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writes:I let a really good opportunity slip years ago when I might have had the chance to have a girlfriend, and now I'm determined not to make the same mistake again. My question is how do I show women that I've matured and am not the rotten person I once was? I used to believe that everything in life was an entitlement and that if I didn't get something I wanted it was ok to whinge. Now I realize it doesn't quite work that way. I guess I have changed after reading a biography about some Sports Star and all the obstacles he had to overcome. So, how do I prove to women that I've changed? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 May 2012):
 Are you trying to show a woman that you previously screwed up with that you are different… I’m not sure that would work… as for NEW women, just being the new improved you should work…
Why would you have to PROVE to women you have changed? If they don’t know you from before, then just being who you are now should be enough….
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (10 May 2012):
Hi there. Probably by honestly living by the belief system you now have - through years of learning from your past mistakes.
By not taking things or people for granted.
And by accepting that sometimes we can't always have what we think we want.
Thinking of life as a priveledge rather than an entitlement - as you once did.
Be a person of integrity, and be a man of your word.
Do what you say you will do, be where you say you will be.
Be a man who people can trust completely.
And above all - always be completely honest with everyone you meet.
If you have feelings for someone you are taking out, well then show them.
Treat people with respect and dignity, no matter who they are or what relationship to you they are.
Treat all people equally.
This will be good practice for when you start dating women again.
The idea is to start out as friends, and as time goes by, see how it develops, and then perhaps if you want to take the friendship to the next level.
At the start of any friendship or relationship, there needs to be a healthy level of rapport.
And take any new relationship very slowly, and don't have too many expectations of wedding bells, children and a mortgage too early.
It all takes time.
You will know when you have met "The One".
Best wishes.
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