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writes:Well, I was cleaning through my daughters room as usual while she was at school and I go through her closet to clean it up and all and I find a bag of diapers (open) inside her closet. I wasn't really sure what to think at the moment besides that I needed to get some sort of answers or find out what to do. They weren't little baby diapers though they looked like her size diapers. I put them back where I found them and haven't mentioned my findings yet. I frankly just don't know what to do or think. Any advice? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): im 15 and i wear diapers to umm my mom asked me why i had diapers in my room and i told her y. after she asked me i felt more confurtable wearing and notsneaking them so u should just ask her y she wears diapers it will be better for u and her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Hi I love wearing diapers and maybe that is y your 15 year old loves them they are confertable and so ya. I do not have a condition but it feels great having one on if you discose it with her i think you shuld let her were them as lond as she is not obsessed with them
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): The posts others have already made should give you some idea of the possible reasons. . . a fetish for diapers is possible but rare, trying to cover up bedwetting is possible as well. . . drug abuse or pregnancy seems a little bizzare. The only way you'll know for sure is to ask, which is sometimes the hardest thing in the world. I have personal experience with this one, from several angles. My very best advice is to listen carfully without judging, and make sure your daughter is safe and healthy. The issue isn't what is she doing with the diapers, it's why. Diapers themselves are not dangerous, undiagnosed health issues, or odd fetishes that must be kept hidden can cause mental, emotional and physical problems. I'd love to hear how it works out. Drop a line if you care to. [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): A bladder infection is the most common cause of transient incontinence. Other reversible factors that can contribute to incontinence include conditions that result in confusion (for example, a severe infection such as pneumonia) or impaired mobility (for example, because of a leg or hip fracture). Additional causes of transient incontinence include excess intake of alcohol or beverages that contain caffeine and conditions that can result in irritation of the bladder or urethra, such as atrophic vaginitis or severe constipation.
Also: people don't get help due to embarassment. I can think of several other possible reasons not mentioned: pregnancy, drug use, and someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Mabey she has bladder problem at night and does not want to tell you because she is worred you will get mad or soemthing like that or there is allways the posiblity that she just has a diaper fetish and likes to feel them and wear them and nt use them it could be a number of things but you need to talk to her about them eather way
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I am a 13 year old TB/DL and my mother doesnt know about this yet. What I hope her responses are when she finds out is that she accepts that I am a TB/DL and starts buying diapers at the store because I have no other way of getting any. What I would suggest is that you ask her why she is wearing diapers, telling her it's okay if it is just because she likes wearing diaper and you can tell her the truth. In any case, you would be doing the better thing to let her keep wearing diapers and possibly even help her afford the if she is pinching pennies for diapers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): It is simply, your daughter is a tb/dl, which is a teen baby diaper love. I think this because i am one. I am 17 years old. I move my diapers around ever week to keep my mom from finding them. If you do talk to her don't send her to the docter. There is nothing wrong with being a TB/DL, we don't hurt anyone it just makes us happy.
She not a teen baby because of anything you did. Don't get worried about it. Just let her do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): i like wearing diapers and i am 13 but watever you do dont take her to the doctor or anything just sit down and tlk to her calmly and i think you should let her wear them if she wants. the worst thing you can do is make her feel as thought shes weird or got something wrong because its most likely a fetish and its common
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think I'll just leave it be for the time being if it's a fetish. Hopefully she'll grow out of it. and if I start seeing things that contradict that idea then I'll ask her if shes open to going to the docters.
Thanks for the help, but the above is what I have came to a decesion to do unless anyone else has any other suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just going to wait it out for a while counting the diapers. (what she does with them I still havent the slightest clue and I'm not even going to try rummaging through the trash)and I looked through her room again and found she moved them. I'm almostly absolutly sure I left them untouched and returned everything to how it was, I found them again under her bed but I'm pretty sure the number of them is the same. And mandy7 I'll contact you when I get a bit more information to work off of. Thanks for the help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Hi Hun
I no some say dont talk but Im a down to earth mum and I always belive untill they reach the age of 18 then you should offer your support,(and after of course but they are grown more independent) Yes some teenagers dont wish to be questioned but there is also many who wish they could just talk about a problem and feel like they cant and live in fear, Hunny whatever the problem your mind is not going to rest as your worried, and concerned.. In a cool way just say to her on her own sweetheart I came across these is everything ok, in a real chilled out kind of way or as someone suggested a doctors ap love....You could start by maybe asking her if she wanted to go out shopping or for a coffee and a chat not about that and just get to no what her life is like now..NOT THAT YOU DONT HUN!!!! she may be crying out for help and if it is somesort of fetish then you will soon no as you can monitor if theses are use everynight or just occationaly, YOUR A MUM YOR WORRIED I UNDERSTAND! If you need a chat message me hunny ill be glad to have a natter with you while you are going through this worry TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXX
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (28 February 2008):
 I'd schedule an annual checkup with her Dr. - maybe let the Dr. know what your concerns are.
