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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am in a long distance relationship. The last time I slept with my boyfriend he gave me a yeast infection and now I am finding my self getting tested for all std's. I am finding so many inscurities rising to the surface as I think he also has given me an std before but i dont know for sure as i had other partners before we went exclusive. He said he was reay for an exclusive relationship but I think I have trust issues and I am finding it hard to just relax and trust him. I don't know if this is just my insecurities coming to the surfce here. I really do love him and we have fallen in love with each other so I dont want to ruin this relationship. But I feel like this is a sensitive subject that I am having a hard time dealing with. do I need help? i have had three failed relationships in the last few years and i dont want to overreact and ruin this one.... help what do i do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Yeast is not an STD. virgins get yeastcelibate women get yeast.yeast is carried in our bodies all the time.Yeast is not an STD....
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (29 March 2011):
 Dear friend,
After failed relationships, its hard to see things clearly. Pls don't blame yourself, just because other relationships didn't work, doesn't mean its your fault.
I noticed you're being very careful, patience with your boyfriend, but if you didn't have sex with anybody else besides him?, then he gave you the std so, yes he's having sexual intercourse with other females besides you.
Long distance relationships are hard, but its not impossible. You said both of you are in love. So, have a talk with him, tell me you got std from him & explain that you didn't have sex with anyone else besides him. He needs to be honest with you.
Tell him how you feel, what are your expectations & see if he agrees with you. You love him, you're faithful to him & he should do the same for you.
You need to know exactly where you stand & know if there's any future. I know its hard, but the sooner the better for you. Realtionship is 2 people. You also have the right to know & to choose..
Be strong! Don't let your past control you.
Good luck!
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