Haven't heard from my friend after I rebuffed his advances. What should I do?
Q. A friend came over we went to my room sat on the bed we talked them he touched me I moved his hands. Shortly after he left. Haven't heard him after that. He only sent me moving greetings via whatsapp. Should I try to contact him or walk away?...
A. 25 May 2017: Leave him alone. He thought your friendship was going somewhere else especially after you let him on your bed. Now he's hurt and possibly a little humiliated if he wants to contact you he will. If he doesn't you know The friendship is over.... (read in full...)
My married lover seems to have lost interest in me. Why is this?
Q. Dear aunts, I met a wonderful man through work and the chemistry between us was unbelievable. We had few business meetings with other people and he finally told me that he's very much attracted to me but never contacted me. I found out he was ...
A. 25 May 2017: You got played by a playa. He got what he wanted now he's gone back to his wife. He was crazy about getting into your pants which he did. Now he's moving on. Think of it as a learning experience for you.... (read in full...)
Advise needed about my husband's therapist!
Q. Hi all, I'm really confused and would appreciate your help. My husband's therapist wants me to LIE to my husband and I'm not comfortable with it. My husband has been in therapy for almost 10 years. The last shrink changed our lives 8 mont...
A. 24 May 2017: You need to have a serious talk with your husband about finding a new therapist. In fact you need to insist on it. This person is not treating your husband he is doping him. A therapist who ask a patient's wife to lie for him does not have your ... (read in full...)
I cheated and had a one night stand!
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. She honestly is the love of my life and I am very happy with her and would do anything for her. Unfortunately, I made a terrible mistake a couple of nights ago , had way too many drinks (which I know ...
A. 24 May 2017: Keep your mouth shut. If this was a on off there is no reason to burden her with it. If you feel the need to confess find a clergyman or a counselor then commit yourself to never doing it again and to being the best boyfriend you can be to your ... (read in full...)
Was he drunk or did he experience memory loss?
Q. hi, i am 43 years old and been on my own for 17.5 years, my ex left me when my daughter was five months old and i have remained single. i have met someone i really like and we have seen each other a few times. last night he came to see me and sa...
A. 23 May 2017: A man ask you to a nice restaurant, you not only reject him you do it in a really crappy way. Then sometime later you send him a message saying you will go if that's what he wants to do. What man could possibly turn down an offer like that?
You show... (read in full...)
I want to show him the fun me! Do I ask him for a second date?
Q. I recently stumbled across an old friend and he admitted he liked me 20 yrs ago as i did him . He thought i wasnt interested in him and he was a bit shy so thought i didnt like him that way but i did i fancied the pants off him. im the first to ...
A. 22 May 2017: What have you got to lose by asking him out? But don't be disappointed if he says no.... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do, yet I don't want to give up on us.
Q. I recently read a post where the woman didn't know what to do because get man was still visiting online dating sites even though they are together and so neither of them are no longer single. I wanted to answer her, yet I can't honestly give her ...
A. 21 May 2017: How much of this abuse are you willing to take? He's beating you down mentally and emotionally. You say he has your heart but I have to ask why?
The women on these sites aren't home wreckers. They don't know you exist. They are almost as much vict... (read in full...)
What do her words mean?
Q. hello, I've been seeing this girl now for 6 months, but out of no where, she been acting moody and distant with me lately and I don't know why. So I confronted her about it and ask if I was us and she said yes. she went on to say "I don't know h...
A. 21 May 2017: Her words mean she wants to break up with you but doesn't have the guts to do it. She's keeping you around until someone better comes along. Dump her now and move on with your life. You' shouldn't allow yourself to be some woman's Plan B.... (read in full...)
I am not sure if she feels the same about me. what can I do? I've developed feelings for a female co-worker.
Q. Not sure where to start.... So I am a 24 year old female and have developed feelings for a co-worker who is also female but is 45years old. We have worked together for over 2years now, we work amongst a team and work with different colleagues. I wo...
A. 21 May 2017: You could be an adult and ask her. What is the worst that could happen? She'll say she doesn't feel that way about you and things will be uncomfortable for a while? Well things are weird and uncomfortable now.
If she shares your feelings you two ... (read in full...)
He didn't invite me to a family function. Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. Hey, Thanks for taking the time to read my post I'm going to keep it short I've been with my partner 10 years I'm 27 hes 28 we've had a very happy time together no real drama or anything we have always been great together I cant imagine anyone in...
