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writes:*OP's own title*I have been married for about five years now. My husband left me eight months ago. We have a daughter together. My husband states that he needed to get his life together. Meanwhile got rid of his wedding band and ask for mine. The first two years were decent, but after that was horrible arguement of hitting below the belt. My husband ask for me back about two weeks ago. I have started dating and now IM pregnant with the guy i been seeing. My husband wants me to get an abortion. the guy im seeing wants me to keep it and marry me. I still care alot for my husband, I thought we could of have a better relationship. I wasnt ready for another kid, but cant really see myself killing my child for my husband. The other guy is everything I wanted my husband to be. My question is what do you think i should do? I am seven weeks pregnant.
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reader, scared to love +, writes (5 May 2010):
I'm in a similar situation. I think you should keep the baby and the boyfriend. A Leopard never changes its spots. Whose to tell he won't break your heart again. A decision like this can never be undone..once it's done it's done. It can be hard for some men, but in the long run its us women who have to go through the procedure and deal with the guilt. Good luck to you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 April 2010):
Your marriage was falling apart before. So to go back and abort your baby for the husband who has already hurt you and probably not changed, will really destroy you. I say keep the baby and the new guy. Remember that an abortion is your choice, and yours alone, so you might very well end up resenting your husband for it. Keep the baby and the new guy.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (1 April 2010):
 You could get an abortion,but your marriage still won't work out. You're going to resent him for making you terminate, he's going to throw the fact that you got pregnant in your face and you'll only end up hating him and yourself in the end. He's already shown that he can walk away from you and your child; what's to stop him from doing it again?
You've met a man who is everything you wanted your husband to be, so why are you even considering going back to him and your lousy marriage?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Do you want to go back to the cesspool?
I would rather stick it out with the new b/f and have his child.
He has no right to ask you to terminate your baby.If he really wanted you back , he has to take everything .
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reader, WiseAngela23 +, writes (1 April 2010):
DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES GET AN ABORTION!!!!! I say one night you go and get in a nice bubble bath with candles lit all over the place, lock the door...then look down at your stomach and think dad or husband....what does your heart tell you??
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reader, RainStorm  +, writes (1 April 2010):
I would divorce your husband and stick with the other guy. How dare he leave you and his child to 'get his life together' without any concern about you both. You and your child are part of his life and the fact he left to 'get it together' is crap. Forget about him, focus on your new unborn child and boyfriend.
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