He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now
Q. I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm ...
A. 29 April 2017: You are very immature. Clearly you are not ready for an adult relationship.
Break it off with this guy and spend some time growing up.... (read in full...)
My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?
Q. I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening ...
A. 26 April 2017: You need to dump this controlling abusive asshole. He is a complete tool. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend being a hypocrite?
Q. Is my girlfriend being a hypocrite? So, my girlfriend works as a cam girl on a website. I was aware of her occupation before we started dating. Since she was on that site, I thought there'd be no problem if I register as a member of that site too...
A. 25 April 2017: Yes she's being a hypocrite. But so what? If you want this relationship to work you have to pick your battles and this isn't one you need to fight. Give her what she wants on this. If you want to watch cam girls go to another site and watch one ... (read in full...)
My wife's co-worker gifted her diamond jewellery. Would "just friends" do this?
Q. My wife recently received a "HW" diamond ankle bracelet and matching toe rings (2) from a fellow worker who she swears is just a good friend. They go out of town on business trips two or three times a month staying for at lest 2 nights each ...
A. 24 April 2017: Your wife and this coworker are having an affair and it seems pretty far along if he's giving her diamonds. The fact that she kept it proves how little respect she has for you and your marriage. My guess is she is still weighing her options I.e. ... (read in full...)
We are having an affair. Should my sister in law and I just run away together?
Q. Hello everyone, So my sister in law and I, ended up exchanging flirty messages and then it became wide open that we both wanted it. One thing led into another, before you know it we were having full on sex and everything in short order. It has be...
A. 24 April 2017: Yes you should run away together. Your spouses/partners deserve better than the two of you.... (read in full...)
We broke up and we're not a couple any more. Should I be concerned that he's recently had a tattoo of my name inked on his neck?
Q. I'm completely puzzled as to why but my ex boyfriend has just this week gone and got my name tattooed onto the back of his neck and I'm worried he now thinks we are back together after I have been talking to him about the reason I left him. We wer...
A. 23 April 2017: You've been giving him false hope. Talking to him about why you broke up leads him to believe that if he tells you the right thing that will fix the problem and you'll get back together.
Stop taking to him stop telling him you love him and will... (read in full...)
Why 25 later after an affair with my wife does this ex friend want to get together?
Q. My wife had a intense two year long affair with a single friend of ours back 25 years ago...we had tried a threesome with him,after a nite of drinking, and I found out rather quickly that I wasnt into it, but as it worked out my wife and this other ...
A. 22 April 2017: The question you need to ask yourself is why you would consider having anything to do with this backstabbing douche. But really what would you get out of having any contact with a the man who helped your wife cuckold you for two years? Going to ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my b/f for a break due to exams and him being in another country?
Q. Hi there everyone, i have a little dilemma that i don't really know how to deal with. I have a bf for about 3 years now and well recently, things have been hard on us with me being away and stressing out over exams. For some reason, we don't...
A. 20 April 2017: You don't want a break you want a breakup. Relationships run their course. It sounds like this one has. Heck you already have your eye on another guy.. Break up. Do it quickly and forget the breakup stuff as it will only give your bf false hope.... (read in full...)
How do I speak to a co-worker about an incident that caused much drama at work?
Q. Great site....level headed advice. I work in a high school in a pretty volatile classroom. I am slated to work in two schools and about two months ago now some drama broke out in one of the sites when I was at the other one. The situation did no...
A. 20 April 2017: This is pretty simple. The drama has passed. Do not dredge it up. Unless of course you are the type who likes to cause drama... (read in full...)
I compared my husband's penis to my ex's and my husband can't get over it
Q. I know the backlash I'm in for... My husband and I have been together over 10 years. Early on, I compared his penis to my exes unfavorably. I don't remember, but it's seared into his memory; I did it multiple times. He tells me that I was passiona...
A. 20 April 2017: I have no idea what kind of man would stay with someone as cruel as you. He needs help to overcome his issues and clearly he has them if he stayed with someone who hurt him so badly that 10 years later he is still in pain over it. The poor guy.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to end things with a good person when they are not your type?
Q. Is it wrong to end things with someone cause they are not your type? they treat you wonderful,they come on really strong,you wish your ex would of treated you this way. the one who treated you bad you fell for,now I have someone who would do ...
A. 20 April 2017: No it is not wrong.... (read in full...)
My husband says he's getting something from a couple we've been involved with. Something that he doesn't get from me!
