For 3 months he was the most considerate guy ever. Then he just disappeared and won't return my calls!
Q. For three blissful months I have been really happy with my new boyfriend. He seemed to be absolutely perfect- he texts me several times a day, rang me often, gave me lifts to and from work. We saw each other most days and he was always saying he ...
A. 7 July 2005: Glad your problem was sorted out, Ive had boyfriends like this before, god knows why they do it but youve had a lucky escape. Good luck in the future!!! xx... (read in full...)
For 3 months he was the most considerate guy ever. Then he just disappeared and won't return my calls!
Q. For three blissful months I have been really happy with my new boyfriend. He seemed to be absolutely perfect- he texts me several times a day, rang me often, gave me lifts to and from work. We saw each other most days and he was always saying he ...
A. 3 July 2005: Glad things have worked out well, he sounds like a nice guy, maybe just a bit thoughtless. Stick in there!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he "loves" me, but he's not "in love with" me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 10 months. Two and half of these months has been long distance. Were about 5 hours apart. It has been hard but I believe in him so much and love him so much that I'm willing to do this long distance ...
A. 30 June 2005: Maybe he works 7 days but he's off 7 days too. If he really wanted a future in this relationship after nearly 2 years he would be spending more time with you. Also he wouldn't want to hurt your feelings by saying he wasnt 'in love' with you if he ... (read in full...)
My partner and I hit a brick wall every time we try to discuss our future. He just isn't ready for marriage.
Q. I have been with my partner for 5 years we have lived together for 4. We love each other very much but everytime we talk about marriage we hit a brick wall. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but tells me he just isn't ready. I'm ha...
A. 30 June 2005: If this is making you upset you have to try and talk to him about it again. tell him exactly how you feel. tell him that you dont want to remain unmarried forever and that if he cant show his commitment now then you have different goals in life and ... (read in full...)
For 3 months he was the most considerate guy ever. Then he just disappeared and won't return my calls!
Q. For three blissful months I have been really happy with my new boyfriend. He seemed to be absolutely perfect- he texts me several times a day, rang me often, gave me lifts to and from work. We saw each other most days and he was always saying he ...
A. 30 June 2005: Was he really in hospital supporting a family member? Or was this just an excuse to break your date? Sounds to me like this man doesnt want a relationship and hes not got the guts to tell you, so he's hoping you'll just 'disappear'. Forget about him ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to be sensible about my summer-camp guy... but could it work?
Q. ok so here is my thing. Summer loves...Im sure you have heard a lot about them. Well I went to a camp for a week right? And I met this awesome guy. I can be myself around him, and do whatever, and he still looks at me the same. I looked really g...
A. 30 June 2005: Why dont you stay friends for a little while, see how you get on and whether things might progress from there? ... (read in full...)
Six months into our marriage I discovered she's exchanging nude photos with other guys!
Q. I married my wife last Dec. A few weeks ago I saw her email and discovered she having affair with some guys from the internet and had sex with them few days before our wedding and I also discovered she loves meeting guys from the internet and even ...
A. 30 June 2005: First, you need to get solid proof. Show her what you have found on the internet and she wont be able to lie about it. Tell her (firmly) that you want her to stop otherwise your marriage will be over. If this fails, I would get rid of the computer.... (read in full...)
It's a new relationship and I don't have much experience. I just don't know where to start!
Q. I was in a 6 and a half year relationship, I am 24yrs old, female, and only ever slept with my ex. I have some one new in my life, we don't want nothing serious, just some fun. Problem is I don't know where to start. I am absolutely terrified. ...
A. 30 June 2005: Start by going out places together, cinema, park etc. This will give you time to get to know each other and things should progress gradually.... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend just tired, like he says... or was he trying to get rid of me?
Q. Dear agony aunt, Am I just being paranoid or is there some truth in what I'm feeling? Is he cheating on me? i I've been with me boyfriend for five months and everything was going really well up until a couple of weeks ago when he started to get dist...
A. 30 June 2005: I dont think that hes cheating on you, maybe he feels that things are getting more serious and he's not ready for this or, on the other hand, he may, as he says be tired with work and other things and feels that he needs a little time to himself. ... (read in full...)
He's 48, but he says he'll wait two more years, until I turn 18...
Q. hi...I'm a 15 year old girl who has really strong feelings for a 48 year old man, and I know that he feels the same, as we text and talk to each other every night. He's told me he loves me and I know that I love him. He's told me that if we want to ...
A. 30 June 2005: It seems very odd to me that ANY man at 48 would wish to have a relationship with a 15 year old. Do you really want to have a 73 year old boyfriend/husband when you're 40? ... (read in full...)
He's with another woman, he's violent, he's given me sexually-transmitted diseases, and he's bi... but I just can't leave him!
Q. I have been with this man now for 8 months on and off. I love him I really do, but the problem is him. He is married with a baby mother and bisexual. He claims that he doesnt have sex with his babymother, yet he is by her house everyday. Don't ...
