Not sure if this guy is really serious. He just brushes me off about our future...
Q. Hi, I'm 16 years old and ever since me and my boyfriend broke up a year ago from a 4 year relationship it's been hard for me to meet someone that I can get serious with. I've been seeing someone now for about 5 months and I feel that he could be...
A. 12 July 2005: youre still a bit young to be thinking about settling down, enjoy your time with this boy and take things as they come.... (read in full...)
Met an online lover, but he was sprung by his wife. Now he won't talk to me!
Q. My husband doesn't have sex with me. About three months ago I took a lover, who is also married. We met online and his wife recently found out about the affair and has requested a divorce. I am very distraught because I am very emotionally attached ...
A. 12 July 2005: Leave this man alone! he will be going through a difficult time in his marriage just now and i believe that you would just add fuel to the fire if you were to contact him again.... (read in full...)
I detect a spark with a co-worker, but I'm about to change workplaces!
Q. Hi, I'm 23yr old woman who is very intelligent and good looking, and believe me I appreciate these gifts. The problem is social, most people are scared of me! Men assume I must be going out with someone. Because I'm seen as a genius most peop...
A. 12 July 2005: Ask him out directly! the worst he can say is no and if youre moving jobs you wont have to see him again. It sounds like he does like you though, I would take the chance.... (read in full...)
Now that Miss X wants me back, I'm engaged to Miss Y. What do I do?
Q. It's a mad situation... I was with a fantastic young lady called Miss X (now 35) for three years, we got on brilliantly, I (now aged 43) bought a house so we could be together, it was just great. There was a problem though, I didn't get on with her...
A. 12 July 2005: Do you think that you will get on any better with Miss X's son now than you did then? probably not. You sound unsure about Miss Y also. I think it would be best if you forgot both of these women until you decide what it is you really want.... (read in full...)
I think my gf lies to me to protect herself... but it's hard on our relationship!
Q. My girlfriend is always hiding things and lying to me. We have a great relationship and I love her very much but how do I get it across to her she needs to be honest with me? She always tells me that there's nothing wrong or nothing on her mind ...
A. 12 July 2005: Depends what the lies are about, if they are lies that are harmful to your relationship then they must stop now. Make yourself available and be willing to talk to your girlfriend about her problems, ask her outright about any problems and make it ... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend get over her disappointment?
Q. I have a friend. We study at the same school. Before she does the Entrance Examination, she hopes to study in the faculty of Dentistry. She's concentrate on her books. She reads the books and do the exercise too much. She spends her time to read ...
A. 12 July 2005: Theres not much you can do, support your friend in her studies, listen to her problems and offer solutions.... (read in full...)
My friend is pregnant and she feels she can't tell her parents...
Q. I'm 18 years old girl. My problem is about my close friend. Last week she found that she was pregnant with her boyfriend! We don't know what to do. I told her to tell her mom but she said she can't because her mom will not accept and it'll make ...
A. 12 July 2005: Is she keeping the baby, if so then she must tell her parents. If you feel that your own mother wont say anything to your friends mum then tell her, but really , its not your worry. be there for your friend.... (read in full...)
Attracted to a lifelong friend and not my wife... Unfortunately, we both have partners and children!
Q. I am married with a child. I have a loving wife but I feel sexually attracted to a lifelong friend whom I have known for over 15 years. We are very close and she has a child as well. Our kids play together and she and my wife hang out a lot. S...
A. 12 July 2005: Forget about your friend and sort out the problems in your own marriage. There is a resonn your wife is behaving in this manner and you must find out why before you take any further action.... (read in full...)
Our child's energetic nature annoys my wife, we argue a lot and she never initiates sex. In short, I'm unhappy!
Q. Hi I have been married for 2 years now. I have known my wife for 4 years before getting married. Thing is, we were so happy before we got married and everything was good. Yes we had our ups and downs. Now that we married and have a 2 year old kid ...
A. 12 July 2005: You have to tell your wife that you are not happy. Make her listen and ask if theres anything on her mind. Take turns to listen to each others problems. Your wife sounds like she is tired a lot of the time, this may be causing a lot of your pro... (read in full...)
Should I just ask her outright if she already has a boyfriend?
Q. I got a crush on someone in my group. How should I begin? I'm really nervous that she already got a boyfriend. Should I ask her directly?...
A. 12 July 2005: Dont ask her out till you find out if she has a boyfriend or not. You could just casually drop it into the conversation, ie: "so, do you have a boyfriend?" at least then you will know whether to make a move or not.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 19 and I'm 14. He says he loves me, but why won't he have a relationship with me?
