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writes:Does telling a guy you've only slept with one other guy put him off you?Basically, I really liked this guy but I think that after telling him my inexperience, as he might see it, I don't think he's interested anymore. Do I see if it's potentially anything more or if the date we had was just to get me into bed and I just put him off?Still lonely.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right, I shouldn't dwell on it. I'll muster some courage and then talk to him.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 So he asked YOU if you've ever slept with anyone before? Hm...well...I am like you and not sure what to make of it either. Has he contacted you since? I think if you like him...call him up, ask him out, and have fun. Don't worry about this one particular question. Like DorothyDix said...see how things go. But, instead of being lonely, I would definitely call him and see if he would like to go out.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 June 2012):
Hi. Don't be too concerned about it.
Just see what happens from now on, and if he wants to see you again.
Don't give up on it altogether.
Where there is life, there is hope.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah,I guess. Think is I didn't tell him. He asked me. Didn't know what to make of it really.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 June 2012):
In all honesty, you probably scared him off by talking about your other sexual experiences. No one, male or female that I know of wants to hear about someone else's experiences. They want to have a unique experience with you. I mean, if he would have said that to you, how would you have felt? If he would have looked you in the eye and said "Yep, I've slept with a girl before"...how would it make you feel. Maybe it's not your "inexperience" he's concerned about, maybe he likes you enough that he thought he'd be your first! Or maybe now that he knows you've slept with someone else, he doesn't want to be in your line-up.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (8 June 2012):
Hi there.
It's not necessary to tell a guy how many men you slept with before him.
They don't want to know that, nor do they need to know.
It is simply not their business at all.
If he is treating you well and with respect and dignity, and takes you to nice places, well then give him a chance to prove he is worthy of you in the first place.
Don't jump to any hasty conclusions, as it's still early days yet.
Get to know him better, and see what things you have in common in your lives.
Take some of the focus off sex and instead focus on how well you get along with each other.
Then see how things pan out over time, between you.
You might find that your relationship starts to blossom, and that you are quite happy in each other's company.
You must give it time for this to happen.
A few weeks, to a month or two, to get a clearer picture.
Just give him a chance.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 I am afraid nobody here can really answer that question for you. If it was a first date then it could be a number of things that made him go distant. Maybe he just realised that you where not for him, and you are just thinking the worst possible thing. At your age there is no shame in only being with one person, I think that is better than telling someone you have had multiple partners. It shows you are not easy. Maybe he was just looking for sex who knows, but it is his loss not yours. I am sure there are plenty of guys out there who are single who would be suited to you so don't give up.
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