For 3 months he was the most considerate guy ever. Then he just disappeared and won't return my calls!
Q. For three blissful months I have been really happy with my new boyfriend. He seemed to be absolutely perfect- he texts me several times a day, rang me often, gave me lifts to and from work. We saw each other most days and he was always saying he ...
A. 7 July 2005: Glad your problem was sorted out, Ive had boyfriends like this before, god knows why they do it but youve had a lucky escape. Good luck in the future!!! xx... (read in full...)
We're getting married in September, but when it comes to sex, he pushes me away!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't want sex with me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years now and we're getting married in September. But he never wants sex with me. I try and turn him on, but he pushes me away. I'm starting to think it's me. I do...
A. 4 July 2005: If hes pushing you away when you try to make the first move there is definitely something wrong here. It may be a number of things. Maybe there is something in his past that he feels unable to share with you. Maybe he's got pre-wedding nerves, ... (read in full...)
My guy behaves differently when we're alone than he does with his mates. Why?
Q. I'm only 14 but I really like this boy. I am going out with him but I don't think he likes me and that he is using me. This is because he acts different around his mates, but when I'm alone with him he's different. What do you think I should d...
A. 4 July 2005: Most boys are like that at that age. I think its because they want to act 'big' in front of their friends and think theyll appear 'soft' if hey seem to care about their girlfriend. Tell him how this makes you feel and say that if it continues, you ... (read in full...)
I found a text message on my fiance's phone that I can't explain...
Q. My problem is this, my fiance is absolutely lovely, but just lately he has been a little crusty and rather too keen to pick holes in whatever I do. It could be the heat, it has been a very hot week here in the U.K, it could be that he's feeling ...
A. 4 July 2005: Sounds to me like you have a good relationship with each other. If his situation is making you fel so bad though, youll have to ask him who the text was from.... (read in full...)
His insensitivity about my feelings is ruining the great relationship we had!
Q. I'm wanting a bit of advice from other readers please ;0) I have a happy relationship with a wonderful man, we have 2 children together and I thought I had everything in the world. My partner moved 200 miles to live with me and since he moved he...
A. 4 July 2005: What a git!! sounds lie he has no respect for you or your feelings. Many men want the security to have settled down and be part of a family but still think they can carry on as if they are single. he sounds like one of these types. Over time, thi... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my boyfriend, but I just keep going back to him!
Q. Hi, Im 16 years old, and Im with my boyfriend of 10 months. I'll admit our relationships has had its up's and downs, but he can be a really nice guy, and he has always been there for me. See I havent had the best of luck in life, my parents used to ...
A. 4 July 2005: Dont eneter into a serious relationship with this boy. Im sorry to hear what a hard time you are having just now and i think that you need to concentrate more on yourself than other people. remain friends with him if possible and keep contact with ... (read in full...)
My husband leave me unsatisfied and I don't want to let him know!
Q. I am 37 and have a very high sex drive that I am afraid to let my husband see because he takes advantage of me when it comes down to sex. Many time I'm left unsatisfied while he rolls over and falls asleep. I'm faced with a dilemma, don't get me ...
A. 4 July 2005: Dont start going behind his back online. You must tell him how you feel and if he doesnt accept your wishes you must tell him that you feel you can no longer continue in a marriage where you are used as a sex object and feel like you get no ... (read in full...)
I see beautiful young women everywhere, but all I'm attracted to are the older ones...
Q. This may be a stupid question but all my friends are giving me crap for dating women way outside my age. I'm 23 and most women I date are between 35 to 42. My current love interest is 40 and I don't understand why I'm not attracted to women my own ...
A. 4 July 2005: You must just be different! You know yourself, that theres men who have different preferences in women eg; plump women, skinny women, dark hair, tall women, black or white women, older or younger. I wouldnt worry about unless it starts to cause yo... (read in full...)
My crush is in his 20s and I'm 15. I know he's too old for me, but what do I do?
Q. I have a huge crush on this guy. The only problem is that he is way too old. I am only 15 and he is like in his 20s but I always want to see him. What should I do?...
A. 4 July 2005: Keep on seeing him if you want but dont take things any further, hes a bit old for you.... (read in full...)
