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I proposed then self destructed that very night!

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Question - (25 November 2004) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 July 2005)
A , anonymous writes:

dear cupids arrow, I have to admit ive never been one to commit myself to any one person even though the idea of a monogamous relationship is really what ive craved for a long time. The problem is that just when I decide to commit myself to a girlfriend , I get this overwhelming urge to self destruct.

Two weeks ago i proposed to my girlfriend it was one of the happiest days of my life, id set up a surprise party and invited all our friends, the night went really well and we all got fairly drunk, a couple of my fiancees girlfriends stayed on after most people had left, and the four of us sat chatting for another hour or so before my fiancee decided shed had enough and staggered up to bedroom, I told her id be up in a bit to join her, of which I had every intension of doing.

as I went to get up one of the two girls grabbed hold of me giggling saying your not going to leave us without at least giving us a goodnight kiss r u, I knew what was coming next, they`ed both been flirting with me all night. In my mind I had a choice, walk away and take the commited life that I so desired or give in to lust and temptation at the hands of these two sexy girls who were determined to have there wicked way with me irrespective of the fact that their best friend was laying asleep right above us. Im ashamed to say I chose to give in to lust and consequently had sex with both of them. it was like someone inside of me took over and dominated my every decision against my will. my fiancee never found out about what happened that night, but iv lived with the guilt every day, I hate myself for being so weak, how can I break this road of destruction that I seem so intent on going down.

please advise!!!

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A female reader, Helen05 +, writes (4 July 2005):

I wonder if you really do feel guilty about this or you just want to tell everyone about the hot sex you had. You seem to crave comittment but i feel that you are not ready for it. Theres nothing to say you have to settlle down now.

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A reader, becky05 +, writes (2 July 2005):

No, youre not ready to get married, you dont even sound ready for a relationship! You dont deserve a girlfriend.

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A male reader, harshbutfair United Kingdom +, writes (20 April 2005):

harshbutfair agony auntYou're not ready to get married yet. Simple as that. Over time you will grow up, but cancel the engagement and chill out.

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