. It does sound like he likes you, plus he's a little bit shy.
He seems to like you, because he forgot your name, which could be nerves when he's near you. He wouldn't feel nervous if he didn't have feelings for you.
Yes, for sure... (read in full...)
I feel at a loss. why is he ignoring me when before we were crazy in love?
Q. hi there my problem is i love a guy and he loves me too , before he tells that he loves me , he was crazy about me ,i dont want to talk alot but he was completly crazy about me with all the word means like from 4 months ago he became so cold , ...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi there. LDR's are very challenging to keep going for any length of time.
The problem and the only real problem, is that you just don't see each other. So it's very lonely, no matter how many times a day or for how long you talk over the inte... (read in full...)
FWB--I want more, he wants my best friend!
Q. I have been sleeping with one of my good friends but he doesn't want a relationship, which was fine with me at first but now I've been having feeling's for him but he has a crush on my best friend, but she doesn't feel the same way for him, so I ...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi there. Do you believe it is an FWB?
Does he take you out anywhere and spend money on you?
If he doesn't take you out, and it's a case of you go to his house or he comes to yours and you have sex then he goes home, well then it might be an F... (read in full...)
Is this just my hormones? I don't believe I'm bisexual. Am I straight or gay? I'm confused and don't understand my sexuality confusion
Q. So I'm confused about my sexuality at the moment. I'm an 18 year old girl who has always been attracted to guys. But within the past year, I've been very attracted to older women, like at least 40 years old. I'm usually attracted to that age grou...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi there. It's hard to say which of these you are.
You probably see different things in different people that attract you to them. It might be friendship in older people.
I guess it really depends on whether you have actual sexual feelings ... (read in full...)
Does he like me as more than a friend or is he just being friendly?
Q. ok so thers this guy (lets call him X) who i know really well and i kinda like him i guess but hes being really confusing and acting like he likes me sometimes but then not sometimes. We're really good friends and hes like my best guy friend so i ...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi there. It's pretty fair to say that he probably does like you quite a lot.
As you have said yourself, you and him are often talking and laughing together, so at the very least you are good friends.
Most relationships usually begin as... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 16 October 2011: Hi. The sooner you can get back into school, it is going to help you a lot. Because then, you won't be in this current environment all day long - day in and day out.
Your anxiety with being outside and with people, is further isolating you and ... (read in full...)
I feel like he is avoiding me...what should I do?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 5 years. it was a complicated one but we loved each other despite all odds. Since begining of this year, we have been fighting over varoius things. Anyway as a person, he is very egostic. Most of the time, he doesnt ...
A. 16 October 2011: Hi. Part of the problem here, might be that after 5 years you are wondering if the relationship is going anywhere.
By that, I mean whether it's going to progress into marriage, eventually.
No-one could blame you for that, as after 5 years - ... (read in full...)
I feel like he is avoiding me...what should I do?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 5 years. it was a complicated one but we loved each other despite all odds. Since begining of this year, we have been fighting over varoius things. Anyway as a person, he is very egostic. Most of the time, he doesnt ...
A. 13 October 2011: Hi. That sounds like wise words, and I believe it's your best course of action.
By your not contacting him, it gives you more control than you realize.
I also think he will appreciate it if you give him that space.
Then, he won't feel u... (read in full...)
I feel like he is avoiding me...what should I do?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 5 years. it was a complicated one but we loved each other despite all odds. Since begining of this year, we have been fighting over varoius things. Anyway as a person, he is very egostic. Most of the time, he doesnt ...
A. 11 October 2011: Hi there. This isn't a long distance relationship, is it?
I say this because you say about arguments, and then he didn't call you after. So I was wondering.
Anyway, regardless of this, I would suggest that you DO NOT contact him anymore.
... (read in full...)
Family home is like a war zone!
Q. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this, i could use some adivce. I am a 14 year old teenager and i live in a house with my mum and my grandma, me and my mum recently lost are home 2 years ago due to problems...
A. 11 October 2011: Hi there. Your grandmother is grieving and it will take some time to become less intense for her.
Her drinking probably isn't helping either, as you have already said here.
Her drinking is her way of numbing any sad feelings she has during h... (read in full...)
Are You Making Time For Your Partner?
Q. Do you focus your energy on something or someone which may take time away from you and your partner? Well if you highly value your relationship, you may need to make some changes. Situation#1: Work. If you’re a big time workaholic, then...