2 things that came to my mind immediately was maybe she is using that for her period. After I had my baby, they put these diaper things on me w/ a pad and I remember thinking I needed to get some but they weren't exactly "diapers"
The second thing would be a colon problem- had a roommate in school that had some sort of colon problem that would cause her to leak stuff - she wouldn't talk about it in detail but she was really embarrassed about it.
I don't know if I'd ask her directly about it though, yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Are they something like 'goodnites'? If so, she probably has a bed-wetting problem. It can be really really embarassing, so I wouldn't ask her. Just monitor her behaviour a little.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just afraid it could be a fetish and I won't know what to do if I approach this situation the completely wrong way
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Or is she wearing them for when she gets her period - or is that already covered?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): DO NOT TALK TO YOUR DAUGHTER.if she finds out you were being nosey and found something personal like that, she will go crazy. Loads of teens have loadsss of different problems, but its how they battle through it that makes them who they are. I know you probs wont wanna take me seriously cos I'm 15, but truth is I understand todays teen culture more than you, because I'm a teen myself. Please, whatever you do, do not tell anyone about finding that stuff in your daughters room, it's probably very personal to her whatever the reason the stuff is there. Just be glad it wasn't a positive pregnancy test you found in the trash.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Talk to your daughter. She may be screaming inside and just darent speak to you about it. So what you snooped, but you are only thinking about her and you are worried. If she wont talk then i think the other aunts are right, it could be a bit of a bladder problem, in which case you need to get her to the doctors straight away and get it sorted out. If it is a bit of bed wetting, dont worry, my friends daughter did that during puberty and it stopped once she got to 17. She be there for her.
take care
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reader, Serinity +, writes (27 February 2008):
 Her size? Do you think she has a bladder problem that she may be to embarrassed to talk about? Could she be using them in place of maxi-pads? I would continue to monitor the diaper situation before you say anything. Maybe count them and see how often she's using them. I'm sorry I can't be more help, but that's all I can think of. Good luck.
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reader, Basschick  + ♥, writes (27 February 2008):
 I think you should just ask her. And simply tell her the truth. You were cleaning her room, and found them. Perhaps there's a logical explanation but you can wonder all day on your own, or ask her what's up. You haven't really violated her privacy, it is your house. You are the parent.
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reader, CharmmyKitty +, writes (27 February 2008):
 There's really no obvious answer here.But I think we can both agree that this is not normal for any 15 year old. I would recommend talking to your daughter about why she feels like she needs these.It could be something medical that she's too embarassed to tell you about, or it could be something as simple as it was some kind of dare among friends, who knows. But you should really talk to her about it to find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just hoping it's not a strange fetish and what would I do if I approach the situation the wrong way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Hi Hunny
This maybe a teenage bed wetting and the embarresment of anyone finding out could really upset her, Maybe she couldnt help it and used to hide the fact washing e.t.c then went and brought these and in the mornings takes it and pops it in the bin somewere so she feels safe without the upset as she may feel being 15 she is doing something wrong..Im sending you a link hunny http://www.disabled-world.com/artman/publish/bed_wetting.shtml
I hope this helps this is the only thing I can think of TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): mabey she is suffering from nocternal enuresis ( night time bed wetting to you and i) and may be affraid of your reaction. It can be agravated by stress which is common during the teenage years especially during exam period. Talk to her about it, explain that you are not angry and do not blame her. encourage her to seek help from a doctor who can set you up with a counsellor and there are many drugs on circuit which can help. There is a contaption called a bell and buzzer which would wake her up as she starts to urinate and help her stop it. Encourage her to make a chart showing the days when she is wet and when she is dry. try to find common triggers such as caffine, blackcurrent juice and drinking before bed time. Hope it helps as you can probably tell i suffered from enuresis as a teen and i overcome it...X
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