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*ollins27023
writes:Ok at my age not alot of the people i know are still virgins i sort of am. but its like it dont matter. it feels like if i have sex then i wont be invisible to them anymore. mu girlfriend want to have sex but i think its abit early.but does it really matter or is it one of those "peer pressure" things Reply to this Question
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reader, collins27023 +, writes (12 February 2010):
collins27023 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys we (me + girl = relationship) have talked and wanted to wait. and most of their stories blow over in a week so yh. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): I personally think that you should wait it out they will all have sex and it will have no meaning too it. As i was 11 when i lost my virginity i was all excited to brag about it and it only gives you credit for about a day and it blows over. But i regret this much so because it wasnt meaningful. Just dont do it unless your ready to have a child or if you really just care for this person and you both are in it for the long run not just to loose your virginity and go brag about it because i dont really think thats what its about.
Ultimately its up too you just remember if dont want a child then the best thing to do is be abstinent (dont have sex)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): Well, if u dont wanna do it, dont do it! It wont change what people think of u. You dont want to make a girl pregent at the age that u are at, do u? So just remember, if someone is making fun of u that u are a virgin, just ignore them. Dont worry, everyone goes through this stage! :)
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (9 February 2010):
 You should stick with your gut instinct here. You are totally right, you are too young, and if you are unsure then you should always wait.
There is nothing wrong with waiting, in fact, I really doubt that as many people as you think have had sex. A lot of it is bravado and lies in order to look cool, and part of the group. It boosts their street cred to brag at how many girls they have slept with. Ignore them.
Also, do you want to be with someone who only wants you for sex? If this was a girl asking the question, the response would be DONT LET HIM PRESSURE YOU! IF HE WONT LISTEN THEN HE IS AN ASS. etc etc etc. The same rules apply here. If all she wants is sex, then she isnt interested in you for you. You are just a penis to her. Is that what you want?
I would also like to point out, that as you are under 16, and in the UK, then you are underage, so ANY form of sexual act is ILLEGAL.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
http://www.opsi.gov.uk/acts/acts2003/ukpga_20030042_en_2#pt1-pb5-l1g9
This includes, oral, fingering, handjobs, blowjobs, vaginal sex and anal sex.
Bottom line is, if you sleep with her, she could get you into BIG trouble. That could even mean JAIL if her parents thought fit to push the case.
Also, it only takes one time to get pregnant. Do you really see yourself being with this girl for the next 18 years? because that is what could happen if you got her pregnant. Do you want to be a dad? Condoms fail, there is always a chance.....
Think about it and do the right thing... wait.
There is plenty of time in the future to have sex. Dont rush into it and regret it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 February 2010):
Yes, it does matter. You're still underage apart from anything else. Wait until you're ready and of age, or you might end up really regretting it.
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