A. 11 October 2011: Hi there. I absolutely agree with both of you.
Everything in balance.
And it is a delicate balance to get it all right.
Pursuing your own interests and hobbies - for both of you - is also important for some "me time". Just so long as ... (read in full...)
How do I not let him in when I love him so much?
Q. Please don't judge me.I know what I did was wrong and that is why I stopped it. Any advice would help me out so much. 18 months ago I got locked out of my apartment and my neighbour helped me in.I had seen him a few times in the gym that is in our b...
A. 10 October 2011: Hi. Maybe then, as moving isn't really an option for many reasons as you have said, you could simply change how you live your life instead.
I don't think I said this in my previous answer, but what about beginning some hobbies or interest... (read in full...)
How do I know what is assertive and what is taking and not giving?
Q. Ok so this is quite a graphic question as i feel I have to go into detail to explain. I was with my boyfriend at the weekend and Sunday morning I got a little upset. To explain- I was with someone for 16 yrs and married for 4 yrs before I met my L...
A. 10 October 2011: Hi. It sounds like you now have more courage to move forward to a better place. There is nothing to fear, but fear itself. You have the right attitude, and it's a great start. Just remember, to always keep the lines of communication open -... (read in full...)
What are the ethics of dating and intimate relationships in the workplace?
Q. I would like to ask a question....what do ypu think of intimate relationships/dating between co-workers? for example are they right? should they be avoided? also is dating between a boss/supervisor and a lower worker ethical? also can some of the ...
A. 7 October 2011: Hi there. You haven't actually said this, but one of the very first things you have to establish, is - is he married or single? Is he already in a relationship?
Someone else in your office might know this.
If it's only a new friendship, well... (read in full...)
How do I not let him in when I love him so much?
Q. Please don't judge me.I know what I did was wrong and that is why I stopped it. Any advice would help me out so much. 18 months ago I got locked out of my apartment and my neighbour helped me in.I had seen him a few times in the gym that is in our b...
A. 7 October 2011: Hi there. One solution would be to move house.
I realize this isn't as easy as it sounds.
Your relationship with him is probably getting in the way of his relationship with his wife, and that's probably what the argument you heard was about,... (read in full...)
I've put so much effort into our relationship and he won't even try to understand the sh-t he's put me through!
Q. Please people, please help me on this one! I've been very depressed and i don't know who to talk to. I hope that I will get some good advice here. That would be appreciated a lot. Basically, I'm Vietnamese and my boyfriend is English. He came...
A. 6 October 2011: Hi there. What you have is a classic long distance relationship.
These are very challenging at the best of times.
And I think it's the greatest part of the problem really, that you aren't seeing each other.
Perhaps he is having second thou... (read in full...)
How do I know what is assertive and what is taking and not giving?
Q. Ok so this is quite a graphic question as i feel I have to go into detail to explain. I was with my boyfriend at the weekend and Sunday morning I got a little upset. To explain- I was with someone for 16 yrs and married for 4 yrs before I met my L...
A. 6 October 2011: Hi. You do need to be more assertive, that's for sure.
Because if you don't, you will be left unsatisfied and feeling as if something is missing.
And it's clear that you already do feel this way.
His reasoning for this could be that he th... (read in full...)
He couldn't make me any happier..except in the bedroom
Q. I'm engaged to a guy that couldn't possibly make me any happier... except when it comes to the bedroom. It seems that my libido is much higher than his, despite the fact that he's only three years older than me.It seems unfair on both ends since I'm ...
A. 6 October 2011: Hi. It's different when you are only seeing each other once or twice a week and don't live together.
Because the sex then, is a case of whenever you have the opportunity, and so because of that it only seems like it's more often. Because ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get the relationship back? I'm ready to marry her now but she wants space!
Q. I have dated a girl for about 6 years. Ive always loved her and she has been awesome in the realtionshiop. We went to different schools and for the past 3 years Ive worked in London and she lives in Texas and has a great job there. Ive alwyas ...
A. 5 October 2011: Hi there. At the moment you are in a long distance relationship, which is fairly challenging anyway.
If she would like her space, well then you have no choice but to give her that space.
How often do you talk to each other? And is it by tel... (read in full...)
I'm worried about asking out a girl who is taller than me
Q. hey everyone, i just have a lil problem, im doing an exchange program in europe and i really like this girl in my class, shes cute but the problem is shes a lil taller than me even without heels. im actually okay with talkin to girls i like but this ...
