My very best friend is cheating on her partner! Do I tell him?
Q. Please help. She is my very bestfriend for 17 Years. WE See really good with each other. I care for her. I know her very much and everything what she do is open to me. Thats how she trust me. My Problem is, i visited Her 2 months ago. Thats ...
A. 20 August 2017: Unless there is a crime involved always side with your friend. So no you don't tell her partner. What goes on in their relationship is their business not yours.... (read in full...)
He spent 5 years in prison for crippling a child in a drunken car accident
Q. Would you date someone with a criminal record ? I met this guy at a party of a mutual friend. We spent the whole night talking and exchanged numbers. After spending hours a day texting / talking we went on an amazing first date. At the end of ...
A. 19 August 2017: If you believe in redemption and second chances then there is no reason for you not to date the guy.
On the other hand I have friends who are cops. One was an accident investigator. He once asked if you would forgive someone who got drunk took a sh... (read in full...)
Married but falling for someone across the world
Q. I'm married with 3 children. A few weeks ago, I met a wonderful man in a pub in Edinburgh. He's Australian and was on a cricket tour. We instantly connected and got on do well I found myself being attracted to him. We shared a kiss at the end of the ...
A. 18 August 2017: Stop contacting and concentrate on your husband and family. How hard is that? You're not a love sick teenager you're an adult. Act like it.... (read in full...)
I feel guilty for having feelings for my wife's sister!
Q. I am very happily married but I think I love my wife's sister. She is married to my friend who has changed over the years and treats her terrible. We were always close but now she confides in me all the time. She is always hugging me and rubbing my ...
A. 18 August 2017: There is trouble brewing. You say you won't let anything happen but I've found we are most likely to lie to ourselves when it comes to the object of or desire and our willpower.
Stop the intimate chats with her. She shouldn't be telling you she ... (read in full...)
Should I invite my estranged dad?
Q. Hey Guys! I'm engaged and am due to have a small intimate wedding in January. My issue is that I don’t want to invite my dad. My dad and I don't have a relationship whats-so-ever. My mom passed away when I was 1 1/2 and didn't step up to take care ...
A. 18 August 2017: It Is your wedding screw what your relatives have to say. This man abandoned you when you were an infant and was never there for you as you grew up. You owe him nothing.
Congratulations on your wedding and I wish you the best life possible.... (read in full...)
I'm still friends with an ex and my new girlfriend gets jealous!
Q. I've been with my new girlfriend for six month's, my ex am still friends with,she babysits my granddaughter, if she needs help I help her like today, I have a pickup, she bought a big snowblower, so I pick it up for her, I help other friends too, my ...
A. 14 August 2017: I'd give you my advice but you only want advice from girls so never mind ... (read in full...)
I cant break up with her because she threatens self harm.
Q. Hi, So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years total now with some time in between here and there. I've been on the fence about breaking up with her for the entirety of this summer but I haven't been able to act on it because she is s...
A. 14 August 2017: Tell her parents and move on. She will hold these threats over your head forever if you let her. You're 20 you cannot be and are not responsible for someone else's life. ... (read in full...)
Should I continue with plans to visit family?
Q. Hi there Happy Sunday everyone and thank you in advance for any forthcoming advice. This is a family matter and I am just not sure how to handle it. I am a little older, divorced, no kids and have lost both my parents. I have siblings wh...
A. 14 August 2017: Ask your siblings if they know what is going on? If they have no answers the trip may not be worth it.
You don't say how much contact you have had with your kinsmen over the years. It sounds as if it has been minimal. My guess is that your cous... (read in full...)
I bought a house with my boyfriend, am falling out of love and have fallen for a man on the other side of the world
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, First off please no judgement I didn't expect any of this to happen Need some help here. So I'm 38 no married no kids but have just in the last three months purchased a house in my hometown with my partner of four...
A. 12 August 2017: For the love of heaven leave this poor guy so that he can find someone who really loves him. You'll need to sell the house unless your partner can afford to buy you out expect to take a significant financial hit. But that is a small price to pay to ... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to acknowledge my children from a previous relationship
Q. Am 39 years married to my husband for six years. I had two children before marriage. On of them her dad is alive but is not interested in financially supporting her or co parenting. The other his dad passed on. I hve two more kids with my husband ...
A. 10 August 2017: No you are not expecting too much from him. But I'm sure he was this way prior to marriage but you married him anyway and had two children with him. After 6 years it's too late to expect himto change.... (read in full...)