Sex is fantastic with my mate's mum. But what if my mate finds out about us?
Q. I am faced with a real problem. I am a 18 year old who is seeing a 47 year old woman. The problem is she has a son who is one of my best friends. She used to be married to a very successful businessman but they got divorced five years ago. She has ...
A. 3 July 2005: Do you want to continue this secret relationship with your friends mum and lose your friend? if not stop now before things go any further ... (read in full...)
How can I get back with the guy I broke up with? I know it was a mistake finishing with him...
Q. I was with my ex feller just a month but known him for years. He is 17 years older than me! We finished in April after I finished it for someone else. Me and that someone else lasted a day as I realised what a mistake I done! Then I ended up being...
A. 3 July 2005: You cant, youve told him how you feel and hes not interested. Try to get out more and meet new people ... (read in full...)
My sister disdains her own adult daughter, and Sis's problems are causing difficulties for everyone in the family!
Q. My older sister is 53 yrs old. She's a bright, intelligent woman with much in her life to be thankful for. Since we were kids, she has struggled with low self-esteem and weight problems. She married at 19 to an alcoholic had one daughter, divorced...
A. 3 July 2005: Your sister sounds like a very sad woman, surely others in the family will see her for what she is and know that her comments are false? it sounds to me like there isnt even any point in trying to tak to her about this. Maintain your relationship ... (read in full...)
From what I saw on her phone, my mum's having an affair. What should I do?
Q. I heard my mum's phone go off the other day and she asked me to check it so I did and found texts from a work colleague. Based on what they were saying, I think I can safely assume they're having an affair - whether they are actually doing stuff or ...
A. 3 July 2005: Right, Is your mum still living with your dad or another partner? If so, you have to tell her what you found and ask her what's going on. If she's single, maybe it's a new guy she's met but she's not serious about him yet to introduce you.... (read in full...)
I want to trust my boyfriend not cheat with my friend...
Q. Hello everyone, I am 17 years old, and my friend likes my boyfriend. I talked to him about it, and he knows she likes him, but he says he doesnt like her, he was saying really nice things, but I dont know if I should believe it. I know this sounds ...
A. 3 July 2005: Doesnt sound like your boyfriend likes your friend, he sounds really, really nice so get this thought out of your head. It sounds to me like your friend's probably a bit jealous. Just think to yourself, she likes him but you've got him and he loves ... (read in full...)
It feels like he doesn't care about me or my feelings. When I try to talk about it, he just says I'm too young.
Q. I a 20 years old and have a 4 year old son and a daughter on the way on the 25th of July. I am in a relationship with a 25 year old and we've been together 2 years. I love him to death and will give him the world if I could, but half the time I f...
A. 3 July 2005: He sounds irresponsible and also sounds that he is too young for a relationship. Ask him how he feels NOW! tell him youre scared about when the baby comes and youll need more support as you have been feeling insecure lately. If he loves you, he'll ... (read in full...)
I wouldn't kiss him when I was in the "popular crowd", but now I wish I had!
Q. There is a good friend of mine who I have known for about four years, we used to sit by each other in a class, and would often flirt with each other. i really liked him, but to be honest i was worried about what my friends would think, because i was ...
A. 3 July 2005: Try and get out as much as possible with friends etc. Try to meet someone new and forget about him. Hes in a relationship now so you cant have him. if at some point in the future, you are both single again, ask him out and see what happens from ... (read in full...)
I'd like to get married and have a child someday. How can I bring up this topic with my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been off and on since we met about 3 years ago. This last go-around we have been exclusive for a year. At the time we first started going out, he had said he was unsure if he wanted to get married again or have another ...
A. 3 July 2005: Ask him straight if he could see himself having a family with you as you would like to have a family someday. Make it clear that you dont mean straight away, but in a few years. Leave talk of marriage for now as you have only been serious for a ... (read in full...)
I feel for an older guy, then we broke up. Now I'm with someone else and my feelings for my ex are back!
Q. I met "Chris" when I was 17-he was 42. Everyone thought I was crazy but we had such a great relationship and are still very close. We split up 2 years ago then I met my current boyfriend "Dom" whom I have a great relationship with. But, I visited ...
