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writes:Well, I was cleaning through my daughters room as usual while she was at school and I go through her closet to clean it up and all and I find a bag of diapers (open) inside her closet. I wasn't really sure what to think at the moment besides that I needed to get some sort of answers or find out what to do. They weren't little baby diapers though they looked like her size diapers. I put them back where I found them and haven't mentioned my findings yet. I frankly just don't know what to do or think. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, ibabyyou2 +, writes (23 May 2010):
" Talk is always a good way to communicate."~~~ A Yogi-ism. Many have expressed the idea of discussing why she has diapers hidden in her room and that is the best place to start in order to come to a solution or understanding. The whole conversation should be just that, A CONVERSATION and not a one sided viewpoint. Also many have said there could be a desire for wearing diapers other than personal protection. If this is the case, and you can accept this for what it is, you may find yourself in a much better position when it comes to real problem solving. You can't expect to "fix" something that isn't broken. If your daughter can take on the responsibilities that go with her desire, if that's what it boils down to, then allow her to wear diapers. When an issue should pop up that may conflict with her emotional security being in diapers, say with her friends or with family, be there as a trustworthy Mom. Ridicule, and embarrassment are powerful tools for forging resentment and more serious issues down the road. Also if your girl is a Diaper Lover/ Adult Baby a supportive parent can give advice more readily that will make sense because the trust is established. Give advice that will make her a strong person and not an easy target for those who would cause pain. There's nothing wrong with preferring to wear a diaper over other types of underwear. I repeat however,the responsibility is her's and if you help her with purchases and such then there should be an offer from her to assist you in some way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Maybe she has a bed weting problom or maybe she just likes to wear them I like to wear them to bed sometimes and when I go camping out in the middle of nowear and sometimes my girlfriend makes me wear them on long car rides and my girlfriend wears them on along car ride to so we don`t have to stop to go to the restroom. and I also wear them at the movies so I don`t miss a part of the movie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): there is nothing wrong with wearing adult diapers, but if you havnt mentioned it to her dont, not yet cause if my mom found my diapers i would freak out!, but when shes ready she will talk to you about it, also if you want to know more about it go to diaperspace, its a site where diaperlovers, and adult babies communicate, a diaper lover is someone that just likes the feeling of wearing a diaper, and an adult baby is someone who likes to play baby,
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): I have had a fettish like this for quite some time. I found out that 1 in 4 teenagers have this. anyone who says it is stupid does not know about it. I told my mum who told me she already knew that there was a fettish like this and it is completely normal. It should go in time and allow her to where diapers. She may feel embarrased about the situation but tell her she shouldnt be. Try and learn about it from her and accept it. If it doesnt go in time and you do feel very uncomfortable with it. Try and talk to her about it. But let her know you love her. Make sure she knows you know she wears them so she doesnt have to hide it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): I think you had to speak to her about if there is someting wrong, or if she has any illness, and offer your help.
If she tell you that she like using diaper and acting like bababy and be diapered, don't annoy.
Interest about her hobbies, and other aspects of her life.
Be talkative and confident with her. talk about hobies, friends, plannings...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): I'm going to try and give the perspective of another teenager. From the age of about 11 i have wanted to wear diapers. it can be a very difficult and lonely experience being young and feeling different, infact this desire contributed to depression in my life.very recently i told a friend of mine and his acceptance has turned things around for me. I think you should talk to her about it and make her feel safe and comfortable to be herself/ Even tho' it may seem strange.I believe she may want to be able to talk but could be afraid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): I agree with some of the people above. Don't get mad at her,just give her your opinion. If its a bad one,leave the subject. It could be traumatic for her. If anything,think back to when she was in diapers and think of times that were difficult for her in them,that could be your reason of why she's in them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): i have the same problem.i found a box under my 15 year old daughters bed with three cloth diapers and three pairs of plastic pants in it.they are all adult size and i could they have been worn.i dont know why she has them.what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): You should have an open conversation with her. Don't jug here ask her y she is wereing them. Tell her if she wants to were them she will have to pay for them unless she has a blader problem
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reader, kwood138 +, writes (14 December 2009):
What ended up happening? I found diapers in my 17 year daughters closet also...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): Well if yyour daughter is wearing diaperd who really cares? Let her be glad its not something worse like drugs or acohol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): She probably has a fetish. It is perfectly fine. Do some research. Be thankful it's not drugs, alcahol, or a positive pregnancy strip.