Q. I'm 14 years old, my friend is 19. We do everything together. We have even had sex. I'm the only pperson he has ever said "I love you" to, but he will not be in a real relationship with me. I know it's illegal, but age doesnt matter to him. Why ...
A. 12 July 2005: Because hes just using you for sex. sorry to be so blunt but this is how it sounds to me.... (read in full...)
Am I a fool to take back my cheating boyfriend?
Q. What to do? I recently discovered my boyfriend has cheated on me. We have been together six months and I love him dearly. The problem is I never trusted him and was not surprised when I found out! The problem is my mother very recently died and ...
A. 11 July 2005: I realise your circumstances are difficult at the moment but i wouldnt take this boy back.... (read in full...)
We're passionate sometimes, but am I just a convenience to him?
Q. I see a man once a week, which suits me. I know he sees another woman who has been around for 14 years on and off. We share music, passionate music sometimes. I live alone and like his company, sometimes we have sex and sometimes not. Does he care ...
A. 11 July 2005: You sound like you get on well with this man, but he cant care for you that much if hes still seeing someone else. If you enjoy his company, by all means, continue to see him but dont hold out any hopes on a relationship with this man. ... (read in full...)
My partner is texting other women with sexual suggestions and searching for brothels on the internet!
Q. I have been with my partner for almost a year now - I am totally in love with him. Neither of us were the marrying type, however he proposed at 4 months into our relationship. We are both very happy - Well I thought we were. Recently I have fou...
A. 11 July 2005: Address him about what you found on the internet and make him explain himself. You are in the right on this one. Tell him you feel worried that hes going to cheat. If he doesnt listen, or this behaviour continues, dump him! ... (read in full...)
Big crush on a senior at my uni... But how do I get to know him?
Q. I am 18 Years old. I have just been a freshy in the university for 1 month but now I have something wrong in my heart. I think that I have a crush on a senior. He is a top model at my faculty. In my opinion,he is perfect;smart,tall and ...
A. 11 July 2005: Make an effort to get talking to him and go from there, if you feel things are going OK, ask him if hed like to go for a drink, the worst he can say is no.... (read in full...)
My close friend spends all her time with her boyfriend now and I miss her!
Q. I am an 18-year-old girl.I have a closed friend who I love very much.She has just had her first boyfriend in her life.She loves and cares him very much. They are sticking themselves together all the time and this makes me feel lonely. Sometimes...
A. 11 July 2005: This often hapens when a friend gets a boyfriend. Tell her how you feel, ask her to make a regular day/time when the 2 of you can spend time together. try and spend time with other friends in the meantime, shell come back to you in the end!... (read in full...)
What if my boyfriend is gay..? He likes his male friend better than he likes me!
Q. What should I do if my boyfriend is likely a gay? We're in the relationship for 2 years and I do love him so much. Now I doubt that he's a gay because he doesn't pay attention to me and always goes out with his friends(man). My girl friends've ...
A. 11 July 2005: Just because he spends time with his male friends a lot doesnt mean hes gay! Maybe hes feeling a bit tied down in the relationship just now and wants to spend a bit more time with his friends. In any case, you should ask him if hes happy in your re... (read in full...)
Could my friend be addicted to drugs?
Q. I have a friend. We have known each other for a long time. But right now, I think she isn’t the same person that I have ever known. She acts strangely. Actually, she was very hard-working. She always finished homework before anyone, but now she ...
A. 11 July 2005: There is only a rumour going round that your friend is a drug addict. Talk to her and ask her. there may be another reason for her odd behaviour. If she admits that she is taking drugs, stand by her and encourage her to seek professional hel... (read in full...)
One of the big questions...
Q. How can I tell if his in love with me?...
A. 11 July 2005: He'll tell you when the time is right, if hes in love with you you will just know by the way he acts. You dont give enough information about your situation for me to advise further.... (read in full...)
A month before he proposed, my boyfriend cheated and I can't even think straight!
Q. My boyfriend of two years proposed to me last November. AFter the Engagement Announcement was posted in the paper I received a call from a woman who confessed that last Oct. or Nov. she had an affair on her husband and it was with my fiance'. My ...
A. 11 July 2005: Postpone the wedding! Sounds to me like he knows he made a mistake with this woman and proposed to you out of guilt. Do you think that he is ready for total commitment? doesnt sound like it to me, carry on with the therapy.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I broke up 3 years ago, but he spends his time between me and his other girl!
Q. POPS Split with partner of 18 yrs 3 yrs ago due to his drinking & there was another woman involved. He's now with someone else, living with her since August 04. He has been back to me 3 times each for a week. He says he's leaving, it's not workin o...
