Friend sponges off everyone. How do I deal with her?
Q. Hi, I have a friend who's used to living off other people. She's funny, smart and she still takes money from her parents (she's 39 years old!), "borrows" money and promises to pay back at some point. Goes out for drinks, meals and almost never...
A. 4 November 2017: Your “friend” is a conniving con artist. Grow a spine and tell her no. You are not responsible for her or what she does with her parents or others. So I repeat. In the words of Nancy Reagan “Just say no!”... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has women all around him and I've asked him to stay away from them and be with men
Q. I have a 42 yr old bf we dating for two years now i moved in with him in his town.i found a job in that area.he has been working 23 yrs at this company and had three wives within this company he tells everyboy what happens in his affairs most of the ...
A. 4 November 2017: You’re kidding right? A soon to be thrice divorced serial philanderer who openly brags about his sexual conquests and you plan to marry someone like that. You actually expect that he is going to change for you? You are delusional. You are not goin... (read in full...)
Christmas rosta bias. Bah! Humbug!
Q. Our xmas party (dinner/drinks) is in Dec. My boss at work did the roster so his favourites could go. Is this fair? Obviously some people have to work, but he made sure his favourite colleagues could go. Those of us working are OK in his eyes but...
A. 4 November 2017: This sounds like something you need to take up with his boss. If he rearranged the work schedules in such a way that the burden is put on some people and it sounds like it in your case that is something Hospital management needs to know about.... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my parents treat me and I'm thinking of running to my boyfriend in Canada
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy online for about 5 years now. I trust him alot and we do love each others. My problem is my parents. I've hated living with them. Everything has abnormal strict rules and im sick of it. I feel im living on a ...
A. 4 November 2017: Running to this “boyfriend” in Canada is a bad idea. Have you actually met this guy? It doesn’t sound as if you have. But it is clearly past time to get out of your parent’s house. What are you doing to become an independent adult? Are you in schoo... (read in full...)
My wife says she won't move out of the house until our divorce is final. Why?
Q. My wife says she's not moving out until our divorce is final. She says she talked to a lawyer. Why wouldn't she just move? She has a home to go to that she bought recently with daughter...
A. 4 November 2017: Because: she knows it makes you angry, her mouthpiece told her not to leave until the divorce is final, she is having trouble letting go. It could be any of those reasons or a combination or none of them. Have you asked her? If you can’t get a ju... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves me, but can't trust me!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for over two months. Things were going good, until I lied to him. I told him how I was married to my ex but he was helping me with a certain issue. (I cannot disclose, my boyfriend knows). And he was okay with it. I ...
A. 2 November 2017: You have been with this guy two months and you feel you need to lie to him why? Now to earn his trust he gets to control you and your interactions with others. This relationship is developing in a very unhealthy way. You need to pull the plug before ... (read in full...)
How do I tell someone not to touch my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for almost two years. We have a good relationship, not much drama, we both prefer that way. He is introvert but in social situations he can have fun if he wants to. I'm an introvert who is socially shy and Don't have m...
A. 1 November 2017: It’s not your job to tell anyone that they can or cannot touch your boyfriend that is his job. You have told him how you feel about and he ignored your concerns because he likes the attention. That is disrespectful to you and inconsiderate in the ... (read in full...)
He wants to propose and I'm just not ready!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. Recently, he has been hinting A LOT that he wants to proposed. He also keeps asking me to find time for him to see my mom.. I know he wants to ask her. Any girl would be super happy... and I am happy... ...
A. 31 October 2017: You say you’re just not ready. Ask yourself honestly are you not ready or are you not ready with him. and if you’re not ready after four years will you ever be.
My guess is that if you’re honest with yourself you will find it’s not the timing it’s... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who has a twin brother and when the brothers and the sister-in-law get together, they make me feel very left out
Q. I have been dating an identical twin for the last 4 years. We have been doing well except when it comes to spending time with his brother and his sister in law. When we are all together, I am always to one that is left out. I always get left out of ...
A. 30 October 2017: You have put up with your boyfriend’s disrespect for four years. Why? It is his job to include you. You have discussed it with him and he has ignored your concerns. It shows his relationship with his brother and SiL is more important than his ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my fiancé after 5 years together, she is begging me to come back!
Q. Hello, We live in one of the bigger cities on the West Coast. Met my ex-fiancee (wow, writing that still hurts) 5 years ago. I run a couple successful tech companies so for the last two years I've been traveling back and forth (spending together...
A. 30 October 2017: You broke up with her for valid reasons. Do not let her drag you back into a bad relationship. But most importantly don’t talk yourself into going back into this toxic relationship.... (read in full...)
