Is there any future for this marriage? Since he cheated I have turned to cheating too.
Q. My problem is I am not sexually attracted to my husband ,at all. The only way for me to be at ease is if I get really drunk to have sex with him .But he don't like that . I can't have sex sober with him.Since he cheated on me I lost all lost I had ...
A. 13 February 2017: You two need to go your separate ways.... (read in full...)
My parents are very critical of friends and boyfriends.
Q. I have 2 very loving and involved parents. My one complaint is that they can be too judgmental of the people in my life. I have always been very cautious and responsible. But I do have a history of choosing lousy boyfriends/ accepting way le...
A. 13 February 2017: They are not loving and involved they are controlling. They want you to bring him around so that they can begin to undermine your relationship. Do not bring him around until you are ready. Try to learn to follow your brother's example. It is good ... (read in full...)
She made me wait until marriage for sex, but we are now married and still no sex!
Q. I know these questions get asked plenty of times - and I know there is no cut and dry answer, but here is my story. I'm 34 years old and my wife of 5 years is 24. She wanted to wait until marriage to have sex which was more than fine for me seei...
A. 13 February 2017: 5 years in a sexless marriage and you're asking us what to do. She certainly found herself a chump didn't she? Find a lawyer and have this sham marriage annulled you mope.... (read in full...)
Shall I forfeit the money and not go on this holiday abroad next month?
Q. About a month ago my friend and another couple and their friend (who I know but not really friendly with) agreed to go on holiday abroad next month. My friend and I had gone on a holiday together the previous year with another group and in that ...
A. 12 February 2017: Confront her directly. She has taken your money I don't know if 300 is a lot for you but it seems a lot to me.Face to face demand that she give you the flight times, reservation numbers etc or give you back your money.
Also understand that she is n... (read in full...)
How am I meant to deal with these people ?
Q. A little background history; my bf and I got together when I was 16 and he was 17, broke up when I was 20 and got back together (with encouragement from his parents) when I was 23. Im now 24 turning 25, and he's 26. It's always been a long distance ...
A. 12 February 2017: You should not move into their property. you should not marry this boy, and that's what he is. you should not continue to lstay under their roof and live under their heel. You should pack your thins and return home. The fact that you got back ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep having sex dreams about a girl I think of as a little sister?
Q. I am 32 years old and one of my best friends, Danny, is 28 years old (we played football together in high school). He has two sisters (an older sister, Rebecca, who is 32 years old and a younger sister, Lisette, who is 22 years old). I am close to ...
A. 11 February 2017: Because subconsciously you think of her as a potential mate. She is young and fecund so that isn't unusual. As long as you control yourself while awake there won't be a problem. But on the other hand the more time you spend alone together the ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this? I'm straight but still confused about my sexuality.
Q. I'm a 25yr old women and I'm attracted towards androgynous/tomboy women. But I'm straight. 2 weeks before While I was at train station I saw this lady with sharp boyish personality and I went on noticing her continuously, she was attractive and f...
A. 9 February 2017: You are not straight. You may not be gay but you are definitely not straight. Stop worrying about labeling yourself and focus on living your life and finding who you are. If you are attracted to a certain type of person pursue that type of person ... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret dumping a nice guy for a jerk?
Q. my question is do women, ever look back an wonder? they have been in a relationship for a while and the guy isn't very nice to them, not a gentleman or romantic, before him they were seeing a guy who was, but he wasn't a challenge,they thought he ...
A. 9 February 2017: Nope! And you need to move on. ... (read in full...)
I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...
A. 9 February 2017: You need to discuss this with your wife maybe it was not her. If it was then you need to get into counseling, either individual or couples to try and get past it and hopefully save your marriage. You have two young children and you don't want to ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this? Whenever I invite a friend over she invariably does not show up
Q. I have a friend I've known for several years. She has a very frustrating habit in which she will set a day with me to meet up, and then not show up. I really don't understand how you can simply disregard to tell a person you are not coming and let ...
A. 9 February 2017: Stop making plans with her. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me going out with male friends for drinks
Q. Am I in the wrong ? After recently starting uni I made a small group of three male friends whom I worked on an assessment with and we automatically became friends. We are all older than the normal uni starting age so its nice to have someone on ...