A. 3 July 2005: You have to decide which one you love enough to have a relationship with. Which one would you prefer to spend your future with? decide and let the other one down gently, dont string them both along.... (read in full...)
This is the third time my girlfriend has dumped me, but I want to try to get her back...
Q. I'm nearly 16. There is this girl that I really like. The problem she has dumped me. This is the third time. She always got back with me, practically the next day, and seemed to like me more than ever. This time though she is in France and w...
A. 3 July 2005: Maybe, but she'd maybe dump you again too. She knows she can lift and lay you at her leisure now. Do you really want to spend the future in such an insecure relationship? Doesn't sound like she knows what she wants. ... (read in full...)
My husband's ex-wife is making me miserable with her crude ways!
Q. How can I get my husband's ex wife to stop butting in to our life? All of the kids are grown, but every time they come around all they want to do is talk about their mother. One time our stepdaughter called her from our phone. Apparently her husb...
A. 3 July 2005: Im glad your husband feels the same way as you, this makes things easier. Basically, from what you have said, this woman sounds like an attention seeking idiot. Other people will be able to see this as well. Have as little to do with her as possible... (read in full...)
My teacher is giving me so much extra attention that I don't know what to think!
Q. Hello, I am a high school student and I have a crush on my teacher. I don't know if he likes me or not. We are good friends and he helps me a lot. He is always by my side when I am nervous. He shows up a lot in front of me even if he doesn't ...
A. 3 July 2005: My god! Keep away from this man at all costs. Dont text, phone or email him again. No teacher in their right mind would have a relationship with a student and if they did, they would get in serious trouble with the authorities as this is against the ... (read in full...)
I gave up my friends and gave up going out so I could concentrate on my relationship... but he's never here!
Q. I have been married for two years but with my husband for seven. I gave up my friends because he didn't like them and I gave up going out because I have kids. I felt it was time to devote myself to my kids and my relationship with my husband. T...
A. 3 July 2005: tell him how you feel, you sound like a very selfless woman and he is a very selfish man. Tell him he will have to cut down on his running as you need more help in the house. Suggest he even just goes out running every 2nd night at first, if he ... (read in full...)
Even though it's legal for me to have sex now, I'm too scared!
Q. Hi, I'm 16. It is now legal for me to have sex. I'm scared to have it. My friends tell me to wait till I'm ready, but there is a boy I really like, he always tells me he wants me to be his first. I liked attention from him so I said "you never kn...
A. 3 July 2005: Just because its now legal doesn't mean you should do it. If you like him, go out with him, but if he starts pressuring you for sex when you don't feel ready tell him you'd rather wait till you are more serious. If he doesn't like this, dump him!... (read in full...)
For 3 months he was the most considerate guy ever. Then he just disappeared and won't return my calls!
Q. For three blissful months I have been really happy with my new boyfriend. He seemed to be absolutely perfect- he texts me several times a day, rang me often, gave me lifts to and from work. We saw each other most days and he was always saying he ...
A. 3 July 2005: Glad things have worked out well, he sounds like a nice guy, maybe just a bit thoughtless. Stick in there!... (read in full...)
Can't meet people through my job or through friends. What can I do?
Q. Hello, I am a 20 year old male who has never been in a relationship or even had a close woman friend until recently. In high school I was a very shy person and never had the opprotunity to make many friends. But after graduating, I have noticed ...
A. 2 July 2005: Ask your family/friends if they know of anyone nice you could go out with, chances are there will be at least one. Is there any way you could widen your circle of friends as through them it would give you the opportunity to meet new people.... (read in full...)
Wondering about the pro's and cons of getting married and having kids young, versus waiting...
Q. Hey, I am 19 and my bf is 25. Not a huge gap, but that is not really the problem here (if there is a problem at all). I am just wanting to know the positives and negatives of getting married young vs waiting til later in life. Also having kids (I ...
A. 2 July 2005: Just a quick comment, Im 23 and ive changed a lot between 19 and now. Im just beginning to get to know what I want from life so if youre even a bit unsure hang off a while, its better to be safe than sorry.... (read in full...)
