Is it ok that I have protected sex with people when I am not in a relationship?
Q. im currently single so im just having fun, but do u think its ok that i have protected sex with people? the only reason i ask is because my friends say im dirty but i dont have one night stands after a night out, i know the people i have sex with....
A. 27 February 2010: A one night stand, is a one night stand regardless of if it is a stranger or someone you have known for years. If it is only sex, and only for odd occasions, it makes no difference. Sleeping around with multiple men is just that, doesnt matter if ... (read in full...)
Is that weird that I want to try anal sex?
Q. okay, this one is a bit different, I want a woman's opinion. As I said before, I'm 17 years old and a virgin and I don't plan on having sex untill I'm married. But I've always wanted to try anal with who my future wife will be, but I don't want to ...
A. 25 February 2010: I just want to ask you a question: Why do you think having anal sex will mean you are still a virgin? Anal sex, is still sex! How do you think homosexual men lose their virginity? It is a sexual act, and one which I would think the majority... (read in full...)
Does my teacher fancy me or am I just being silly ?
Q. Ok i am having this major love/hate realationship with this male english teacher in my school. Ive liked him for atleast 3 years now. But ive always felt a connection between him and me , his eyes are so hypnotic. Then i went to see a play with my ...
A. 25 February 2010: From a teachers point of view, you are a nightmare waiting to happen.
I don't think you fully understand the consequences for a teacher, if they get caught up in a relationship with a student. It can mean, sacking, disciplinary action, police i... (read in full...)
I'm scared my insecurities will ruin my relationship, how can I overcome this?
Q. hi, i am 19 years old and i have just found the most perfect guy for me, i have never felt like this before and i know he is the one for me. i have completely forgotten that other attractive guys exist because i only have eyes for him. howeve...
A. 17 February 2010: From someone who has ruined a relationship because of being insecure, try and find out why you feel the way you do, and talk about it. Dont bottle it up.
Tiger x... (read in full...)
University break ups?
Q. Hello there Recently me and my boyfriend, of about 2 years, talked about what we were going to do for university,even though its about a year away from him actually going. we will be going to separate universities. He says that he wants us to break...
A. 17 February 2010: I agree with Caring Guy.
I work at a University, and I see day in day out the social lives of these young people fresh out of school. It is a liberation, and I hate to say it, but very few relationships from "back home" last into the second t... (read in full...)
Valentine's day plans gone wrong...
Q. hi, I've been planning valentines day for a little while now, but its falling to bits, i did have a restaurant booked for valentines day with a set menu for 48 pounds per person, in the last week the restaurant have asked for an extra 40 ontop t...
A. 13 February 2010:
The restaurant were totally out of order doing that to you. You had booked the table at the price quoted, and they bumped it up to try and make a bit more money. If you had already booked the table, and they had agreed it, I think you will find... (read in full...)
I don't want to upset my single friend by kissing my boyfriend in front of her, but it's Valentine's Day!
Q. Hey Its Valentines Day Soon and i don`t know what to do. i love my boyfriend fraser more than anything and me and him and all our friends are going to the cinema together. most of us going is full of couples e.g me and fraser, jasmine and hugo...
A. 12 February 2010: I would say, next time, dont go out in a group on Valentines day! If you want to spend all the day kissing and hugging your boyfriend, then go to the cinema on your own as a couple, or stay at home instead. There are many ways to get around this ... (read in full...)
I have been in love with my teacher for over two years... when do I say enough is enough???
Q. I am sorry that there is loads of topics like this, but seriously this is the only place i can post this where you won't get laughed at!!!. I am in sixth form and 19 years old, and for the last 2 years.. (since about jan 08) I have had feeling...
A. 12 February 2010: I hate to say this, but you need to back off.
Regardless of sexual orientation, or age, what she is doing is wrong.
If as a teacher, she is hinting that she may like you more than she should, this is totally against the law and the rules of... (read in full...)
Ideas for Valentine's Day if you're single?
Q. What does a single guy do for valentine's day weekend? This is a light hearted thread for actual ideas - if you want to rant about the lameness and/or commercialisation of the day, and how it's totally rubbed in your face that your single - th...
A. 12 February 2010: Its not just the single guys who want ideas! Personally, I pretend that it isnt Valentines day, spend the day doing work, to keep my mind off it, and then have something involving chocolate and wine.
*Sighs*
I hate valentines day.... (read in full...)
What would be an appropriate valentine's day gift for a fwb?
Q. I'm going to be spending valentines day with my closest friend. he and I have been real good friends for 3 years but have been fwb, too, for the past year and a half. we both agree that we're closest to each other of everybody we know. he's really ...