A. 8 February 2017: This is controlling behavior. You have the right to your own friends. If you want to go drinking with male friends that is your right. Tell him to knock it off or to move on. And ignore all the letters on here from married women and coupled women ... (read in full...)
Concerned about my sex life and I need some advice
Q. I have been in a relationship with my now fiance' for 2 1/2 years. Our sex life was great until we moved in with each other 1 year ago. I am not sure what but something changed. I have been open and honest about my feelings and my need, she says she ...
A. 7 February 2017: People dismiss sexual compatibility as not important in a relationship. They tell themselves that everything else is good so the sex thing is secondary and ten years down the road one or both parties end up angry and bitter. Which is where you are ... (read in full...)
Now the grief about our broken relationship is starting to hurt me. what should I do?
Q. 3 months ago my ex boyfriend left me after my miscarriage. He said he don't want to be in a long distance relationship and because my career is not stable so he don't see any future with me . He don't know how to give me any emotional suppor...
A. 7 February 2017: Forget him, he sounds like an awful person and you can't make someone like that see how awful he his.
Make an appointment with your doctor and get a referral for a good grief counselor then go see him or her.
Good luck?... (read in full...)
Why would a man who claims to love me tell me his ex looked as good as a porn star?
Q. Why would a man who claims to love me tell me his ex looked as good as a porn star? Did he say this because he feels I'm not as pretty or hot as her . I am considerably fatter and older than her and can't understand why he said this. ...
A. 7 February 2017: He is clueless and too honest. I know a guy who told his wife that his former girlfriend was the best woman he ever slept with. He couldn't understand why she was angry. He loves her and they have an active sex life but she asked him playfully if ... (read in full...)
My husband and I had a threesome with a guy. Should I push the issue or let it go on naturally?
Q. Recently I found porn on my husbands phone and confronted him. He confessed that he was turned on by the fact that he wanted me to do a three-some. Well yesterday he brought a male friend home and after several drinks I found myself going down o...
A. 7 February 2017: If you enjoyed it what is the problem. If you feel you need to talk about it or you want to do it again sit your husband down and have a frank discussion with him. It seems to me that after you've blown another guy in front of your husband at his ... (read in full...)
We have a 2 year old together. Recently he said no way does he want more children. How do I tell him that I'm pregnant?
Q. Hiya I've just found out I'm pregnant I haven't told my partner because just last week we were talking about kids and he said no way does he want anyone especially this time we have a 2 year old son I'm so scared of how he's going to react I would ...
A. 7 February 2017: No one can make you get an abortion. There is a saying I heard once, "The only things that go away if you ignore them are your teeth." This problem is not going to go away. You need to tell your partner now before you start to show. You know he ... (read in full...)
I found out that my boyfriend cheated and he doesn't know it yet. What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone. I've never posted a question online before but I really don't know what to do in this situation so I'd very much appreciate your honest opinion and input! Quick background story. I've been with my partner for 5 years this comin...
A. 6 February 2017: You should wait a while, until he thinks the coast is clear then you sleep with his best friend or another male who is close to him. Revenge sex is the best and revenge is a dish best served cold that is why you want to wait a while before you do ... (read in full...)
Slept with my best friend, My boyfriend is hurt, help?
Q. My best friend Michael and I always hang out on his bed and play video games, watch movies, listen to music, do work, or just talk. Last night we were just watching tv and taking about past senerios and we hit some that are sensitive to me and I ...
A. 6 February 2017: Clearly Michael is more important to you than your boyfriend. Break it off with your BF and be with the guy you really want to be with. It is unfair to the BF for him to always be second fiddle to this other guy. Do right by him and let him go.... (read in full...)
What would be a good first gift, post breakup, to offer as a token of friendship?
Q. Hi everyone, I would like to get my ex girlfriend a gift that is received as a token of friendship, or more specifically, as a gesture that I'm ready to foster one. She has already explicitly stated interest in doing so. This comes after se...