A. 20 May 2017: Ask him f you're invited. He will look at you as if you are nuts and say something like "Of course you're invited, why would you ask such a crazy question?"
I'm curious as to what other things he does that bother you. And is this invitation thin... (read in full...)
I'm 18 years older than him, I know its crazy but its so intoxicating!
Q. I feel like I've completely lost my mind here, so maybe someone can give me some perspective. I'm a 38 year-old mother of one. I've been divorced for years. I've always thought of myself as a rational person until now. For reasons I cannot explain, ...
A. 20 May 2017: Unprotected sex with a twenty year old. Pregnancy is only part of your problem. Have you considered the possibility of sexually transmitted infections?
Personally I think it's great that you have found a playmate. But you need to protect your... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work when you love their personality but aren't attracted to them sexually?
Q. I talked to a guy for a long time via text before actually meeting him. I loved talking to him and we share the same humour. Upon meeting him I continue to love his personality but I am not physically attracted to him. Can a relationship ever work ...
A. 20 May 2017: Please do not subject yourself or him to this. For average people sexual compatibility is an important part of a healthy romantic relationship. You can tell yourself it isn't important because the two of you have so much in common. But what you have ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's emotion letter to ex for closure has left me feeling second best
Q. I'm in a confused relationship, my boyfriend of 3 years (were living together) send a closure to his ex-gf behind my back. She cheated on him with another guy 5 years before we got together. He already told me that he dated one girl after her before ...
A. 18 May 2017: It is time for the two of you to part ways. Eight years after she cheated on him she is still contacting him even though she is married. If her husband knows they are in contact is it any wonder he hates your bf. He knows his wife still has a thing ... (read in full...)
Do many females masturbate ? I feel ashamed when I do so.
Q. Do lots of girls/ladies masterbate? I get so paranoid that I'm abnormal for doing it because my friends never talk about it and sometimes someone will make a comment that it's more of a boy thing and I'll feel ashamed. ...
A. 17 May 2017: Everyone masturbates. Enjoy yourself! Believe me, your friends are doing it just as much as you are. Heck maybe more!... (read in full...)
How do I cope with parents now I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice and hope right now. I'm soon to be 18 and I'm pregnant... I'm happy to have the baby and I'm happy for my bf too but our parents... Please, I don't want anyone to judge, there will be enough of that, thank yo...
A. 17 May 2017: Your boyfriend needs to man up and stand beside while you tell your parents. They'll be hurt and angry but if they love you they'll come around. Good luck... (read in full...)
Help me with this family situation, my father thinks I'm avoiding an event!
Q. I have a difficult situation with my over 65 yr old parents Need advice please My parents live in another state that is a 1hour plane flight away I visit once a year and they come to my state, once a year to visit and and we talk on phone sometim...
A. 17 May 2017: You have explained that you can't go. If your siblings ask about it tell them what you told your father. Perhaps they'll be more understanding. If not it's not like you see a lot of them anyway.... (read in full...)
He is too close to his ex' and it bothers me
Q. I have recently started dating someone at work (discreetly) and it has been going really well. I was very wary of him at first because he has an ex' in the same workplace who he is still close to. He also led me to believe that he liked me before (a ...
A. 16 May 2017: You need to grow up. You're just dating this guy and not even openly. You have no right to tell him who he can and can't be friends with. Keep in mind if he wanted to be with her he would be with her. If you can't be an adult and accept that then ... (read in full...)
Why does she keep cheating on me?
Q. The last three years have been very turbulent ones. We have broken up and got back together so many times. Usually couples just stop getting on and end up drifting apart. Not in our case, because its only ever been one thing that has ever caused ...
A. 16 May 2017: She keeps cheating on you because she likes it and you let her. ... (read in full...)
Even though I work with kids I can't get close to these ones
Q. I have 2 "nephews"..they're not really, they're my fiancé's but when we get married they technically will be, but I have absolutely no bond or relationship with them. It's not that I don't want to have either. I care about them as much as I would my ...
A. 15 May 2017: Sorry I didn't see that you are a female. Still everything I said before still applies. ... (read in full...)
Even though I work with kids I can't get close to these ones
Q. I have 2 "nephews"..they're not really, they're my fiancé's but when we get married they technically will be, but I have absolutely no bond or relationship with them. It's not that I don't want to have either. I care about them as much as I would my ...
A. 15 May 2017: Why is it important to be close to them. They are your gf's nephews not her sons. I assume they have a father so it's not as if they need you to raise them. Be yourself and stop stressing over something that you don't need to be worried about.... (read in full...)