Married co-worker I'm having an affair with is now ignoring me
Q. Im a married woman who has been having a fling if you call it that with a married co-worker. Now that weve slept together hes been ignoring my texts yet still speaks to me in work like nothing has happened.( a week ago) Im so confused by this. Im ...
A. 10 August 2017: Here are your options
1. He realized he made a mistake
2. He only wanted a one off and got it
3. You're no good in the sack and he has decided to look elsewhere
Either way it appears he is done with you so leave him alone and go work in your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied about his ongoing involvment with his ex.
Q. Hi, When i met my partner he was still having his ex round his house watching films, going out, and going on holiday, all of this he lied about. We split up a year later and he was trying to find a house near his ex and he contacted her stra...
A. 9 August 2017: Stop seeing him.... (read in full...)
I blurted out I LOVE YOU to my married boyfriend. Why does he still want to be with me?
Q. I told my married boyfriend of 3.5 years that I LOVE HIM yesterday. It just came out. I did not mean to say it but I did. He was asking me why do I stay with a guy like him? He called himself average, boring, not so attractive yet said I am ...
A. 9 August 2017: He's still with you because he is getting sex from you. He doesn't care what you say to him as long as the sex keeps coming. He has two women who love him. You and his wife. ... (read in full...)
My wife is a masseuse but I'm not sure of her "exchange network". Should I hack into her account?
Q. After i had some business problems my wife decided to qualify as a masseuse and try and bring in an income. That was 4 years ago.After a year of working in a Spa she decided to work from home. She said a lot of her regulars had said they would co...
A. 8 August 2017: Your wife has a clientele made up of men and is now part of group that is for erotic massage and sex. And you're putting up with this?
You say she seems happy but are you actually happy it sure doesn't sound like it. Have you actually tried havi... (read in full...)
My ex bf contacted me, I told my bf about it, mistake or no?
Q. I dated this guy briefly, but broke up w/him due to him being a control freak and somewhat mentally unstable. His number was blocked, but the other day I deleted all my blocked numbers (I didn't even know it was his number). He ended up messaging ...
A. 8 August 2017: No you did not make a mistake. Unless this guy is also a jealous control freak. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend goes out with a male friend who makes her feel uncomfortable being too touchy
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months was recently on a night out without me present. She has a few guy friends that I know about that she's been friends with for a few years along with her girl friends and they were all out. One of her guy friends was too ...
A. 5 August 2017: You are being played somehow. No woman goes alone to meet a man who has sexually assaulted her. And that is what she alleged he did.
You need to have a serious heart to heart conversation with her about what is really going on. But to be straight... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend being friendly with a guy that won't leave her alone?
Q. Hey guys just want to know your veiws on my situation. Right my partner works in a pub at night everytime she goes to work she has this one bloke who wont leave her alone always saying how nice her arse is and that he will get her he has even seen a ...
A. 5 August 2017: If your girlfriend gives your bank card and pin to another guy her falling for each other is the least of your worries. Call your bank and cancel your cards and find yourself another girlfriend because yours has has found another boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Wife pushed for my promotion and now we're both miserable
Q. I work in a science/technology/research field and I like my job. I have been at the same organization for over 20 years with increasing leadership roles. My last was leading a team of engineers performing tasks I enjoyed. Salary was very good, ho...
A. 5 August 2017: You allowed your wife into bullying you to apply for a job you didn't want. Bad on ya. I'm curious if she wanted to take a promotion because of the money or because she liked the prestige of being married to someone in management. Either way you ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the problems I will face with my soon to be mother in law
Q. In the next couple weeks i will be marry to my longterm fiance. We had a weird and unique relationship. Everybody envy me because they think that he spoilted me too much. What others dont know is,our relationship is kinda odd because we keep ...
A. 5 August 2017: It sounds as if you are too invested in being married to this guy. You fight all the time, he's not financially stable and you're going to live with his parents who fight violently. You may want to reconsider. I know you won't but it needs to be ... (read in full...)
Colleague keeps rejecting friendly advances
Q. Do I keep trying to talk to this moody younger work colleague? She's 25 and until 7 weeks ago would always say hi and make occasional small talk (she does chat a lot to her buddies,I'm not a buddy) She injured her back, was off work a few...
A. 5 August 2017: This woman does not want to be your friend. Accept it and get on with your life and your job. ... (read in full...)
Our family holiday has upset partner's ex!
Q. My boyfriend and I are taking his son, (6) from a previous relationship on holiday with us in September, along with our son (19 months). My sister, brother in law and two nephews (3 and 4) will be there too. I thought everything was good between ...