Why have I started despising my married lover?
Q. Is it normal for the other woman to start hating or resenting the married man she's been seeing for a while? How does it go from him being able to do no wrong to thinking less of him over time? So, from love to hate? Seems like such a drop in her f...
A. 29 October 2017: You are starting to understand that you will always be second best in his life. He comes to you when it’s convenient for him the occasional slap and tickle then he goes back to his wife and family and his comfortable life leaving you alone and ... (read in full...)
I suffer from social anxiety and it bothers me that he leaves me alone with his mother!
Q. I am in the best relationship I have been in, but there is one little issue... My boyfriend is 24 (I am 22). He is German and I often travel to Germany to be with him, usually staying 1-3 months at a time. The rest of the time I travel a lot for...
A. 29 October 2017: Stop staying in his home. Or when he goes out with friends go out on your own exploring. Or ask his mother if she would accompany you to so local attractions.
This woman opens her home to you for three months at a crack and you treat her like an e... (read in full...)
Do I tell my son she's cheating?
Q. My son's wife is cheating on him. Both she and my son are 29 and have been together for just over 9 years. I received an e-mail about 4 years ago from someone who has sent me evidence that she has been cheating on him for the past 5 or 6 years w...
A. 29 October 2017: You have known for four years that your daughter in law has been betraying your son for the entire length of their marriage and you’ve said nothing. You must not think much of your son. I feel for him the two most important women in his life have ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says his phone was hacked. I don't believe him.
Q. I recently found pictures of my significant other in his phone along with seeing him on website called backpage. I viewed his history and found him looking up girls in different areas. He denied taking those pictures in my bed from not even less ...
A. 28 October 2017: You should kick him out and find another boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Has my husband gone off me
Q. Hello I have a problem with my husband never wanting sex anymore we have been together 6 years and married just over a year ago and now have two children together.in the beginning we were sex maniacs and he couldn't get enough of me now he never ...
A. 28 October 2017: I think you answered your own question. Men can be terribly superficial when it comes to looks.There is also the mommy factor. Some men can’t see their wife as a sex object after she has become a mother especially if he was there for the birth. Or ... (read in full...)
Why would he say "I love you" if he has no intention of changing his life for you?
Q. If a married man you've been involved in a long term relationship with tells you he loves you, could he really mean it, even if he will never leave his wife to be with you? It's a terrible predicament to be in when you realize you now love this ma...
A. 28 October 2017: He tells you he loves you to keep the sex coming. With you he is eating his cake and having it. Continue you waste your life on this guy. Maybe his wife will find out and kick him to the curb then perhaps he’ll come to you.
Of course you could be... (read in full...)
I have unresolved feelings about my wife cheating
Q. Like most guys I know, its not the easiest thing to talk about feelings. I have been struggling with this for a while and has grown more and more to bother me. Hate to divulge that my wife cheated about a year ago but its part of the thorn. S...
A. 28 October 2017: You are married to a cheat and a liar. You had a very bad counselor apparently and now you’re stuck in a marriage with a woman you “love?” but cannot trust. Of course you’re conflicted.
You need to find another therapist. One who can either help... (read in full...)
How do I explain to my fiance that I want to go out dressed up as a female without hurting her feelings?
Q. I'm engaged to a wonderful girl. I've always considered myself a female in my heart. I have been crossdressing secretly in the past but I can't anymore. I really want to go out and be feminine once in a while. I explained my fiancee my situation. I ...
A. 27 October 2017: I don’t understand. You told your fiancée, she said okay but no cheating and she doesn’t want to see you. What more do you want?
Go out when she is not around and don’t go to places you know she goes. You’ll have to cultivate friends outside your... (read in full...)
Guys, do you miss the other woman if the affair ends suddenly?
Q. Guys, do you miss your mistress when your affair ended suddenly. I just ended my affair with a married man. Without stating the reason why. I know it’s wrong to be in love with him. So please spare me all the nasty comments. I feel kinda ...
A. 26 October 2017: I’m sure some guys miss their mistresses. If they had a real emotional connection to her of course he would miss her. If he didn’t have an emotional connection, that is she was just someone he was exchanging bodily fluids with he probably doesn’t ... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister-in-law
Q. I got married 3 years ago, since then i have had a crush on my sister-in-law. She is a beautiful girl. Whenever i see her i have this uncontrollable urge to have sex with her. I love my wife but i also have feelings for my sister-in-law. Neither my ...
A. 23 October 2017: You should behave like an adult. You're not in junior high school. Concentrate on what is important to you. That should be your marriage, I hope. ... (read in full...)