Partner lets me shoulder all the responsibility
Q. I've been with my fiancé for 4 years now. We have a 1 year old little boy. My fiancé and I are very different. - he's passive, I'm aggressive, he's reactive and I'm proactive. When we met he had an issue with drinking and doing other things such as ...
A. 15 May 2017: Why do you continue to waste time on this guy? Other than your child what is there about this lazy inconsiderate drunk that keeps you with him? A 31 year old man who drinks to the point of throwing up on your floors and furniture and doesn't even ... (read in full...)
Jealous of my girlfriend's sexual experiences
Q. I feel a bit silly really. I've been in a great relationship with a woman for several years now. She's fun, kind, understanding, we share a lot of common activities like music, cycling, swimming, travel, and she has really helped me develop - and ...
A. 14 May 2017: Focus on what you love about her and not the past. Remember at your stage of life almost every woman you meet is going to have a sexual past. If you can't let this go you're going to end up pushing her away. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me to go back to her husband. She said she didn't love me enough
Q. My girlfriend recently broke up with me of 4.5 yrs to go back to her husband she left 8 yrs ago. She never stopped working for him and has been doing the same dead end job for 28 yrs. He is a grandiose type person, a bit of a show-off and loud. He ...
A. 14 May 2017: Please move on. She made her choice and now it is time for you to bow out. And keep in mind the time she was with you, she was always with her husband and do you really want that?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is no longer interested in sex and I am starting to think of her as someone untouchable
Q. Could you give me you overview please. I’m not sure how to deal with this situation. My girlfriend is entering the menopausal age. She tells me she no longer feels sexy. Although I’m a bit older than her I still do. I have backed off initiati...
A. 14 May 2017: How committed are you to her and the relationship? The way I see it you have thee choices: split up, wait it out and hope she changes her mind or do what you need to do to have your needs met while staying in the relationship. Only you can decide ... (read in full...)
A long term friend dated my brother, treated him poorly, and now she wants to reconcile with me, without explaining. What should I do?
Q. Sorry this is so long! My best friend from grade school went overseas for college and upon returning started a relationship with my brother. I was living in a different state by now and she initially wanted him to keep the relationship a s...
A. 11 May 2017: You're asking us if you should rekindle a friendship with a lying cheat who trashed your brother while breaking his heart and has never expressed remorse for her actions? Because she mentioned your family in her book. I'm sure your brother would ... (read in full...)
What can I do? My Gf of 5 years says she wants to have sex with another guy.
Q. Okay so I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Recently I started noticing a big change in our sex life like she was losing interest. After a few months and started asking her what changed and all she would say was I don't know. After it e...
A. 11 May 2017: She is not your wife and you don't have kids together. There is no reason to put up with this. There are 4 billion other women on this planet find another one and let her have her threesome with two other guys. Because eventually that's going to ... (read in full...)
Wife had an affair with a man bigger than me. Will she always be sexually frustrated with me?
Q. My wife has had a affair with a man with a large penis. Mine is small. Will i continue to sexually frustrate her?...
A. 9 May 2017: My advice is to read Fatherly Advice's column again and again until you heed it.... (read in full...)
I do have trust issues. How do I resolve this situation with my ex?
Q. Please no negative replies!!! I feel low enough!! I was seeing my boyfriend for over a year. I had known him for 2-3 years before that as a friend. We split about 4 months ago but have kept in touch. The reason for the split was because...
A. 9 May 2017: You two need to stop playing game with one another. Stop calling him, stop texting him and stop going to his job.... (read in full...)
Trust and retroactive jealousy issues
Q. Okay, well this is hard for me to write, but I really could do with some help or advice, please. I have been in a relationship with a lovely woman for 3 months now, and we are both getting along great and really enjoy each others company. We are ...
A. 9 May 2017: You need to see a counselor and get yourself sorted before you ruin this relationship. Explain to her that just as she as intimacy issues you have trust issues. Promise her that you are going to get help with your issues and then follow through.... (read in full...)
What, if anything, should I tell my future husband about my dating history?
Q. After dating few men and some random hook ups, i eventually had to agree upon an arranged marriage by my parents. While my parents are seriously looking out for a groom, I am confused if i have to change my contact number and also delete my faceb...
A. 9 May 2017: Tell him you dated before but don't give him any details. The past should stay in the past.... (read in full...)