A. 5 August 2017: The ex has no say on what your boyfriend does with the boy while they are together. You and the boyfriend have done nothing wrong. The ex is trying to maintain control over your boyfriend thru the boy. You and your boyfriend should ignore her and ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't maintain appropriate boundaries with male friends
Q. My wife (and five year old daughter) is currently on holiday in Florida with family and friends. Some of these friends are young men. One in particular is going without his girlfriend. I have been ok with the holiday. This isn't the issue. Th...
A. 31 July 2017: You have a problem. Your wife doesn't respect you or your marriage. It is a shame you didn't figure this out before you mixed your DNA with her's and produced a child. Now you are completely jammed up because she holds all the cards.
She is righ... (read in full...)
He changed his mind about getting married so who keeps the ring?
Q. A few weeks ago my ex fiancé basically told me that he didn't want to get married then he told me he was no longer in love with me. Then a few weeks later he basically tells me I'm in love with you but your not my soulmate. I was annoyed and I do...
A. 31 July 2017: If he broke the engagement you keep the ring? It was a gift to you.... (read in full...)
Is this woman after my husband?
Q. Does it sound like this woman is after my spouse? My husband started a new job and seemed to become friendly and close to a woman I will call Kathy. They would discuss their personal issues ( our martial) ( her relationship issues). She would ca...
A. 29 July 2017: He's discussing your marriage with her and she's calling him her man and all the other stuf you wrote. I would say she already has him. He just hasn't left you yet.
You need to see a lawyer. A good one.... (read in full...)
My ex military boyfriend got right in my face and yelled at me. Is it normal for military men to act this way toward civilians?
Q. My exmilitary boyfriend got the idea in his head that I was seeing someone else for sex and he had a meltdown. He shouted in my face like a military seargant and I started pushing him off me and then I asked someone to throw him out! The question...
A. 29 July 2017: I spent 24 years in the US Army. Your boyfriend's actions have nothing to do with him being ex military. He is a bullying jealous jerk. He needs to be your ex boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who's rather pushy and doesn't want to compromise on even the smallest of things
Q. There's this guy I have been dating and he is overall wonderful. However, he's done things here and there that has shown me that maybe he can't really compromise. Once, we went dancing at a restaurant with a live band. We had a great time had s...
A. 29 July 2017: The guy is a selfish bully. Stop dating him. You should have dumped him after the condom incident. Forcing you to stay on the dance floor when you're ready to sit down is abusive. Count yourself lucky that he showed you who he really is before you ... (read in full...)
My married lover has been conflicted lately. What is next?
Q. Hi. I'm not looking to be judged. I am just looking for some good, sound advice as this situation is not one you can discuss openly. And as happy as it can be, it can also be difficult and very painful. I am not sure how to address this. I hope you ...
A. 26 July 2017: It can't be that hard to have a wife and a mistress plenty of guys including this one do it.
It must be awesome having a younger hotter woman on the side the one he throws the occasional bone to. A week together while the wife is...what visi... (read in full...)
Worried about revealing my true sexuality
Q. I have been cross dressing for many years and it was more of a recreational bit of fun until a couple of years ago. I stopped doing it for ages but when my long term relationship broke down due to my girlfriend being unfaithful I couldn't resist ...
A. 26 July 2017: You may be trans you may be bi or you may have a cross dressing fetus now. What yo need to do is Find a counselor who specializes in sexual issues. Not to cure you but to help you discover who you are and how to make peace with yourself.
You say ... (read in full...)
She makes up things I've said - then criticises me
Q. Hey guys, Need some advice here or just a way to avoid the unnecessary arguments altogether. In short, my girlfriend is continuously saying I've said things I've never said. It's driving me mad because if I defend myself about these things...
A. 20 July 2017: You are in an abusive relationship. What she is doing is called gas lighting. I don't understand why you are still with a woman you know is a liar. ... (read in full...)
Things were good until his ex' got involved
Q. I met a guy online in January who is a really great guy. He's a bit older than me but that doesn't bother me. He's 37,I'm 27. We spoke for about 3 weeks before we met for real. We got on instantly and after a few weeks, we began spending more and ...
A. 16 July 2017: This has nothing to do with his ex. The guy is using you. Stop seeing him because you're going to get nothing but lies from this guy.... (read in full...)
Why has he not met me yet?
Q. There's this guy I like.... so he keeps making plans to meet me then goes quiet for the before and day of. Why, does he not really like me? Does he really like me and is nervous? We seem to get on well over text and phone and social medi...
A. 16 July 2017: Stop making plans to meet him. ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if he's in contact with my colleagues?