A. 11 July 2005: Break off all contact with this man. Dont answer hios phone calls. he is treating both you and his current girlfriend like dirt.... (read in full...)
Want to ask out one of the sisters, but I feel "vertically challenged"...
Q. Hi there, im a 15 year old boy. Round my "hood" there is two sisters who do paper rounds. The thing is I fancy one of them but cause I'm smaller than they are I'm scared to ask her out. I really would like to, I think she is lovely and think she has ...
A. 11 July 2005: Just say to her 'do you want to go out sometime' the worst she can say is no and at least you can say you tried!... (read in full...)
My friend and I are pursuing the same woman!
Q. What should I do ? If my friend and I like the same woman. My friend and I liked the same woman . My friend is the best friend but we liked the same woman . We studied in same faculty but the woman studied different faculty . When I know he l...
A. 11 July 2005: Both of you should stop talking to this woman if you want to remain friends.... (read in full...)
My 15-year-old son says he wants to be "clinically obese"...
Q. I am a mother of two. My youngest son is 11, my oldest son is 15. I have a problem which I need your help with and any advice is appreciated as it is really worrying me. My 15-year-old son told me he would love to be clinically obese as that...
A. 10 July 2005: It really sounds to me that your son needs to see a counsellor asap! Take him to your GP and tell him what the boy is saying. this is not normal. Ask your son to be more in depth with you in his reasons why he thinks what he does about being cl... (read in full...)
Communication between us is hard because we're both so shy...
Q. It's very hard to decide my situation. I have been dating this girl for three weeks, although we have had only four dates. If my age is relevant I am 17 and she 15. Now although I am 17, I have never had an experience like this with anyone. Being ...
A. 10 July 2005: She must enjoy your dates if she keeps going out with you. As you get to know each other better youll find more things to talk about.Good luck!... (read in full...)
She and I were close friends, but then she started "borrowing" my things and my money...
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old girl. I was just admitted to the university. First day at university I had one new friend. We became closer very fast. I like her so much, she is kind and understanding. But recently she had borrow my money. When I ask for my ...
A. 10 July 2005: Dont remain friends with her. Ask for your money back one more time. dont lend her anything else. Find a new friend.... (read in full...)
I know I'm well rid of my ex, so how do I get over this awful feeling?
Q. I have just broken up with my boyfriend and I'm a mess. He left without telling me and kept me hanging on for over a week, lying and pretending everything was alright! He even pretended a family member had died to stand me up. He still hasn't tol...
A. 10 July 2005: This is a normal feeling. take time to lick your wounds. One important thing however, is to make sure you dont shut yourself away from the rest of the world, go out with friends, family or even alone. Make the effort to meet new people. Try to... (read in full...)
Six months after we broke up, I still worry about my ex and other guys...
Q. Hi, In February me and my girlfriend split up after 2 years. The split happened whilst we were in university together. We were friends for two years to begin with then we decided to have a relationship and go to the same university becau...
A. 10 July 2005: Make yourself spend time apart from this girl. It sounds to me like she is stringing you along. Your relationship together didnt work out, its still not working out so theres very little hope that it will work out in 2 years when you finish uni. ... (read in full...)
The threesome with my husband was a total mistake... I just don't know how to fix it!
Q. My husband wouldn't touch me after I had our son. So, after trying everything I could think of, I agreed to his request of a threesome with another man. Now I am completely destroyed. What was I thinking? That is not a choice I would have ever ...
A. 10 July 2005: Youll have to put the threesome behind you or your marriage will continue to suffer. make time for you and your husband to spend time alone together, if you feel comfortable, tell him how you feel. Try to rebuild your marriage. Consider counselling, ... (read in full...)
My fiancee and I would like to learn to disagree without arguing...
Q. My fiance' and I have a wonderful loving relationship. However, whenever we argue our tempers always seem to get the best of us. A problem can begin as a simple disagreement and quickly escalate into a major argument for no justifiable reason. We ...
A. 10 July 2005: try to avoid situations that make you argue. If you feel yourself getting into an argument, stop. She wont be able to argue with herself. Take a couple of minutes to go over the situation in your head, if its really not worth arguing about, say this ... (read in full...)
Since I've been stationed overseas, my wife seems to have become distant...
Q. About 6 months ago my wife and I hit a hard place in our marriage. I am stationed overseas and she is back home in the states. We've only been married 2 1/2 years but been together for 4 years. I've never cheated and never would but I fear that she ...
A. 10 July 2005: You have to tell your wife how you feel about this,even if she does get cross. Tell her that you feel that this is causing a big problem in your marriage. If she wont isten, or doesnt care, perhaps its time for you to move on.... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend feels threatened by the friendship I have with an old, old flame. Am I in the wrong?