My long distance love wants me to send sexy pictures of myself
Q. I've been going out with this boy for 2 months now and it's a LDR situation. I knew it was going to be hard to not spend all that time together but I felt I could handle it. Lately he's been asking me to send naughty pictures to him and it m...
A. 23 October 2017: Tell him no! The internet is littered with pictures of women who sent pictures to husbands and boyfriends in the belief that they would be safe and they weren't.
Again tell him no and if he continues to ask find a love closer to home. Actually you ... (read in full...)
My husband's coworker made some very odd comments and I'm wondering if there is something going on!
Q. Recently on a ride home my husbands coworker needed a ride home. While we were driving his coworker begin to flirt with my husband, He repeatedly said how much he liked my husband, saying my husband was one of a kind. How he had never met anyone ...
A. 19 October 2017: You asked your husband about it and he became angry and defensive. That more than anything should tell you that this is more than joking around.
It's time to have a serious heart to heart with hubby if he won't talk to you honestly you may have... (read in full...)
Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...
A. 19 October 2017: You have the right to have any friends you want. But the guy didn't ask you out because he wants to be friends. And you know that. From your actions and your boyfriend's reaction I have the feeling this relationship may have run it's course.
I... (read in full...)
Is masturbation gay?
Q. If you are not thinking of anything and just masturbating for pleasure is this homosexual?...
A. 18 October 2017: Only if you're masturbating someone of the same sex as you.... (read in full...)
Torn between my man and my family
Q. I understand that this is a difficult topic for strangers to give me advice on, but worth a try. I came on holiday to Australia from England 4 years ago and met a man. Being only 25 at the time i took the 'go with the flow approach' and we have had...
A. 15 October 2017: I'm in the US my daughter's boyfriend is an Aussie. She is there visiting him now on a long term visa. If she decides to settle down with him my heart will be broken and I know she will be deeply sad. But I love her and I want her to be happy I'm ... (read in full...)
My brother's wedding showed me how regretable mine was
Q. Jealous of Sister In Laws Family Hi community. I just attended my brothers wedding and it was amazing! Such a great day with lovely speeches and an amazing vibe. I got married two months ago and looking at both I'm so jealous of my sister in l...
A. 14 October 2017: A wedding isn't a competition it is joining together of two people in love and hopefully two families. That you cant celebrate what you have and what you and your husband did together is terribly terribly sad. You Have my pity your husband has my ... (read in full...)
I overshared family information about my heritage with a professor and am now feeling very anxious
Q. I overshared information a week ago with my university tutor and have had severe anxiety since! I was showing my tutor some of my work for the class which included a reference to Aboriginal Australians. I then blurted out that my father is ...
A. 13 October 2017: I understand that racism is endemic in Australia in fact you seem to have picked some of it up. What a pity. But I think you may be blowing this out of proportion.
Do you have any reason to believe that your tutor goes around discussing the ethn... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife have a young lover since I can't perform as I once did?
Q. My wife (aged 55)and very attractive, and I have been married for 24 years and over the last 3 years I (aged 57) have had trouble maintaining an erection during sex, I have tried all the usual medications but I get side effects from them, so I have ...
A. 13 October 2017: If it's what she wants and you can live with it go ahead. I could never do it but I have too much respect for myself to believe this "it's just sex nonsense."
Good luck to you. You're probably going to need it.... (read in full...)
Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 10 October 2017: You need a new girlfriend. Relationships run their course and these have run theirs. Both the one with your GF and your friend. It is clear that she has transferred her affection to him and he seems to be reciprocating.
They may not be having a phys... (read in full...)
I can't wait to get married - but family issues putting a dampener on it.
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some advice. My fiancé and I are engaged and are soon to start planning our wedding. I have an extremely difficult mother, and because of that she has pretty much damaged all family ties I have with aunts/uncles/cousins. ...
A. 10 October 2017: It's sad that your mother is still controlling you.
Plan your wedding;invite your father and his partner and any other relatives you want to invite. If you choose to invite your mother invite her; although I cannot imagine why you would. If she ... (read in full...)
How to move on after a bad relationship?
Q. Hi my name is Danielle and I am 24 years old I am currently single and living with my parents. I am writing this because I do not know how to go on and to move on with life. About a year ago I left my ex boyfriend.. I thought we were soulmates and ...
A. 10 October 2017: First I am glad you got away from the abusive tool you were with. It sounds to me as if you are suffering from PTSD. You say you don't have time to go to therapy because of your job. I'll take it at your word that you work seven days a week. But no ... (read in full...)
Other people have forgiven him, so why cant our children?
