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writes: hiya, I was just wondering. I have been going out with my gilfriend for 3 years and I really want her to swallow my cum. Are there any ways in whichI can get her to do this? Thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): You can try and talk to her about why she won't, and why you'd like her to. Maybe she's had a bad prior experience. I know an abusive childhood - no details here, just trust me on it - kept me from wanting to do that for a long time, and I'm talking decades. I had to get very comfortable with myself AND my HUSBAND first, and then we worked at it together. I got to the point where I really wanted to, and we got it going! I do it - I love it - but that's ME. Can't tell you what someone else should or should not do - there are too many possible variables to make such a decision for someone else. I'm a different generation from all the other posters, but folks, there's really not much new under the sun..........
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): The girls are being totally unrealistic and seeing it as the guy attempting to 'degrade' or 'subjugate' the woman. He's not, he loves her! When a girl does this we don't think 'you dirty little whore, I have no respect for you', well, not if its someone he loves. Its more like, men are supposed to be dominant, and if a guy spends most of his day going to movies you like, bringing you to fancy places you like, going shopping with you, listening to you complain about work or your friends etc etc then you should let him feel like a man once in a while and please. That's what my ex was like. The better I was to her the 'better' she was to me. Its like Billy Connolly says, 'a woman needs to feel loved to have sex, and a man need sot have sex to feel loved'. Women get guys (well the decent guys anyway) to do all kinds of s**t, because they feel loved on an emotional level. You should try to please your man because you love him, so long as it is not something COMPLETLEY outlandish like a cleveland steamer or something, but then that all depends on your boundaries. He will feel loved because of it and be even sweeter to you. Plus there's less calories than a tictac! My advice to the guy is the same as some of the more realistic and mature women here; do something for her that you dislike, it probably won't be sexuals though, but it doesn't have to be. SHow her you love her by taking her shopping or watching Sex and the City with her or rubbing her feet etc. Then just bring it up subtly and calmly, not pushy, and explain to her that its just something you would enjoy and that you still respect her but that its the same as when you take her shopping, you don't enjoy it but it makes her happy and you love her. that should work. Women: grow up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): to the guy who swallowed his own 'stuff' to get his gf to do it.....yuck! Never ever ever ever ever! Just tell her it tastes like chocolat, white chocolat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): look my fiance wont swallow hell she wont even give me oral if i ask in are relationship oral sex is a treat a once in a while thing we do cuz we love each other. would i like her to swallow sure do i push the issue sometimes
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reader, bibeememo  +, writes (13 September 2008):
it really depends on what the guy is eating. i had a girlfriend you used to want to swallow. but when my diet was crap she would comment on how horrible it taste. when i began drinking more water and eating more vegetables she actually commented on how sweet it taste! crazy but true
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Does it matter? You cant make someone change their mind or do what you want them to. If someone wants to do something they will. But if you love her then why the hell would you make her do something she dosent want to do? I think you'r an idiot to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): Friend;
Considerations and viewpoints are the easiest things you can change in a human being, beleive it or not.
It has nothing to do with "Have to's"
Nothing to do with "mustn't's"
Some girls will opiniate on it as "degrading".
Others as "Altruistic, giving"
Others just "like it"
All is in the viewpoint.
As soon as you get into FORCE: "You must, you ought to" Bicker bicker bleh bleh. You came a cropper.
All is in the communication, what you like, the creation of the relationship with her. If she would see that you would really experience pleasure if she does and that you love her and she's your whole world and voice on the "not too bad" point of view, etc., etc., you might create understanding.
Yes, understanding. Not submition, not propitiation, not domination, not nullification.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): There's no way to get this girl to swallow you. Accept it and move on. Either get another girlfriend who will swallow, get a girlfriend on the side, or buy a hooker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): i think she is not confortable with ur cum!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): Jeez. Look, I go with the -you can't 'force' her- crowd but *some* of the girls (feminists) on this forum are living in cloud cuckoo land. You think in this day and age that everything revolves around pleasing the girl in a relationship? Wrong.