I can't stand the thought of the girl I want doing "normal" dating without me!
Q. Look, I have a problem and it's making me feel suicidal. I am 20 yrs old and am a university student, i have never been in a relationship and am a virgin. I hate myself for this - i feel unloved and as though I will die a lonely man. Until rec...
A. 2 July 2005: I have had a long period of depression and felt suicidal in the past so I know where youre coming from. This girl isnt interested in you other than as a friend. You have to accept that. You have to get out more and come into contact with mor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a schedule that he won't alter for anyone, including me, so I never get to see him!
Q. I have this boyfriend, who I've been dating for 2 months now. We live in the same city, only about 15 minutes away from each other. This guy works a full time job Monday thru Friday until 4:30 pm each day. He gets home around 5. Well he has a th...
A. 2 July 2005: when I first met my boyfriend, he had a very busy life too, at the time I felt the sae as you, why couldnt he spend more time with me? Gradually we began to see more of each other and have now been together for nearly 2 years. Ive asked him why he ... (read in full...)
The woman I want knows I like her, but when I approach, she tries to ignore me...
Q. hi friends, This is Kartik. I had posted a question before regarding my frustration. I am in love with a girl whom I started liking with passage with time. This girl is a modern, carefree type of girl who lives life in her own terms. Now many...
A. 2 July 2005: Sorry but it doesnt sound like shes interested in you. Shes probably just enjoying the attention you give her and the fact that she knows you like her.... (read in full...)
Our relationship is long distance, and now I find I'm interested in someone new...
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship (for 4 years now) and my boyfriend will be moving out here to go to school in the city I live in in the fall. My problem is that lately I have become very attracted to someone else I know. On the one hand, I ...
A. 2 July 2005: 4 years is a long time to be in a long distance relationship, why not wait and see how you feel when your 'boyfriend' comes to stay with you and see how you feel about him then.... (read in full...)
How can I be sure that my new girlfriend isn't just overlooking some critical issues about us?
Q. I'm in love with a woman who is 25, no kids, never been in a serious relationship and is from another city that I'm sure she wants to move back to. I'm 30, just getting out of a 12 year realtionship with 2 kids that I wont move away from. She love...
A. 2 July 2005: Unless shes stupid after 4 months together she WILL have thought of the responsibilities you have toward your kids and also be aware that you will have financial obligations towards them and even that you will have to maintain a formal relationship ... (read in full...)
I love women and I'd love to date, but I never know what to say and I'm getting discouraged!
Q. I hate to say this, and I'm probably one in several thousands, but I'm a male approaching 24 years of age and I'm still a virgin. I've not got a great deal of confidence when it comes to pulling women, even though I love them to bits. I've never ...
A. 2 July 2005: You say you have a good social life - good! This means you will have the opportunity to come into contact with lots of women, as far as chatting up goes a sincere compliment goes a long way eg: I've been looking round and you're the best looking ... (read in full...)
Too much commitment to work drove a wedge between us, but now she won't even give us a chance!
Q. I (40)have been in a relationship with my partner (26) for 16 months and we both run a successful business in a foreign country. We have moved through many stressful situations as we have both been struggling to make ends meet ie rent/car payments...
A. 2 July 2005: Sounds like you have let her down a lot. Maybe she would rather end things than take the risk of you letting her down again. All you can do is lay your cards on the table. Tell her EXACTLY how you feel, listen to her, ask for one last chance if she ... (read in full...)
After our breakup, he wants to stay "friends with benefits", but it hurts to see him with other girls...
Q. Me and my b/f of one year just broke up about a month ago. He broke up with me saying so many excuses that I dont even know what's true. Anywho, he still wants to be friends with benefits and hang out as "friends" but he rubs it in my face about all ...
A. 2 July 2005: Ignore him from now on hes revelling in the fact that you still love him and he knows he could have you back any time he wants (this doesnt mean he wants to) hes just enjoying the sense of power being lusted after gives him. What a creep!!!... (read in full...)
What seemed to me to be minor misjudgements sent her into a fury...