A. 5 October 2011: Hi there. If you like her, just ask her out.
You can tell if someone likes you. You make eye contact with her from across a crowded room - or in the classroom - and see if she holds your gaze.
If she does hold your gaze, well then it's likely... (read in full...)
Husband is forcing me to forget the other man and love him again.
Q. Hi Cupids. I am in a very difficult situation and I need help. I had an emotional affair with a married man for a year. I told my husband about it and now my husband no longer trust me. I fully understand his feelings and he has a right to t...
A. 5 October 2011: Hi there. It's clear that you were looking for something in this other man, that appeared to be missing in your marriage - or so you thought.
Quite often when people look outside of their marriage for answers, they look in all the wrong places. ... (read in full...)
How do I know what is assertive and what is taking and not giving?
Q. Ok so this is quite a graphic question as i feel I have to go into detail to explain. I was with my boyfriend at the weekend and Sunday morning I got a little upset. To explain- I was with someone for 16 yrs and married for 4 yrs before I met my L...
A. 4 October 2011: Hi there. It's probably not so much about assertiveness or too much taking and not enough giving.
What it's more likely to be, is a case of a lack of communication and instead, assumptions being made.
By this I mean, before you both had bre... (read in full...)
My wife was adventurous with men in her past but I have to beg her for sex
Q. Can someone explain why is it that my wife could have sex in every sort of way possible with different men and now that I am her husband I am stuck with just nothing. I literally have to beg her for sex...she never wants to experiment like she did ...
A. 4 October 2011: Hi there. How do you know this - that she was adventurous with other men in her past?
Was she adventurous with you before you married her?
And if she wasn't, did she say to you what she used to do in her previous relationships?
... (read in full...)
He couldn't make me any happier..except in the bedroom
Q. I'm engaged to a guy that couldn't possibly make me any happier... except when it comes to the bedroom. It seems that my libido is much higher than his, despite the fact that he's only three years older than me.It seems unfair on both ends since I'm ...
A. 4 October 2011: Hi. WOW! How romantic is that? I'm being facetious of course.
Engaged or not, if you can't come to a more satisfactory conclusion than this, you might have to seriously consider whether you still want to go ahead and marry the guy.
If it w... (read in full...)
What are signs he's losing interest in you?
Q. What are some of the biggest signs he is losing interest in you? Also what out of these are signs? If before he always wanted you to wear lingerie and now you do and he just ignores you or looks annoyed? If you say you want to get more linger...
A. 4 October 2011: Hi. If you haven't mentioned to him about the possibility of losing your job, well then you do need to tell him.
Don't keep it from him, whatever you do.
One way of looking at this is, this will now force him to make other financial plans ... (read in full...)
He couldn't make me any happier..except in the bedroom
Q. I'm engaged to a guy that couldn't possibly make me any happier... except when it comes to the bedroom. It seems that my libido is much higher than his, despite the fact that he's only three years older than me.It seems unfair on both ends since I'm ...
A. 1 October 2011: Hi there. You really need to discuss this openly with him about how you are feeling.
As you haven't really said so here, I am assuming that you have said nothing to him at all up to this point.
And because you are engaged, all the more reason ... (read in full...)
Why would a man do this when there are kids involved?
Q. My babies daddy lied to me about being in a relationship with someone else. Then we slept together. When I found out about her, he still denied he was in a relationship until she told me directly. Now our whole friendship is shattered, he can't even ...
A. 1 October 2011: Hi there. Was he still married when you met?
Then you found out about it.
So now you have children, and he picks them up and takes them out.
Have you had a proper discussion with him about it? Because it seems that nothing has really been ... (read in full...)
He blanked me out first, so who is in the wrong?
Q. Hi people here is my problem I met a man at the beginning of the year who I really liked I thought he felt the same but he just wanted a fwb sort of thing so as I liked him that much I hoped it would turn into something more so that was that anyway ...
A. 1 October 2011: Hi there. FWB's aren't really a good idea, if you want a meaningful relationship, that is.
These liaisons are usually pretty shallow and meaningless to the woman. There is no commitment by the man, as you've seen for yourself.
Don't bother ... (read in full...)
Need to fix my dating before its too late!
Q. Hi guys, Just wandered if any of you can help with my dating. I’m 33 and still looking for love. I don’t have much of a social circle anymore so am relying on internet dating, and dates are few and far between. When I do meet, there always see...