A. 30 June 2005: I cant believe a man as bad as this exists! Leave now!... (read in full...)
We have a real chemistry, but he also has issues with alcohol... Do I try to help him?
Q. I met a man over the internet and we had an instant chemistry from the start. We decided to meet and the meeting was incredible! True chemistry. Soulmates for sure. Problem is this. There is quite a distance of states between us and he has a ...
A. 30 June 2005: Leave him, you wont be able to change his drinking habits and there is no evidence to suggest what he is like when he is intoxicated, he may be violent or nasty. Remain friends but dont enter into a relationship with this man.... (read in full...)
She and I own a home together, but sometimes I wonder whether that's all we have...
Q. I am currently dating a woman who is divorced and I am as well. We met almost 5 yrs ago and have made and implemented many plans. We purchased a home together, and jointly made a huge financial commitment, which at this point I do not live in with ...
A. 30 June 2005: You say that you dont live with her and her son in your joint property. Why/ If this is because you wont move in she may feel insecure like you dont want to make a commitment, likewise, if she doesnt want you to move in yet she may be afraid of ... (read in full...)
Things are great when we're together, but I'm always the one that initiates everything!
Q. Dear Cupid, ****Should I stay or should I go?**** I have had so much trouble with boys, they're just better off being my friends. I finally met a guy that made me feel differently about having a boyfriend. Now that we are a couple, I feel awkward...
A. 30 June 2005: Back off a bit and see what happens, wait for him to call you and if he doesnt forget about him, hes not worth it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he "loves" me, but he's not "in love with" me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 10 months. Two and half of these months has been long distance. Were about 5 hours apart. It has been hard but I believe in him so much and love him so much that I'm willing to do this long distance ...
A. 30 June 2005: if the relationship makes you happy, then continue it. If you are not happy with the way things are, end it as it sounds like you will have to make all the compromises in your relationship....do you really want to live like that.? It sounds like ... (read in full...)
My current girlfriend read my messages from my ex. Now she doesn't trust me!
Q. My g/f of 4 months read the Messenger history that I had for the past 3 months with an ex of mine in which on several occasions we had cyber sex. Me and my ex had also discussed the problems that me and my current g/f were having, in which my ex had ...
A. 29 June 2005: If my boyfriend did this, hed be out the door!... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, working 50 hours and week and exhausted., but my husband says I should "get over it"!
Q. Help! I just got married .. I mean like three weeks ago .. and I am already ready to leave. My husband is so much different than who I thought I married. I feel like I am raising a second child. I am now pregnant and have one infant and feel like ...
A. 29 June 2005: What a git! I know you married him for better or worse but this takes the biscuit! I assume you have tried to tell him that you need help with the housework and kids, if not tell him. If he's refusing to help, why dont you try stopping doing ... (read in full...)
Why did my guy get so distant, so suddenly?
Q. When a man pulls away from you emotionally...what is going on? I was dating a man for a long time. We had a nice relationship but then he suddenly would get cold and distant with me for no reason. It was usually after his ex-girlfriend with whom he ...
A. 29 June 2005: Why does he still accept phone calls from his ex? if this was my boyfriend id ask him to change his number. If he didnt or if the calls continued afterwards, i'd dump him!... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be upset because my boyfriend takes me for granted?
Q. I'm having some problem with my boyfriend. I think he is taking me for granted and has no respect for me. For example, he plans to do something with me then he changes his mind for his friends. Obviously I go mad. Is this right and am I wrong he...
A. 29 June 2005: You are right! If you have been going out for more than a couple of months then you should be his priority.......not his friends, if he wanted to hang out with his friends so much he should have remained single, give him an ultimatum and sort this ... (read in full...)
We can't agree... I want a house, THEN a baby. He wants the baby first!
Q. This is a toughie. I've been with my guy for 7 1/2 years. We were engaged about 4 years ago...broke it off and got back together. We have lived together for a year now, back at each other's parents, but now looking at houses together. I've ...
A. 29 June 2005: My boyfriends the same! he wants a family but doesnt want to get married......ever (so he claims) however, i would NEVER have a baby intentionally if I wasnt married, so we are in a catch 22. Id agree with you in wanting the house first as it is a ... (read in full...)
Will my new guy's little daughter accept me if I date her daddy?
Q. I really like this guy and he likes me. We dont live that far away but he has a 3 year old daughter. I cant decide if I get this this guy that I will be accepted. I have always wanted a baby but this wont be mine and she may find it hard for a new ...
A. 29 June 2005: At 3 years old, she probably wont fully understand. If you introduce yourself gradually, perhaps on day trips rather than in the house she should come round rather quickly, also its a good idea for her to just call you by your first name (not auntie ... (read in full...)
Will my fiance's anger issues fade when he can get back to work?