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reader, little paulie +, writes (25 August 2009):
The diapers are plainly hers and she is probably afraid to ask you to put her back in them because she probably thinks you'll get upset with her and it's probably because she wets the bed or she has had some kind of trama in her life where she now suffers from infantilism there could be a lot of reasons. Sit her down in her room what ever don't raise your voice and tell her what you found when cleaning her room and let her know it's alright. She wanted you to find them or she would have found a better hiding spot for them. She wants you to make her wear them and put them on her but don't know how to ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): Hello my name is Lizzie and I can really understand the whole diaper thing.When I was 13 i started to wet the bed pretty bad.I did not tell my mother or anyone else for that matter and I went to the pharmacy and I bought myself some pampers size 7.They fit me great at the time and I just slept in them every night.I began having dreams of me wearing diapers 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.I thought I was going crazy and then my mother found my pampers in my closet.She asked me right away what I was doing with them and I told her that when me and my friends play house one of us girls wears the diaper and is the baby.My mother then called my friends mothers and some of my friends got into trouble because of this.Then I got into serious trouble and I was forced to wear diapers 24 hours a day and 7 days a week for one six weeks.The thing that stunk the worst was the fact that this happened in the beginning of June.I then became a diaper lover in that time.I've worn diapers 24 hours a day seven days a week ever since thats happened.I do use the toilet for number 2 but number 1 I just use my diapers.I am 35 now so I've worn diapers 24 hours a day 7 days a week for over 20 years now.If your girl wants to wear diapers let her wear them!!!!!!
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reader, Leah Hope108 +, writes (1 August 2009):
You should ask her wat the diapers are for because you are curious and need to know!
Tell her she should not keep stuff from you!
Tell her if she does it again that you would treat her like she wants, a baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): Your daughter may be experimenting with infantilism. Now before you freak out, it's really not all that bad. There are possibly millions of people worldwide who participate in infantilism to different degrees. Either to relieve stress or just because it makes them feel good.
It isn't illegal, it doesn't hurt anyone, and it has nothing to do with children.
Talk to your daughter about it... don't be angry or confrontational... be supportive. Your daughter may be just as confused and unsure about these desires as you are. Odds are, if she is really into this it is NOT something that will go away, no matter how hard you try.
If parents get confrontational about it kids are more likely to lie and hide things and sneak around. If you are accepting and supportive odds are you will have a very good relationship.
Honestly, there are a lot worse things than diapers that your daughter could be in to. Sex, drugs, drinking... I could go on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): ask her about it, if she has a fetish, then dont try to stop her, that wont work. my parents are still trying that on me and its making things worse. if she is like my girlfriend, she is wearing them for her period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): im a 16 year old boy and i currently have some issues with my dad, but he is stubborn and often overreacts, u of course sound like a more understanding father. so what i think you should do is talk to her about it, it may just be as simple as she doesn't want you to know she wets the bed, or as profusely complicated as some fetish she may have of diapers or something, now while that may sound bad and rare, its not as rare as u think, ive been doing some research and there are a lot of people like that, thats what brought me here (dont worry im not a T/dbl or whatever i just like to search statistics on google or just strange stuff like this) yet im not saying that the fact that its common helps, or changes anything but what im saying is just sit her down in the room and talk to her/ask her about them, and see what it is if its a bed wetting problem help her with it, and if its some fetish then support her(as hard as that may sound in this situation) it may even make her feel better that whatever it is she doesn't have to hide it anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): it's perfectly noraml for her to do that
she probaly just likes the feel of them
im 15 and i wear them
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reader, diapermom +, writes (6 April 2009):
she may have a wetting problem and doesnt know what to do.she may have a friend who wears diapers and she is trying them also,or maybe she likes wearing one after a hard day at school.my daughter is 16 and wears a diaper and rubber pants for specialoccasions and to bed once in a while.she msde her first holy communion two yyears ago and had to wear a diaper and rubber pants under her communion dress for the parish requirements.she liked the feeling of being like a baby for her communion and started wearing the diaper and rubber pants to mass and to bed.she told me they make her feel babyish and cute.i dont have a problem with her wearing them.
