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Is that weird that I want to try anal sex?

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Question - (25 February 2010) 14 Answers - (Newest, 26 February 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

okay, this one is a bit different, I want a woman's opinion. As I said before, I'm 17 years old and a virgin and I don't plan on having sex untill I'm married. But I've always wanted to try anal with who my future wife will be, but I don't want to hurt her and I really hope she'll be up for it, is it weird that I want to try butt sex??

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010):

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lol it doesn't interest me more than conventional sex Miamine, i'm just curious, and don't worry i was planning on waiting and talking about it and doing everything you advised, because the woman I marry will be one of the most, if not THE most important aspect in my life

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2010):

Miamine agony auntOne other question. Why dose anal sex intrest you more than a woman's vagina..

And yes you are normal. Many men and some women like anal sex. But not everybody tries it.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2010):

Miamine agony auntlol.. then it's best to wait until, first you find the girl you love, then you get engaged and make her feel special, after that you wait a while and then get married. Then after a couple of years normal sex and loving attention and kindness, maybe you can introduce the topic. Don't be surprised if she says "NO WAY". You've got lots of years of waiting before you and your wife have anal sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010):

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I DON'T want anyone to think that I'm just going to try it with my future wife with or without her say so, if she says no then I'll respect her answer and move on, because like I said, I don't want to hurt her in any possible way

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010):

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I didn't say that I wanted to have anal sex now, I want to wait until after me and whoever my future wife have regular sex, and then try it, I just wanted someone to help me clarify that I'm not a perve, and maybe give me some advice

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010):

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I didn't say that I wanted to have anal sex now, I want to wait until after me and whoever my future wife have regular sex, and then try it, I just wanted someone to help me clarify that I'm not a perve, and maybe give me some advice

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A female reader, celtic_tiger United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2010):

celtic_tiger agony auntI just want to ask you a question:

Why do you think having anal sex will mean you are still a virgin?

Anal sex, is still sex! How do you think homosexual men lose their virginity? It is a sexual act, and one which I would think the majority of women are not that fussed on ever trying. Personally, any guy that wanted that would be out the door faster than he could walk, with my foot firmly up his behind!

Try and think about it from the other side of the question. How would you feel, if your future wife, didnt want you to have sex with her, and wasnt going to allow you to penetrate her until marriage, but wanted to shove something up your bottom? How would you react to that? Try thinking less about yourself, and more about your partner!

Sex is sex, be it anal or vaginal.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010):

Some girls are really into it and others wont even try.

I think most men will try it at some point or another, it's not really all that great to be honest it's just the naughtiness factor that's appealing.

My wife doesn't really mind it too much but she's not really into it. So the compromise is that we do it once a year for a laugh but it's not a regular thing.

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A female reader, claree_xox  +, writes (25 February 2010):

hello :)...im 17 myself and a girl....but yeahh its abit odd because most girls dont like having sex in the butt...i did it and its really sore...most girls like it up the front because it doesnt hurt and you get more pleasure..if you tell her you just want it up the butt she wont understand because every teenagers loves sex and they want it in the front ...trust me ive been through it all x

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A female reader, Not My Name Australia +, writes (25 February 2010):

Not My Name agony auntNo, it's not weird, ...but goodluck finding a woman you want to marry who also wants to have anal sex.

That said, I think a lot more women try it than what the answers here may indicate, ..but as others have said, it hurts like hell so most women wont want to go back for seconds, thirds, etc, and break through that pain barrier.

You might get to 'try' it, but your chances of getting to practice it regularly are not high.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2010):

Miamine agony auntSame answers.. anal sex is penetrative sex and you won't be able to claim virginity... the majority of women don't like anal sex, because it damn well hurts.

Asking your future wife (who will probably be a virgin) to have sex in the most painful way is probably not a good way to start a marriage.

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A female reader, Tine United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2010):

Tine agony auntNo it is not weird at all, in fact it is what most men fantasise about. If your future wife is up for it why not give it a go, although always remember to use lube so that you don't hurt her and a condom

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (25 February 2010):

mystiquek agony auntIts not weird, but just keep in mind the majority of women don't want to try it, won't like it, and it will hurt them very much. Lets just say its not for everyone.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2010):

Not really. It's a normal fantasy. Just remember that for about 95% of women it's painful and something they don't want to do, so have respect for that.

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