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writes:*Op's own title*I'm going to uni later this year because I want to start again where no-one knows me. I hate preconceptions and being judged, and it's hard to grow in confidence or re-invent yourself when people already think they know who you are, does that make sense?When somewhere new, I think I will find it easier to be myself a little more...BUT I found out the other day that someone who lives right near me and went to a couple of my old schools AND who I used to be friends with is at the university I am going to.WHAT DO I DO! If I see him there there's a danger I will revert to my old shy self, the facade that has been strangling me in the same old town for so many years. Do I ignore him? What if other people from my past are there? - I am TRYING tpo forget them, I want to GET AWAY!He will be in his second year when I start. What do I do?!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies. Not so worried now...phew!
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reader, Blod +, writes (21 March 2010):
 You shouldn't let other people stop you from doing what you want to do. Most people know someone from their area or past that goes to the same uni as them but it doesn't matter. These one or two people are only a tiny, tiny minority of the university and it's unlikely you'll see them very often. When you go everyone will be in the same boat as you wanting to make friends. So it won't matter if you happen to know someone else. You'll be with the people in your year and on your course. Don't worry about it. Go and have fun!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Stop worrying so much! University's have thousands of students, and the chances of running into someone you know are very slim! I went to the university of Manchester, where at least 3 or 4 other people from my school went also. In 3 years I did not see a single one of them for more than maybe a minute when I saw them walking down the street.
Plus he is in the second year - he wont be at any of the fresher's events, he wont be living in halls anymore - the chances of seeing him are so tiny you dont need to worry! You will make a load of friends and have an amazing time in your first year at uni, it is so much fun and you learn so much about yourself while having loads of difference experiences.
When you start uni all you need to do is to be yourself - dont try and be something your not. Be friendly, open and up for anything. Dont judge anyone too quickly, try and meet as many people as you can and get involved in as much as you can. If you are yourself and friendly to everyone then you will make loads of friends and wont even think about there being 1 other person in the area that you kind of know.
I really think you are worrying too much about this, kind of knowing 1 person in the same uni will become totally insignificant when you actually get to uni! You will have so much going on in your first few months you will forget all about it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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