A. 10 February 2010: "I love my fwb till death"
You will get hurt because you really dont think of him as a fwb. In your head he is your boyfriend.
I wish you all the luck, and I really hope you dont get hurt. ... (read in full...)
What would be an appropriate valentine's day gift for a fwb?
Q. I'm going to be spending valentines day with my closest friend. he and I have been real good friends for 3 years but have been fwb, too, for the past year and a half. we both agree that we're closest to each other of everybody we know. he's really ...
A. 10 February 2010: OP, you have answered the question yourself. This is why you shouldnt get him anything for valentines day.
"he hasn't hooked up with anyone else in quite awhile but whenever he gets the chance he would and that's why we're not together... (read in full...)
What would be an appropriate valentine's day gift for a fwb?
Q. I'm going to be spending valentines day with my closest friend. he and I have been real good friends for 3 years but have been fwb, too, for the past year and a half. we both agree that we're closest to each other of everybody we know. he's really ...
A. 10 February 2010: I also want to add, that maybe because you lost your virginity to this guy, that you are looking at him with rose coloured glasses on. Why would you want to sleep with someone who isnt romantic with you?
He is really special to you, because ... (read in full...)
What would be an appropriate valentine's day gift for a fwb?
Q. I'm going to be spending valentines day with my closest friend. he and I have been real good friends for 3 years but have been fwb, too, for the past year and a half. we both agree that we're closest to each other of everybody we know. he's really ...
A. 10 February 2010: Personally, if you are fwb, and are not actually "officially" dating, then you shouldnt send a valentines.
Essentially you are just using each other for sex. That is not romantic, it is not committed, and if a new girl came along that he really l... (read in full...)
She wants to kick things up a notch and have sex!
Q. ok new problem i have been seen this girl for a while now and its going great. she want to kick things up a notch as she want to have sex. we have done some of the other stuff like kissing and feeling each other but that was about it. i have been ...
A. 9 February 2010: Ok, first of all, you are underage, therefore you shouldnt be having sex anyway.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
Until you are 16, ALL sexual acts are against the law.
It doesnt matter if y... (read in full...)
Peer pressure about sex, should I give in?
Q. Ok at my age not alot of the people i know are still virgins i sort of am. but its like it dont matter. it feels like if i have sex then i wont be invisible to them anymore. mu girlfriend want to have sex but i think its abit early. but do...
A. 9 February 2010: You should stick with your gut instinct here. You are totally right, you are too young, and if you are unsure then you should always wait.
There is nothing wrong with waiting, in fact, I really doubt that as many people as you think have had sex.... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 9 February 2010: Let me ask you a question...
Can you see into the hole? Do you know what is inside?
In my experience, trees, and holes in trees are usually populated by all sorts of bugs, creepy crawlies and general nasty things.
You have no idea what... (read in full...)
What do you think of my Valentine's Day gift idea?
Q. I have only been with my boyfriend for 2 months so for valentines day we both decided not to do anything over the top. So for him I fought that I could get him a teddy with a rose and then get him a necklace and put it around the teddies neck. What ...
A. 8 February 2010: ARGHHH!!! Sorry, I just cannot let this go! How old are you?
"So for him I fought that"
"What are your foughts on this?"
OP... the word you are looking for is THOUGHT... to think
Fought is to fight. I am guessing that is NOT what yo... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of losing my virginity plus I don't like my body... Help!!!
Q. hellooo this is a question for girls only , im scared of losing my 'v' , Ive Been seeing this boy for about a year now on and off and he is 18 and ready to lose his 'v' but i worried about losing mine ? i reali dont know what to do i feel and know ...
A. 8 February 2010: ok, first of all.... how old are you?
As your age range says 13-15 I will assume you are under 16.
As your are in the UK 16 is the LEGAL age of consent. SO if you have sex before you are 16, technically you are breaking the law. Regardless ... (read in full...)
Is Facebook reflecting how I fail socially in the real world?
Q. Sorry, but this is post about using a social networking site to validate my worth as a human being. I am on facebook and I am not popular on there, nor am terribly popular in real life. I'm like a leper of facebook actually. Less than 30 friends and ...
A. 8 February 2010: Hi Mal! :D haha Its perfectly ok to have "discussions" and "debates"! the world would be boring if we all thought the same thing!
I think I was maybe a bit harsh and I do understand that some people really do have that many friends or family. ... (read in full...)
Is Facebook reflecting how I fail socially in the real world?
Q. Sorry, but this is post about using a social networking site to validate my worth as a human being. I am on facebook and I am not popular on there, nor am terribly popular in real life. I'm like a leper of facebook actually. Less than 30 friends and ...