Q. My husband and I are having a foursome with another couple. The wife used to be a friend of mine that I thought I could trust. We all set boundaries that we didn't want to cross. But she has crossed all the boundaries that my husband and I set. My ...
A. 20 April 2017: It never occurred to you that your husband might enjoy sex with another woman more than he does with you?. Or that he could develop feelings for a woman he has regular sexual contact with? This is why open marriages or "poly" marriages break up at a ... (read in full...)
I stumbled across hidden videos in my girlfriends computer of her having sex with her ex
Q. I am engaged to my dream girl and our relationship is perfect. We've been together for 2 years now and We are the perfect couple... or so I thought.. Things changed when I found some things on her lap top. I needed to finish up a report but forgo...
A. 20 April 2017: You are in the swamp and ass deep in alligators but it's not to late to get out. Seems to me you have to confess to your gf and beg forgiveness. Hopefully she'll forgive you and you can work through your feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. Of ... (read in full...)
I have my ex husband's last name. My current boyfriend wants me to change back to my maiden name. Should I?
Q. My boyfriend does not like that I have kept the surname of my ex husband. It is just easier as my child's last name would be the same as mine. My boyfriend said it does not matter if my child's last name is different from his mother. I ...
A. 15 April 2017: It sounds like you hooked yourself an insecure control freak. If you want to spend the rest of your life being told what to do appease this guy now because you'll spend all your time appease him on one thing after another.... (read in full...)
Is my ex girlfriend crazy and a hypocrite?
Q. My ex girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. Literally the day after my bday actually. On my actual bday she was giving me the cold shoulder all day. She was more concerned with watching shows on her laptop then spending time with me. We were ...
A. 15 April 2017: She's your ex. Forget about her. If it makes you feel any better it sounds like she did you a favor.... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of my fiance?
Q. my fiance in the past has been drugged while at a club, drives 1.5 hrs from clubs after drinking.. all i ask when out on girls night out or on our dates is that i get texte,called or snapchatted to know she is home safe . i get: i fell asleep,phone ...
A. 15 April 2017: If she doesn't want to call you she shouldn't have to, so let it go. You should however have a heart to heart about her drinking after driving.... (read in full...)
Was sending that message to my BF the best option? Or did I just stoke the fire more?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and have been friends for years before that. One thing I know about him is that when he gets upset he doesn't want to talk right away so when I know he's upset I'll just leave him alone until he's ...
A. 15 April 2017: Your boyfriend is a controlling bully. The longer you stay with him the worse his behavior will get until you spend your life walking on eggshells. You won't believe me because you LOVE him and he loves you. But in time you'll see I'm right of ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but don't know how long I can keep carrying everything on my back!
Q. Not sure if this is really a question or just needing to vent but I could use some advice. I'm just feeling very worthless in my marriage. I feel like he's always mad at me and my kids and nothing we do is ever good enough. Like I go shopping after ...
A. 15 April 2017: I don't know why anyone would put up with this abuse. I feel for you clearly he has beaten you down so much that you have no self respect left and that is so sad.
You need to ask yourself would you be better off with this guy or without him. Then... (read in full...)
Why am I thinking about someone else who is not my husband, why I feel irrational and risky?
Q. I'm 30 year old, married and I have 2 beautiful children. I've married my husband 5 years ago, I always loved him but never really fell in love with him (movie style) I actually didn't think those feelings truly exist and love is how you treat pe...
A. 14 April 2017: If you're in love with this guy you should tell him how you feel. Why settle for blah when you can have WOW. People meet and fall in love all the time even if they're in a committed relationship with someone else. Don't spend your life wondering ... (read in full...)
The father of my children is unwell. What strategies might help me cope with his behaviour, actions and his stalking?
Q. Relationship stArted 7-8 years ago sent peaches and cream but the first couple months were beautiful. I met him at a time of my life i was hurting and separated from my husband. Anyway I been recalling thinking heavy on our relationship. We...
A. 14 April 2017: Keep hanging around this guy and eventually he will hurt you seriously. You need to call the National Center for Domestic Violence. They can advise you on what you need to do to get out of this situation.... (read in full...)
Am I selfish and bad to be feeling so disappointed that he reneged on his original decision to aim to propose to me soon?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married for a while, and a few months back he told me when he'd hope to propose. I was getting very excited. That time-frame hasn't happened yet, however now he is saying he simply cannot afford the ring...