Q. I am thirty-five, divorced, and I have three children and own my own home. I have a problem with my fiance. We have been engaged just over two years. Just after we got engaged, he moved into my house. He was then in a serious accident and was ...
A. 29 June 2005: If this has been going on for the past 2 years then it will never stop. this man is a bully and if you dont leave for your sake, please consider your kids. I was brought upo with a controlling bully of a stepfather and have grown into an insecure... (read in full...)
If he thinks I'm so hot, why won't he dump his girlfriend for me?
Q. Hi, Here's my problem, this guy I have known for about 4 years always flirts around me. He tells me I'm special, sexy, high up in his books and would make a great gf. He has even said he loves me but he has a gf. He has had this gf for the whole ti...
A. 29 June 2005: He wont leave her because it sounds like he wants to have an affair with you. By giving you all these compliments, hes buttering you up and making you like him but dont be fooled, he'll never leave his girlfriend if he hasnt done so already. ... (read in full...)
I texted him and asked if he'd be my boyfriend... but I haven't heard anything in 2 weeks!
Q. hello there I am 13 and I really like this guy who is 14. I recently asked him to be my boyfriend in a text message but he hasnt answered yet and it has been 2 weeks! Do you think he is too embarrassed to text me back or why hasn't he answer...
A. 29 June 2005: I think he might be embarrassed, I used to get embarrassed at that age when people asked me out. On the other hand he might not fancy you which is hard but it also gives you the opportunity to meet someone much nicer who DOES want to go out with ... (read in full...)
I thought we were happy, but my boyfriend has been spending hundreds of pounds calling and texting another woman...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I thought we were really happy, but last night when I was trying to read a message from a friend on his mobile I pressed the wrong button and he had naked pictures messages from another girl. ...
A. 29 June 2005: Dump him! the odd text 'just to see what it was like' may be overlooked, but £235 calling the same woman, he sounds like a sad man that doesnt realise what he has got, you need to tell him that it either stops or its over............for good!... (read in full...)
When we went to the club, everything went great! Now I text her and get no reply...
Q. I’ve come out a long-term relationship about two months ago, since then ive had a fantastic social life. My female friend that ive known for ages (who i dont hang around with) said if I ever wanted to go for a drink with her and a few mates we ...
A. 29 June 2005: I think you should hold off texting her till she comes back her holidays. If she doesnt contact you when she gets back, give her a phone and ask if she wants to meet for a drink, if she says no, say to her "well, you can give me a phone/text ... (read in full...)
Is it the distance between us that's causing the rift, or is it something else?
Q. I have a long distance relationship that has been going on for 3 years and 2 months to date but lately it has been going up and down between us. We hardly see each other due to the fact that we are so far apart but take full advantage when ...
A. 29 June 2005: I think you should wait until your relationship is in a better state before you start talks of getting married, marriage doesnt sort out problems or make things better, it can add to them so wait a while and see how things go. ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about my problems and my depression...
Q. I am 16 and suffer from depression. I have attempted suicide twice. I cannot talk to my parents or friends about my problems. I can only speak to my girlfriend who is also my best friend. We have been together 7 months and I love her but she has ...
A. 28 June 2005: hiya, I am 23 and have had depressive episodes since I was 16 and I am just beginning to recover now.I have also attempted suicide several times in the past. I know it may seem that you wouldnt be able to cope if you lost your girlfriend and I know ... (read in full...)
My b/f claims he looks at porn out of "boredom". Is that possible?
Q. Hello. I see from having looked at your site that this is a common problem. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years. We have a wonderful friendship and we are very affectionate towards each other. Our sex life has been fairly s...
A. 28 June 2005: I had to write a reply to this letter. I am a female and I often look at porn out of 'boredom' although I have a boyfriend and am 100% happy with him. I look at all sorts of things and can honestly say it doesn't turn me on at all. The best way I... (read in full...)
My girl's dad found out some of my history as a stupid kid, and now he won't let me see his daughter!
Q. Guys or Girls, I really need your help on this one because my life depends on it. You may ask well how can a problem with your girlfriend effect your life? Well it's because my girlfriend is my life ya see. Before her I was a lonely "boy". I didn't...
A. 28 June 2005: why not approach her father and say that all the stuff you did was in the past and ask for the opportunity to prove you have changed, spend a few nights round at her house with her mum and dad and let them get to know you as the person you are ... (read in full...)
His ex-girlfriend rings him, and vice versa. Am I the bad guy for wanting it to stop?
Q. My boyfriend, whom I have been dating for about 8 months, still talks to his ex-girlfriend almost every day. It bothers me because I feel that he is not over her; even though he tells me they are "just friends". She always calls him when she is d...
A. 28 June 2005: if this was my boyfriend I'd give him one more chance and tell him to change his number, if the calls continued to his new number, I'd tell him to get lost as this is complete disrespect for you and your relationship.... (read in full...)
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