A. 8 February 2010: You are doing just fine as you are.
Social networking sites are really just a load of rubbish. They are not meaningful, and for the most part, I expect that people who have 200, 300, 400 "friends" have never even sent those people an email! T... (read in full...)
He told me not to wear makeup because I look like a tramp, now he wont answer my calls
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nine months...we've had arguments in the past, but we've always pulled through. We love eachother so much, or at least I thought he loved me... But today I rang him up to see if he wanted to meet up (we see ...
A. 7 February 2010: I think you need to calm down about this.
How old are you? And WHY do you feel the need to spend half an hour doing your hair and makeup before you can see your boyfriend? How much make up do you put on? Concealer, foundation, eyeshadow, eyeliner... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is babies but that's all he wants!
Q. Hi, Im 27 and been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. About 2 years ago the topic of children has come up and i am 110% sure i never want to have them-i dont like children and i made it very clear to him. He however wants children and being the on...
A. 6 February 2010: I am a year younger than you, and I have a couple of friends who have already been told they cannot have children because of problems with their wombs and various conditions. It really is very very sad, and the pain they have gone thru is ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 5 February 2010: You should stop this now, as you have no idea what is in that hole! For all you know, you were not the only one to have had that idea... I mean what is that "gooey" substance in the tree?
One other thing, how are you going to explain to the Doct... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 5 February 2010: If you are 18 and he is 50, maybe being from completely different generations, your ideas and beliefs about Valentines day are just complete polar opposites? He has had a lifetime of Valentines, probably spent a lot of money over the years.
You, ... (read in full...)
I've had sex - if I tell the doctor I haven't, will it make a difference?
Q. My mums putting me on the pill soon seen as I'm neary 16 and I've been with my boyfriend 2years. The thing is, we've already had sex a few times. So if the doctor asked me if I was already "sexually active" and I lied and said no because my mum was ...
A. 5 February 2010: Yes it will make a difference if you tell the Doctor you are not sexually active.
The reason they ask these questions is for your own health.
Once you start having sex, you will need to think about having regular check ups etc (things like sme... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 2 February 2010: I'm sorry, but I think you have already seen and disregarded all our opinions on this already. Just because you had sex again with a married man - it doesnt change the circumstances.
You are cheating on your husband, with a man who will not leav... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 2 February 2010: Just out of interest, why did you get married at 18?
Already, before you even hit 20, you have been married, divorced, and had an affair?
If you married your husband as a joke, then I think that is pretty unfair on him. He is now going to be ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the name of the tablet that delays your period?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles Does anyone know the name of the tablet that delays your period? Its not the contraceptive pill or anything like that, just uses progesterone to prevent ther period coming. Its just im on holiday next week and I was due ye...
A. 2 February 2010: What you are talking about IS the contraceptive pill. Doctors prescribe it to regulate periods. There are many types of contraceptive, some with only progesterone, some with both estrogen and progesterone. It all depends on the brand, your body, and ... (read in full...)
Gave a man my virginity and now I don't know what to do.
Q. Im 16 and a few weeks ago my older sister had i party which i went to. Whilst i was out in the garden having a drink (i was a little bit drunk) I met this boy (he was a year older than me) anwe got talking for ages at the end we ended up snogging ...
A. 29 January 2010: Sadly, I think you need to put this down as a bad experience and LEARN from it in the future.
Firstly, you need to go to the Doctor, get a full STD check and a pregnancy check - you have no idea where this boy may have been.
Secondly, you... (read in full...)
Something I can take to make my period end faster?
Q. I'm on period, and well, I'm on birth control. However up until a couple of weeks ago I was working long shifts which meant I had to take my pills on different times each day. So the thing is, I started spotting like a week before my actual period ...
A. 27 January 2010: What you have to remember is that when you are on Birth control your monthly bleed is actually a "withdrawal" bleed rather than an actual period. It is not the same as a period and is the result of not having the stimulation of the chemical hormones ... (read in full...)
Do condoms clog up the plumbing?
Q. I flushed a condom down the toilet and im worried it will clog up the pipes, its only the one time ive done this and would hate to block the pipes and then have my parents discover it. I wrapped it in toilet paper first but im just worried that ive ...
A. 26 January 2010: I dont think its a case of clogging up the pipes, it is where the condom will end up once it enters the sewage system that causes the problems. Think on a bigger scale - if everyone did this what would happen?
You have to remember that anything... (read in full...)
Would it be against the law to date my student-teacher?
Q. I turned 18 on the 3rd of this month. There's a teacher (actually, not even teacher... uh, student-teacher) at my school who I've become very close with. He's 20. He, for lack of a better term, 'expressed interest' in me first. So, before I do ...
A. 25 January 2010: If he is your teacher, even if he has not yet got full teacher status, then the same rules apply as if he was a normal teacher.