Q. An old friend who lives far away, called me last night when I wasn't in. He and I have been friends for many years. He and I were engaged and in love about 20 years ago but he wasn't ready to commit and we split-up. From time to time, he calls me. ...
A. 9 July 2005: Youre both in the right but Im siding with your boyfriend on this one, everything he has said is right and its not fair on his feelings to carry on this relationship with your ex. If youre boyfrinds not happy about it I think on this occasion... (read in full...)
My ex keeps calling me. What's going on in his mind?
Q. My ex often call me recently. What is he thinking? What should I do? We're broke up for a month with good memory. Recently, he often calls me. I have no clue what he is thinking. Is he still love me? I think I still love him but I don't want to be...
A. 9 July 2005: Sounds like he cant make a clean break from you. If you want to try again, tell him that, if he says no, ask him to stop calling and forget about him.... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that the other guy is really interested in me?
Q. Ok...here goes. I have a boyfriend of two years, our relationship is pretty dead! I met his friend three months into the relationship and It was love at first sight. I don't belive in that..but he broke all the rules! Not a day goes by that I don't ...
A. 9 July 2005: If you want to make a move on this chap, youll have to wait until you both are single. It sounds to me like he was just being polite replying to your emails, there may be nothing more to it than that.... (read in full...)
Can someone please tell me how to break it off with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been with my bf for 4 years. We have both did our dirt, but I cant seem to forget about what he did to me. I also do not love him like I use to and I want to leave the relationship. I can't seem to get up and do it. Sometimes I love him and ...
A. 9 July 2005: Tell him the truth, that you dont feel hes the one for you. Its not fair to keep stringing this boy along thinking he has a future with you when he hasnt.... (read in full...)
My first experience with another woman was wonderful and I want to repeat it... but how?
Q. I am 52 years of age, been married three times and divorced three times with a child to each marriage who have all grown and have their own homes. Four years ago I met a female who out of the blue told me she wanted to make love to me. To cut a...
A. 9 July 2005: No offence but due to your age, a nightclub isnt the best place to meet someone your own age. Try local groups or join a class at college. After 3 failed marriages however, i think it would be best to take some time for yourself and forget about... (read in full...)
I saved my marriage, but now I'm... miserable.
Q. Aunt Agony, I wrote a couple of years back regarding a lost love that returned to me after many years. I'm married with kids, and you advised to tend to my marriage. My husband discovered the relationship which was very emotional, however not phys...
A. 9 July 2005: Talk to your husband sbout how low you feel,tell him youre going back on the therapy and antidepressants because you felt they helped you, dont let him talk you out of it. If he wants to save your marriage, he'll help you in any way he can.... (read in full...)
Afraid that my brother's going to tell what he saw, then I'll be grounded...
Q. Dear cupid. I'm 13 and I was straddling one of my friends and he's 18 and we were making out and doing well you know and I didn't know it but my brother was outside my window watching us. And he's told my ex, also his best friend. His ex also my ...
A. 9 July 2005: I dont think you should see this boy again, he is too old for you. If your mum finds out, tell her you are not seeing him again.... (read in full...)
I can't stop worrying that my fiancee will cheat when she's away!
Q. Can you really really help me? I'm 19 my fiancee's 17 and I'm in a bit of relationship trouble the now. My fiancee is on holiday in Slovenia, and I fear as though she is going to cheat on me, and every minute of the day I wonder what she will up ...
A. 9 July 2005: Hard as it sounds you have to stop thinking like this. If your girlfriend loves you, she wont cheat. Just because shes going out on holiday doesnt make her more likely to cheat, please try to stop worrying!... (read in full...)
My husband lied about his financial status and it's driving a big wedge between us!
Q. My husband and I have been married since June 2004. We dated for two and half years before that. Financially he is ruined and never told me before we wed. In his defense, he said he had money issues, but I see that as needing to pay a credit ...
A. 8 July 2005: Youre not a sap because you didnt know about all his debts.Get him to tell you the truth about everything (assuming he hasnt already done so) tell him to seek professional debt counselling. dont give him any more of your money in the meantime... (read in full...)
My girl has been with someone else for 4 years, even though she says she loves me best!
Q. I am in love with a girl, who is in a relationship with another guy. Our relationship started in a strange way a year back. We were very good friends and then we realized that we have other feelings towards each other... After that, we have ha...
A. 8 July 2005: This girl does not love you best, if she did, she wouldnt be able to keep up with the pretence of a serious relationship with this other man. It doesnt sound like your girlfriend knows what she wants and I think it would be best for you to give her... (read in full...)
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