A. 1 October 2011: Hi there. Maybe as you are meeting ladies on an internet dating site, you are going out with those who you think you are attracted to, and once you actually meet them and get to know them more, you find that there is no real chemistry after all. ... (read in full...)
I'm surrounded by couples but I have never had a girlfriend
Q. I'm really frustrated. I'm surrounded by couples everywhere. I'm friends with alot of couples and sometimes I feel awkward. I've never kissed a girl, or had a girlfriend. One time, all of my friends were sitting around talking about their first kiss ...
A. 1 October 2011: Hi there. You have many many years left of your life, so don't give up now - please. What is a useful thing to consider, is how to meet nice young ladies your own age. Don't go looking in bars, because many people there are half drunk by h... (read in full...)
What are signs he's losing interest in you?
Q. What are some of the biggest signs he is losing interest in you? Also what out of these are signs? If before he always wanted you to wear lingerie and now you do and he just ignores you or looks annoyed? If you say you want to get more linger...
A. 1 October 2011: Hi. So you have given me an even fuller picture of the whole story now than before, so it is much clearer to me. You had given us some information, however not to the extent that this has come to. I am now concerned also. Because you hav... (read in full...)
Is he lying or cheating?
Q. We've been together 1 year. I have access to his Facebook account and it looks fairly ok (one thing from January had me a little spooked). I checked out another "social site" and his profile said "Looking for a Relationship" (among other things ...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi. I think you ought to give him the benefit of the doubt.
In fact, I can't see any reason why not.
Don't worry too much about the Facebook issue, as that also seems to have been worked out rather well. As you said in your first message, h... (read in full...)
Is he lying or cheating?
Q. We've been together 1 year. I have access to his Facebook account and it looks fairly ok (one thing from January had me a little spooked). I checked out another "social site" and his profile said "Looking for a Relationship" (among other things ...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi there. He does definitely seem to be a man you can trust. I can't see any reason not to trust him.
Regards the sociable site where you saw the - "Looking for a relationship" - this clearly seems like before he met you.
Just by the v... (read in full...)
Army girlfriends and wives - I need some advice.
Q. I work at a army base and i met my boyfriend there.Everything is lovely between us and i really do love him. But he has been posted to a new base and i am missing him so much. We talk every day, but i just want to see him. How do you cope? I know ...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi there. It's going to be very lonely and challenging, trying to cope with it.
There's no pretending here. You've pretty much got an idea of how it's going to be longterm.
When you say you work at an Army base, are you a soldier or are y... (read in full...)
I have gotten back with my ex. How can I make our first date special?
Q. How do I show my boyfriend how much I've missed him? please help? My ex boyfriend and I got back together. We broke up for 6 months.. Cos he was going through family problems but he's all good now. We're still so in love. I love him so much a...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi there. Even though you are back together, because of the 6 month breakup, it's now a whole new episode.
You need to get to know each other all over again.
A lot can happen in 6 months.
Even though you still really like each other, ... (read in full...)
What are signs he's losing interest in you?
Q. What are some of the biggest signs he is losing interest in you? Also what out of these are signs? If before he always wanted you to wear lingerie and now you do and he just ignores you or looks annoyed? If you say you want to get more linger...
A. 29 September 2011: Hi. Perhaps he is so wrapped up in his computer gaming business, that he's placed it as top priority - even over his relationship with you.
Sure, business is important, however it's not the most important part of his life. His relation... (read in full...)
What are signs he's losing interest in you?
Q. What are some of the biggest signs he is losing interest in you? Also what out of these are signs? If before he always wanted you to wear lingerie and now you do and he just ignores you or looks annoyed? If you say you want to get more linger...
A. 28 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps your sex drives are different.
It's also possible that the novelty of sexy lingerie might be wearing off for him.
Maybe you could only wear the sexy lingerie sometimes, not every time you want to make love. He's probably ge... (read in full...)
What would cause a man to lose all interest in sex?
Q. We are married 25 years ago. Our children are not living with us anymore, we have all the time, to have great sex. But instead of that, we have none. How a man can complete lose his sexual interest,like that? My husband says, he never thinks o...
A. 28 September 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he is suffering with depression.
Maybe he has a stressful job. He might be a bit bored with his life.
Apart from the sex life, how is the rest of your life with him?
Do you communicate well with each other?
When you ... (read in full...)
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