Q. Six months ago I met and fell in love with a lady with a sweet, gentle nature and a heart of gold. It wasn’t long before I was thinking that one day we might marry. (She’s been divorced a long time; I’ve never married)( we’re both in our 50s). ...
A. 2 July 2005: You need to have a chat about the time you split, tell her how you felt and ask how she felt. Reassure her that you love her and dont want to lose her. She sounds very insecure. On the other hand, she may have always been this way and covered ... (read in full...)
Neither of us wants to leave, even though I think our relationship is reaching its end...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now but it has begun to feel like this relationship has reached its end but, neither of us want to leave or so I believe. Am I staying for the wrong reason when I just don't want to leave her and ...
A. 2 July 2005: Depends on why you think the relationship has reached its end. Have things gone a bit stale? this happens from time to time in all relationships, as long as you get on well and communicate this should work out ok. Do you want to move on? If so, yes, ... (read in full...)
My family will freak about a 12-years age gap, but it doesn't really matter to us...
Q. I am 19 years old (female) and am dating a 31 year old male. We really hit it off well and have a lot in common and he's a really nice guy. I was just wondering if 12 years is a big deal of a difference. I don't want to tell my family about him or ...
A. 2 July 2005: OK, 12 years is quite a big age gap and youre still young but then again, 31 isnt that old. If you are serious about him, introduce him to your parents. Take things slowly and see how it goes... (read in full...)
He's 20 and she's 13, but she's interested. What should she do?
Q. If a 13 year old girl like a 20 year old guy,and he smiles and stares at her,and she to afraid to talk to him, and she loves him, what should she do?...
A. 2 July 2005: She should do nothing! any 20 year old man that would have anything to do with a 13 year old girl is a paedophile. Stay well away from this man!!!... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my 47-year-old bf having cybersex with 18-year-old girls?
Q. My 47 year old boyfriend (I'm 48) is having cyber sex with 18 year olds. He and I recently just began living together about 6 weeks ago. He says it means nothing to him but could give no plausible answer as to why he's doing it. I told him someone ...
A. 2 July 2005: LEAVE HIM NOW!!! he is totally disrespecting you and making a fool out of you and your relationship, he sounds like a seedy creep that needs a reality check. ... (read in full...)
The signs are good that we're both attracted, but maybe he's intimidated by the age gap...
Q. I have been friends with a guy for 3 years. He is 10 years younger than I am. He gives me all of the signals that he is attracted to me and I am extremely attracted to him as well. I realized a year ago that I am in love with him. We never ha...
A. 2 July 2005: Sounds to me like if he hasnt made a move by now, he just sees you as a really good friend. maybe in the future, this will change, but for now i would keep things the way they are.... (read in full...)
I'm the want-to-remain-secret admirer...
Q. I've been interested in the guy who lives next door to me for about 5 months but the thing is I'm so shy of him that I can never speak to him. Hence, I became a secret admirer who sent him cards and emails. Thing is its gone a bit stale at the m...
A. 2 July 2005: Why do you want to wait a while? Is it because deep down you are embarrassed that you are his secret admirer? If you reveal yourself now he will either accept or reject you. Carry on with the secrecy any longer and youll be turning into a stalker!!!... (read in full...)
I ended it with her, but even after a year and a half, I can't seem to move on...
Q. I started going out with my ex when is was 17. She was my first love. We went out with each other for three and half years and looking back they where the best years of my life although we did split up once or twice. I ended the relation...
A. 2 July 2005: You have to try and forget her. Every time you start to think about her, change the subject in your mind, if you keep doing this, eventually you will forget her, because lets face it, it doesnt sound like theres any future between you. ... (read in full...)
For 3 months he was the most considerate guy ever. Then he just disappeared and won't return my calls!
Q. For three blissful months I have been really happy with my new boyfriend. He seemed to be absolutely perfect- he texts me several times a day, rang me often, gave me lifts to and from work. We saw each other most days and he was always saying he ...
A. 30 June 2005: Was he really in hospital supporting a family member? Or was this just an excuse to break your date? Sounds to me like this man doesnt want a relationship and hes not got the guts to tell you, so he's hoping you'll just 'disappear'. Forget about him ... (read in full...)
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