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reader, Amyone +, writes (9 January 2009):
Hi Well I ran into the same situation while watching my neice while her parents were over sea's due to their work, I talked with a Doctor about what to do and she stated that I should sit down with her and mention them and ask what she thinks about diapers. When I did this she just blew it off and then one day I mentioned it again and told her I would not say anything to her parents or anyone else if she told me why she had them. She then told me that she had bedwetting problems and that she didn't want to make me worried. So I suggest you not make it negitive and just ask her about them and stay cool and keep your self calm let her tell you why she needs them and just be her friend about it, don't try and force her to change even if it is some sort of fetish just tell her your confused and that you need help understanding.... Let her lead the way....hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): im 15 and i wear diapers to umm my mom asked me why i had diapers in my room and i told her y. after she asked me i felt more confurtable wearing and notsneaking them so u should just ask her y she wears diapers it will be better for u and her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Hi I love wearing diapers and maybe that is y your 15 year old loves them they are confertable and so ya. I do not have a condition but it feels great having one on if you discose it with her i think you shuld let her were them as lond as she is not obsessed with them
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): The posts others have already made should give you some idea of the possible reasons. . . a fetish for diapers is possible but rare, trying to cover up bedwetting is possible as well. . . drug abuse or pregnancy seems a little bizzare. The only way you'll know for sure is to ask, which is sometimes the hardest thing in the world. I have personal experience with this one, from several angles. My very best advice is to listen carfully without judging, and make sure your daughter is safe and healthy. The issue isn't what is she doing with the diapers, it's why. Diapers themselves are not dangerous, undiagnosed health issues, or odd fetishes that must be kept hidden can cause mental, emotional and physical problems. I'd love to hear how it works out. Drop a line if you care to. [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): A bladder infection is the most common cause of transient incontinence. Other reversible factors that can contribute to incontinence include conditions that result in confusion (for example, a severe infection such as pneumonia) or impaired mobility (for example, because of a leg or hip fracture). Additional causes of transient incontinence include excess intake of alcohol or beverages that contain caffeine and conditions that can result in irritation of the bladder or urethra, such as atrophic vaginitis or severe constipation.
Also: people don't get help due to embarassment. I can think of several other possible reasons not mentioned: pregnancy, drug use, and someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Mabey she has bladder problem at night and does not want to tell you because she is worred you will get mad or soemthing like that or there is allways the posiblity that she just has a diaper fetish and likes to feel them and wear them and nt use them it could be a number of things but you need to talk to her about them eather way
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I am a 13 year old TB/DL and my mother doesnt know about this yet. What I hope her responses are when she finds out is that she accepts that I am a TB/DL and starts buying diapers at the store because I have no other way of getting any. What I would suggest is that you ask her why she is wearing diapers, telling her it's okay if it is just because she likes wearing diaper and you can tell her the truth. In any case, you would be doing the better thing to let her keep wearing diapers and possibly even help her afford the if she is pinching pennies for diapers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): It is simply, your daughter is a tb/dl, which is a teen baby diaper love. I think this because i am one. I am 17 years old. I move my diapers around ever week to keep my mom from finding them. If you do talk to her don't send her to the docter. There is nothing wrong with being a TB/DL, we don't hurt anyone it just makes us happy.
She not a teen baby because of anything you did. Don't get worried about it. Just let her do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): i like wearing diapers and i am 13 but watever you do dont take her to the doctor or anything just sit down and tlk to her calmly and i think you should let her wear them if she wants. the worst thing you can do is make her feel as thought shes weird or got something wrong because its most likely a fetish and its common
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think I'll just leave it be for the time being if it's a fetish. Hopefully she'll grow out of it. and if I start seeing things that contradict that idea then I'll ask her if shes open to going to the docters.
