I ended it with her, but even after a year and a half, I can't seem to move on...
Q. I started going out with my ex when is was 17. She was my first love. We went out with each other for three and half years and looking back they where the best years of my life although we did split up once or twice. I ended the relation...
A. 2 July 2005: You have to try and forget her. Every time you start to think about her, change the subject in your mind, if you keep doing this, eventually you will forget her, because lets face it, it doesnt sound like theres any future between you. ... (read in full...)
We agreed to split... but when he went out with someone else, I decided I want him back!
Q. Last December I felt really fed up in my marriage of 18 months and told my husband I wanted to call it a day. At the time he told me that he understood, as it had been going downhill. At a xmas party, Ii pulled a bloke and was texting him for a wh...
A. 2 July 2005: Dont forget you were the one who wanted to call it a day. You met someone else and it didnt work out, your husband met someone else and now youre jealous? It sounds to me like you have one rule for yourself and another for your husband. You have to ... (read in full...)
Falling for my boyfriend's best friend. Help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriends for a couple of years now but I have fallen in love with somebody else: his best friend! What do I do? I love his friend but do not think he loves me. Do I just stay with my boyfriend and hope that it is just a passin...
A. 2 July 2005: Sounds like a passing stage to me, dont do anything about it.... (read in full...)
I'm married and I love my husband...I just wish I could stop thinking of this other man!
Q. I am married but I have feelings for another man. I want to love my husband, but I still think about this other man. How can I keep my marriage? ...
A. 2 July 2005: You MUST forget and break off all contact with this other man. When you made the choice to get married you chose to forsake all others. Think about it.... (read in full...)
The guy of my dreams is older - Year 10 - and I don't want to look stupid by asking him out...
Q. Hi I'm 13 and I'm in love with this guy in Year 10. My mates keep saying that they can tell he feels the same way about me. But, I want to believe them and ask him out. The thing is, if he doesn't feel the same way about me, I would feel stupi...
A. 2 July 2005: You have two choices, one is to continue to admire him from afar until you lose interest or you can bite the bullet and ask him out, the worst he can say is no!... (read in full...)
Since our baby was born, we seemingly argue over nothing! Is it going to split us up?
Q. Myself and my boyfriend had a baby 10 months ago. I work and my boyfriend minds the baby at home. In the past 4 months we have had daily arguments, sometimes hourly, over not really anything at all, but it is really getting us down. We cant sit and ...
A. 2 July 2005: I know this may sound stupid in this day and age but maybe your boyfriend feels that he should be the one working as its the "mans job" to support his family and therefore he feels inferior to you. He may be stressed with looking after the baby. ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do because a girl younger than me fancies me...
Q. Hi, I'm a 17yr old male, and I've met this girl who's 14 but she looks older. We get on well but she says she fancies me and I don't know what to do. Please Help. ...
A. 2 July 2005: if you like her and dont care that shes 14, ask her out! ... (read in full...)
We're second cousins, and my parents would freak if they knew we're in love!
Q. I have a boyfriend that lives 2 hours away for me. I have been with him for a year and almost three months, but we have a huge problem: we love each other but our parents don't want us to be together because we are second cousins. My parents ...
A. 2 July 2005: What age are you and what age is he? Perhaps your parents are worried about the age difference? I assume that you know there is nothing illegal about second cousins (or cousins for that matter) having a relationship together. I think your parents ... (read in full...)
I'm reluctant to have sex with my girlfriend because I think my penis doesn't measure up!
Q. I am 17, am dating a girl, I haven’t yet had sex, but the time is getting closer where it will happen, and I want it to, but I am very self conscious about the size of my manhood. I hear of the average size being 6.5 inches, but after measuring mine ...
A. 2 July 2005: Bev's right, Size doesnt matter!... (read in full...)
I proposed then self destructed that very night!
Q.
dear cupids arrow, I have to admit ive never been one to commit myself to any one person even though the idea of a monogamous relationship is really what ive craved for a long time. The problem is that just when I decide to commit myself to a ...
A. 2 July 2005: No, youre not ready to get married, you dont even sound ready for a relationship! You dont deserve a girlfriend.... (read in full...)
There's nothing between us any more. Should I carry on for the sake of our child?
Q. Hi I'm desperately unhappy. My partner is five months pregnant .. we do not get on ... no love, no care, no kindness... and we are about to move into a house togther. Should I go through with it for the sake or our baby or end it now please ? ...
A. 2 July 2005: If you are really unhappy and dont feel that you could live with your partner then break it off now. Make arrangements to see the baby regularly and support her throughout her pregnancy but its better to break it off now than breaking up a family a ... (read in full...)
I just want my girlfriend to admit that the porn on the laptop is hers, but she won't...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year now. We've had our ups and downs just like anyone else, but recently we've been arguing often. Recently, I accessed her laptop and found cookies with evidence of porn and videos. I decided ...