How is it that guys have to please you girls with all the touchy feely BS, but we shouldn't ask for anything in return or we're being unreasonable or 'infringing' on your rights?
You get p1ssed if they don't get you a valentines card (I personally don't as I see it as commercialised BS praying on female insecurities). Hell, you even use what you get on valentines day as bragging rites to your friends! How shallow is that?
Anyway, back onto point; Guys like this sort of stuff. It's a guys way of feeling that you accept him physically - and that does matter a great deal. You know how you feel when he takes you out to dinner? or books a surprise weekend away for you both? - that's how a guy feels when you do this for him. Wanted, and like he's the most important thing in your life.
There are a whole bunch of outright expectations on a guy. He meets you out of work, picks you up when you've been on a night out and drives you home to make sure you get home safe, opens doors for you, carries the shopping about, takes his coat off when it's cold out and freezes his ass off so that you are nice and snug. Give this some thought for a moment, what wuold you think if you saw a guy asking his gf to hold the door for him, carry the heavy shopping while he carried nothing, pick him up or escort you through town at night and be the one watching his back? Sounds unreasonable doesn't it?
And like many of the more mature and balanced individuals on here have said, he does it for you.
Nuff said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): My girlfriend said she hated the taste and was totally closed minded and decided about it. She always said how she would never let me come in her mouth and I never, ever brought it up, but we were finally talking with some other folks about it and she said that used the reasoning that a guy would never swallow his own so why should she? So the next time we were together i came on her, did just what you are thinking and it totally changed her mind. And all I had to do is to just do it once...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): The feminist agenda tells us that girls swallowing is a degrading act and should have no place in a healthy relationship. That's simply bullshit. It's about continuity, texture changes during 'the point of no return' can fuck up your concentration or worse, your orgasm. This whole 'it's nasty" thing is also a load of bollocks(lol), get over it. I've eaten peri roaches in Malaysia (Perisphaerus-foul little bugs that stink when you crunch them) now THAT'S nasty; ejaculate is just unpleasant. Granted, I ate those roaches for nourishment but come on people, it's about pleasing your partners! Hopefully some of you will wisen up. Cheers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): Pal, it all depends on passion, love, committment. hest of lovemaking and most importantly, how she's feelin about herself! some ladies find this degrading, ... ofcourse if it's just sex!.. so love her, respect her, enjoy her. let her know the she's amazing, encourage her self confidence in what she's doing ...up to this point! love is a doing word, and that does not mean Intercourse only! play, laugh, dance, smile...leave her notes, flowers... SHE'S GOTTA KNOW THAT SHE'S YOUR WORLD! She'll do anything for you...Yes ANYTHING!! love life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): Why do we continue replying to this post? I mean, I'm sure the guy who wrote this is either dead or not with the same girl who "won't swallow"...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Not sure why guys are so obsessed with their women swallowing. Mine right now, won't even let me come in her mouth. You know what. I don't care. It's a special treat when she takes me in her mouth. The rest of our sex life is amazing. If she's not comfortable giving me head, so be it. If she does, and she doesn't want to swallow, so be it. I'm finished with it, it's hers now. She can swallow, spit, gargle, or wipe it on the pillow case. I don't really care. I love going down on her, if she doesn't enjoy going down on me, so what...she's worth that little "sacrafice?" for the other fun we have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): Of course you can, why don´t you let her play with it. I did that, let her give it a name, and she will get more attached to your dick. Make out while you touch her clitoris, and surely she will be hornier. That is when you should try to get her to talk to your penis and stuff, while you continue masturbating her. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): If you want her to swollow just talk to her i mean if you loved her you would not keep secrects. Tell her how you fell
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): no..........
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2006): Any man who would dump a woman for not swollowing is childish, immature and very self centred and does not deserve a girl friend. If a girl really doesnt want to do it she sould not be made to do it. Personally I do not like giving blow jobs and i dont expect a bloke to give me head either. And if the man cannot deal with that I am far better off without him.