Regardless of age, teachers are not allowed to date students.
This guy has not even qualified yet. To have a p... (read in full...)
Don't know how to deal with inexperienced boyfriend.
Q. Hi, i am 19 and have just entered into a relationship with a guy who is also 19. I'm used to older guys but thought it would be nice to be with someone my own age... but it turns out he's really inexperienced. I am myself a virgin, but have ...
A. 23 January 2010: I am sorry, I didn't mean to sound like I was having a go, but you are wrong to assume that ALL guys have had some sort of sexual experience, kissing, touching whatever by the time they are 19. This is the common perception, but in reality, a lot of ... (read in full...)
Don't know how to deal with inexperienced boyfriend.
Q. Hi, i am 19 and have just entered into a relationship with a guy who is also 19. I'm used to older guys but thought it would be nice to be with someone my own age... but it turns out he's really inexperienced. I am myself a virgin, but have ...
A. 22 January 2010: Can I just ask why it is such a problem that he is inexeperienced? Everyone has to start somewhere!
Contrary to popular opinion, not all teenagers are running around having rampant sex, or sexual touching. There are far more women and men who ... (read in full...)
Why Men Are WAY Better Than Sex Toys
Q. Lila here ~ It seems like everywhere I turn lately, someone is talking or writing about men being obsolete or in danger of extinction. It’s upsetting, and I want to assure you it’s not true. Take sex toys, for example. Men will NEVER be replace...
A. 21 January 2010: I agree 100% I LOVE men.
And it really annoys me, when women put them down, and get all self rightious about "being better" and "not being needed".
I for one, wouldnt want to live in a world without men! :)... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to fall pregnant
Q. i am desperate to fall pregnant, so much so that i get so depressed every period i have. i cry all the time and i physically hurt whenever i hold my niece. its got even worse since my fiance's best friend found out his gf is pregnant, it hurt me ...
A. 20 January 2010: I think you need to ask yourself a couple of questions first.
Your age range says 18-21 - do you really think you are mentally, physically, emotionally and financially prepared to have a child?
You say you have a fiance, so that suggests yo... (read in full...)
We are both 17 and have been secretly been trying for a baby - please advise.
Q. Thankyou if you read this. I have been with my partner for nearly two years now and she is the best thing thats happened to me. However, we are both 17 and we cant wait to get our own life started. Really I am looking for personal advice rather t...
A. 19 January 2010: To A reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010)
You said:
"Ok, first of all, both of you are 17, therefore LEGALLY still minors in the UK."
Age of consent in England is 16.
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You are correct that the age of consent in the UK is 16. Thi... (read in full...)
I left school too early, now I want to know how to gain the qualifications I need
Q. hello readers i have decided that i would like to be a peditrician when i am older. but the thing is that i left school when i was 16 and i have no further education. i was wondering if anyone could help me in which qualifications i need to make i...
A. 18 January 2010: Firstly congratulations on wanting to do something so worthwhile with your life!
Being a pediatrician is a very highly skilled medical job.
First of all what grades did you get for GCSEs? You will need at least a C or above in at least 5 GCSE ... (read in full...)
We are both 17 and have been secretly been trying for a baby - please advise.
Q. Thankyou if you read this. I have been with my partner for nearly two years now and she is the best thing thats happened to me. However, we are both 17 and we cant wait to get our own life started. Really I am looking for personal advice rather t...
A. 17 January 2010: Also, on a side note, even people with good jobs, earning a reasonable wage cannot afford to buy or rent their own home at the moment.
The current financial climate is so bad, you would be better off saving your money until you are 21 as your par... (read in full...)
We are both 17 and have been secretly been trying for a baby - please advise.
Q. Thankyou if you read this. I have been with my partner for nearly two years now and she is the best thing thats happened to me. However, we are both 17 and we cant wait to get our own life started. Really I am looking for personal advice rather t...
A. 16 January 2010: Ok, first of all, both of you are 17, therefore LEGALLY still minors in the UK. You are not adults, you cannot vote, legally buy alcohol, you probably cannot drive yet, and really have no conception of what the adult world is all about yet. You ... (read in full...)
I feel that she wants me as a boyfriend and we were just supposed to be having fun.
Q. I have been having some 'fun' with a co-worker we discussed it before starting and she said she was cool just getting together now and then but all we do is have a kiss and hand job for me and I finger her, she wont go any further and I have begged ...
A. 15 January 2010: Ok, let me get this straight.
You want to have sex with her, take her virginity, yet you dont want to be her boyfriend?
Do you not think that is a tiny bit selfish on your part?
If she is the same age as you, and she is still a virgin, t... (read in full...)
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