A. 1 July 2005: Maybe it wasnt hers, sometimes my pc downloads porn that i havent been looking at. Maybe shes embarrassed about being 'caught' ? I wouldnt worry about it.... (read in full...)
I think he needs to shower more than he has been. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now. He is the first uncircumcised guy I've ever been with and I have had more yeast infections than normal over the past year (which I've heard is common with uncircumcised guys). My question...
A. 1 July 2005: Youll have to be blunt with him. suggest kindly each night that he has a shower if he refuses or comes up with some excuse, say to him "well, why not just have a wash down in the sink" at least hed be partially clean afterwards. If all else fails ... (read in full...)
Can I have one last fling with an incredible guy on my way to the altar, or not?
Q. I am getting married in August to a man I love very much and we are in a very happy relationship. However I met a man through work, and we made a heart stopping connection. There is a chemistry between us and I can't stop thinking about him. I rece...
A. 1 July 2005: If you are considering having a night of passion with another man before you get married then you dont love your boyfriend enough to marry him. You have to walk away from either one or the other.... (read in full...)
We've been married for 4 years, but we can't have sex because it hurts too much!
Q. Dear Cupid I am 27, and I've been married for 4 years. I have tried to have sex with my partner but had no luck. Every time my partner tries to insert his penis it does not go in, we tried everything, I be in so much pain as though someone is cutti...
A. 1 July 2005: there is a medical condition that causes the vaginal muscles to involuntarily contract ( i cant remember the name) making intercourse difficult or impossible, it sounds to me like you have the symptoms of this. Go and see your GP or practise nurse ... (read in full...)
My wife won't give me a blowjob. She won't even talk about it!
Q. I am in a perfect relationship in every way except for one thing. I adore oral sex - nothing else quite does it for me - but I haven't had a complete blowjob for 3 years. When I first met my wife, she did it every time - she even swallowed. But afte...
A. 1 July 2005: If she's really repulsed I certainly don't think you should force her to do anything she doesnt want to do. To broach the subject just tell her how much you would like it and why and if she still isn't for it youll just have to try and accept its ... (read in full...)
My ex gets thrown out and he comes to stay with me...
Q. My ex now lives with someone else. Since last year he has been back to me 3 times since he moved in with her & stays for over a week. He also comes up on other occasions (she claims she throws him out). I have told her what he's doing. She don't se...
A. 1 July 2005: If this was my ex, I'd tell him to get lost! He's just using you and preventing you moving on to a life without him. Also if my boyfriend was going to stay with his ex every time we had a row itd be curtains! she sounds as bad as him!... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if she likes me, but I'm very attracted to her. What can I say? What if she rejects me?
Q. Hello I am at presently passing through a very disturbed state of mind and I want a help from you. The reason is that I am in love with a girl whom I have started liking. I am in very deep love with this girl but she seem to never think abou...
A. 1 July 2005: I dont think she'll accept if you propose as you dont say that you are even in a relationship with her! I'd agree with "anonymous" ask her out, the worst she can say is no and would that make you feel any worse than you do now? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got boring, then I found myself dating a 36-year-old. What do I do next?
Q. I'm 19 and I have a boyfriend that I've been seeing for over 3 years. He's six years older then me. We have our own apartment. I love him and he loves me. But the thing is I have recently been feeling like we need a break. My b/f has just got really ...
A. 1 July 2005: its not fair to be seeing both these men at once. you have to decide which one you want and tell the other one its over......for good. ... (read in full...)
Don't know if I should keep my boyfriend's age a secret...
Q. dear cupid, well I have been dating this boy I know, but the problem is he is 23yrs old and I am 15yrs old. Do YOU think we should keep it secret like what we are doing now or not? Please give us advice ok?...
A. 1 July 2005: I think theres something not right with him wanting to date a 15 y/o!... (read in full...)
I can see the error of my ways now, but I don't know how to make it up to her...
Q. hi, i'm a male of 21 and i've been dating a girl who i love to bits for a year and a quarter. she had an operation last week and i took the week off to look after her. on the last day she said she wanted to be friends. i was devastated and...
A. 1 July 2005: I take it that when you say you have spoken to her about it you have told her exactly how you feel and why you feel that way? If not do so now, at least you will know you tried even if she doesnt want to get back together. You will have to allow th... (read in full...)
My new bf keeps warning me not too get too involved... but we have an amazing connection!
Q. I am wondering if I am worrying for nothing - just be relationship phobic. New guy I am dating. He has been hurt a lot and is going thru a divorce. Claims he has no past relationships that he has maintained a friendship afterwards. Keeps warning ...
