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We've been married for 4 years, but we can't have sex because it hurts too much!

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Question - (3 June 2005) 7 Answers - (Newest, 1 July 2005)
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I am 27, and I've been married for 4 years. I have tried to have sex with my partner but had no luck. Every time my partner tries to insert his penis it does not go in, we tried everything, I be in so much pain as though someone is cutting me open with a knife and I can't bear the pain.

Please advise me because I feel my marriage will come to an end. I have no problem inserting my fingers, It's when it comes to the penis, I also tried doing it with K R Jelly, nothing works.

from a depressed person

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A reader, becky05 +, writes (1 July 2005):

there is a medical condition that causes the vaginal muscles to involuntarily contract ( i cant remember the name) making intercourse difficult or impossible, it sounds to me like you have the symptoms of this. Go and see your GP or practise nurse for a consultation.

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A reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):

Honey, you need to see a gynecologist & he will help you.

I suspect what the problem may be...but a professional will give you a quick exam & diagnose it accurately.

Get this taken care of PRONTO, because sex is Great !

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A reader, shrty8846 +, writes (15 June 2005):

I have the same problem. It hurts real bad and i feel as if i cant please him. i always find a way to not think about it. sing a song or put your thoughts somewhere else. trust me, it takes the pain away a little bit.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2005):

If he decides to leave you, let him go bye-bye! Then look for a guy with a milimeter peter. The tiny penis men need love too.

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A reader, vlwilloughby +, writes (11 June 2005):

I also suffer from this condition however I beleive the way to overcome it is with the love of your husband, If he knows & is gentle throughout lovemaking you can get through it together. Lovemaking does not neccesarliy include sex, it can be as simple as a loving cuddle.

Kind Regards

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005):

Sounds like a disorder called 'vaginismus', which is psychological in nature and is often combined with depression. The muscles of the vagina contract so much that penile penitration is impossible, and it's not a voluntary contraction. Start doing some research on this condition to see if you should seek medical treatment. I don't know your history, but many women with vaginismus have been subjected to terrible sexual and/or emotional experiences at some point in their life. There is much hope for you, if you seek the help you need. Discussing this with your gynecologist is a good place to start, but also consider calling a psychologist who specializes in sexual dysfunction. I wish you peace, because until you truly find it, you may not be having sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005):

Seek medical treatment your doctor can prescribe therapy. But really make a commitment to follow treatment because you will be missing a pleasure that only a loving relationship can give you.

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