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writes:this is kind of a variation on the how to let him down easy question.he's a guy i work with (which makes it even more awkward), but the problem i have is that it's really obvious that he likes me (texts regularly, buys me coffee, always suggesting we meet outside work for lunch, comes up to me and nudges me at work etc), but he hasn't actually said that he likes me.he's a nice guy, and i don't want to hurt his feelings, but it's getting to the point where all of the stuff he does weirds me out (like trying to hug me at work) because i have no interest at all. how can i gently let him down and make him stop, when he hasn't even said he's interested, but it is bleedingly obvious that he is? i can't just say "i'm not interested" when he hasn't even said he is. and i'm getting tired and feeling guilty of making up some excuse why i can't go for lunch every time he asks me. please help!
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Hi
Do you have other male freinds? why dont you ask one of them to pick you up for lunch, and act as though your a couple, this guy will think your not available then and should leave you alone. If he still wont leave you alone, you should speak to him, just say I get the feeling your being a little to nice to me at times, and it makes me feel uncomfortable. not that you dont appreiciate the coffee's he buys, but you would rather he didn't. And that the cuddling has got to stop!! Even if this does end up upsetting him, he will get the picture, if you let him continue because your afraid to tell him incase you hurt his feelings, he may get the impression you dont mind at all.Or you could tell your boss the situation, and how it is making you feel.
hope this has helped x
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