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 Wow i have never seen a post go on and on for this long before, for all we know the poster of the question may not even be in that relationship anymore lol.Poor guy i hope he did'nt tick the "Send alerts when your question is replied too?" or else his probably had his inbox flooded with all the answers over the last 12 months.
Anyway i though id add my two bob aswell :), well first off you cant make any female or male do anything they dont want, its ok to ask but if they say no accept it,dont try and fource it or make them feel guilty for not doing it. As a female i do enjoy receiving and giving, my bf and myself would give each other equal amounts of oral sex when we first meet, after time my bf started not too give as much as he recieved and now i give maybe 2 times a week and i have not received for almost a year now , iv never asked him to do it or pushed him, and im not worried or hurt and i certainly would never leave him over it,so the people who said that if a female didnt get oral sex fom there bf they would probably leave them ,that is a load of rubbish.
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reader, martini  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 And now a year later...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2006): This is such bullshit.
All the so called women here need to get a clue. You expect your guys to eat you (which doens't always taste great either) and men are expected to just keep on slurping when you start squirting and cumming everywhere, yet you have the gall to bitch when we ask you to return the favor??
Grow up. Sex is about pleasing your partner and if he's done it for you then the only fair thing to do is open wide. If a girl can't/won't do that for me then its clear she's not really into me and she can take a hike, and all the women out there going, "what a jerk," can fuck off since it was a woman who told me that. She basically said that if a chick is totally into a guy she'll have no problem swallowing his cum and I agree as I'm the same way with women. I love my g/f to death and so I love her ejaculate no matter what it tastes like for the simple reason that its hers! If you love your partner *totally* you shouldn't have any problem doing this for them, male or female. I love swallowing my gf's cum, and she loves doing the same for me. Taste is irrelivant, it's a question of love and devotion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2006): I love how all the women answer with such finality, it's always tough sh*t or you eat it, see how you like it. I have been in two long term relationships in my life. My first GF loved to give oral and swallow. My current is learning the ropes of oral and had bad experience with being forced to swallow (prior to being w/ me) hence, she refuses to swallow now. As a man confident in my heterosexuality I can say, yes, I have tasted my own and yes it doesn't taste like chocolate milk, but the issue is not taste. It is your love for one another. We taste yours, you taste ours. Female secretions don't exactly taste great either, but when you love the one your with you establish a subconscious block on that. My only advice is subtle persistence. That along with the usual, (eat fruit, wash thoroughly, go down on her without using it as a bartering technique) and you might get her to come around. All you cast iron b*tches out there with your feminist ultimatums, BLOW ME!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2006): I have the same issue with my gf. She says she gets sick, because of the taste. But my argument is that her juices arn't quite the necter of the gods either. They are usually sour or bitter, and she also likes it when i lick her ass which i also dont have a problem doing ( cause im a freak Maybe?) I dont know and all the women saying that maybe men should try thier own come first. Do we make you finger your self and suck on your fingers before we will go down on you NO!So why sould we taste our own come. But i didnt know about the eating sweet fruits will make it taste sweet so i guess thats the only good advice out of the whole disscusion. Maybe that will help
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2006): My GF swallows, but I've alsways felt that in the interests of fair play, it is only fair that you show an equal eagerness to swallow hers.One thing you might like to think about doing is to cum on her stomach/breasts, then eagerly go down and kiss her there. Make sure some is on your face and lips when you come up and kiss her and see how she gets on with a small sample! It's very sexy for women to know that you are Ok with the taste/texture. I quite like mine and will share it when ever possible!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2006): u cant make someone swallow they have to be comfortable with themself before...u should be happy some men dont even get oral sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): swallow your own spunk in front of ur girl and she will see it turns u on and she will swallow it then
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2006): Just make it seem like an accident, then make sure she knows how good it made you feel...;)
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reader, ask aunty heather +, writes (1 January 2006):
if you were practicing safe sex and were wearing a condom it woulodnt be an issue. you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink! dont force the issue upon your girlfriend or she will leave you!