A. 5 February 2017: The gift of leaving her alone. If she wanted to be your friend she would have contacted you. Leave her alone and move on with your life.... (read in full...)
What if the tables were turned? Am I being a numpty for agreeing to her terms?
Q. Hey just like to ask if i've been a bit of a numpty. I'm not allowed a facebook nor messenger not sure why but to make her happy i said ill not make a facebook. She has both and lots of people added like people she works with and even people she s...
A. 5 February 2017: If numpty means moron, idiot or spineless dope then yes you are a numpty. She doesn't want you to see what she is doing online which means she's playing you. You can either get a Facebook account and see it for yourself, I'm not sure why you would ... (read in full...)
Coming out for both of us is out of the question. Should I try to make both relationships work concurrently?
Q. I am married with two children but in love with my bestfriend who is a girl My husband is not aware that i am bisexual...but he suspects...and knows that my best friend is weird..but he is the most understanding and loving man..i love him and wan...
A. 5 February 2017: Go ahead and have an affair with your friend. Your husband will probably never find out and even if he does the two kids will keep him tied to you.
Or you could be an adult and sit down with this man you claim you love and discuss Your bisexual... (read in full...)
Should I bring this up for discussion? It feels like he does not trust me anymore.
Q. My husband and I separated nearly a year ago due to my infidelity. We recently reconciled and moved back in together. I missed him so much and have grown up a lot over the separation. Although I couldn't be happier that we are getting a second c...
A. 5 February 2017: He neither trust nor respects you. Not that I blame him. But if it bothers you a lot you need to bring it up. You really can't move forward until all the issues of your infidelity are addressed. ... (read in full...)
Am I responsible for the baby or did she cheat on me? We had sex on October 8 2015 and she gave birth on June 15 2016
Q. Morning dear friends. My case is like this: I was in a relationship with my girlfriend(24 years old) for a year. we rarely met; at least once in three months. She visited me on the 8th of October 2015. We played the indoor game; but with pr...
A. 4 February 2017: Have a DNA test done. That will answer your question!... (read in full...)
How can I stop letting this one man's opinion of me beat at my confidence?
Q. I have always thought of myself as girlfriend material and that I have a lot to offer a man. I dated a guy recently and he doesn't have any interest in me as a person whatsoever. I know it sounds vain or conceited, but I believe in mysel...
A. 4 February 2017: You sound like a very needy person. Anyone whose confidence can be so easily shattered obviously has their self worth tied to external things and is not really confident. Everyone is not going to love you and your worth is not determined others ... (read in full...)
Would you remain friends with someone who keeps you blocked from Skype?
Q. Hi All, Could really use a little input here. I met a woman online on an international dating site. I'm American, she's from Europe. We emailed, talked and Skyped for about 10 months and then got into a fight. Without going into the details, ...
A. 4 February 2017: You sound desperate and needy. I have no doubt that you are the one initiating all of the contact and she is replying to be polite. If you stop contacting her she will not contact you and perhaps you will understand what your "friendship" really is.... (read in full...)
Its awkward at work and I am considering quitting!
Q. Months ago I made mistake of expressing interest in a work colleague by giving him my number but he never called/texted then exaggerated/lied as to why he didn't call.I felt little embarrassed but no big deal.I tried to be still friendly and ...
A. 3 February 2017: If you like the job why quit. From what I read you did nothing wrong. Ignore him and only initiate contact if it is business related. ... (read in full...)
I've tried talking about our problems but he doesn't listen ... what can I do?
Q. Hiya me and my boyfriend are both 30 we've been together for 4 years we have a 1 yr old daughter together the problem is ever since we got together we don't do anything together I've talked to him about it and we planned a date night once a month ...
A. 3 February 2017: This guy isn't your boyfriend. He's a roommate who uses you for sex, messed up and got you pregnant. I feel for you because now you are tied to a man who has no real interest in you. I hope he is at least a good father.... (read in full...)
I'm losing my best friend and don't know what to do.
Q. I'm friends with a female who ive known for six months, I knew her from work as we worked together and seem to get on, she was one of those temporary people. anyway she told me she was off to nicaragua on a water project to promote clean water an...