A. 1 July 2005: reassure him and treat him kindly and with respect, he will gain confidence and feel better about both himself and your relationship.... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend adjust to his parents' separation?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, My boyfriends mother has decided that she can't live with his Dad anymore and is moving out. This isn't really shock news because they have been fighting for months. However, my boyfriend (16) is feeling unsuprisingly ro...
A. 1 July 2005: You seem to be doing all you can at the moment by being there for him when he needs you. it will take a while for him to adjust to his new situation and the only other thing you can do, is wait until he comes to terms with the situation.... (read in full...)
Should I be giving my boyfriend another chance after he kissed someone else?
Q. I'm 16 years old and I have just gotten back together with my ex Tom. We have been dating for about 10 months now, but we have broken up 4 times already (but no longer than 2 weeks). About a month and a half ago, he cheated on me (he kissed anoth...
A. 1 July 2005: Dont worry abvout your friends for a start. give him this chance to prove himself to you and if he cheats again, dump him for good!... (read in full...)
I asked him to stop online chatting and porn, but he did it behind my back!
Q. My b/f 35 and I'm 33. At one time he was talking with girls on line and he was even calling them up and he also looked at porn all the time. He told me would stop and I thought he did but I found out he has been chatting with them again,and still lo...
A. 1 July 2005: Tell him firmly that this must STOP! If he ignores your wishes, you will have to make him decide between you and chatting with these strangers on the internet. here may have been no harm in his chatting but he should NOT be calling girls up when hes ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and we have lots of sex, so why does he need to look at porn?
Q. I have recently found out that my husband has been looking at soft porn sites on the internet, and has looked at magazines etc. He says this is perfectly normal behaviour for a man. I was upset by this. He couldnt explain why he does it; can you? ...
A. 1 July 2005: How often does he look at it? If it's now and again I wouldn't worry. If it's on a regular basis I would firmly tell him that you are not happy with it and want it to stop. If he ignores this throw out his magazines and buy an adult filter program ... (read in full...)
Are there any circumstances where it's OK to hit someone?
Q. Can anyone please tell me if there are ever circumstances where it is understandable to hit a woman? Picture a scene of a grump, overweight and lazy woman who constantly nags her husband when he comes in from work, shattered. She won't leave hi...
A. 1 July 2005: If your at the stage where you are beginning to think your wife's behaviour deserves physical punishment, then you must leave her. You say you love her but if you did you wouldn't be trying to (or getting others to) justify hitting her. It doesnt ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't swallow. Can I talk her around to seeing it my way?
Q. hiya, I was just wondering. I have been going out with my gilfriend for 3 years and I really want her to swallow my cum. Are there any ways in whichI can get her to do this? Thanx...
A. 1 July 2005: Please dont get a blow up doll! This sounds awful and I can't imagine how seeing your man with a blow up doll would be a turn on at all, I'd be sick!... (read in full...)
She used to pressure me, but I kind of miss it... Should I go back to my ex?
Q. My dilemma is complex...I had a good relation that went sour. THe sourness came out of constant pressure from her in order to get married or at least have something serious. I started acting harsh with her when caught by the pressure. I have to ...
A. 1 July 2005: Dont blame yousrself for you ex's temper. Why should you break off a good relationship ith your new woman only to go back to your ex to stop her nagging? She will never change and I dont think you want to commit to her, if you did, you wouldnt have ... (read in full...)
My ex says she now wants me "as a friend", but I get other signals too!
Q. Hi all, I would really appreciate your help in this matter. Some time ago I started up an affair with a colleague of mine. Both of us were already in relationships. Cut a long story short, we fell in love and then I had to move to a differen...
A. 1 July 2005: This woman is toying with you, if she really wants you as a friend, she wouldn't be making empty promises about becoming a couple. Remain friends with this woman if you wish but make it clear to her that you are not interested in a relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sweet, my ex is better, but another ex is better still. What do I do?
Q. I'm going out with this really sweet boy, but he just doesn't give me want I want. My previous relationships have been with older boys who are up for more. But the other day my ex came on to me and we kissed. I love my boyfriend but I'm also hav...
A. 1 July 2005: If you arent getting anything from the relationship you are in, I suggest you tell your boyfriend this and allow him to move on with his life, as for your ex, he has a girlfriend at the moment so you should stay away from him. How would you like ... (read in full...)
Three's a crowd in our flat... but the place belongs to my b/f's mate, who's mad at me.
Q. I met a guy while I was working abroad. We were friends straight away and at first I wasn't attracted to him but I fell in love with his personality straightaway than I started to feel attracted to him. We got on really well we were an item and we w...
A. 1 July 2005: Where did your boyfriend get the genital warts? If he suddenly acquired them I would seriously consider his fidelity toward you. Why has this made his friend turn against you? If your boyfriend isn't sticking up for you, I think you should question ... (read in full...)
For no reason I can tell, he just broke it off and says he wants to be friends...