Q. One year ago my husband of 23 years was arrested, he had been looking at underage pornography. 45 counts of category a amongst other. Myself and our family were totally shocked as he had always been a very good person who helped all the family and ...
A. 7 October 2017: You expect your adult children who have young children of their own to ignore the fact that your husband was caught viewing child sexual abuse pornography? Lady you are a piece of work. The most important job a parent has is protecting their ... (read in full...)
Should I suggest to my ex she seek professional help?
Q. I recently went through a bad breakup with a woman I thought was the one. Even though she did it in a cold hearted way I still care deeply for her and have been told that she loves me just not like I love her. The relationship is in the past so I'm ...
A. 7 October 2017: When things are over they are over. She has broken up with you stop hanging on.
If you want to tell your ex she should seek therapy tell her but it doesn't mean she'll listen. After you have done that move on with your life.... (read in full...)
How do you treat a friend who doesn't act like one?
Q. Since last year May I started hanging out with two new friends, Jennifer and Jackie. I knew Jackie since late-high school but we virtually never spoke. At the time, I was good friends with her best friend, Nancy, and they're still best friends ...
A. 7 October 2017: She sounds like someone who is socially awkward or at least she is around you. Perhaps she is that way around all men. But it's clear she is trying to be a friend, she picked you up at the airport on no notice.
Try to be a little more patient ... (read in full...)
My wife is another man's slave
Q. My wife is deeply into S and M and I am not. I discovered that she has become the slave of another man, but still professes she loves me. I have allowed her to spend 2 or 3 nights a week with her dom. I don't think I can find any way to give her...
A. 6 October 2017: This is the plot of a cuckold s&m stroke story.
But giving you the benefit of the doubt we'll proceed as if it's true.
She has betrayed you and your marriage. If you can't accept that send her to live with her dom, divorce her and find a woman wh... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be turned on by a thong?
Q. I'm a 26 year old male and I have a question regarding a fetish that I have had since I was probably like 11 years old. Basically my fetish revolves around women's thong panties specifically. When I was just entering puberty I found thongs to be...
A. 5 October 2017: There is nothing wrong with being turned on by thong underwear. Unless it takes over your sex life then you need to see a therapist about it. ... (read in full...)
How do I handle his awful younger sister who assumes she's one of my bridesmaids?!?
Q. Hello everyone, I am not sure how to ask this question. My boyfriend and I are getting married (yay!!) but have one small problem. I hate, and I mean *hate* his younger sister. She has been an absolute mess to deal with our entire relationshi...
A. 5 October 2017: This may be your problem but It is your fiancé' s job to tell his sister that she is not going to be your bridesmaid. He needs to do it now and he needs to do it in no uncertain terms.
Be firm, do not be wishy washy. And do not relent. ... (read in full...)
Should I attend my Son's wedding?
Q. I am a dad who doesn't get along well with his only son. He is getting married in a couple days and have chosen a non cleric, non blood related family member to officiate the ceremony, a man I totally despise and have never gotten along with. I like ...
A. 5 October 2017: Grow the heck up. This wedding isn't about you it's about your boy and his new wife. If you can't support your son go for her and your wife.
You and your son sound a lot alike. If you can't go because it's the right thing to do for your family g... (read in full...)
He's bragged about cheating on me behind my back but denies it when I confront him!
Q. Have been told by strangers, friends and family that my boyfriend of twenty years has bragged about cheating on me every chance he gets when he's working out of town. He actually butt dialed me during one of his bragging sessions to a friend and I ...
A. 3 October 2017: There is an old joke goes something like this, A woman comes home and finds her husband in bed with another woman. As She starts to yell at them they both get up and calmly get dressed and the woman walks out. The husband sits down to read the pape... (read in full...)
I feel excluded by boyfriend's decision to visit alone...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six years--on and off--but consistently now for the past three years. I suspect that he’s a bit emotionally unavailable because of his compartmentalization tendencies and the fact that he’s told me he’s ...
A. 1 October 2017: I would begin dating someone else while he is away. The SiL is uncomfortable because he knows you are not part of the family in the boyfriend's eyes. Boyfriend not taking you to see the daughter and the grandchild who I suspect in your heart you ... (read in full...)
I am tired of feeling unsatisfied and sexually frustrated!
Q. My boyfriend of over 1 year now will not satisfy me sexually. I feel like my needs do not matter to him! When I say I still haven't cum yet. Hes like "well what do you want me to do?" Then I tell him to finger me or something. He usually falls ...
A. 1 October 2017: His an uncaring oaf who leaves you sexually frustrated and then makes you feel bad about yourself. You want to stay with this chsrmer why? ... (read in full...)
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