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writes:Ok i am having this major love/hate realationship with this male english teacher in my school. Ive liked him for atleast 3 years now. But ive always felt a connection between him and me , his eyes are so hypnotic. Then i went to see a play with my drama class and he was there with his gf, i was dressed so amaxzingly glamours in a cream netted frilly dress and high heels with my cleavage on display and everything and he couldnt keep his eyes off me. I was smurking at him he was smurking back. Then i went to talk to him in school and he ignored me for lots of lessons. I think he feels i am a threat to his job. Then at parents evening the other night he couldnt keep his eyes off me again. I was waiting to go and talk to him and he just kept glancing at me from a distance and holding my gaze. I sat down to talk to him and he couldnt pronounce his words properly and said "sexcess" instead of sucess. It made me laugh and i cant help but give him the flirty eyes. He keeps saying hello to me and he looks like the main singer out of maroon five liek a spitting image of him. But i confronted him today in class about how some teachers were messing there words up at parents evening and that it was funny. And he goes did i do it , and i was like oh god u really want me to repeat it . he made me repeat it and then goes im sure i didnt say that anyway if i did im sorry and it was a long night and also he goes to me well maybe the beauty is in the eye of the beholder , which insulted me because he obviously thinks i fancy him. Its become to awkward now because weve just had these odd moments where weve connected. but hes always really horrible to me at the same time as being super flirty. Im not going to report him or anything cus hes a great teacher and he his gf is the music teacher in my school too. I just dont know how to sort of not flirt with him because hes so attractive and im afraid to ask for him on my work becus he might think im flirting. I mean i have had a warning for stalking this new young male english teacher, by the head of my year and my form tutor so im thinking that he thinks im a trouble maker now , cus I added him on facebook and stuff and following him around school and bein all weird but im young and school is so boring the fit teachers make it so much more fun. Im not even that young so techniquelly if i met them outside of school i could possibly date them. anyway i need help wat shud i do to sort of get an even relationship with him and try to not flirt anymore ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): be carefull he may take advantage of the moment sure everyone has a crush on there teacher but it is ludicrous even if they wanted to ever love you back because your still a child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): You may like him but its wrong for a teacher to get... well you know tone it down a little bit im not telling you to stop liking him though
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): You said you wouldn't "report" this teacher. I'm sorry but what exactly could you "report" this teacher for? Other than being friendly, I think you are getting your knickers in a knot. I think you need to find a hobby girl and stop annoying your teachers.
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reader, _Katy_Did_  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 If you got warnings against you for following him around, you're obviously making him very worried and uncomfortable. He doesn't like you. If anything, he really would rather you left him alone. You could get him in big trouble. And he has a girlfriend! I suggest you don't follow him around anymore, you don't tease him, you don't talk to him on facebook(or delete him if you want to play it even safer)and just go to class and do your work. Try not to talk about anything other than the school work. I saw this happen so many times in high school. It's stressful and scary for teachers. Don't get him in trouble for something he didn't even do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): Leave him alone even if he does fancy you he has a job a gf and the law to think about please just focus on school and stop what your doing before you get him in major trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): I just read up to the bit of him smirking at you, darling a smirk is no compliment!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): I'm 16 and I have a some what attractive teacher who is in his mid 20's. He makes it seem like flirting but it's not. We are their students, I think it's in your head, the mind plays many tricks on you. Makes it seem like they are in love with you, but they're not, unless others have seen it....
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (25 February 2010):
 From a teachers point of view, you are a nightmare waiting to happen.
I don't think you fully understand the consequences for a teacher, if they get caught up in a relationship with a student. It can mean, sacking, disciplinary action, police intervention, prosecution, and possibly even jail time and being added to the sex offenders register. This is not a game for him.
But it is for you, by the sounds of it.
The fact that you willingly admit to being cautioned by your head of year for stalking a young male teacher, AND you say
"cus I added him on facebook and stuff and following him around school and bein all weird but im young and school is so boring the fit teachers make it so much more fun. Im not even that young so techniquelly if i met them outside of school i could possibly date them"
you just seem to think its a bit of a joke to flirt, wind up and generally harass teaching staff?
You may be nearly 18 years old, but while you are at school, each and every teacher has a duty of care towards you, and in the eyes of the law you are still a minor. You are still under 18, and therefore LEGALLY a CHILD.
Your teachers, be them male or female are in loco parentis while you are at school.
No teacher is allowed to date, or have a romantic relationship with a pupil. Even when you get to University, it is not allowed.
To be perfectly honest, I very much doubt these men would want to date you outside of school, because you are acting like a child. This is not the behaviour of a grown up woman, but of a slightly bored teenager, who wants to get her own way and feel grown up.
Stop flirting with these men, concentrate on your school work, then you can go to university and flirt with as many guys the same age as you as you want. But leave these poor teachers alone, because you could end up ruining their careers, and possibly their future as well.
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reader, Polaroid93 +, writes (25 February 2010):
You're Reading into it FAR too much, even if he thought you looked good that night this doesn't mean he fancies you, how old are you? It makes a big difference, if your yr11 or below don't be mental!!! Leave him alone!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): It strikes me that most of this is in your head. You fancy him so you are reading way too much into every tiny gesture. Just try and move on to someone your own age and leave him alone. It sounds like you could get him into trouble and he hasn't even done anything wrong.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 He could get into serious trouble if you were to date him.
I don't mean to be mean, but you're going to get hurt. Don't set yourself up for emotional pain; as a teacher he's off-limits; there's bound to be someone more available.
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reader, caterpillarchapstick +, writes (25 February 2010):
it sounds like you have a certain charm that you are just "practicing" and in the right time and place your charm ability will be an asset. school can be especially boring if you are day-dreaming about love all the time. remember there is a whole world outside of your little school that you will encounter later on. i know girls like you and its important that you keep it innocent. if you are giving a guy eyes that say you are sexually on the prowl then you will be taken advantage of and initially thought of as a slut or and "easy target" which is a turn-off ultimately. try to do it with a lot more subtlety so that a man doesn't view you as a sex-object at first impression.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 February 2010):
I think like a lot of people who have crushes you're reading far too much into it. And though you technically think you can date teachers out of school, it's actually illegal for a teacher to have a relationship with a student regardless of age. I suggest you focus on your work for now and enjoy your crush. But by the sounds of it you're reading too much into it. I don't think he does fancy you.
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