Q. Hi, I'm so sad and depressed at the moment because I was with my boy for months and I fell totally in love with him, but then he called me for no reason and said he just wanted to be friends. I can't stop crying and I see him everyday still, a...
A. 30 June 2005: You cant. He must like you to want to remain friends but he isnt ready to hve a girlfriend. Only he knows why, he is probably at the age where he wants to spend time with his mates doing stupid stuff like playing computer games, i wouldnt worry ab... (read in full...)
I'm married... he's married, but he said he was "madly in love" with me!
Q. I have been seeing a married man for about 7 years. It all started as a bit of fun with a sneaky cuddle here and there and a few trips to the cinema. In the last year I myself have married my partner of 10 years and had 2 children. Just lately t...
A. 30 June 2005: I think your lover wants to remain just that..... your lover, if he wanted otherwise he would have made more of a commitment after 7 years. I believe he loves his wife more than you if he remains to keep you his 'bit on the side'.... (read in full...)
Ever since we kissed, I can't think of anything else but him!
Q. Last week I kissed this lad who I have always liked but didnt think he liked me in that way. Ever since that kiss all I can think about is him. Does this mean I'm in love with him? ...
A. 30 June 2005: You cant fall in love after one kiss. How much do you really know about this boy? It's when you know all someone's personal quirks both good and bad that you grow to love them. You are infatuated!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he "loves" me, but he's not "in love with" me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 10 months. Two and half of these months has been long distance. Were about 5 hours apart. It has been hard but I believe in him so much and love him so much that I'm willing to do this long distance ...
A. 30 June 2005: Maybe he works 7 days but he's off 7 days too. If he really wanted a future in this relationship after nearly 2 years he would be spending more time with you. Also he wouldn't want to hurt your feelings by saying he wasnt 'in love' with you if he ... (read in full...)
Why would I call my girlfriend by her sister's name? I have no interest in her sister!
Q. Hello there. I have a problem, I am deeply in love with my girlfriend but, in the last three weeks, she says that before I fall asleep or when I am really tired I have called her by her sisters name. I really don't recall saying it, but she is ...
A. 30 June 2005: I'd be cross if my boyfriend did that too, but I think it must just be because you spend a lot of time with her sister and therefore, you will say her sister's name a lot in general conversation, so if you are half sleeping you'll be more prone to ... (read in full...)
I know my friends will tease me about this guy I fancy. What do I do?
Q. I am a tomboy and I fancy this boy and am gonna go out with him but the only trouble is that my friends will all make fun of me and always say "aaaarrrrr" and stuff! And say "Marnie's getting girlie" (thats me). They will also all want to meet him...
A. 30 June 2005: I know how you must feel. Here's what to do; tell your friends about him, they might tease you but theyd do that no matter who you fancied! Let them meet him, so what if he's ugly? You like him and thats all that matters....besides, how many of them ... (read in full...)
This guy doesn't want a relationship, but I'd still like to ask him out. How do I do that?
Q. I need advice/help on what to do. I probably sound stupid but I think that I am in love with a guy who has said that he doesn't want a relationship right now. We also haven't talked in two or three months. I can't seem to get over him and I am to ...
A. 30 June 2005: if you havent talked in 4 months i would try to forget about him, chances are hes not as good as your memories of him may seem. If you are determined to ask him out just give him a phone call, have a chat then ask him. The worst he can say is no.... (read in full...)
Work demands are keeping his too busy to see me, but somehow he has time for fun with his mates...
Q. dear cupid I have been in a relationship with a lovely guy for the last year. Things have always been good between us, he has a very demanding work load which has seemed to double over the last few weeks. We dont live together, but manage to se...
A. 30 June 2005: I agree that he isnt trying to be nasty, hes just thoughtless, but you need to think of yourself. If you had only been seeing each other a few months, I would say this behaviour is ok, but a year long relationship deserves more time and effort to ... (read in full...)
My partner and I hit a brick wall every time we try to discuss our future. He just isn't ready for marriage.
Q. I have been with my partner for 5 years we have lived together for 4. We love each other very much but everytime we talk about marriage we hit a brick wall. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but tells me he just isn't ready. I'm ha...
A. 30 June 2005: If this is making you upset you have to try and talk to him about it again. tell him exactly how you feel. tell him that you dont want to remain unmarried forever and that if he cant show his commitment now then you have different goals in life and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he "loves" me, but he's not "in love with" me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 10 months. Two and half of these months has been long distance. Were about 5 hours apart. It has been hard but I believe in him so much and love him so much that I'm willing to do this long distance ...
A. 30 June 2005: if the relationship makes you happy, then continue it. If you are not happy with the way things are, end it as it sounds like you will have to make all the compromises in your relationship....do you really want to live like that.? It sounds like ... (read in full...)
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