A. 14 April 2017: He's stalling. And you are not wrong to be disappointed. Offer to go with him to pick out a nice affordable ring you both like and watch his reaction. You say you can't see yourself without him, that by itself is pretty unhealthy if that's true get ... (read in full...)
His family want us to marry, mine don't!
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I 'was' dating this guy for a little over two years. We have both met each other's families and all was well until last December when his family started asking him to get married. Now the problem is I am in my early 20s ...
A. 27 February 2017: Never even think about marriage until you are 25. Listen to your family. You know marriage is not right for you now. Don't let him sweet talk you into it and for heavens sake don't listen to his family.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend appears to be attracted to transgender women!
Q. A few weeks ago I noticed my boyfriend had sent a friend request to a young lady. When I went to her page her pics were mostly of her in sexy lingerie and telling all to visit her on webcam. I also noticed she had obvious breast implants and a ...
A. 27 February 2017: Why is this a dealbreaker for you? Because he is messaging other women or because the women may be transgendered? If it's the former I can understand if it's the latter I don't understand. Washington University in St Louis is on e of the best Un... (read in full...)
Can anything be saved in my marriage. If so, how?
Q. I need help.. my wife of 33 years has slept in separate room for 5 years.. she works but dosent contribute to mortgage, and all her income goes into her own bank. Mine goes into joint account, and she buys things out of this account. We have no ...
A. 26 February 2017: You put up with this for five years? Why in heavens name would you want to save anything from this arrangement? I call I an arrangement because it sure as hell isn't a marriage?
LEAVE!... (read in full...)
New man doesn't want me to go to fetish party
Q. I arranged to go to kinky, fetish-scene party while single but now have new boyfriend who doesn't want me to go. Am I being unreasonable still wanting to go, even though he doesn't like it, and is not into that. He thinks I will be looking for ...
A. 26 February 2017: Go have fun, at your age men will come and go but how often will you get an invite to a fetish party?
And let's be honest why else would you be going to this party if not to find someone or some two or three to play with.
So go if he's the man ... (read in full...)
Would I be betraying my Mom's memory if I get close to Dad's new girlfriend?
Q. Hello, My name is Bree. 2 years ago my mother died and it has been sad and rough for my Dad and I. When my mom died it really broke my Dad's heart, he loved her so much and misses her, and I miss her too. But last month my Dad told me he met another ...
A. 24 February 2017: If your mom loved your father the best thing you could do to honor her memory would be to befriend his new lady friend. After all she would want the man she loved to be happy.
Yes she is young but don't hold that against her. ... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 24 February 2017: You have a nagging suspicion because you know you were lied to you just don't want to admit to yourself. She is suffering from anxiety because she is afraid the truth will come out.
Unless you have definitive proof she lied I don't see the poin... (read in full...)
She's still sharing a bed with her partner of 6 years! What do I do?
Q. Hi I'm seeing a girl and have been for over 6 months but she's still living with her partner of 6 years ... I did know her before and was common knoledge they were not close ... she promised me she would leave once she got the finance to move out ...
A. 24 February 2017: Hang in there she'll eventually come around or she'll tire of you. Or he'll find out that she is betraying him and he'll kick her out. Then she won't have any choice but to come running to her side piece.
And you are the side piece whether ... (read in full...)
I feel he guilt trips me into staying with him.
Q. My partner needs help with his anger and possessive behaviour , how do I help him .. I know I can't help him he needs a professional but what do I do in this process !? It's sounds horrible because im finding it hard to believe he will change and ...
A. 24 February 2017: Why would he try to change when he can con you into staying with him? Jealous possessive people do not get better on their own and in fact things will just get worse for you the longer you stay.
My grandmother used to say "People don't change a... (read in full...)
I lost respect when I found out my friend was a home wrecker.
Q. I have a friend, lets call him x, who recently told me he's got a new girlfriend. I was happy for him, and asked the typical questions, appears she's a colleague of his and she's got two kids ages 7 and 4, that he hasn't met yet but is excited about ...
A. 24 February 2017: You don't have to be friends with anyone you don't want to be friends with. It doesn't sound as if you two are very close. Cancel your next meeting and then be busy whenever he calls. After one or two times he'll get the hint. ... (read in full...)
I honestly don't know what to do. What can I do? She blames her childhood for her major trust issues
Q. Hi, I have been together with my fiance for about 8 months now. Unfortunately, she has major trust issues and she fuels it by giving me no space to breathe. she expects me to tell her everything in detail. ie if I get a message from a friend(ma...