Thanks for the help, but the above is what I have came to a decesion to do unless anyone else has any other suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just going to wait it out for a while counting the diapers. (what she does with them I still havent the slightest clue and I'm not even going to try rummaging through the trash)and I looked through her room again and found she moved them. I'm almostly absolutly sure I left them untouched and returned everything to how it was, I found them again under her bed but I'm pretty sure the number of them is the same. And mandy7 I'll contact you when I get a bit more information to work off of. Thanks for the help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Hi Hun
I no some say dont talk but Im a down to earth mum and I always belive untill they reach the age of 18 then you should offer your support,(and after of course but they are grown more independent) Yes some teenagers dont wish to be questioned but there is also many who wish they could just talk about a problem and feel like they cant and live in fear, Hunny whatever the problem your mind is not going to rest as your worried, and concerned.. In a cool way just say to her on her own sweetheart I came across these is everything ok, in a real chilled out kind of way or as someone suggested a doctors ap love....You could start by maybe asking her if she wanted to go out shopping or for a coffee and a chat not about that and just get to no what her life is like now..NOT THAT YOU DONT HUN!!!! she may be crying out for help and if it is somesort of fetish then you will soon no as you can monitor if theses are use everynight or just occationaly, YOUR A MUM YOR WORRIED I UNDERSTAND! If you need a chat message me hunny ill be glad to have a natter with you while you are going through this worry TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Are they something like 'goodnites'? If so, she probably has a bed-wetting problem. It can be really really embarassing, so I wouldn't ask her. Just monitor her behaviour a little.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just afraid it could be a fetish and I won't know what to do if I approach this situation the completely wrong way
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Or is she wearing them for when she gets her period - or is that already covered?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): DO NOT TALK TO YOUR DAUGHTER.if she finds out you were being nosey and found something personal like that, she will go crazy. Loads of teens have loadsss of different problems, but its how they battle through it that makes them who they are. I know you probs wont wanna take me seriously cos I'm 15, but truth is I understand todays teen culture more than you, because I'm a teen myself. Please, whatever you do, do not tell anyone about finding that stuff in your daughters room, it's probably very personal to her whatever the reason the stuff is there. Just be glad it wasn't a positive pregnancy test you found in the trash.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Talk to your daughter. She may be screaming inside and just darent speak to you about it. So what you snooped, but you are only thinking about her and you are worried. If she wont talk then i think the other aunts are right, it could be a bit of a bladder problem, in which case you need to get her to the doctors straight away and get it sorted out. If it is a bit of bed wetting, dont worry, my friends daughter did that during puberty and it stopped once she got to 17. She be there for her.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (27 February 2008):
 Her size? Do you think she has a bladder problem that she may be to embarrassed to talk about? Could she be using them in place of maxi-pads? I would continue to monitor the diaper situation before you say anything. Maybe count them and see how often she's using them. I'm sorry I can't be more help, but that's all I can think of. Good luck.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 I think you should just ask her. And simply tell her the truth. You were cleaning her room, and found them. Perhaps there's a logical explanation but you can wonder all day on your own, or ask her what's up. You haven't really violated her privacy, it is your house. You are the parent.
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reader, CharmmyKitty +, writes (27 February 2008):
 There's really no obvious answer here.But I think we can both agree that this is not normal for any 15 year old. I would recommend talking to your daughter about why she feels like she needs these.It could be something medical that she's too embarassed to tell you about, or it could be something as simple as it was some kind of dare among friends, who knows. But you should really talk to her about it to find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just hoping it's not a strange fetish and what would I do if I approach the situation the wrong way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Hi Hunny
This maybe a teenage bed wetting and the embarresment of anyone finding out could really upset her, Maybe she couldnt help it and used to hide the fact washing e.t.c then went and brought these and in the mornings takes it and pops it in the bin somewere so she feels safe without the upset as she may feel being 15 she is doing something wrong..Im sending you a link hunny
http://www.disabled-world.com/artman/publish/bed_wetting.shtml
I hope this helps this is the only thing I can think of TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): mabey she is suffering from nocternal enuresis ( night time bed wetting to you and i) and may be affraid of your reaction. It can be agravated by stress which is common during the teenage years especially during exam period. Talk to her about it, explain that you are not angry and do not blame her. encourage her to seek help from a doctor who can set you up with a counsellor and there are many drugs on circuit which can help. There is a contaption called a bell and buzzer which would wake her up as she starts to urinate and help her stop it. Encourage her to make a chart showing the days when she is wet and when she is dry. try to find common triggers such as caffine, blackcurrent juice and drinking before bed time. Hope it helps as you can probably tell i suffered from enuresis as a teen and i overcome it...X
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