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (22 December 2005):
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Why men like it when a women swallows beats me, but please understand that there is nothing worses than thick slimy liquid running down the back of your throat, and if you really want her to, make sure you CLEAN, don't go to the toilet just before. YUK!
Yes I may swallow at times, but thats entirely up to the mood.
Try and create a fun and daring mood. while she is busy with you, play with her, get her excited, tell her what she is doing feels good.
Boost her confidence, nothing works better than adding to a womens ego.
When they say flattery will get you knowwhere, they lied!
(just don't use cheap pick up lines)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): I give my bf head jobs all the time and i enjoy swallowing the cum mostly because i know the satisfaction it gives my bf. I really dont see what the big deal is, when i first became sexually active the first thing i wanted to do was give a guy a great head job, but my advice to you is that you cant force her to do anything yet i do not think there is any harm in you asking her and saying something like "how would you feel about swallowing my cum just this one time just so you can experience it" and then also tell her about how you find it attractive and what it does to a guy and maybe try to compare it to something so she understands where your coming from. I think it is important that in a relationship that a women at least do this for her man, i am not a guy and i do not understand what it does for a guy but my bf told me it is important to a guy if his partner does this, it does something speaical for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005): you can't force her to do something she doeasn't want. if she doesn't like it leave it respect her feelings and do what she feels comfortable
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005): If she hasn't seen it your way after three years of no swallowing, then she's very stubborn--and perhaps with good reason. Does she regard swallowing as inherently degrading? Has she had some sort of terrible swallowing experience in the past? You'd know better than me. All I can say is that if the "issue" of swallowing is among your biggest worries, you're actually in a solid relationship. Not ideal, but solid--and that's a pretty good accomplishment in this sordid day and age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2005): Ask why she doesn't swallow. In my experience of giving head you have some really vomiting encounters. Have you tasted your cum before? Some cum taste revolting, and others taste quite okay. If you do taste yuck, maybe look at your diet.
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reader, iggyzap +, writes (2 December 2005):
maybe you can meet half way and agree that you can jiz in her mouth and she can spit it out. ohh and eat sweet fruits and avoid onions and garlic, things like that. what you eat affects the taste of your love juice
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2005): The only way is to let her do it on her own. If you've been trying to talk her into this for almost three years now, then chances are, she doesn't want to do it! It's important to understand her, and what she wants, even if you dont quite agree. Here's some insight for you, CUM IS GROSS, and women who actually swallow it are brave!!! Also cum isn't really what you would call nutritious, and ejaculating in the mouth isn't really healthy, so just food for thought. ;) -ALEY KAT
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reader, Jenna  +, writes (28 November 2005):
 Try a night of full-on romance, dinner somewhere special, dress well, flowers, champagne everything, whatever she likes she gets including lots of oral sex from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2005): hey dude, here is the answer, cum in her mouth, and YOU swallow it first to show her your commitment. oh, you dont want to? then dont ask her to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2005): I'm in a similar situation myself at the moment, So I can't offer advice, but I just want to point out to the ones saying that You're wrong for even bringing it up (Namely the women), how would they feel if their Guy/Girl refused to do Oral to them if they didn't like the taste? I'm sure they'd be pretty miffed. Give the guy a break, obviously he loves her and he's thinking that maybe she don't love him as much.
You can't blame him for feeling insecure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2005): Many from both males and females will ask each other to do tasks, sexual and non-sexual, that one may not want to do. Uncomfortable, or just unwilling.
If she is unwilling to do so right now, do something for her that you normally wouldn't, and that may just turn her mind into giving a try or even actually doing it.
As a tip, eat PLENTY of sweet fruits during the day prior to the act, as it will sweeten it and she may be more willing then as well.