I give my manager the cold shoulder but he still tries to be friendly!
Q. My head manager acts friendly with everyone. He is very helpful. All the female employees are attracted to him. Some even flirt with him. I just keep a low profile and do my job. But he seems to try to get my attention a lot. He tries making s...
A. 7 May 2017: There really is something wrong with you. Your manager is kind, friendly and helpful and you meet those qualities with open undisguised hostility? In many businesses actions such as yours would mean a quick trip to the unemployment line. I guess ... (read in full...)
The teasing in our relationship is starting to get to me
Q. Me and my fiancee are planning to get married in just over a year but I'm starting to have a few worries. We like to tease each other and give each other a hard time, its just part of the dynamic of our relationship, but lately I've been taking it ...
A. 6 May 2017: Under most teasing is an element of truth. It is time for a serious teasing free discussion for the two of you. Perhaps with a professional who can get you out of this pattern you have developed and on to a way of healthy communication.... (read in full...)
My husband is almost forcing me to have sex with my lesbian neighbor
Q. Hi, my husband has recently come home after a month away and suddenly started wanting me to have sex with my lesbian next door neighbour, he doesn't want to watch or be involved at all. We have known she has a crush on me for a long time and given ...
A. 6 May 2017: I'm pretty sure that unless he holds you at gun point he cannot force you to have sex with your neighbor. You need to tell him emphatically that it is not going to happen. You then need to go to couples counseling to get to the bottom of your ... (read in full...)
We broke up because she's emotionally disturbed and would have sex with random people!
Q. So i started this new relationship about 3 months ago with a girl. Things went fast between us, but at times she was still emotionally disturbed and attached to her ex who was a complete ass to her. But she had 2 kids together with him, so it was ...
A. 1 May 2017: Run and don't look back. Block her on all your social media and block her number so that she cannot text you.... (read in full...)
What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party?
Q. What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party? I have a Pinterest board setup and shared it with my bridal party and they are having opposing views on what they ...
A. 1 May 2017: Elope!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird?
Q. My boyfriend has a fetish for my work clothes, is that weird? I work in an office and wear skirts and blouses on a daily basis. When I first started dating him he said he loved what I was wearing but recently it seems to have got even more intens...
A. 29 April 2017: If you're okay with it and it doesn't become an obsession, by that I mean he can't or won't have sex unless you're wearing work clothes and as long as he covers the cleaning bills I say relax and enjoy it.
One other thing; as long as your nee... (read in full...)
Did I do something so offensive that my b/f needs to rethink our relationship?
Q. Soooooo my bf and I have been together for a few years now. We have a mutual friend who we've been cool with for a decade. This friend chills with us every other day. My bf feels like our friend doesn't respect him and has attempted to talk with him ...
A. 29 April 2017: Your boyfriend thinks that this friend wants you as a GF. I don't know if he's right or not. Ask yourself if this is true. If you can honestly say that there is nothing to his suspicions then he's being a controlling ass and you need to tell him he ... (read in full...)
How would men feel if they joked about something sexual and their partner said yes?
Q. Before I start, let me just say, I am not a woman of the world. I didn't lose my virginity until my wedding night, aged 24. Me and my husband have been married 12 years now and are still very much in love. The problem is our sex life. It is very ...
A. 29 April 2017: He's joking hoping you will say yes. The next time he "jokes" about something that interest you tell him you are interested in exploring it with him. He'll thank you and you'll thank you.... (read in full...)
My husband wants to move to another country. I don't
Q. My husband wants to move overseas to expand his business. He already has a team abroad but wants to be there in person. Long story short it makes sense for the business I, however, want to stay here. I'm not fond of the country he wants to move to...
A. 29 April 2017: You shouldn't have to give up your life for his business but if you love him and want to build a life with him you need to seriously consider it.
Let him go and get things set for say about 2 months. You can follow on a trial basis. Agree to stay ... (read in full...)
The fiance, the step daughter, the baby mama and possible cheating!
Q. Hello, I have been engaged for over 2 years to the man of my dreams. However,we dont get along all the time. He has a daughter and I have a son. Now, his babymother is in the picture and my son father is not. But he gets his daughter every w...
A. 29 April 2017: You need to drop this drama filled mess. There is nothing but heartache on the horizon.... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now
Q. I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm ...
A. 29 April 2017: You are very immature. Clearly you are not ready for an adult relationship.
Break it off with this guy and spend some time growing up.... (read in full...)
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