A. 3 February 2017: She is and was not your friend. She was a friendly coworker. It seems you have way too much invested in someone you knew for only six months. She didn't contact you and was offended when you contacted her. Leave her alone!... (read in full...)
My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...
Q. My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...
A. 3 February 2017: Sounds like he's keeping his options open and that he has no respect for you or your marriage. Keep an eye on him. Good luck I think you're going to need it?... (read in full...)
She had sex with somebody else when we were apart, I can't get over it!
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago. I had serious commitment issues and after being together for just under a year and a half I pushed her away and subsequently she withdrew. While we were apart I have never been in more emotional ...
A. 3 February 2017: Why should she regret it? You two were not together and you said yourself that she had every right to see other guys. If you can't get past it move on. It is not as if you're married or have children together.... (read in full...)
How can I make her realize that her psychotic friend will always ditch her and make her feel worse
Q. Hey people... So, I'm gonna get straight to the point and try to make it short. I literally can't stand my girlfriend's best friend. Apparently before we got together they bonded on this amazing-like relationship and could speak abo...
A. 3 February 2017: This is not your fight or your business. And most important it is an argument you can't win. If your GF is willing to put up with this treatment that is on her. If it bothers to the point that you can't stand it move on.... (read in full...)
How should I approach this issue? I feel that my wife is ashamed of me
Q. I have been married to my wife since 2001 (15 years now). One thing that has always bothered me is how while I introduce her to all of my friends I only get to meet some of hers. She is a lot more social than I am and has a lot larger social ci...
A. 28 January 2017: She is trying, successfully to keep you from seeing how she behaves when you're not around. Not that I'm implying she is doing anything wrong. My question is why do you an educated successful man who makes more money than her put up with being ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your partner out of nowhere suddenly says that they don't love you anymore?
Q. What do you do when your partner of 12 years (wife for 2 1/2) suddenly tells you out of the blue she no longer loves, feels attracted to you and knows without any doubt this is how she feels? I busted her whilst she was on a night out texting some...
A. 28 January 2017: If you leave your home you're a schmuck. Divorce the cheating skank and fight like hell for your sons. ... (read in full...)
Could her actions in bathroom indicate that she cheated?
Q. My wife got really drunk last night and started a fight then went and douched her vag and left the bottle on the counter on accident. Now swears up and down she didn't cheat and says I'm in the wrong for accusing here. Any thoughts?...
A. 27 January 2017: Was this douching out of the ordinary? If it was then you already have your answer.... (read in full...)
The sex is good but I want more!
Q. I'll get straight to the point: I'm not happy with my sex life. I'e been with my husband for 15 years, we're married for 4. we are happy in our realtionship- though there are always things to work on. He works a lot, which is fine. He is caring and ...
A. 26 January 2017: Divorce him. Then you can screw all the men you want and he can find a woman who loves respects and appreciates him.... (read in full...)
What do I do? How can she still want to be with someone who she is not sexually attracted to, nor IN love with?
Q. Apologies if I ramble but I have some much to get off my chest ?? My Fiancée of nearly 14 years and the mother of my 2 beautiful daughters (11 and 6) had told me she loved me but is not IN love with me several years ago. We have also not had...
A. 26 January 2017: She isn't your fiancée she is your roommate. When she told you she was no longer in love with you it was time to leave. She has cut you off sexualiy throwing you the occasional pity screw to keep yo around. You say she has gone off sex. Well you ... (read in full...)
How long does a relationship 'break' last?
Q. How long do relationship 'breaks' generally last? My fiancé has suggested two weeks but then said it could be indefinitely, I feel she is messing with my head. ...
A. 26 January 2017: A break last forever. Your fiancée has broken up with you she just doesn't have the guts to say it. If you gave her a ring demand it back and move on with your life.... (read in full...)
She wants me to start wearing the pants in our relationship?!?
Q. Right, so my girlfriend told me yesterday she wants me to start wearing the pants in the relationship. I had no idea what she meant, and when I asked her she didn't really know how to explain it. Can someone here maybe explain it to me? Also, ...
A. 26 January 2017: She's telling you you need a new girlfriend.... (read in full...)
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