Another one that was missed here is... Try flavoured condoms. She can't swallow with that, since her giving oral sex is mostly something for you and and not her you'll be at least giving something for her as well. I have to admit, I personally haven't gotten flavoured condoms as they aren't sold normally at 7-11 as they only carry normal ones. I just feel weird walking into those sex shoppes. Sorry got carried away.
Overall there really isn't a way to make her or force her, but ways of possibly convincing her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): Ah, a fun issue. I'm personally a fan of swallowing. I enjoy it, and I think it's VERY sexy. I know girls who don't swallow though. I think that she should at least try it. A lot of girls here are saying that you have no right to ask it of her. Bull shit. Girls ask a LOT of men, and something that small shouldn't be slighted. If it's important to you then that's how it is. Emotional relationship are based on PHYSICAL RELATIONSHIPS. Just ask her to try. If she can't, or it feels weird, leave it at that or move on. It sounds so crass.
Some of you girls need to lighten up!
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reader, Torn +, writes (2 November 2005):
This is all good and well but if she won't then you don't and how fun is that huh people?? Sounds like a really awesome sex life huh?? "No I won't...then I won't either"...yea' sounds great. If you women do not want to swallow then at least compromise and spit but not doing it all is totally ridiculous and a bunch of BS!! I do it for my woman all the time and guess what?? She does it for me..why? Because we love each other and it feels incredible, but hers doesn't shoot so I actually get a below the nose facial:)!! Come on...stop all this BS and just do it, but only if it is with someone that you are serious about and not some guy/girl you took home from the club.
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reader, schlottjl +, writes (15 October 2005):
 To all those reading this old Q. I am seriously hoping that the last few guys are kidding. Otherwise, I fear for any woman who dates these jerks.
JIK you guys want to know the real truth- MOST women will not swallow. If you fancy forcing her to do it, you either will not get another BJ until you leaver her (Moderately unhealthy chick....) will instantly lose her and the trust of the girls she tells... (Healthy and less than you deserve. Or, she folds and dies slowly a little each day the abuse continues. Of course, she only does this if she is used to and expects abuse.
I have polled hundreds on this subject and over 80% liken it to swallowing urine. So if you will drink her pee, she might see your devotion to the act and so long as she at least gets a mint, MAYBE....
But even as I would go to the point on just before, ask yourself why you have to have this one thing. Oral sex thru ejaculation is a one sided proposition with nothing but cost for the girl. You do come off as selfish if you are not willing to degrade yourself equally. And I fear that is what at least this questioner and the last few guys are getting off on.... Ladies keep that in mind when doing something you are against. To push so hard for that extra act, is a red flag that you have entered a place where love has nothing to do with it. While you may think that doing this will bring you closer, I guarantee, it will cause him to disrespect you even more. You will have become a slut to him. This is only a test. Passing the test is resisting doing anything you are not comfortable doing. If he dumps you for it, consider yourself informed you were only a sex toy and not a human being to him in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2005): Why is this such a difficult issue?
You want her to? Then ask her to. If she doesn't want to, then she doesn't have to. But all that is incredibly selfish on both your parts.
Very simple, if your girlfriend asked you to do something, then do it! It does NOT matter that you like it or not. It does NOT matter that it tastes bad or not. It does NOT matter that it "grosses" you out. It does NOT matter that you have the right to say no. None if that matters!!! You do it because you want to be with her and would do ANYTHING to be with her. The fact that she asks has NO bearing on that she loves you or not, it only shows what she likes - and what she likes is YOUR responsibilty.
UNLESS what is being asked is 1) morally wrong 2)REALLY unhealthy, 3)physically impossible to do.
So if you want her to do it, then I cannot fathom any reason why she should not do it once in a while.
BUT...remember, you had NOT better say no when she asks you to eat her out while she's on the rag!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2005): you can't! she doesn't have to if she doesn't one to. it's stupid to force her or even think to long against her desision.(besides it is a nasty habit!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2005): If you cum while youre in the back of her throat then she won't taste it anyways! That's my favorite way to do it when I give head. My guy says it feels awesome and I don't have to taste it!
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