A. 23 February 2017: You need to leave this woman now. You cannot fix this type of controlling behavior and it will only escalate. Leave now and do not look back. It may be difficult but the short term pain you experience now beats a lifetime of misery.... (read in full...)
How can this be resolved? I want a Baby. He couldn't think of anything worse.
Q. My husband told me the other day he never wants to have children. I’m devastated. Don’t get me wrong I love him completely and can appreciate that it’s just how he feels but I feel angry and bitter and am having serious thoughts about leaving him if ...
A. 22 February 2017: You have two choices leave or get pregnant without his consent. The latter seems a bad idea to me. You said that having a child means more to you than he does. So I'm not sure what the issue is. Leave!
What I don't understand is how you married ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other
Q. I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...
A. 22 February 2017: You've only been married two years and she is already looking for an out. Sit her down and discuss it with her but be calm. Hear her out then decide if you think the relationship is worth saving. If not you had two good years.... (read in full...)
I can't get over the thought that he stares at my little sister!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm writing this as my thoughts are consuming me and ultimately upsetting me and affecting my behaviour with my partner, which I hate. I have been feeling very insecure lately and issues of the past keep popping into my mind and I find ...
A. 20 February 2017: I feel for him. It must be terrible living with someone as jealous and insecure as you. You really need to see a counselor about your insecurities before you drive this guy away.... (read in full...)
Does she still want this wedding?
Q. Just a quick question? Me and my partner are due to be getting married in october this year not a big expencive one but one we can offord we have put deposits down for most things but now all of a sudden shes saying we cant offord the wedding so i ...
A. 20 February 2017: Whether there is another guy isn't important. When the girl starts talking about delaying the wedding that you have already put deposits down on the relationship is in trouble. Sit down and have an honest talk with her if she's not ready she's not ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and violated that he's been snooping on me on my phone! There's no reason for him to do this!
Q. I'm so angry as I write this post and a little confused. I was talking to my boyfriend of 9 years the other day and he asked me about something that happened to one of my friends that I could of swore I never told him, I brushed it off thinking...
A. 20 February 2017: He does not trust you. You feel betrayed because you have been. He is not a gentleman he is a sneaky creep wearing a gentlemanly mask.
You want to know how to get back from here. Back to what a jealous paranoid control freak who does not trust yo... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm never going to be enough for him. Is my husband gay or just into weird stuff ?
Q. My husband of 12 years has been web camping girls for 8 years about anal play, pegging and being dominated. I just found out and have taking it hard. He has even had advertisements for meeting girls. He says it because he didn't think I would lo...
A. 19 February 2017: Your husband is not gay. He is a submissive transvetite, possibly a transsexual. That is who he is it is as much a part of him as his hair color. You might go to couples counseling to see if you can bring yourself to accept this part of him. But ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend with a co-worker and now my life has become a living hell
Q. This is a very difficult story for me to write but I desperately need help. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years now and I love him dearly. We bought our first house 2 years ago and to be honest things were very very difficult and we had ...
A. 18 February 2017: You come off as a selfish child who wanted to eat her cake and have it. The guy you cheated with is creating a hostile work environment and it is your bosses job to protect you from that. If the boss won't then it is time to speak to your hr ... (read in full...)
Disappointed he couldn't see me Valentine's day. Am I being selfish? Should I try and make things work?
Q. I'm 38 and have been dating a guy who is 38 as well. Our first date was Nov 5th last year and we've seen each other every weekend since then and sometimes during the week. He is part of a culture that does not honour pagan holidays...and I am fine ...
A. 17 February 2017: He bought you dinner once! Order those wedding invitations. This is a one sided relationship that you need to end. This guy has nothing for you.... (read in full...)
I don't want to snoop through his phone but I think my husband is cheating
Q. I'm worried my husband is cheating. We've been married 7 years and have had the happiest relationship. He started a new job 6 months ago and his behaviour has changed. He's started keeping his phone on silent, or constantly on his person, somethin...
A. 15 February 2017: There is a say: If you can't get hold of your man on Valentines Day you are the side piece. Sadly it sounds like your husband has found someone new on his job and you have become his side piece. All the signs are there. You know it. The question is ... (read in full...)
Is there any future for this marriage? Since he cheated I have turned to cheating too.
Q. My problem is I am not sexually attracted to my husband ,at all. The only way for me to be at ease is if I get really drunk to have sex with him .But he don't like that . I can't have sex sober with him.Since he cheated on me I lost all lost I had ...
A. 13 February 2017: You two need to go your separate ways.... (read in full...)
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