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writes: I'm 19 and I have a boyfriend that I've been seeing for over 3 years. He's six years older then me. We have our own apartment. I love him and he loves me. But the thing is I have recently been feeling like we need a break. My b/f has just got really boring; all he does is sit in front of the TV it seems anymore. And he's not romantic at all any more. I go speed skating every week and I just started going on the Adult night skate, and there's this guy there that I thought was really cute, but then I found out he had a girlfriend so I never really talked to him, but then we somehow became friends, and before I know it his g/f breaks up with him,(she was 22) and before I know it I'm going out with this guy, who by the way I thought looked in his 20's, is 36. But there's something about him I can't get over, he's so sweet and just seems perfect. I just don't know what to do: leave my b/f for him or not? The age is a big concern, and I'm not really sure what he wants out of our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): my daughter is stuck with an older guy and can't get out...Get out while you can....They've had their fun go have yours.
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reader, Tabbie +, writes (3 July 2005):
It's me the one who posted this question. A lot has happend in a week. I told my b/f that I want to go on a break, and yeah he was pissed.. and said that he will never take me back. As for the older guy, I've been dating him, everything's great, but my mom found out. Well I told her how old he was because she would find out from someone else anyways, and she's basically freaking out, and telling me that I'm so stupid for breaking up with my b/f, for this older man, and she knows people that know the older guy and she asked about him (of course) and they told her that he's very nice but he likes to date younger women and he doesn't keep them for very long.. but I still don't know. I tried telling him that I don't think we should see each other right now, but I just cant bring myself to doing it. He's all I ever think about.. yikes..lol
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reader, becky05 +, writes (1 July 2005):
its not fair to be seeing both these men at once. you have to decide which one you want and tell the other one its over......for good.
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reader, pops +, writes (26 June 2005):
Age should be a concern at your age. He has much more experiences at his age than you can possibly know, and he will have different interests than you do. Keep him as a friend, and maybe a lover, if you choose, but look for someone closer to your age for marriage prospects. Regarding your boyfriend, You once thought he was apple in your eye, so what changed? Do you talk to him? Do you make " dates" still. Plans for trips, outings, window shopping evenings. Is he stuck in a bad job, but feels he has to keep it because it pays the bills. Talk to him. Sometimes making another investment in what you already have is worth much more than trying out someone new.
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