Q. I used to work with a bloke and have texted him a few times, he doesn't respond and yet I sense that he is in contact with other people he worked with but not me. Before he left he made out that he wanted to keep in touch but instead ignores me ...
A. 16 July 2017: You sound strangely paranoid. Why would your coworkers all lie to you?
When he said let's stay in touch he was being polite but he did not mean it. If he doesn't want to contact you you can't make him. Leave him alone and get on with your lif... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex wife still comes into the house every week
Q. My boyfriend of a year is divorced three years and his ex wife comes into his house with their High School children to collect any things they have left there when hes at work. She comes in with them and into the lounge and kitchen etc and has a ...
A. 15 July 2017: It's none of your business what he does with his house. If this bothers and he won't do anything about it live elsewhere. I would because let's face it allowing your ex to walk around your house is creepy. But he allows her to do this because he ... (read in full...)
A man who she has been dating for 3 weeks gets more recognition than I did in 3 years!
Q. I am so upset and livid right now and I just need some words of wisdom and kind responses to bring me back down. I'm a gay female. I spent 3 years in a relationship with a woman. I was the only woman that she'd ever been with. It was one of th...
A. 15 July 2017: There are no words that are going to make you feel any better because you aren't upset with her you're upset with yourself. And rightly so. When an out gay person dates a closeted gay they voluntarily go back in the closet and that is the worst type ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my fiance and am looking at others because of the lack of sex in our relationship
Q. Looking for advice... I'm marrying my fiancé next year whom I've been with for 9 years. We've had our ups and downs over the years and he's not had much time for me over the past couple of years as he's been studying on top of his full time job. Thi...
A. 15 July 2017: Don't get married. No one ever wants to talk about sexual incompatibility but it is one of the biggest killers of relationships. If you marry this man before you fix your problem you and he will regret it. ... (read in full...)
I almost cheated with this married woman. Do I tell her husband what she does?
Q. Mostly as a result of feeling sexually neglected by my wife, who is unwilling to understand there's a problem, I was recently tempted to cheat on her with another married woman. Now, I need to be clear- there was no sex, but the temptation was t...
A. 15 July 2017: This woman's marriage is none of your business. You need to forget about her and work on your own marriage. If your wife won't work on it with you leave.... (read in full...)
How do I get out of loving the "other man" when I'm a married woman?
Q. 4 years ago I became colleagues with a man I met online. He knew I was married from the beginning and he was always platonic with me, or so I thought, Things soon started getting weird between us and he started acting jealous whenever I'd men...
A. 13 July 2017: Leave your husband he deserves better than a woman who doesn't love him. Maybe once you're divorced the love of our life will leave his wife to be with you. Hey it's worth a shot.... (read in full...)
Step daughter doesn't want the step family moving into Dad's house!
Q. My boyfriend has a 10 year old daughter with his ex, I have a 8 year old from a previous relationship, and when we first got together our girls got on well. We have been together for 2 years, and recently we started thinking about moving in ...
A. 8 July 2017: I don't know if the bf's ex is still around, if she is the girl is obviously holding out hope for a reconciliation. Your moving in will crush that. There is also the jealously factor. She has had daddy to herself and now you are moving in on her ... (read in full...)
My friend seems keen for me to have sex with his wife
Q. I am single guy....... A friend of mine and his wife who I have both known for years,went over my apartment last night, after drinking at a local bar,and we ended up having a threesome, after he encouraged her... afterwards it was a little...
A. 8 July 2017: You friend has a cuckold fetish or a hot wife fantasy. It is more common than you would think. Personally I wouldn't do it. But since you've already done it once and clearly they are keen on it enjoy the ride.... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she wont just delete her profile from online dating sites!
Q. It's hard to know where to start, and I know this will turn into a long post so I appreciate anyone willing to read through and offer advice. I've been in a long-term-relationship for about six years, we're the same age. When things are good,...
A. 7 July 2017: You know perfectly well why she hasn't deleted her online dating profile. But if you need someone else to say it here it is; She hasn't deleted her online dating profile because she is looking for someone else. Or several someone else's. She hasn't ... (read in full...)
He's asking about people I've slept within the past 2 years!
Q. I've recently got into a relationship with a guy i've been seeing on and off for a long time. We've only been together a couple of months officially but he's began to ask about people i've slept with over the past two years. He's quite insecure as ...
A. 6 July 2017: My old grandpap used to say "A man who can't put the past behind him is doomed to live in it."
Tell him that you are not going to discuss your past love life with him. Give him one chance. If he brings it up again dump him. Because he's going to c... (read in full...)
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